~ archived since 2018 ~
~ archived since 2018 ~
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 7 | Liberals Offer Nothing To Men... Redpill Filled The VacuumI've been a long time fan of aba and preach. That redpill video is what got me hooked on them years ago, and im glad abas following up on that video. But near the end he mentioned something about adding contexts to stats and how people just throwing it out there is just low in behaviour. He also brought up the male suicide thing and gives a joking interpretation as "oh they should just cease from existence!". I had a male feminist bring up that same stat, and interpreted it as toxic masculinity.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/07/26 03:20 AM |
| 6 | On HasanI am not a fan of Hasan Piker, but I am a fan of Aba and Preach, whom called Hasan out for exatly this, esp with the "all men" rhetoric. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 01:03 AM |
| 7 | Creep shaming men who show paternal instinctsThey easily had the chance to cover the Last of Us which has the same emotional element Pragmata is showing us. Surprised that went over their heads. I like Aba and Preach when it comes to videos like this. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 28/04/26 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Yea much of what you said like "gender is a social construct/sex is biology" as well as calling people AMAB or AFAB feels like the mainstream left are adapting to the complaints of the right and are coming up with new words to acknowledge biology while keeping the social construct narrative alive, but it kinda feels like a workaround if you ask me. But in practice, most people use sex and gender interchangeably. So even if they did come up with new terms to separate biology from gender narrative… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/04/26 10:25 PM |
| 1 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?Which source did you get these images from? I'd like to read the full paper. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/04/26 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?> males and females with the correct chromosomes but other conditions that make their primary or secondary sex characteristics not align with the typical outcome for males and females, like androgen insensitivity causing XY males to not develop as male, otherwise developing as if they are female. Can you expand on this actually? I remember I've read something like this, like girls with XX chromosome that have CAH or higher androgen development for example, but the only thing I understand from th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?It's not something to prove, I've already stated what you can learn from it in my post. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 10:18 PM |
| 9 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?I remember looking into this bit. There are females with XY chromosome and males with XX chromosomes, but IIRC, these cases usually come with medical issues (or it could be a case where doctors are discriminatory against transsexuals or intersex?). And these weren't the only chromosome combinations that denotes to medical issues. Tho I'm not well educated on this particular topic. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?I like the 2 values you list out there. Regardless of social constructionism and evolutionary psychology, I think anyone would be sane enough to follow them. Your response is an interesting one, especially with pointing out how social constructionism is used by feminists and differentiating that between feminism and clear cut fascist ideology. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?You mentioned biology gives us needs and incentives. What would they be specifically? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Behaviours are hardwired tho, it's just not as rigid as we think it is. Personality psychology establishes that around 30-60% of our traits are inherited. This comes out as temperaments, personality traits that arent necessarily cultivated, yet just comes out of us. That doesn't mean we can't cultivate traits outside of our temperaments tho. We can, and we all have individual upbringings. There's also individual variations within temperaments as well. With that said, I agree with your other poin… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 06:10 PM |
| 5 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Except I think behavioural predetermination is a thing, and i don't think we do it any justice to deny that. Various twin studies are done on personality psychology because it's understood that our personality traits are inherited, at least between 30-60% of the time IIRC. I just don't think we're stuck with what we got. Just because our temperament comes with specific traits doesn't mean we can't be flexible and cultivate traits outside of it (which happens all the time due to adapting to envir… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?That's a good point. Humans building complex social systems actually reminds of different societies that gave this setup. Namely some Asian and Arabic countries separating by sex. I agree gender roles are not fixed. Perhaps it depends on environment. My thought process is the more dangerous an environment was, maybe those roles were amplified, but the more safer our environment is (or the less dangers we face) the roles become more flexible or not as strict as they were back then? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Using sex and gender as synonyms is another discussion altogether as there are people who reject that there's a difference between sex and gender. But idk about this. Sex doesn't just affect the organ areas. From what I understood from the Evo psych field, behaviours can be influenced from the hormones we're exposed to. Since testosterone is a hormone that males as a whole are exposed to at higher levels than females, that would make them more opportunistic, aggressive, and more risk taking (or … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 05:40 PM |
| 7 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Who said it was a hoax? I do understand there are people who don't believe in evolutionary psychology, but i thought this was constrained to mainstream leftist/feminist circles. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Is gender largely a social construct or are there biological components to it?Why do you say hardwired is a gross oversimplification? The rest of your explanation makes sense. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/26 05:15 PM |
| 1 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?So I looked into those specific terms you've mentioned. Behavioral ecology seems to describe trade-offs in strategy based on genetic fitness (or an individual genetic fitness), whereas frequency-dependent selection is a natural selection process where the successful reproduction of a trait depends on how common it is, categorized into negative or positive (negative meaning common strategies fail, rare ones success whereas positive meaning common strategies succeed and rare ones fail). I managed … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/04/26 06:12 PM |
| 3 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?> This is not to mention that this theory, called Bateman's Principle, relies on many debunked studies and flawed methodologies like keeping animals in captivity which makes them behave Doesn't bateman's principle posits that females invest heavily in reproduction due to the fact they can get pregnant (which comes with dealing with gestation) whereas men don't, even though their sperm is needed to fertilize the egg? How does this get debunked? That's the first I've ever heard of this. But your p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/04/26 05:01 PM |
| 3 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?Right but that would not be a behaviour inspired from evo-psych, it's moreso your choice. Evo psych posits that the behaviour in men and women, in terms of sex and courtship, are hardwired through years of evolution. I don't think it mentioned saying the desire to want kids is hardwired or something like that. Perhaps I didn't get my understanding right? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/26 11:02 PM |
| 2 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?I might've missed them, but how does the literature acknowledge the concerns I point out? Perhaps I didn't do enough research into it apart from reading a couple of scientific papers, but I'm curious to know what they've said about it. I think some literature I've read said "it's individual variation" and that's it. Are you saying the extensive literature you've read actually said more about the concerns I got? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/26 11:00 PM |
| 1 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?True. Why do you think the fact you're childfree fits into this? I do understand having children is passing on your genes, but I thought there's no true desire to have kids unless you're saying evolutionary psychology should give us the biological urge to have kids. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/26 10:22 PM |
| 1 | At what point should we start questioning evolutionary psychology perspective on the left wing male experience?What was the speed dating study called? And by child free means you have no children right? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/26 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually struggling"But if applying those means completely changing your personality, that’s where you create inconsistency within yourself." That's actually what happens most of the time. They're not completely changing themselves. They do express interests, share true stories, and talk about traits that come naturally to them, but they do it by blending aspects of themselves with the social skills and techniques they developed. The best way to put this is they're curating themselves, but that's still putting on … | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually strugglingMy advice would be this. Work on the following to a basic level: Learn to read social skills, develop your own sense of humor, understand your personality, understand signs of interest, and find channels that works well with you that puts you in a position to meet women i.e cold approach, social circles, events, bars, game cafes, etc. A bonus would be this. Have other guy friends who are also trying to meet women, and see how women act around them. You'll get a good idea of the common behaviours… | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually strugglingRight, but I bet the women saying this are also imagining a guy they're attracted to saying this. They just won't be into some guys. So whenever someone say "just be yourself" manage expectations and emphasize potential tradeoffs they're making when choosing to be themselves. Authenticity does have a price, but once you know what's on the other side, paying for it is worth it. | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually strugglingI've seen plenty of couples get together in school. An advice like this helps once you're in the adult world, but I don't think it should take this long just to talk to an attractive woman. The skills it takes to get a man to talk to an attractive woman is relative short and quick to learn when you put in the effort, so I don't think any man has to wait in order to get started. "Have a career" advice helps to build a life together. Agreed. The younger you start, the better Agreed too Agree with … | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually strugglingThis! Tho I do think for neurodivergent, a completely different set of advice is in order. | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 10:02 PM |
| 0 | Common dating advice does nothing for the average guy actually strugglingThe advice is sound, the problem is usually the framing. This advice is often framed as "just be yourself, and girls will like you and have sex with you." If this is all you need, then you'd be racking up numbers and body counts by now. But it usually isn't. At the same time, I have enough dating experience to actually disagree with succeeding "short term" (if we're talking about casual sex that is). The advice needed for short term success can come from the basics of holding a conversation, dev… | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Dear Louis Theroux: we are the manosphereRight but we didn't call it the manosphere. It's likely the feminists did. Beyond that, a lot of people associate the term manosphere with redpill in practice. Feminists thinks all male groups are just 1 entity which is the manosphere, but i'm willing to bet the large majority who's heard the term "manosphere" and associate it with redpill likely didn't do their research into all male groups nor feminism as a movement. It's clear Louis didn't do his research on other male groups, likely placing … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/03/26 06:00 PM |
| 0 | Dear Louis Theroux: we are the manosphere"I had to place you in the category of intelligent people who, upon touching a gendered issue, abandon their integrity and critical thinking and bow to the feminist boot." "Manosphere is defined by lumping together misogynists and pick-up artists with men's rights and fathers' rights movements. Manosphere is defined not as criticism of gender equality, but as criticism of feminism. Any legitimate criticism of even the most toxic feminism is manosphere." Gonna address these 2. I don't think he wa… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/03/26 02:35 PM |
| 1 | What caused you to get into Male Advocacy and Men's Rights?No. Most men did not oppress women for thousands of years, nor did they abuse them. The only men likely to do this back then are those at the top 1%, and feminists hyperfocus on this specific group a lot and extrapolate it to most men, so of course they're gonna think most men abuse women. Even the feminist authors who wrote these books a long time ago came from middle-high class backgrounds so they're dealing with the type of man a large majority of men couldn't become. This is an apex fallacy.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/03/26 09:38 AM |
| 2 | Men Should Avoid Any Women with This Mindset"A woman can learn to love a guy she wasn't initially into." So does this mean chemistry is a choice? If she tells me no, I just keep trying until she says yes? So much dangerous messaging in that one sentence. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 27/02/26 01:11 AM |
| 6 | As if men dont contribute half the genes required for the babyDid she forget that the sperm from men is what's needed to fertilize the egg and for her to produce the baby? The sperm doesn't come from nowhere. Same with honey. With cows you can say they definitely produce milk, but you can't say this for the other 2. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 16/02/26 08:40 PM |
| 1 | For anyone interested in Femdom/FLR/or RR, this post might be worth paying attention to.This will likely attract men who fully buy into feminist ideology and believe they're undoing the harm of the patriarchy. But some men will wake up from this hopefully. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 10/02/26 02:48 AM |
| 15 | Have you ever thought maybe boys who don't fit the traditional male archetype are shafted under feminist views?This raises a very valid point about men who are actually very likely to need help. Feminist talk about how they like men who aren't traditional male archetype but their behaviors show otherwise. They spend more time bitching about men rather than actually help the non traditional male archetype. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/26 02:24 AM |
| 20 | Opinion on this article?Ngl I had hope for the title til I read a bit of content on that page. I've seen his page before, he definitely identifies as a feminist. I wouldn't take his word seriously. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/01/26 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Different framing, same gender expectationsI have considered this. Considering our current social climate, I'd have to assume most of the attention they're getting is usually online. There are men like myself who approach IRL but me personally I do less of that and don't play much of a numbers game there (but other guys still do) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/01/26 03:43 AM |
| 3 | Different framing, same gender expectationsThey'd have more incentive to follow the female gender role, but mostly out of choice tho. But the only way I could see them being forced into it is if they're affected by people calling them desperate, easy, or slutty when they do make the first move. In the case of conservative, they might even label her as unfeminine. But I can see a woman bypassing this by not caring (which I admit is easier said than done). I have read stories on women who make the first move on their bfs and have that work… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/26 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Different framing, same gender expectations> She is supposed to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride while the guy works like a dog to impress her. As I read this this came to mind. Women have the expectation to show enthusiasm to inspire interest and pursuit of the man. If they want to drive things forward, they make suggestions to him to make him take the lead. So they're active in trying to see if he plays his role or not. But women also have a role to play too, in that they can't be too forward with what they want or they risk being s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/26 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Different framing, same gender expectationswym by this? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/26 06:42 PM |
