Hi Everyone - I'm older, in my early 50's and have been pretty much single since my divorce 10 years ago. I was married for two decades to a covert narcissist and have no desire to get into that type of situation again. My goals in dating are to find a financially stable long term companion who will add value and fun to my life. I am not looking for a husband or to live with a man - unless I come across someone extraordinary.

In the ten years since my divorce I have not met one HVM in my age range (10 years up or down.) I've gone on many dates with men of all ages, backgrounds and ethnicities. The ones who got past the first date and I gave a chance have without fail showed their true colors at the 2 month mark - true colors=sociopathic abuser.

Anywho - here is a roundup of my most recent scrotation. Due to the nature of my work I rarely meet men in the wild and have to use OLD. I've been using Hinge and Bumble.

Mark - Met him on Hinge. Very handsome and fit in his pictures. His profile stated he was 42 and worked for a particular company. After a brief chat on the app and a phone conversation he asked me to dinner. I live in a beautiful city with MANY excellent restaurants, not all of them expensive. He suggests meeting at a chain restaurant near the mall, but OK. I meet him there. He looks like his pictures, is in great shape and well dressed. During dinner he reveals to me that he is not actually 42, but 52 - does not work for the company he put on his profile AND his real name isn't Mark. By the end of the meal he says "I can tell by your face that you are thinking about something." I tell him I'm very uncomfortable that he lied about 3 major things. He says he would understand if I didn't want to see him again. That's right dude - I will NOT be seeing you again - GAME OVER.

Bob - Also Hinge. Profile listed him as 53, restaurant manager. He is OK looking, but not my type. He suggests meeting Saturday night at a waterfront bar. I arrive, he is waiting for me and looks better than his pictures. Bob is drinking club soda. I order a drink. Through conversation I learn he is actually 55, three weeks out of a LTR and has a patchy employment history. Despite this conversation is pretty good. He suggests moving the date to a nearby restaurant to grab some food. I agree. Again, good conversation but I notice a weird facial tic that makes me feel uncomfortable. Turns out Bob is a recovering addict and goes to 12 step programs. This is a deal breaker for me. I've had too many addicts in my life and know the personality traits - no thank you. When we leave he grabs me for a kiss and says "I'm going in" and kisses me on the lips. I did not want this and had not given signals that I was physically attracted. He wants to go out again after the new year. I'm not down with it.

James - Bumble. James is very good looking and very much my physical type, 42 years old. We went on two dates. First was for drinks, second was fitness related and then lunch. He was not great about staying in touch. The entire time I was with him his phone kept blowing up with notifications from dating apps. James, for being a tall and muscular man also had a strangely high pitched voice - think Mike Tyson. He drives a very nice car and wears stylish clothes. Also turns out he has 6 children from various women as well as a grandchild. His profile says he wants more kids. At lunch he complained about women getting child support. Dude, you have the best of everything for yourself but don't care if your kids live in poverty? AND you want more kids? GTFO! A couple of weeks after our last date, when I had ghosted him he sends me a picture of himself looking sexy. I'm positive dude sent that pic to at least 50 women hoping for a bite. Lol - nah, I'm good bro.

Note: Even though I'm old I am constantly hit up on Hinge by fuckboys in their 20's. Sometimes I will meet one for an evening out if they amuse me. Yes, they pay for the dates. On a very rare occasion, if I haven't had sex in many months I MAY indulge. If I'm going to have casual sex it will at least be with someone I find physically attractive.