I made a post regarding on what's ruining my mental health, which I'll share here. https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/1nahe8n/how_partisanship_is_ruining_my_mental_health/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

So I've read the book Detached and I relate to the book a lot. I've had to deal with a lot of bs during my personal development and it really messed up my thinking. But I also remember it's not something I can ignore as I see it everywhere. What ended up happening, and I didn't realize it, was that I was attaching myself to the choices people make because I saw it as harming themselves, them coming from toxic viewpoints, and continuing the viscous cycle.

I attach myself to people who pick one political side and see the other as the enemy. I attach myself to people who don't see the truth about feminism and how hateful it fundamentally really is. I attach myself to people who attach to political ideologies and tries to be an activist to convince me. I attach myself to people who play toxic dating games. I attach myself to people who deliberately act in a way that elicits attraction from the desired person, even if it means maneuvering and posturing. I attach myself to people who buy into the high value bs.

And if you have noticed, some of these things you can't ignore at all. Some people say to just ignore things as they're not worth thinking about. And while I do agree with that, some of the things I've listed we see in our everyday lives that it becomes impossible to ignore.

I think it's one of those reasons being detached is very important. To be detached is to not try and control what the outcome is. When we try to control the outcome of something, we become attached to it. Attachment usually comes from fear and a need to control, which certain political discussions can cause us a need to control such narratives.

Don't get me wrong. Detachment doesn't mean you don't care. You do care, which is why we're still here. You just don't do it for the sake of outcome i.e "if I do this, it'll lead to that." Instead, we lean into things regardless of outcome and see what we can learn from it i.e "If I do this, what would happen?"

To me, there's too many people attaching themselves to ideology and seeing the other as the enemy, and people playing bullshit dating games to get specific results, and our society rewards these things just enough to keep it going. I want to see this change, but I know it's going to be a costly endeavor and I simply don't want to put my life on hold for this for the sake of committing myself to a mission. Call me lazy, but I never wanted to be a fighter and I don't intend on starting now. Yet I live in a world that's telling me to fight and continue fighting just to create a world I think is healthy for everyone. I'm just tired at this point. And for those of you who feel the same way, it might be worthwhile to research into detachment.

I'm gonna focus on how to move despite these obstacles. I can't control the outcome (i.e running into people or situations I don't like to see) but I can always control my response to them (i.e to not engage with them whatsoever).

And I think this is the main point of detachment. We see something we don't like, but we can't control the outcome to be how we want it all the time. What we can do is define what we want, define what we can control, and our responses.

With detachment, we can't control outcomes, but we have choices. And yes, these choices can sometimes be limiting and it's what we have to work with. It's the best we can do in the present moment if we want to see gradual change in the future. So I believe this is something worth looking into.