| 15 | The UK government updated their sexual assault policy for male victims this seems like a good changeI'm actually surprised by this, considering the UK recently is trying to implement a misogyny course in school as they view men's behaviour to be problematic. I took a look at the link you shared and it does seem to be going in the right direction in terms of male victims of violence. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/26 03:17 PM |
| 6 | Forms of feminism have the same fundamental problems, often just to different extentsMany of the reasons you pointed out is the reason why I don't have a favorable view of feminism, even liberal feminism which I like the idea of the most. Intersectional feminism may seem deep as well, but like you said, like all feminism, it's rooted in patriarchy theory. I can never accept that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/26 03:05 PM |
| 10 | Has misandry ruined the left?I'll give some basic distinction. I think the left, when it grounded itself on the principle of universalism, is a wonderful concept. The idea that everyone should have the same access to resources, respect, and a life to thrive in, etc. The focus of uplifting the working classes. 100% on board with that. With that said, the left in practice has brought into toxic ideologies that paint some kind of androphobia towards men in these spaces. It comes from a mixture of things i.e bad experience with… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/01/26 06:16 PM |
| 9 | The Fact That This Audio Is by a Man Makes It Even Worse"I tolerate men because I'm attracted to them" wtf is the logic behind this?? If he has such a low opinion of men but is still attracted to them, there's no obligation to tolerate them. He can just avoid them and not do anything. Tolerate means they learn to cope with situations that are not favorable, like a Trump supporter in woke spaces. He sounds like the women who wishes they weren't attracted to men. Probably internalized the patriarchy theory too. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 01/01/26 02:08 PM |
| 2 | "Boy math" part 2Some of these I do agree with as there are men out there with these expectations. Expecting a traditional woman who pays bills screams male convenience, and it actually happens quite a bit. Wanting zero kids but having zero condoms. Honestly idk who doesn't carry protection when they're gonna have sex. I understand having it raw, but at that point they gotta know what they're doing. It's about responsibility at that point. "Being told what the issue is over and over again" Tbh I've been in that … | /r/EverydayMisandry | 29/12/25 05:47 PM |
| 1 | I hate this Wiki articleA note to everyone on this page. You might wanna check out Grokipedia. Yes, it's developed by Elon Musk which Ik there are plenty of you who have mixed feelings about it, but it might be a contender for the current wikipedia we have rn. I just checked out 'misandry' there and it's not at all worded like it is in wikipedia. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 14/12/25 07:32 PM |
| 5 | The quickest way to success with women is...i would actually agree here. Most coaches would tell you to lower your standards as their goal is to increase your options (esp more willing options) even if you're not that into them. But I pursued girls I wasn't that into for the sake of playing a numbers game, and I realize most guys pursue girls they're not into because to them it's easy access to sex. Me personally, I want to do it with women I like, cuz at least I'd have a motivation to pursue someone, rather than pursuing someone for the … | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | No wonder most dudes stay stuck - how are you supposed to get better at game without real time feedback?That's what makes the difference still. | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 11:36 PM |
| 17 | Misandrists therapist influencersGetting exposure on this would be great | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/25 04:47 PM |
| 15 | Being labeled as the "good guy" by other men in a mixed groupI get suspicious when anyone calls me that, cuz do they mean I'm genuinely a good guy, or do they just see me as a tool to take advantage of. I fully believe there's nothing wrong with being nice, but to people like this, I'm exploitation material. Fuck that noise. I pay attention to context in these cases. I also know to look out for signs of interests and disinterests, so if I see these signs, they help me paint that context into a clearer picture. | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather approach a woman who seems a little scared of you or one who might not be interested but you won’t know until you try?This answer is easy for me. One who might not be interested but won't know until I try. I have certain reservations when it coms to women who seems a little scared of me. They could be into me, or they could be like women who'd pick the bear. Granted, I understand women have some fear of men, esp walking alone at night, but the last thing I want to do is to hit on a woman that's clearly scared of me when I haven't done anything to her. In those cases, I just give them space. That little scaredne… | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 11:13 PM |
| 5 | My therapist's reactions to my concerns about AWDTSG were horribleIs it normal for a therapist to reach that way? I know a part of their occupation is to not take sides or feed into these kinds of things. Were there any other topics she linked to OCD apart from this, or were there times she actually validated some of your experiences? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/11/25 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Confrontation Openers Are Amazing!Interesting to hear. Yeah I heard people say trying to talk to someone there is hard. Prolly depends on the channel you use. I think approaching is harder here, but I had good conversations with ppl I met this way. | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Confrontation Openers Are Amazing!Interesting. I'm looking to get out of my area, and I'm interested in learning about Scandinavian countries and how they react to dating and what not. Perhaps if I turn it into a joke, it could be communicated as such. Have you tried meeting women in Toronto? | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Confrontation Openers Are Amazing!I had to look into it a bit. I mean Norway. my bad | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Confrontation Openers Are Amazing!Im looking at your username. Are you in Norwegia? With that said, sounds like you're doing a bait and switch. You say something they just can't ignore to say, then you shoot your pickup line. I thought women were able to recognize pickup lines and think guys who use them are corny. Then again, I'm from part of the west where that kind of thing is frowned upon. Thats why I was wondering if you're in norwegia? | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 01:19 PM |
| 6 | A lot of misandry is very anti-autisticI used to work on social awkwardness before understanding my disability had a large role to play in that. So most of the traits I used to think were negative, I now see it as part of my condition. A lot of people want someone who's social skilled and just 'gets it' the very thing neurodivergents struggle a lot with because our brains work differently. So I mean to keep it in mind. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/11/25 03:01 PM |
| 7 | A lot of misandry is very anti-autisticAs someone with an intellectual disability, this is something I gotta watch out for. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/11/25 02:23 PM |
| 24 | What caused you to get into Male Advocacy and Men's Rights?For me it was the patriarchy BS. There's a lot of gendered problems in the world that men and women uniquely face, but feminist would pin all this on the patriarchy, which opens gateways to blame men cuz the small minority of men hold the power (true) and the majority of men help uphold it (something they don't even know about). Then I did my research and found out what we call a patriarchy was really an oligarchy but feminists would never acknowledge this. Then I read the second sex by simone d… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/11/25 02:18 PM |
| 9 | They say patriarchy also hurts men, but if patriarchy hurts men do we really live in a patriarchal society?When I heard this, that was my first instinct as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/11/25 07:56 PM |
| 25 | Our relations with feminismThis is a very important point. Most dedicated feminists will believe in the patriarchy. That's a fundamental concept, even if these said feminists think they're helping men. "There's the people who take it at face value that being a feminist just means believing in gender equality, and the movement doesn't concern itself with anything more than that." I used to be that type of person. I thought the behaviours of individual feminists were extreme and that if it just means equality, that's an ide… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/10/25 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What to say after kissidk why you got downvoted for that one, I can see it happening if it is spontaneous | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | What to say after kiss"Thank you for the meal" Nah I'm kidding. This is anime humor I'm referencing. It sounds like you're going for something similar to an instadate. In this case I think what you're doing is fine as long as she's about it. | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 12:58 PM |
| 5 | Stop type-casting women!I had to talk some of my friends out of thinking like this. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 04:22 PM |
| 1 | The numbers game is real. The question is how do you play it?That's the choice I made too, and I find myself approaching less often than I used to. Does the same thing happen to you? | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else lose complete interest in girls who play hard to get?There's a lot of wisdom in this alone | /r/seduction | 16/10/25 11:25 PM |
| 9 | Why do men have to prove themselves real men?I personally experienced this type of discussion in my early 20s. I was ignorant of feminist messaging, agreeing with the overall principle of equality (which I learned to disassociate from the term feminism). In my college days, people who were critical of feminism has said "men today are too feminised, they don't know how to be real men. Even some women I know personally have more masculine qualities than they do, they would eat them for breakfast". That type of narrative wasn't the norm when … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/10/25 09:40 PM |
| 28 | [Cross-post] A Rebuttal/Rant about Something I See too often Online: "Women can afford to be pickier now and disregard men because Women had no financial rights before 1974"You know something, one of the common things I hear is women couldn't open their own bank accounts back then. Can you chime in on what you think of this claim? Cuz idk if being able to own a credit card is the same thing as opening their own bank accounts and shit. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/10/25 05:51 PM |
| 1 | They want us to be "soft"> Once I was even accused of "trying to force women to be my sex slaves" because I said my GF and I both want to find someone ok with domming a couple together, since we're both subs and we think that would be a lot of fun. Lol, no it was actually the other way around but sure, have your sick little rape fantasy. Making up lies about someone is SUCH confident behavior amirite? That's fucked > I've seen domme after domme after domme say things like "being a domme is not fun" or "it's a lot of wor… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/10/25 01:01 PM |
| 1 | (OLD POST) The expectation society (men & women) has of men to approach and initiate an interaction is the reason women feel unsafe when a man does approachI'm approaching the 30s now so I'm not that young anymore. I felt like my golden years were already ruined. I thought it was due to a bad friend, but even in my golden years I was able to find dates. I just ended up wasting time dating girls who weren't even into me, but political polarization also created an environment where it's very hard to live out golden years unless you're tribally aligned, which didn't happen to me. I'm happy because I don't get indoctrinated, yet sad because extremists … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/10/25 08:03 AM |
| 2 | (OLD POST) The expectation society (men & women) has of men to approach and initiate an interaction is the reason women feel unsafe when a man does approachYea dude. I'm at a point where if I'm showing up respectfully and she's still uncomfortable, then it's pretty much on her. I had a leftist "friend" constantly bring this up every time I try to shoot my shot. Some girls could just get uncomfortable even if you do approach respectfully, but with him he's more likely to be suspicious of the man's approach cuz ya know "men". Now I have a much clearer picture of what can actually make a woman feel uncomfortable, I no longer listen to feminists when i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/10/25 01:49 AM |
| 7 | They want us to be "soft"> but imagine my surprise when I became old enough to date and found out that most women definitely don't want a guy like that, despite their claims to the opposite. It hit me by surprise too. But now I'm aware of signs of interest so I know what to look out for. There are people that like the idea of being with a soft guy cuz it makes them feel progressive, but they're attracted to masculine. This is why I left mainstream leftist spaces cuz they'll never acknowledge the hypocrisy it really is. … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/10/25 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Unpopular opinion, recently, this sub discusses culture and the language of the discourse more than the actual issues billions of men face.I remember TheTinMen mentioning something like this in his posts. Can't believe I forgot about that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/25 03:15 PM |
| 7 | Unpopular opinion, recently, this sub discusses culture and the language of the discourse more than the actual issues billions of men face.I'm gonna sound like a dick here, but because I don't spend most of my posts talking about it, I wanna pose these questions. What are reasons you think men end up homeless? Why are they falling behind education? I ask this because in my experience at school, I don't feel like I'm left behind as I always did my homework and got good grades so maybe I'm missing something. Why are they represented in majority of homicides? (Do you think these men may be involved in gangs where murder is the norm)? … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/25 10:39 AM |
| 5 | They want us to be "soft"I don't think I agree with that statement. Emotional labour is trying to hold space for the difficult emotions for the other. It is true that there are women who expected unreasonable expectation of emotional labour and vice versa, but I don't think that alone proves they hate men. It's a tricky one because it really depends on what it is. If it's just them venting about their problems and going through an extremely hard time, that I can understand. But if it's just "all men are trash" or "you c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/25 12:09 AM |
| 3 | They want us to be "soft"As a role, I see where you're coming from. But masculinity is also used in other domains such as personality, especially in the context of the Big 5. Tbh I suspect what a lot of people consider masculine are the traits men commonly adopt within the Big 5, which is said to be scientifically validated. But that also means there's a small percentage of men who are feminine according to it as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/25 11:34 PM |
| 0 | Hasan tries to push some "positive masculinity" as "advice" to young men.Okay, I see what you mean. It seems like feminists generally say don't do this or that when giving general advice. I guess it's a completely different thing when actual specific scenarios are involved, which I can see that happening. It's like the whole "Just go talk to her" "No not like that!" I think to me, that just comes down to a lack of self-awareness on their part. I'm just saying in my experience, I haven't met a feminist that explicitly said "just don't approach her, ever." That's where… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/25 10:48 PM |
| 54 | They want us to be "soft"I have a complicated relationship with that term. When I started my development journey, I've often been told "society has feminized men to be soft, weak, betas instead of the strong masculine alphas they desire" and there was a point in time I did believe it because I was that way (and still am the soft guy). Then I worked on my masculinity. Imagine my surprise that despite some success I have with it, I didn't like being in that role, which makes me realize being soft (in terms of the big 5) c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/25 12:28 PM |
| -6 | Hasan tries to push some "positive masculinity" as "advice" to young men."don't ask a woman out in any situation that is physically possible in the real world" I actually disagree that feminist saying this, as that's very explicit. Most feminists, tbf on their part, would just say "Accept her no, respect her decision, and move on, don't be a creep!" a lot of the times. They don't explicitly say don't ask a woman out, so we can give them a bit of credit there. The problem is feminists focused too much on what we shouldn't do that we often times don't know what we shou… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/25 12:22 PM |
