Vulnerability and love

DoeEyedBrownSkin · 2020-06-13T15:05:36+00:00

I hope I don’t sound brash but it’s literally by carrying your brain with your heart.

Be vulnerable with someone who proves they deserve it/it’s safe to be with.

Don’t beat yourself up if 10 relationships fail because you have to end up with just 1 anyway not all 10. There are only two outcomes, relationships either work or don’t, there’s no in between - if you really think about it.

Rockymemorylane · 2020-06-13T19:53:33+00:00

FDS is about maintaining your dignity and self-respect and long story short, not get played.

The right man will understand and respect the precautions you take, your no's, your waiting periods, boundaries and etc. If you feel a man doesn't respect the necessary actions you need to take to feel safe, secure and sure, then he's probably not a good guy anyway.

Case 1: You've been talking to a guy for some time and start to really warm up to him. He suggests to hang out as opposed to a date, FDS approved. You might feel too vulnerable and in love to tell him that you prefer a date instead. However, you must stick up for yourself even if you think he has the right intentions and therefore, give him a pass. You have to make sure you play the role of a serious woman because even if he is a GOOD guy, you might make him get used to laziness and effortlessness. You can't let your vulnerability and your warm emotions steer your standards and values. Respond firmly and confidently that you only do dates because you are looking for something serious as opposed to something casual. He might be caught off guard because of how society pushes the idea of casual relationships onto us, but if he is truly interested and invested in you, he will straighten himself up. Do not lower yourself to please him. The right man will stick along.

girludontbringhome · 2020-06-13T20:50:12+00:00

Take things slow, give yourself time to vet. And I personally believe he should be a lot more into you/in love with you than you are with him to make it work.

Chancedizzle · 2020-07-01T13:52:31+00:00

I await the day i can be vulnerable to someone!

Title	Vulnerability and love
Author	jmaydizzle
Upvotes	22
Comments	6
Date	June 12, 2020 10:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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