Ex said I was too nice to be a hot girl?

26 points•37 comments•submitted by Sharp_Attempt to r/Vindicta

Not sure if this is the right place to post but it has to do with looks/personalitymaxxing and being a former ugly girl interloper I guess lol.

I was an ugly duckling through my adolescence and always had to be extra nice to people to make up for it. I have been looksmaxxing for a couple years now and because of it, I managed to get a legit Chad interested in me.

I have never outgrown my shy meek phase and during the relationship I was super attentive, sweet, loving towards him etc. Not boring, but definitely very affectionate and warm. Recently he dumped me and when I asked him why he said that I was ‘too focused on him, too loving, and too nice.’ And that even though he’d found me hot, being so into him made him feel like I wasn’t the prize anymore.

I was really shocked and upset about it. He dates Stacies and from what I’ve seen they are usually very vain, confident to the point of arrogant, demanding and self obsessed.

It has really been an eye opening experience for me. Of course I won’t stop being nice but it kind of saddens me that hot girls are expected to be bitchy, and that certain guys even find that bitchiness desirable. It has made me wonder if bitchiness is part of the hot girl mystique?