| 14 | Hasan tries to push some "positive masculinity" as "advice" to young men."The need for instant results is what kills the attraction." I actually want to add to this bit. I agree with working on yourself, but I don't think they should forego knowing at least how to navigate certain situations with women to at least shoot their shot. I think it's better to teach men what they can do right now, without any expectations, to go up to a person and let them know they're interested. Weather it's a yes or no, at least they tried. Working on yourself improves results, but lear… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 09:24 PM |
| 1 | (OLD POST) The expectation society (men & women) has of men to approach and initiate an interaction is the reason women feel unsafe when a man does approachGood point | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | New report reveals that young men are feeling "defensive, disenfranchised and uncertain"They're translating this report into real life. Be careful guys. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | New report reveals that young men are feeling "defensive, disenfranchised and uncertain"Exactly this lol | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 03:40 PM |
| 0 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"How are hunter-gatherer societies more egalitarian. Weren't those the times were men were expected to hunt and women were expected to grow and nurture? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 02:27 PM |
| 6 | What brings you to LWMADude, you made a distinction I didn't think I need. I always had an "I'm a liberal vs I'm not a liberal" conflict with me, but you put it best. The things you're for are the things I'm for, and I don't like how current leftists make it more social justice focus, especially when they do use it as a test. Some issues I have with the term minority. For example, why are women and POC considered minorities when population wise we have a lot of them. (Women are 50% of the world's population, and idk w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Beginning my Journey to DetachmentThere's 2 books I've read on this (tho not fully, I read chapters based on if it's relevant to me or not). It's detached bt Sabrina Alexis bendory and the art or detachment by shubham. The former is a woman's dating book, the latter is very comprehensive | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/25 10:38 AM |
| 1 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"Detached by Sabrina Alexis bendory. That one is a woman's dating book but it has some insights. Another one that's more comprehensive is the art of detachment by shubham. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 05:28 PM |
| 1 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"My advice would be to look into detachment. I made a post about it that's yet to be approved, but yea it's about our responses when we don't get the outcome we want or if there's particular outcomes we can't handle. But there's currently books on it as well so you can read. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 04:54 PM |
| 1 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"It's funny you mentioned the fact you can't make people listen or understand you. I actually am recently struggling with them and am looking into detachment. It sounds like you want therapy to teach you skills to get you the outcome you want? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 04:41 PM |
| 4 | What brings you to LWMAYea I hear you. That's why I always speak to men with empathy yet practicality when having these discussion. Political partisanship is nuts rn man. I never had a good feeling about adhering to ideology. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 04:25 PM |
| 9 | What brings you to LWMA> But they hear me and they think I'm trolling them or worse a Right-Wing infiltrator using dog whistles. I THINK I had this exact same issue with the leftist "friend" I had. I remember he sent me a political spectrum test to see where I fall on, and even after that he said he doesn't know where I align with since I don't have views that neatly align with the left nor the right. But I'm glad I left that friendship. But yea man I actually agree with you, especially with DEI, microaggressions and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 03:40 PM |
| 6 | What brings you to LWMAYou got a nuanced view dude. But I like it | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 02:51 PM |
| 3 | What brings you to LWMAI meant in terms like equal opportunity and equal respect, not equal outcomes. By fairness I mean win-win scenarios, which by nature, isn't going to be the same for everyone | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 02:50 PM |
| 8 | What brings you to LWMAthat too | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 01:34 PM |
| 5 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"Are some problems too big to solve or take too long to get to a solution? Do you think that's the reason why therapy mostly gives you things to help you cope with it? Maybe coping is a temporary strategy til we get to a point we stumble across a solution to our problem (mostly at an individual level, not the broad level). Maybe therapy is not meant to solve our problems, but to help us find our own way. What do you think? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 01:20 PM |
| 12 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues"would it be better to say men with mental health issues need help instead of saying they need therapy? I see your point about it not being a magic bullet for everyone. Therapy is marketed as a way to achieve change by changing how you engage with it both mentally and physically, especially when the problems we're talking about are too big for overnight change compared to what we can do at an individual level. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 12:54 PM |
| 5 | What brings you to LWMAI can agree with you. I have faced some backlash while in this subreddit, but I feel like I can articulate my responses here, even when I'm wrong. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 12:33 PM |
| 19 | A post on making men "take responsibility for causing men's issues""Men didn't create gender norms" we got people who think they do, but they won't tell you that. Their goal is to not give you the "full truth" to validate your experience, calm your nerves, and then they inject their "full truth" onto you. It's less about the views you hold and more about the subtle ways they're looking to change you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/25 11:03 AM |
| 25 | We can't allowed the red-pill or manosphere to use our arguments.I've noticed this bit too, which is why it's so important to stress there are certain ideologies we don't subscribe you, and make it very clear (point blank) that these are the things we're criticizing and not the other. For example, there are double standards for men. Men are still expected to follow their gender norms while women aren't. But redpill will conclude this with "we don't want a ran through woman" because to them, virginity is some kind of purity, but for us left-wing male advocates… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/09/25 11:42 PM |
| 26 | Performative maleI've always been my own person, and that's someone that likes some masculine things and some feminine things. I don't subscribe to being the traditionally masculine man, but I'm also not a performative man as well. The common thing I see with these things are archetypes, that's it. It feels like with these labels, you can't even be yourself anymore. This is truly an upside down world we're living in. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/09/25 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Gender Bias in AI ResponsesIf you keep your questions open-ended, the machine will give you responses it's trained in. But there is such a thing as system prompt. You have to make an assertion to the AI and the AI would likely accept, so the next prompts you give it will give you a response it thinks you want (because you've given it that context). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/09/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Gender Bias in AI ResponsesArgue against it and watch it retract its statement. AI has been known to do this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/09/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | How partisanship is ruining my mental healthIs there really a difference? I've been in alternative spaces where it's heavy leftist and I still see the observed behaviour. Tbf we live in a capitalist society so even leftists would have to adopt some form of individualism when it comes to working contexts (even though that should change). But when it comes to other parts of their life like actually being equal and inclusive in their relationships, they act traditional. It's like they're championing the ideas of equality, breaking gender nor… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/09/25 10:47 AM |
| 5 | Never, ever miss out on the opportunity to talk to women, no matter how random the circumstance isFrom my experience, approaching and the opener is always gonna induce anxiety, weather you're an extrovert or introvert, it's just one of those things we gotta get over. But 1-on-1 is easier for the introvert if the other party genuinely engages in a conversation. If you're expected to carry the conversation without them giving anything back, of course it's gonna be hard. Extroverts can power through those kinds of obstacles naturally, but introverts not so much. | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 03:54 PM |
| 10 | Never, ever miss out on the opportunity to talk to women, no matter how random the circumstance isI'm an introvert and based on what he described here, these are scenarios where introverts can shine since it's not a big group. The talkative part I don't think most introverts are that, but you just need someone willing to join the convo with you and that can be a situation where you can be talkative. | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Never, ever miss out on the opportunity to talk to women, no matter how random the circumstance isI agree here. This is also effective when you combine it with your current lifestyle (if you're the type that goes out) | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 01:42 PM |
| 1 | The problem with today's dating...Ngl I saw the title and thought it was gonna be a critique of today's dating lol. But yea not much you can do here. Best you can do is hope she responds, but in the meantime you live your life. No matter how many times we repeat the process, it can flop at any point (from approaching her, to the conversation, to getting the phone number, getting the reply, getting the date, setting logistics, and going on the actual date, etc). unless they're consistent enough on all of these to actually want to… | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Lack of belief in cold approachEven with calibration you'd still be facing rejection a lot. Conversion rate is usually ~5%. | /r/seduction | 13/09/25 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Lack of belief in cold approachSocial circles are only luck based if you don't have high social status. If you have high social status, people will naturally seek you out. Guys achieve this by being the social butterfly, being charismatic, or showcasing a valuable skill in a natural way. There's also talking to people and building familiarity, but that kind of strategy rewards those with high social energies, where extroverts shine. If you're an introvert, you can try it out, but you'd run out of social battery (speaking from… | /r/seduction | 13/09/25 05:20 PM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?We're just gonna go in circles at this point. I'm done explaining myself to you (and even with your recent response there's a lot of unpack, but I'm sure we both won't reach a mutual understanding here). Have a great day | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?Yes rejection doesn't matter, yet that's what you're facing most of the time in cold approach. The fact that there's social norms is not gonna stop me from doing it. 5 approaches is a warm up and gives me energy than takes away?? From the time I've done it, it does take away energy. I have a limited social battery and I don't intend to go beyond that as i have done in the past. And repeated rejections does rewire the nervous system to expect rejections, which leads to demotivation. The only time… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Idea: Seduction LLMIf you're gonna do this then you have to know what exactly you need to work on. Beginners often don't know what they need to work on so this is a pretty bad idea imo. Responses from AI have a good chance of hallucination because they're adapting their responses based outside of real data (and because we're talking about flirting with humans, real data is needed). There are already models like this out there, plenty of them you can find in chatgpt and other apps. Don't get me wrong, it's good if … | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 03:30 PM |
| 1 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"I can 100% relate to this comment. I agree with your interpretation as i myself share this view, especially now a days. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 02:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you get women to feel "the spark"That spark is mostly about emotions, and it could come from anywhere. The obvious one is the physical spark, where she feels something just by looking at you. This is physical attraction at work. But sometimes you can create that spark through your words, behaviours, the way you carry yourself etc. Most of what this sub calls game comes from this. Some people naturally have traits that allows them to create sparks from their words and behaviour alone, and it comes naturally to them. Others not s… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 02:22 PM |
| 2 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?Interesting. Thanks for the insight dawg. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 02:15 PM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?Oooooooh OK. Do you usually need alcohol for that? I hear swedes tend to be reserved until they let loose with alcohol. Also how would you talk to a girl at a private party? I'm actually curious about this if its different from nightclubs. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 01:42 PM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?The fact that is unusual is what makes them cold environments, hence why it's called a cold approach. There's no social context that connects you 2 together. Parties are moreso warm approaches. You can actually approach anyone to talk to there and it's likely to be received well if the other person is receptive. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 12:26 PM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?I'm sorry, but assuming the problem is with my game than it is social norms doesn't help here. Listen dude, I can get numbers and translate them to dates in cold approach, but you have to play an extremely high numbers game because most of the time it's not a social norm. I don't have the energy to keep it going after about 5 approaches. Sure, don't care what other people think I agree with that, but why do we do this in the first place? To get dates with women we like right? What kind of feedba… | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 11:31 AM |
| 1 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?What i mean is I'm from Toronto and have done a lot of cold approaches there. I get ignored a lot before I get a sentence in. In some instances, I can get a convo out of it. But I do think Toronto is a bit suspicious of strangers and they definitely don't like puas, and they see cold approachers as PUA. I'm wondering if Swedes also have this perception of stranger or if it's moreso they just want to maintain autonomy and shit. I still intend to approach anyways, just want to know what to expect | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 10:57 AM |
| 3 | How is the cold approach scene in Stockholm Sweden?I don't think party settings are cold approach environment. I'm moreso talking about day to day places like street, parks, markete, cafes, etc. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 10:54 AM |
| 2 | Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me.You have a really good point there. I think this is adaptation at work. We continuously call out male aggression which is physical most of the time, so a lot of people know physical expression will get you in trouble. So tactics evolve into these social games to cause harm and avoid trouble. When we get to a point where social games become obvious at a global level, new and improved tactics will come out. Evolution won't stop man, we gotta constantly adapt to stay sharp. Nobody should be playing… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/08/25 02:42 AM |
| 2 | Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me.It's a difference in environment and the people you come across. The group was familiar with you and thought you were weak, therefore felt comfortable picking on you. They still would've picked on you if it was just one of their members and you (that would have to depend on their own comfort level). But there are women outside of these circles that don't know you personally and don't know people see you as weak. To those women, they see someone who could be a potential threat. It's a difference … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/08/25 06:08 AM |
