I have this irrational fear that the more I grow as a person (in terms of hobbies, experiences, appearance, education, career-wise etc) the more particular or unique (or intimidating - I can tell from experience with exes) I become and then I have less chances of meeting someone I am really compatible with?

I know this is out of my hands and I'm not going to stop myself from growing just to please someone narrow minded, but sometimes I feel like it's kind of a sacrifice. Any word of advice to change this mindset?