| -34 | Why liberals get more casual sexI didn't know casual sex was left wing politics. I can see not slut shaming as part of left wing politics but me personally this is just one of those "don't hurt people" things like that's just not the right thing to do. | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?You know some ppl came at me for "why do you need a book on ppl just talk to them" and I'm like this is the reason why. I'm an introvert and I'd stretch myself thin trying to have a conversation with a guarded person so maybe they're just not for me. | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 11:21 AM |
| -19 | Healthy Gamer gives a good take on Incels in response to female comedian nonsense speech.Tbf she did acknowledge she stole that from Charles Darwin, and a lot of ppl thought his theories were outdated so I wouldn't be surprised if she thought that way too. Still I can see why the joke hits home for too many people here. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/08/25 09:42 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?Yea that's what I do nowadays. | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?I can get behind that | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Relying on dating appsDating is very hard dawg. If you're doing good on the apps, then don't re-invent the wheel. I'm still a fan of doing irl approaches, but with the way things are rn, you'd have to do a high numbers game just to get a few numbers (Cold approaches tend to have a 3% success rate, so you have to play a numbers game on steroids to see consistent success with it. It requires a lot of time and energy which me personally I don't have time for). | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?If it's some interest, then I guess we have different definitions of what being guarded is? I think me, I associate being guarded with being closed off/disinterested. I think someone who's just open to it and is at least engaging is a different story. | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?> If she smiles amidst the guarding, it means she’s opening up and/or interested That's interesting of you to say. I had girls smile at me, but it was the kind of smile that signals they're uncomfortable like they're trying to be polite. Is this what you mean? | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 11:15 PM |
| 5 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?How would one who's emotionally guarded show interest in you? I'd assume a person like this wouldn't be interested in me if I see that. | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 11:11 PM |
| 24 | Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly?I think the obvious answer is gonna be one who's open and friendly. It's just that in this climate, we have a lot of people who are emotionally guarded, especially women. Speaking as someone who has dated women like this before, it's not really fun. At best, they'll engage in surface level convo and shit. But I remember I had to keep conversation going and ask questions they find interesting. I had one continually ask me "What I'm looking for" multiple times (I think she was testing me and shit)… | /r/seduction | 19/08/25 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me.As usual I like your articulation in this post. I'm someone who regularly encourages starting friendly conversations as I believe in the active approach, but ive also faced been seen as creepy. I don't like social circles because as you described it it has a ripple effect. One of the comments mentioned you were targeted for bullying. Because you mentioned some group dynamic in your early 20s, I'd have to assume this was an environment where people have an idea of you and think you're non threate… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/08/25 10:03 AM |
| 2 | What?Out of all the things on that list, a man chatting with their teen daughter at the mall might actually be a legitimate worry. For the baby, of course you're gonna see the world differently when you're looking after children (with a few gender differences in experience of course). The rest are just reaching. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 26/06/25 01:09 PM |
| 1 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"To me that wouldn't really be relieving. I see it as an effective response to the given situation we're dealing with. I would still prefer direct communication, but if the other person doesn't communicate that type of way, then putting the ball in their court is totally valid. And not a problem. But I think as someone who has pursued people, you'd have to make the choice when it's comfortable for you to pursue a person whereas in being pursued, it's someone else coming up to you right, so that's… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/06/25 12:44 PM |
| 1 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"Thank you for your thoughtful response. There are some few things I'd like to point out. Your response to number 1, we're essentially assuming that "I'm busy" means a rejection, like we're adding the rejection meaning to that. I don't really like this because for all we know, they could be genuinely busy (which is the effect of plausible deniability by design). Either way, your response is more about reading signals rather than what I asked for. Also not what I asked, but sounds like you're a go… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"I think this has less to do with having malicious intent and more to do with emotional regulation. Being rejected is often a painful experience, and for some people, it gets them to lash out. In the context of a man and woman dynamic, a man who can't handle the sting of rejection would be volatile enough to physically harm her out of a reaction rather than intent. Women are also the same way too, but they'll react more with their words and more social attacks (and physical). If it was malicious … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/25 10:28 PM |
| 3 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"Thanks for sharing dude. Yea I dated my first ex gf cuz she was direct with her interest. It didn't work out cuz of some bs in the middle of it, but it is what it is honestly. And I agree the more direct we are, the less of taking hints we should do. I myself don't like the fact we live in a culture that prioritizes taking hints and people are somehow okay with this. I like the guys article suggestion of getting his number and letting him know she's not interested when she's away, it at least ex… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/06/25 09:48 AM |
| 3 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"I agree with a lot of your reasons actually, especially point number 1 which the article I linked to does point out. But I spoke to a friend about it and he pointed out gendered fears. So women fear the physical much more greatly, and men are, on average, physically stronger than women. That means the 1% of a direct rejection that could go badly for her could end her life. The man's fear is social and reputational. All a woman has to do is spread a false word and a man's reputation is ruined. Ag… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/06/25 09:43 AM |
| 1 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"That would work if we're gay or bisexual, or any sexuality that's outside being heterosexual. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 08:37 PM |
| 7 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"My apologies if I came off as dismissive of those issues. I titled this post in quotes. It's because someone else in my life said this very recently in the convo and while that is true, I wanted to dive deeper into it. The reason why I specified that circumstance is cuz my focus was on finding a middle ground between men and women concerning those dynamics. That's why I said "Now before anyone comes at me...", it's because I want to focus on that situation specifically and how it's harming both … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 01:19 PM |
| 2 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"I thought I made it clear i acknowledge this, it was a very specific situation I was talking about. With that said don't delete your comment. Keep it there so ppl can see your links. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 12:11 PM |
| 1 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"I already mentioned this in my post. I was talking about something else in there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 11:08 AM |
| 10 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"Yea you should've just read my post. Those experiences women have are real, but the level they take this to could be due to ideology conditioning like you've pointed out. The experience is real in a sense they encounter shitty guys, but it becomes ideological if they believe "my safety is more important than your feelings" and opt not to give a straight answer. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 09:35 AM |
| 12 | "It's a dangerous world out there, especially for women"You bring up a lot of good points here man. Women don't handle rejection well. I had guys in college share these stories with me. I've seen videos where women do get violent with men. So sometimes I wonder if these statements are true or if they're just feminist brainwashing. But it is prevalent enough for most women that it is a valid concern. Sane with the men. The double bind you're talking about is the contradictory situation men are put into, whereas the double bind I described is more of a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/25 09:30 AM |
| 33 | "I don't hate men, I hate the patriarchy" What are some things you think of when you hear this statement from feminist?Good point. Some people equate hating feminism to hating women | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/06/25 06:03 PM |
| 3 | One of the Worst Content CreatorsThe issues men talk about fit into our conceptualization of the problem, therefore the concept we made up must be the root cause. Fucking nutcases lmao. That's akin to saying we have all our problems because we don't submit to our lord and savior Jesus Christ. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 05/05/25 07:35 PM |
| 1 | What I've learned about anger and vulnerability> We just don't cry in front of people who weaponise our emotions against us. That's been my point. You don't truly heal from vulnerability if someone is gonna use it to attack you. You'd keep protecting yourself which no one (at least not here) would blame you for. They just re-opened that wound again, exactly what I talked about in my post. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/04/25 02:07 AM |
| 51 | How My Algorithm Changed When I Stopped Hating MenShe's essentially saying that everything she's heard about men as a group got her to stop seeing men as men and seeing them as threats. When there's brain activity looking for exits, then you can't relax. However, she talks about how relaxed she is and it's because her man is aware of their surroundings for her, so she doesn't have to worry about that, and say that's masculinity. It's like when you have brain activity, it's either the feminist perspective, which is all men are threats, or they'r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/04/25 05:17 PM |
| 1 | What I've learned about anger and vulnerabilityNo one is saying everyone has to cry. It's one example of the many difficult emotions that sometimes anger does cover up such as fear, embarrassment, sadness, etc, when we're trying to protect something. Crying is just one way to release an emotion, but since it's mostly assumed women cry more than men, feminists are trying to get men to cry more when vulnerability is just more than crying. Any emotion you can express in vulnerable moments with protection down, and have that accepted, is gonna h… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/04/25 02:38 PM |
| 8 | What I've learned about anger and vulnerabilityI see where you're coming from, and I do understand your personal experiences. In this space, we understand that generalizations based on genders aren't a great thing. Yet mainstream society and feminists still talk about it in that way so I suppose the purpose of my generalizing was to address that narrative. Even then, some of the therapist I spoken to on consultation calls consistently tell me that men have a very hard time with vulnerability and women generally don't in their experience, but… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/04/25 10:34 AM |
| 6 | What I've learned about anger and vulnerabilityWhen you mention "it doesn't, what do you mean?" That society doesn't tell men to man up? Or it doesn't mean calling society a patriarchy false? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/04/25 10:25 AM |
| 6 | What I've learned about anger and vulnerabilityI agree I should've used 'some' men instead of just saying 'men' as now that sounds like a generalizations I agree with you 100% on the rest of your point. But my point is feminists are trying to tie their concepts into how society is treating men and boys. It is true that society tells boys to man up and they shouldn't cry, but calling that society a patriarchy is false. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/04/25 05:08 AM |
| 9 | Invisible Men: The Pyramid Feminism Won’t Talk AboutYup 100% | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/04/25 09:47 PM |
| 5 | We should stop using the terms "incel" and "nice guy"Right but the root of that is usually insecurity (you could also say entitlement and manipulative as well tbh, tho the last one carries machievelian connotations). It just shows up in a very particular way by them saying "I was such a good guy that bitch should've chose me" (which btw I would dig deeper by what they usually mean by "nice" when they say it, because it's usually a form of "if I show up honestly then she won't like me, so i just gotta be extra good to her and get her to develop int… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/04/25 06:40 PM |
| 18 | We should stop using the terms "incel" and "nice guy"Maybe we can do what they kept doing. Redefine terms and put our own definitions in them (or in this case, bring definitions back to its original form before feminist perspectives started taking over). Feminist love to say "I don't think you know what feminism means, it means equality" or "the patriarchy doesn't mean all men, but it's a system built by men that all men implicitly benefit from" and they love to redefine things. Hell, they redefined the term 'toxic masculinity' in 2013 when its or… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/04/25 01:40 PM |
| 5 | Todays episode of What dehumanising thing men are being compared to: Dogs"Men are dogs" I'm not really surprised with that one | /r/EverydayMisandry | 18/04/25 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Expanding on the topic of middle-aged men seeking medical help before suicide!I didn't intend to link those studies. I guess copying that snippet also included the links as well | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/04/25 03:43 PM |
| 3 | The TikTok trend on exposing rapists most of the time have zero proof, or inadequate proof yet men are having their reputations ruined over itYou know, now that I read this, this question comes to mind. I think these groups are posting pictures of men from online dating onto the site (though in the case of the tea app, they have a public phonebook lookup so in case she gets your phone number, she can look at your public records by entering it). I see a lot of posts talking about how harmful it is, but what would you say can be ways men can protect themselves from slander should they ever find themselves being unfairly posted on the ap… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/04/25 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Femcels advocate for branding men like slaves, subjugating them, depriving them of their rights and dignity, and possibly murdering them:Ngl I see this the only thing I can think of is BDSM vibes | /r/EverydayMisandry | 07/04/25 04:13 AM |
| 3 | I think I need to give up on datingIt's not about perfection, in my case it's about addressing immediate need. I got monthly payments I have to make so I can't afford to put that on hold. What I mean here is generally put less emphasis on dating. I'm still gonna be active where it counts. Hell, I recently met a girl during one of my nights out and talked to her for a long time that day. At the same time, dating is hard and has a lot of bs to navigate through, that I can relate to those that want to give up on dating as I myself h… | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 03:19 PM |
| 5 | I think I need to give up on datingI'm on the same boat as u but with a few differences. I do want to go out, but only if it's something I see value in it and I'm more of a niche type of person. I don't use dating apps nowadays as I feel you don't get to see the full package. I've recently been thinking about giving up on dating myself, though it's more of needing to find a job for myself first to make money before putting myself out there again. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 02:49 PM |
| 3 | Another Day, Another Insane GeneralizationI'm into dominant woman, so I relate to the lesbian example. I also have this fantasy of a guy saying this. I write stories, maybe I should write a story of this example. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 01/04/25 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Another Day, Another Insane GeneralizationThe way they worded that too. Looks like something you see in blackpill spaces. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 01/04/25 08:52 PM |
| 3 | An actual good video about masculinity.I have been told to watch this show many times, but now that you've endorsed it in a very compelling manner, I'm definitely gonna watch it. Then again, I'm probably looking for examples that I feel help have honest interpretations and stuff. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/25 03:45 PM |
| 2 | An actual good video about masculinity.Damn neat breakdown | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceIk I'm late to answering this, but I'd say watch it with a very critical eye. Yes, this film was made to primarily address misogyny and violence against women, but there's information around this case that makes the plot more blurry, such as the girl bullying him with the rhetoric and the questions he's being asked which showcased intense incel behaviour. I have seen reviews talking about it from the lense of the patriarchy, some calling it feminist propaganda, or nonsense even. Point is ppl wat… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/03/25 04:09 PM |
| 3 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceI mean that's a given considering the intent the producers had when making this film. They wanted to paint a picture on misogyny and violence against women. There was a short video on The Female Lead. Iirc, Erin Doherty (the woman who plays the psychologist) commented on how boys can be included in feminism. https://youtube.com/shorts/_rEQE6RJKKY?si=lD-HH-WdP6OQG_H9 | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/03/25 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceMisinformation. The Ugandan murderer was going to see an ex to return belongings (more of a ruse on his part), that was the time that murder happened. Now to be clear, the victim was not his ex, but his ex's friend. But that would indicate he has dated before. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/03/25 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceHonestly dude I graduated high school in 2014, and I've seen couples in middle school, so wouldn't be surprised if they were having sex. But I agree they shouldn't be starting this young. But the fact they are is the reason why schools need to implement a program to handle relationships and dating. The closest thing they had to it was a sex Ed video explaining how to say no. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/03/25 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceI even read on this shows wikia page about the murders it was inspired from. None of that had to do with incel culture or the redpill at all. It was just something they added. The Elaine Andam one, the killer actually dated. The story involves him going to his exes house to return belongings (though it was more of a ruse for the killer to rob his ex iirc). The victim wasn't the killer's ex, but the killer's ex best friend. And the Ava White one, it was basically some guy recording the girls with… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/03/25 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Cause that's TOTALLY the reason people hate feminism"You're a creep who can't spit game" Oh so now I'm expected to win women like they're prizes? I thought they hated that, cuz that's what game is. Also their feminist ideology and experiences about not telling good men apart from the bad ones or going for the masculine/alpha types could just be easily dismissed with "pick better men". | /r/EverydayMisandry | 24/03/25 04:39 AM |
| 4 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceI see your point. But it does start relatively young. Eliot Rodgers and Marc lepine were in their early 20s when they killed ppl. Only alek minassian was in his 30s when he killed people. Back then that wouldn't have been the case. With social media, it's highly likely. Keep in mind school environments are sandbox environments where ppl are sensitive to status and what not due to seeing each other again and again. Familiarity breeds curiosity, even if you don't know them that well. Theres a reas… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/03/25 04:36 AM |
| 1 | This community needs to open up to the idea feminism to at least some degree.That's not true. I had a leftist "friend" who believed in the patriarchy, toxic masculinity etc, and he engaged in men's issues. They have to be because their main goal is to get men on their side, despite how toxic their ideology is. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/03/25 12:58 AM |
| 5 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceYea. It's messed up fo sho | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/03/25 12:56 AM |
| 26 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show Adolescence"From what I've read the premise is basically that a normal kid with loving parents who goes and gets radicalised online and becomes a murderer which is just ridiculous pop psychology and is not something that happens." I agree with you. Usually something happened that stalled their development. Even if a woman is mean to the child, a loving family would help him get through the day. They'd only act like this if they genuinely feel that nobody understands. I come from a family that is neglectful… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/03/25 12:55 AM |
| 0 | Feminism fails to take a good, hard look at itself to work out why men are turning to the manosphere. Feminism is Misandry, pure and simple.I think I can actually have a discussion with you on this. "He asks her out and she says no. However rather than just "No" she says "I'm not that desperate" She then publicly humiliates him, over Instagram, in front of the whole school calling him an incel" These are the points I actually want to cover. In episode 3, Jamie said he asked her out because he thought she was weak (this is after her nudes). Ik Jamie claimed he looked into the incel stuff after Katie started bullying him, but that kin… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 24/03/25 12:53 AM |
| 48 | Male friendly reviews on Netflix's show AdolescenceIt's an emotionally charged topic. Not surprising given the polarized times we're living in and the level of dishonesty people have in these conversations. Even statistics can be used as weapons to say "I'm right you're wrong" which will create an adversarial effect if we're not careful. I find that certain people are more capable of having these discussions. But not everyone can because they view some conversations as life/death situations which you really can't reason with a person like that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/03/25 07:23 PM |
| 18 | What did you think of Netflix's Adolescence?I watched it and it seems like it's being left open-ended. There was a lot of things to say here. SPOILERS AHEAD!!! There was a motive for Jamie killing Katie, which is she started a cyberbullying campaign against Jamie by calling her an incel after he asked her out. But in episode 3 where the psychologist talks to Jamie, Jamie revealed that because someone leaked naked pics of female students around, one of them being Katie, Jamie thought he had a chance to ask her out because she was "weak" an… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/03/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | No, it's not from a sexual fetish subreddit, in case anyone was wondering.Idk about the mother bit nor about that dynamic in particular, but I'd like my women to embody this type of energy. The soft dominant energy that wants to take care of you | /r/EverydayMisandry | 23/02/25 07:11 PM |
| 2 | No, it's not from a sexual fetish subreddit, in case anyone was wondering.In a nutshell honestly | /r/EverydayMisandry | 23/02/25 07:10 PM |
| 3 | No, it's not from a sexual fetish subreddit, in case anyone was wondering.I thought I like femdom too, turns out I'm just attracted to women in her masculine energy and want one who is genuinely attracted to men with a more feminine energy (which I believe I am given how I expressed my personality as a kid and to now). I've been to the circles, they intertwine kink and their social justice ideology together. There's honestly a lot I can say about them, but the misandry expressed in those circles (combined with the fact most femdoms I've met and seen are into harsher f… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 23/02/25 07:10 PM |
| 2 | No, it's not from a sexual fetish subreddit, in case anyone was wondering.Even if it was from a sexual fetish circle, I've been in these circles, and they embed those deep held beliefs into those dynamics and blend it. Sometimes I can't even tell if that's their kink personality or their ideological beliefs because they're so intertwined in these environments. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 23/02/25 07:04 PM |
| 1 | "Why men love bitches"- Sherry ArgovI've read books like this in the past. Advice for women and men of that nature are coming from the place of doing moves to make the other invest in them and holding back. It's about trying to control the interaction and propping yourself as a "high value" person. It's a power play dating book. I'm not about dynamics like that, I think they just ruin dating for everyone. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 04:25 AM |
| 4 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.Do you think it's also beneficial to disassociate "she doesn't like me" from "I'm not worthy as a person"? Because to me, they're 2 distinct concepts that don't really relate to each other. Perhaps I'm more practical minded in that sense. "you don’t need to entertain someone who isn’t into you or who doesn’t take you seriously. Never said you should keep offering offers to the same person." I didn't say you did, I'm just pointing out potential interpretations people will get from these messages. | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 03:41 PM |
| 8 | She didn’t turned you down, she turned your offer down.I understand your point about mindset, trying to frame things in a specific way minimizes real messages that do happen in real life. Sometimes this person didn't just turn down our offer, they actually may not like us. If someone doesn't like us, then they're not gonna entertain our offers, nor find out if there's a vibe between us. I don't know how we got to the point this needs to be said, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with saying "she doesn't like me like that." We can say stuff like t… | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 03:06 PM |
| 3 | Realisation that girls actually want me to approach them most of the time.For me I find it best sticking to approaching women I find attractive, not just a woman. I did the whole approach as much girls as possible back in my early 20s and even thought I was able to do it, I had to force myself to do it and I didn't really enjoy it as much. Now I look for what is it I can look forward to in this interaction. Maybe it's a chance at talking with someone I find attractive and hoping it'll turn into something, or they look like a fun person to talk to. Just willing yoursel… | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 08:57 PM |
| 8 | Trump has basically made it impossible to be anti-DEI policies without sounding like a racist lunaticBoth sides are anti-science. 100%. Whenever I read scientific studies I always ask myself if there's political bias in these studies. Sad part is it was a politically biased person that want me looking into studies and it's shocking how some studies published on scientific sites are influenced by ideological dogma. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/01/25 03:07 PM |
| 27 | Trump has basically made it impossible to be anti-DEI policies without sounding like a racist lunaticYup. Unfortunately you can't really have nuanced conversations anymore and trust that those in positions of power can remain neutral. Then again we're living in politically polarized times so I'm not surprised to see extremism getting more and more attention. Conservatives and liberals are the more popular political groups right now and therefore getting a lot of attention. I'm also against forcing DEI, but we have to remember at the end of the day, conservatives like Trump has his own ideas tha… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/01/25 02:15 PM |
| 3 | What do you even do if girls dont even ask you question?Pretty much. They enjoy the fun and the feelings you bring to the table. But are you having fun? Can you relax yourself around them? If the answer is no, I tend to move on after the fact. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Using AI to get better with women?AI chatbots are conversational by nature unlike google searches. Just disagree with it if you see the "nice guy" responses and see how it responds to you. | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Using AI to get better with women?Depends on the tool you use. AI is an automated assistant tool and people should see it as such. With that said, I wouldn't go for ChatGPT for dating advice. The AI models are primarily built on data including reddit posts, that should speak of the credibility there. If I were you, I'd search for AI chatbots that are built for dating purposes. I'm using one called Wingman. Use this to get tailored inputs for your specific situations with girls and build scenarios you can use to navigate various … | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 03:37 PM |
| 6 | What do you even do if girls dont even ask you question?This is the complexity of modern dating. You don't communicate with direct words, you communicate with signs. I value direct communication but the women I've been dealing with communicate non-verbally. So it's a lot of reading between the lines. But basically it's a trend. Weather you got her contact info, are talking to her, etc, doesn't mean jack shit. There needs to be a consistent back and forth and consistent showing of signs of interest. The fact that she's only talking when you're leading… | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 03:32 PM |
| 5 | How to Approach Women Without Feeling Sleazy or FakeI 100% agree with this approach. I'm a pro cold-approach guy and doing this shouldn't get you seen as a PUA, but it does and it's a damn shame we live in a culture that thinks like this (and our western culture has more problems like culture wars and political polarization dividing all of us). Unfortunately, whenever there's dating advice talking about this kind of approach, it's almost always include some invasive technique i.e Get in front of her to stop, if she tries to leave keep her in the … | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:04 PM |
| 5 | How to Approach Women Without Feeling Sleazy or FakeDude, not every structured post is written by AI | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Better to upset women, than to be forgettable.No worries dude I got no problems just making friends with women, even ones I like. I'm just saying some situations if you hadn't told them, might be worth taking the shot. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Should I cold approach if I'm not looking for a relationship?"But for my two cents, learning pickup is a full time job for a year or two." I'm not in agreement with this and I think it does more harm than good. My alternative suggestion for anyone reading would be to do speed dating (it has the same timeframe and urgency as a cold approach would, expect you have more learning ground here as most cold approaches are gonna end in rejection). You can use what you learn here and translate this into irl approaches. With this approach, you can learn fast while … | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I cold approach if I'm not looking for a relationship?This is a nothing question. You can cold approach for any reason including wanting a relationship. It's really up to you if you want to add talking to strangers anytime anywhere as part of your lifestyle. Any strategy you do in dating, don't expect immediate results. Even if you meet people without cold approaching, you're still building a connection with those people, and that connection is essential even if you want something casual or ONS, and that's if they decided they want to build a conne… | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Stop listening to women for dating/relationship adviceThis comes down to a lack of self-awareness, and since men and women have different experiences with dating, it's gonna be hard for a man to understand a woman's world and vice versa, which is why it's mostly best men take advice from other men and women take advice from other women. That doesn't necessarily mean you can't take advice from the opposite sex, but you gotta make sure they really understand your world, otherwise it's likely to be a lost cause. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 04:10 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?I'm not talking about desperation as that's moreso you going after a woman who's clearly not interested (you may know it or not) and is willing to use you for free attention and what not. The dynamics I mean is usually the effort needed to get her out with you. How much rapport building did you need to do, how much humour did you show when talking to her, were you masculine in this/that situation, basically how much you need to do to get her in a specific mood, how much playfulness did you use, … | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 02:09 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?I like your comment, I just want to touch up on one thing. > You're kind of searching for a unicorn (a sociable girl who is hot and also happens to think you are hot, despite most girls not thinking you are.) You're searching for a unicorn if you're trying to find the perfect match. But luckily, our bodies can experience physical attraction to a wide variety of things, even people who aren't considered good looking but mostly average looking. But the thing is, good looking people tend to inspire… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 08:23 PM |
| 2 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Some of this isn't really mainstream advice. "You gotta ask her out before someone else does" "woman want a man who's a challenger" "male is the prize" "walking away makes you more attractive" aren't mainstream advice. That sounds like advice you'd get from this sub. The others are, but there's some merit to it. For ex, "Nice guys finish last" that usually comes from people who haven't taken action consistently. "If in doubt, ask her out" this is actually good advice if you want to find ways to … | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 04:01 PM |
| 4 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Looks aren't everything in the grand scheme of things, but they certainly do matter in the initial stages. And before anyone tells me they're not that good looking and still get numbers and dates, I believe you. I've been there myself. But it's usually not worth the effort because it's a lot of heavy lifting on my side and I'm no longer about that. People who are physically attracted to you tend to make interactions easy for you, all you gotta do is relax and set things up. But if it's someone w… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:57 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?IMO persistence in this situation is not worth it. Can you win someone over this way? Yea, but then you're also inviting other dynamics into yourself with this approach, ones that for myself am not about. If a woman is on the fence, my mentality is she needs to make a decision if she wants to go out with me or not, or else I'll find someone else. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:54 PM |
| 2 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?This advice is ineffective with recipients that lack self-awareness. Self-awareness is the key thing not just for being yourself, but how to market yourself in a way that stays true to yourself and shows specific parts of your personality respective to the situation. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?I've had a major issue with these 2 types as well! | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:49 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Any advice that doesn't teach you to navigate non-verbals effectively and ethically isn't good dating advice. JBY, Be nice, or even playing high value games w.e u wanna call it, none of this matters if you don't know how to navigate non-verbals. Most people in dating (especially women) communicate via non-verbal subtleties. You can value direct communitcation, but it doesn't change the fact you'll be dealing with this, so learning how to navigate subtleties are extremely important. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:48 PM |
| 4 | Good timing is a factor no one mentions, but plays an important role in seductionI agree it's like a dance. You gotta develop the skills so you're prepared to use them when the time comes. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:43 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?It sounds like you don't even understand the OG point you've communicated in this thread. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/25 10:25 PM |
| 5 | You Can Celebrate Lesbianism Without Hating on MenThat's a very important distinction dude | /r/EverydayMisandry | 22/01/25 07:25 PM |
| 46 | You Can Celebrate Lesbianism Without Hating on MenHere's the fucked up perspective about this meme. Pay attention to the word "unsolicited". That means comments that you didn't ask for. This person is praising a queer person who said something to her that she didn't ask for. Now imagine if a man said something unsolicited (not inappropriate mind you). This person would be acting like he made an unforgivable sin. Fuck these people! | /r/EverydayMisandry | 22/01/25 06:54 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?If you know anything about human nature, you know factually that's just not true. Think about what you've just said. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/25 04:57 PM |
| 10 | How can we find Patriarchy so that we can take it down?I 100% agree with you. Tate really doesn't represent any family values. Then again a lot of mainstream redpillers like to talk about women having family values but a lot of them don't have it themselves. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/25 02:18 PM |
| 19 | How can we find Patriarchy so that we can take it down?In a weird way, I'm actually glad to see a right winger see tates matrix as the same mythical concept. Then again I don't think most conservatives respect tate like that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/25 12:57 PM |
| 9 | How can we find Patriarchy so that we can take it down?100% agree here. I even thought we used to live in a patriarchy back in history, but even that turned out to be a massive lie as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/25 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Why Waiting for Women to Come to You Never WorksI take this mindset with me. I approach girls I find attractive, I let the girls who find me attractive come talk to me. To me, it keeps things fair and balanced, regardless if the girls that find me attractive actually approach me or not. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Better to upset women, than to be forgettable."Luck is when preparedness meets opportunity." Interesting perspective mate. I've heard a lot of people say "dating mostly requires luck". While I do understand where they're coming from, they mostly use it as a cop-out and find themselves in dynamics like oneitis, friendzone, etc. I've done my preparation work, so once I see opportunities, I execute. | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Better to upset women, than to be forgettable.I take a different mentality here. If me being nice and normal is forgettable to her, then she's the type who wants men to court her and make her feel emotions, and likely the type to respond to bad boys, or I'm not that physically attractive to her and would need to employ this just to evoke emotion in her. I don't play that game. I'd rather have a girl feel physical attraction for me at first sight than to employ this, as I don't need much game with a woman who's willing to make it easy for me… | /r/seduction | 21/01/25 03:02 PM |
| 3 | "Men are lonely because they're too picky"If they knew what it's like dating someone you aren't really that attracted to, they wouldn't be making this meme. And I'll bet these are the same people that say "where are all the good men that can treat me right?" | /r/EverydayMisandry | 21/01/25 01:21 AM |
| 8 | Mark my words we will be hated universally if we ever become indifferent to men dating lives by both Conservatives and Feminists.I'm a straight male, and there have been plenty of moments I wish I was gay given the amount of bs going on in heterosexual dynamics. And this isn't coming from a position of misogyny (I don't hate women) but both sexes have become so polarized to political ideologies that they tie their identity around it. I guess that's what happens when the personal becomes political. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/01/25 05:51 PM |
| 9 | Mark my words we will be hated universally if we ever become indifferent to men dating lives by both Conservatives and Feminists.The reason it dominates the conversation is because wanting a spouse is a natural human need, which is something most people are able to understand because their own bodies give them messages like these. But family courts, duluth model and legal approaches to domestic abuse are more systemic issues which the average person won't be able to actualize or see (unless they put in the time to research this and really think about how it integrates in our society) like they would with their need to hav… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/01/25 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Mark my words we will be hated universally if we ever become indifferent to men dating lives by both Conservatives and Feminists.They're only valuable in terms of navigating the interaction with someone you like but you don't know likes you like that. It's a balance of assuming the best/putting your best foot forward until you get an answer via her non-verbals or detecting her behavioural patterns. Anything beyond that is extra and performative. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/01/25 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Mark my words we will be hated universally if we ever become indifferent to men dating lives by both Conservatives and Feminists.You got the big picture down, but how would that translate to the practical. Aka real life? The answer I'll give is this. I'll only put in the effort needed to get her attention because if she hasn't seen me yet, then it's only fair that a woman I find attractive sees me in order to decide if she likes me or not. So in this instance, I don't mind making the first move to start a conversation with her if it's possible. But once I do start a conversation with her, at that point she sees me. So any… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/01/25 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Mark my words we will be hated universally if we ever become indifferent to men dating lives by both Conservatives and Feminists.I still continue to date, but I do so on my own terms, which can sometimes overlap with SOME feminist practices/beliefs and SOME conservative practices/beliefs. I do so based on how I feel, not based on the signs I'm being given. Both conservatives and feminists want you to pay attention to women's signs and go for those that show them green light signs, but this gives into how the other party wants you to behave given her signals. Unless I'm being rejected or she's creeped out, I don't take sig… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/01/25 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Are we seeing the birth of a male in-group bias?Even the white part is stupid cuz most feminist theories came from European pioneers, which is obviously gonna have a dominant white race anyways, but it's still the top 1% of the population regardless. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/25 05:36 PM |
| 7 | Are we seeing the birth of a male in-group bias?It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The way they conceptualize the patriarchy was never a thing in history. It was only a small percentage of society (most of them were men) who held power and were rich. Feminist definition of the patriarchy was looking at the top percentage of men and applying their traits (likely sociopathic traits) to the common man which is nuts. Our history has never been a patriarchy in that sense, but feminism did give rise to reactionary movements like the red pill that ac… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/01/25 02:24 AM |
| 2 | When you cold approach, apologize for the awkwardness.The biggest thing is non-verbals, weather you apologize for the awkwardness or not. It can work, but it depends on your execution. If you got too many stutters going on when you say it, then it feels awkward. But if say "This might seem awkward, but I really like your dress" in a clear tone, it may be received well. With that being said, cold approach by nature is gonna be awkward for some people cuz you're talking to a stranger with no social context, so it's gonna be useless stating the obviou… | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 04:02 PM |
| 6 | For the feminist guests in the audienceI still have yet to find those spaces myself. I thought I found a fandom space where I could chill with, but once the man v bear thing came up solidified my decision never to return there again. Groups without adherence to toxic ideologies are really hard to find, especially in more western societies. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/01/25 04:13 PM |
| 18 | For the feminist guests in the audienceI had to deal with a male feminist "friend" like this. As long as I was willing to argue back and point out logical inconsistencies with ideology, he'll be as open-minded to considering other possibilities as long as I was willing to challenge him on a lot of it. But since then, I've backed away from being friends with him because I got the feeling he was being an extreme woke slimeball trying to hide it. After a couple months or so with minimal contact, he ends up joining various groups that ar… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/01/25 03:06 PM |
| 7 | Why has misandry gotten so bad in arethestraighsokOh that makes total sense now. It's one thing for straight couples to have their own issues, it's another to create a community out of that problem. And I'm sorry for anyone that had their trauma be weaponized against them. But if from your experience in both straight and gay relationships can attest to this, then I guess there's not much difference between straight and queer couples in terms of their problems. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 31/12/24 04:30 AM |
| -31 | Why has misandry gotten so bad in arethestraighsokWhy do you say the concept is weird? I'm a straight guy and a lot of this bs I've seen in straight couples interaction is basically why people are so polarized in modern dating. From my knowledge on LGBTQ relationships, there's some unique dynamics that go along gay and lesbian dating where some gay men move to sex fast (maybe without an emotional connection?) and some lesbians being a bit slow here too. But maybe I don't know the bs that typically goes on in queer interactions so I'm probably a… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 31/12/24 03:05 AM |
| 16 | The curious case of Jessica ValentiI always had a bad feeling about Jessica Valenti when I first heard of her, but like all the other nutjobs in the mainstream woke circles, I see her as a massive hypocrite. Seriously, I thought catcalling was actually a very rude thing to do, but now after hearing this im just like how many people have u mindfucked with this!! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/12/24 12:48 AM |
| 5 | The double standard of holding bad men accountable.Wait, so other celebrities that have worked with Diddy in the past (and not part of the freakoff) were criticized for not calling them out? Is that what you were trying to explain here? And I agree men of low social status can face those same ramifications too if dating a female celebrity. I think my point was that it was applicable to that situation specifically. I made that point in response to this in your post. > But again when it comes to women who are IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH BAD MEN… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/12/24 05:00 PM |
| 20 | The double standard of holding bad men accountable.I think this is one of those instances where I gotta disagree. Given what I've seen from the footage, Diddy did assault one of his girlfriends and it was on camera, and he and a few of his other male friends were involved in a freakoff. For the woman's defense, they could've been scared to come forward due to the ramifications someone like Diddy could do. This was a celebrity with influence on society, that's not an easy thing to go up against. Yes, feminism likes to make women out to be the vic… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/12/24 03:58 PM |
| 1 | What are some memorable success stories you had with cold approach?This one was unintentional, but I met a cute woman on the bus and we both made eye contact. I was still inexperienced at the time but she was very respectful and engaged in the conversation. I went out with her a couple of times too, but we were looking for different things during the time. | /r/seduction | 20/12/24 02:47 PM |
| 8 | How not to cold approach from a woman’s perspectiveIt is. Just treat it as a social circle. Definitely observe body language as most people are there to work out. Best times to socialize are usually before and after a workout regimen. If you're going to talk to her during a workout, make it relevant to the current exercise you're doing (but that's only if she's receptive to talking to you). You got some choices here. While you're at it, I suggest you talk to the staff and build familiarity there. It lets people know you're a regular there. | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How not to cold approach from a woman’s perspectiveYou just met an entitled asshole (and i dont use the word entitled willy nilly). I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm very pro cold approach as I believe in meeting anyone, anytime, anywhere (within reason of course), but this sounds like a guy who's trying unethical trick in a PUA books that makes women uncomfortable. -persisting upon signs of disinterest? Check -following you? Check A lot of people don't do it because they're afraid of being creeps and making the other person feel uncomfortable… | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 01:36 PM |
| 27 | Queer men also suffer from men’s issuesI think it's to be expected from the mainstream leftist circles in general, so it's not a surprise queer men would turn a blind eye to men's issues. Men in those environments are usually male feminists which gets them to see their own gender as a threat universally. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/12/24 09:28 PM |
| 1 | "Because gender roles are becoming obsolete, men feel like they don't have a purpose" How true is this statement really?Most people I know are western, have some form of education, I think they work in industrialized businesses, but I've met a good share of both democratic and republican people. But idk who's rich in today's society. Would you say being rich is the biggest factors for traditional gender roles? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/12/24 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Blocking vs. Disengaging: What’s the Best Move for Self-Respect and Attraction?It really depends on the situation. For my recent one, before I got her phone number, she showed heavy signs of strong interest. When I followed up, she sent me the text "sorry you got the wrong number." essentially pulling the plug. At that point I didn't even care if she would contact me after and I get another shot, a lot could go wrong responding back to a text like this. So I cut my losses and blocked her (For people wondering, Ik that's not a wrong number cuz her pic is on whatsapp). But f… | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 06:12 PM |
| 2 | What do you think are important safety tips for men when dating?Can you elaborate on point number 10? I don't know why her putting her phone away would be a problem | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/12/24 02:18 PM |
| 1 | I am very very confused about something. Please help me out. Are women more attracted to men who don't seem interested in sex or are women more attracted to men who talk about sex related topics from the beginning?There's no true way to gauge this, you can only go based on the probabilities right. If it's before the approach, then you can see if she's checking you out, if she's positioning herself near you, if she's smiling down upon looking at you, or holds prolonged eye contact when you first lock eyes with each other. These would be the signs to look for before you approach them. I will say now that most guys don't really get this. That's why for most of us, the only way to know if she likes us or not … | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:56 AM |
| 3 | I am very very confused about something. Please help me out. Are women more attracted to men who don't seem interested in sex or are women more attracted to men who talk about sex related topics from the beginning?The examples you've laid out don't mean shit dude. You can act like you're not interested in sex, you can compliment her or say how sexy she is in that outfit. The big picture is this. If she is attracted to you (which usually happens when she first sees you), then any of these examples can work. In example one, the indirect approach gives her a plausible excuse to talk to you and continue the conversation going. If she was not into you, the indirect conversation will go on but it will eventuall… | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:41 AM |
| 4 | How I seduce and want to be seduced- A bisexual female perspectiveI'm curious. How do you normally approach seducing men you're interested in? As a guy, I rarely experience this so it's good to keep an eye out for certain things. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Instagram gameMake your account public and when you make posts, include hashtags. People who follow hashtags will see your content. Follow community content pages, they'll share posts or stories with women you may like. You can also comment on things and what not, see if they engage with you. Then there's also if you meet them in irl and you exchange instas. | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Instagram gameIf he is gonna message, at least make it relevant like something about her content instead of randomly saying hey how are you | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 08:13 PM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Nah | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 12:57 AM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Yea man. That's all we can do in these situations right. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Society has a Schrödinger's view of Incels. Where Incels are these terminally online weirdos and dangerous people at the same time.There's Valerie Solonas who tried killing someone that I know of. This part I don't know that well, but I heard the suffragists were more like terrorists. Though I'm not sure if suffragists and feminists are the same it would have to depend on how history unfolded there. But I do know suffragist was around during the time of first wave feminism. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/12/24 07:58 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Oh dude I got a lot of experience getting different behaviour. I had numbers that don't go nowehere, so it was easy for me to move on from that. It was just a new exp for me to get high interest and have it go back down. But if even that's a normal occurrence for most guys, then the future interactions I have I can move on more easily knowing what to expect. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 07:18 PM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!If by rewarded you mean expecting consistent behaviour (interested or disinterested) in order to move it forward or move on, then hell yea! It's sad we gotta do more guess work here for something that should be more obvious, not that I'd expect ya to understand. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 07:12 PM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I understand this fear, though usually in my experience, such women would give short responses, or if they do talk, they tend to give very non-committal answers, and usually have an arsenal of excuses ready to excuse themselves from the situation w.e they can. Some guys are pushy, so in this situation, I'd understand if you had to adapt to your situation and act interested as that would be your safest option. Though in my case I'm a bit confused. When I first saw her, she was standing outside ne… | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 05:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Interesting response dude, I'll keep this in mind. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I'm gonna try and respond to this in the calmest way I can cuz rn I'm pissed reading your comment. It sounds like your friend is preserving her behavior around a guy she's interested in cuz she's possibly afraid he may not be interested in her and want to maintain her power. While this I can understand, guys also have this same fear from women they're interested too, only in our case, we're expected to just get over it and talk to her. Honestly man, this is a natural response (and the unconsciou… | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:52 PM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!If that's the case then fuck outta here with those bs tests. U guys gotta change your mindset to not dealing with girls like this. My god | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:20 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Maybe. I just don't wanna waste my time on women who are just playing subtle mind games with me (I already have enough trouble detecting this due to being neurodivergent), and there seems to be a lot of them out there. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 02:52 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Honestly bro at least it's a good thing some women are showing me neutral and polite response. I could've been told "ew" or "go die" or any other variant like that. Tbh bro I think I'm mostly average looking. I'm working on improving my appearance so I can change the responses I get, that doesn't mean I stop trying in the mean time. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:46 PM |
| 3 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I'm very experienced with cold approaches too I got no problems handling rejection and what not. It's just a new experience for me cuz I don't really experience high interest that often. Most of my approaches are usually neutral but also very polite and sociable, some I had women just outright ignore me but that's part of the game. I guess I shouldn't expect high interest signs to always work out right? | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:30 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I'm thinking of calling her within 2 days if I don't hear anything from her. But if I don't hear anything from her at that point, I'm just gonna move on. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:26 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Yea I've heard too many stories of modern women being very wishy washy. Back in my early 20s, dating advice would have you convinced that you need to detect the right emotional moment to get a woman out, but honestly man I just wanna date women who are consistent and makes it easy for me. It doesn't seem like the woman I met is like this. Kinda sad cuz the experience of being shown high interest and having it die out that easily is gonna demotivate a lot of men and make them not wanna date which… | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:23 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I was thinking of contacting her within a few days and just go straight for it given the high interest she's shown me, and if I don't hear from her again, then she wasn't really interested, which at that point I can take as a learning experience. Also if it takes her a week to respond, then she better address that cuz that's usually a sign of her seeing you as a low priority. I'm not trying to fuck with girls that doesn't see me as their first option. I had girls give me 2 word responses to a te… | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:19 PM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Buddy, I only sent her that one message and nothing more than that. With that said, I'll consider calling her instead. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 01:17 PM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Could be. But I figured if she was really interested, she wouldn't let something small like that stop her. I didn't really message her within seconds of getting her number, I just let some time past and then followed up. Even then i kept my message brief. I learned that if I gotta focus too much on timing my responses or how I say certain things, then that particular woman is not that interested in me, which I honestly won't lose any sleep over it. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 05:48 AM |
| 2 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!Yea I figured. I've dealt with girls who had busy schedules and what not but usually they haven't seen my text yet to reply, so I tend to be understanding here. Who knows, maybe she'll text me back. I just think it's weird that she saw my message and didn't respond to it in a timely manner. But honestly dude, j don't expect much from women nowadays, so I'm just gonna see how this plays out. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 05:44 AM |
| 1 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I said it was a pleasure to meet her and her lovely jacket, and I asked her what kind of work she does (she mentioned it briefly and I didn't have enough time to talk about it, plus we had an inside joke about her jacket, so I referenced that in the follow up). | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 05:40 AM |
| 3 | [FR] High interest to nada! I feel so high from it but it ended very quick!I didn't ask her to text me, she asked me to text her. If she wasn't feeling it that I can understand, tho it's mad grippy cuz I coulda swore she went out of her way to get me to notice her. But maybe it really was coincidental idk. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 05:35 AM |
| 3 | "Because gender roles are becoming obsolete, men feel like they don't have a purpose" How true is this statement really?Seriously? Limited advancing in career due to being single? That's actually messed up. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/12/24 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Society has a Schrödinger's view of Incels. Where Incels are these terminally online weirdos and dangerous people at the same time.Wait really? Was this in the interview he did? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/12/24 10:22 PM |
| 8 | Society has a Schrödinger's view of Incels. Where Incels are these terminally online weirdos and dangerous people at the same time.Elliott Rodgers and Alek minassian comes to mind, but they're only 2 deranged ppl. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/12/24 03:42 AM |
| 1 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!I 100% agree with you. Our experiences are fundamentally different so we can't fully comprehend what the other sex goes through. I share your sentiment too as I also disagree with a lot of what society says constitutes masculine and feminine as these discussions are often times externally focused. There are innate personality that are linked to masculinity and femininity in my opinion, but that's based on the big 5 which is said to be scientifically validated. The external shit are just standard… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 11:31 PM |
| 1 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!Canadian left-wing politics worse than the US or vice versa? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 05:50 PM |
| 2 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!Good point. How the dynamics of these things play out is really important to get the full context. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 05:49 PM |
| 1 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!I feel this man. There's something I kinda realize about politics. There's politics on a structural level and that's the level a lot of us need to focus on cuz that's the level where they implement policies that affect us. But on a social level where we're most likely to be exposed to political beliefs of the ppl around us, we're definitely more politically polarized and you need to believe in certain things that group does or risk being ostracized. Overtime I learned that what ppl believe on a … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 09:44 AM |
| 2 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!Idk about this. Ik the group he's involved in. He's held these views before he found them. He also hung out with those types of ppl at his college so maybe ud have a point there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 09:40 AM |
| 1 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!> Gender scripts are oft conveyed via indirect&cryptic social cues, for ex: No one ever directly tells men that showing vulnerability is shameful, its a passive discouragement that most don't even notice. This is something I have definitely noticed. Verbally say progressive things but your actions says otherwise. It was one of the few wakeup calls I had. For the whole "insecure man" "insecure woman" thing I don't need to do it cuz he sees everything through the lense of the patriarchy. The insec… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/11/24 12:05 AM |
| 1 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!I'm from Canada. Idk if that changes the context, but i got a friend in Chicago, he said the leftist politics in the US is more right wing. Idk if the same applies to Canada. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/11/24 09:49 PM |
| 4 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!> Part of this tact is trying to fit in with the prevailing culture. I feel like that's me these days. I know what you're talking about. People who are not really into politics and just want to live their lives learn to blend in within their circles. I've learned to do this with both conservative and liberal circles. Hell, I'm not really that into politics. The only reason I know much about it is cuz that "friend" kept trying to bring politics into our discussions, and it took my own research in… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/11/24 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Men “acting hard” instead of showing solidarityI get where this post is going, but this might lack some perspective here. While I do agree that we as a society should be more cooperative, it's also very important we live life by knowing what we want and going after it, and encouraging others to do the same thing too. But there are situations that competition can arise due to nature than societal propaganda. Let's say you're with your friend group and you let them know there's an attractive girl you want to do talk to. If your boys are also n… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/11/24 06:33 PM |
| 6 | It seems mainstream leftists are on a mission to convince you of their ways!Tbh it's alright dude. At least there are things I can learn from your response for other areas of my life. Yea I used to engage in a lot of discussions with him too, but once I realized how attached he really is I pulled myself back. Nowadays I do things on my own terms. A lot of people say to live on your own terms. Now that I got the experience to reflect on, living on your own terms is more important than ever especially in this polarized society right now. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/11/24 05:42 PM |
| 6 | Which of these men's issues are most important to you?Social issues/gender roles as well as mental health/suicide are men's issues most important to me. Of course economic issues/capitalism presents a lot of problems for men, but I also think they present problems for a lot of people since we as a society (males and females) depend on the economic system for our survival and wellbeing. Social issues and mental health are the most noticeable due to our access to that kind of information being more direct than other issues. For example, with social i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/11/24 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Debunking "feminists help men too" lieEven then, the rare cases of false accusations are coming from reported cases, not unreported cases, do the actual number is a LOT higher | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/11/24 03:30 AM |
| 4 | If you’re tired of the “gay bar” analogy of approaching women.. here’s an alternative!You know something, I actually went to a strip club one night cuz I decided I had the money and just wanted to blow it on lapdances (helps that I knew payday was coming). I only went once for the experience. I was pretty intentional about getting lap dances that night so no doubt I made their lives a bit easier on that front. There was one stripper who did approach me and wanted to give me a lap dance. But while she was grinding on me and doing other moves, we actually did have a conversation th… | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 06:55 PM |
| 2 | A problem I have with “preselection”This includes good looking women man, even conventionally attractive ones. This is because most people just luck into relationships or the circumstances were set up for it naturally. | /r/seduction | 24/10/24 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach then Instagram.. thoughts?Again pretty tricky. Maybe not showing any IOD is her default for dealing with guys while on transit. Women give out fake numbers to guys and follow the flow of the conversation with no intention of doing anything with it even if they seemed interested or are polite, but some guys who receive this believe it's a full on IOI (indicator of interest). Thing is, you're never gonna know for sure unless you move it forward. The next time you talk to a girl and it goes pleasantly and she seemed interes… | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach then Instagram.. thoughts?I'm saying just be super aware of a woman's POV. Most people would tell you to avoid public transit, but I had friendly conversations with ppl on transit a lot so it's harmless. IOD means indicator of disinterest. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Cold approach then Instagram.. thoughts?Dude that is super creepy. Based on how you described it, it sounded like she was trying to get away from you. Considering this was a transit environment, you're pretty lucky she gave an obvious IOD. Most women I've tried hitting on on transit, if they weren't interested, wouldn't have an escape even if they wanted to get away from me. Now let's say you have gotten into a conversation with her. Even if she did share her career and her name, if you didn't ask for contact information, that is not … | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 02:17 PM |
| 2 | “Toxic masculinity” is real, but the term used for what it refers to is harmfulThat sounds interesting. I didn't know this. The example you gave of the current mythopoetic men's movement I relate to a lot. What were those groups you joined? I'd like to check them out. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/10/24 11:19 PM |
| 23 | I feel like feminism is fighting men in a way that men are weak to.What you described is 100% real. I made a post dissecting Dr. K's video and how it relates to men's issues. There's not a lot of spaces that allows us to talk about it other than incel/redpill forums which also breeds toxic men. Having a conversation about this without turning hateful of the entire gender is a hard thing to do if the only people that are talking about it are polarized communities like the ones I mentioned. I personally think this subreddit is very important to have these convers… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/10/24 12:09 PM |
| 3 | “Toxic masculinity” is real, but the term used for what it refers to is harmfulToxic masculinity is actually not a feminist term. It was first coined by the mythopoetic men's movement. That term served a completely different purpose before feminists twisted its definition as a control tactic. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/10/24 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Can chemistry be created or is it something that can't be changed?Complex question but my answer for this one is it can't be changed. Whenever I hear phrases "you can create attraction or chemistry" it's not just sedditors who say this. Women themselves would word this as "I didn't really find him attractive at first, I thought he was kinda ugly, but when I got to know his personality, I became immensely attracted to him." I commented on this before but I'll comment it here. What those women were likely talking about is they had a baseline level of attraction … | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 11:42 PM |
| 11 | “Toxic masculinity” is real, but the term used for what it refers to is harmful100% man! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/10/24 11:29 PM |
| 28 | “Toxic masculinity” is real, but the term used for what it refers to is harmfulIt’s because the term was created by feminists You'd think. Toxic masculinity as a term was not actually created by feminists, it was merely borrowed and redefined to their standards. The term "toxic masculinity" was actually coined by the mythopoetic men's movement. Their mission was to find standards of masculinity that encourage traits like stoicism, discipline, stability, etc without veering into toxic elements that old masculinity had. They also had to keep in mind that different cultures a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/10/24 11:00 PM |
| 3 | A guy asked to do night game with me and I wish I didn’t agree.It was hard inner work, therapy essentially, except in my case I did it to myself without the assistance of a therapist Lol that applies to me too yo | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 09:48 PM |
| 37 | A guy asked to do night game with me and I wish I didn’t agree.I'm also from Toronto. Being that guy who needed advice on how to talk to girls, I heavily relate to your friend here and maybe I can offer some insight. You're a very experienced person who's had fun with girls at bars before, so you know what to anticipate, and have a clear idea of how to respond. Therefore this experience comes second nature to you. For myself, I don't claim to be an expert, but I have 0 problems going up to a girl I find attractive and having that conversation with her. I ha… | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Is attraction either there or not?Question man. How often do you ask you girls you like on a date? Or at the very least, let them know you're interested in dating them? | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Is attraction either there or not?I feel like that too sometimes as well. You're not alone dude. Regardless of what society tells you, a large majority of people actually do have a baseline attraction for people, even those whom we don't normally consider our types. But if the attraction level is merely a baseline, what this means is people won't actually notice if they're into you or not, even if it's there. That's why Mark Manson calls this a Yellow Light in his book Models. Chances are there are a lot of women you meet who do… | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 06:50 PM |
| 11 | Is attraction either there or not?Mostly yes. Even in cases where attraction does grow, a baseline of attraction needs to be there. That means even if she's not head over heels for you, she still needs to feel attracted at some level, that way it grows over time the more she gets to know you. If it's not there to begin with, then no amount of getting to know you will change that. | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 04:26 PM |
| 4 | Most couples you see are together because of circumstances.I'd be careful of studies like this if I were you, especially when it comes to cold approaching. That 5% of couples that met via cold approach is prolly due to not a lot of ppl doing it, so the volume is naturally low. If more ppl were doing it, that number would be higher. | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 11:39 AM |
| 303 | Most couples you see are together because of circumstances.Most people you see are formed like this. There isn't a value matchup or the guy did something the other guys didn't do to land that "dimepiece". Most of the time, it's just being in the right environment at the right time. That's why they always say "I'm so LUCKY to have you". Others can't afford this, thus they gotta take a more active effort, either by joining a lot of social groups and forming social circles, or doing cold approaches. Either way, those strategies increase the probability of … | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Tell her “Your boyfriend or husband must be very proud of you”wtf did I just read? Never fuck with a girl that's taken. Also never follow this advice if you want to avoid drama. And you just make the situation more complicate for yourself, cuz if she cheats on her bf with you, she'll do the same to you with another guy. All and all this is not gonna end well. | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Changing the way we engage in cold approachUnfortunately Alot of things have to go wrong in your life to ask strangers on the internet how to talk to girls so the people they gravitate towards subs and asking questions have no other choice but to cold approach usually. I wouldn't say this is the only reason. In my case, most of my friends were other nerds so it didn't allow me to meet the kind of girls I did want. However, I valued my friendships with them a lot to let that go. I did try to make some other friend but didn't like the stat… | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 02:24 AM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Df that's messed up. Where are you locates if u don't mind me asking? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/10/24 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Changing the way we engage in cold approachIn that case, those are nerves built up from your fears of approaching someone you like and a lack of experience. If you want a better way to ease into it, go to speed dating. The interactions you'll likely face in cold approaches are very similar to speed dating. I would focus on what you should say first when you meet someone, ask them engaging questions, be observant of their body language, etc. In most cold approaches, you only have a few minutes to make a great first-impression towards a wo… | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Changing the way we engage in cold approachSo that would mean you'd do below 10 approaches and you get 0-1 or 1-2 numbers back? I'm trying to understand how you can fit below 10 approaches and calculate the 10% return you're talking about here. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Changing the way we engage in cold approachI'm curious, how did you fit 10 approaches within 30 minutes? Did you do it at malls, streets and stuff? | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:47 PM |
| 3 | 10 years experience with game and dealing with loneliness still"Years of experience and of shitty relationships due to playing some very manipulative dark triad stuff on women has emotionally scarred me so now ironically I am quite easily annoyed by women and that dark triad stuff no longer works nor do I have the energy or ability to perform it anymore. I'm tired bros. Not sure what to do. All I can do is work on my inner game, keep working my ass off with my career, make more money and just somehow try to ignore this gaping hole in my heart and soul." I d… | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 03:55 AM |
| 4 | Instagram DMGeneric messages like that, especially if they get generic DMs a lot, usually elicit scripted responses. It's not personable cuz you could've sent that to a 100 other women for all she knows. I would personalize mines and get into detail about what her style makes me think of. I have a creative mind and like writing stories so this comes easy for me. Even if she has heard it before, the fact that you made it personally about her stands out to her. It also sets you up as well since now you can le… | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Ditching apps and cold approachOh I see, you wanna help those guys out. That makes sense. Thinking back on my recent experience with clubs. One of the problems was that there's a high ratio of men to women, similar to online dating. I think building a community is not bad, but as a way to help single guys connect with women, it could turn into a competition unless you don't mind that. | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Ditching apps and cold approachI say do what's comfortable with you man. If you don't like both and want to be involved in a community, then do just that and work your game there. Idk what your network is like. If it's a big one, then starting a running club could be good. But if your network is low, maybe joining existing clubs and growing your circle might be where it's at. Either way, it doesn't matter as long as you meet women and get dates in a way that you feel best accustomed to. | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 02:17 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?I remember being apart of my college circle that said "nice guys are really assholes in disguise." There was a time I brought into that due to having dealt with manipulators, but a lot of ppl don't understand that nice guys are oftentimes seen as pushovers and lack boundaries. Rather than painting them as monsters, helping them discover their values can help build up a sense of identity, leading to an increased ability to be assertive. But yea the narrative I see around this is pretty stupid. I'… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/10/24 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Speech Autisim Person, How to start conversation with a girl who is Jogging, or Walking? Need OpenerThat's a very tough situation. I'd even say most of the time you can't do it. If someone is jogging, then they're trying to get some exercise done. This is very similar to trying to hit on a girl who's working out at the gym. She's in the zone. Only in this situation, it's made harder by the fact that it's outside, meaning she could go anywhere. In most cases I'd let it go man. You could see you find the person attractive, but the wrong time. That's cool, those moments happen to me too. If they … | /r/seduction | 16/10/24 04:33 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Is one big cleanup once a month actually enough to keep things clean? Cuz in my home, we clean up every week. Or perhaps my mom trained the family to clean at the slightest sight of a few dust particles so she does tend to overdo things idk. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/10/24 04:08 PM |
| 19 | FD Signifer Makes a 28 Minute Video attacking Abuse Victim Johnny DeppShit dude, does that include PubMed, Sage Journals, Frontier, etc? Cuz some of the scientific studies I've been viewing came from there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/24 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Seeking cold approach adviceMy biggest hold up is I always look for the perfect opportunity to approach and it never comes. My advice here is to let those opportunities show up to you. There are 2 ways this could go down. 1. A woman planting herself next to you or 2. You see one you find attractive, want to talk to, and you go up to her and talk to her. When I say let the opportunity come up to you, I mean let life show you the woman you find attractive (which means you don't worry about finding a girl to talk to), and thi… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?The last parts of your comment are def ones I resonate with deeply. I left some leftist circles because of this difference in worldview. It sucks cuz we both see the same issues as problems and want to help solve it, but their framing is very discriminatory but they feel it's justified because in their ideology, we're part of the oppressors. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/24 04:56 PM |
| 5 | Why woman are going to test youA lot of them only know how to pull in girls and have sex with them, even if it crosses ethical or moral boundaries. PUAs generally don't care about their methods as long as it increases their chances of getting sex. This includes leaving girls feeling like they've been used or manipulated into sex, girls who are cheating on their partners with them, or like this posts suggests, girls who respond to playing mind games cuz they themselves are either insecure or toxic. Relationships are a whole di… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:28 PM |
| 9 | Why woman are going to test youYup. Never deal with women like this. There's actual PUA coaches teaching this type of shit. The more we encourage each other to play games, the more toxic modern dating becomes. I think it's better for people to detect if someone is playing games on them, and rather then playing it back, say goodbye and find better quality interactions elsewhere. This is literally fighting for scraps. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Why woman are going to test youLmao I would do this as well. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Why woman are going to test youAnother one of those posts I don't agree with and there's actually a much better perspective with this one here. Of course vetting is important when trying to find a partner, but the framing of this post is heavily toxic. I mean "Filter out weak ones" come on. People be using the most adversarial words just to describe a likely incompatible partner. It's very similar to the "never show weakness" post I have saw here. She’s never going to tell you exactly what she wants—she expects you to just kn… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Race and cold approachWhat race are you if u don't mind me asking? | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 01:49 PM |
| 8 | Well feminist admit in nowwhich subreddit did you find this? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/10/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Interesting point. I have thought about some theories for this topic. Like maybe it could be due to living in dangerous conditions or being in gangs. I theorize those are where you're likely to see violent crimes. But stranger violence is a thing and innocent men do get caught up in it. If someone has a weapon or a gun, then you being tall or looking tough wouldn't matter as said person with these things are more likely willing to get into conflict. I'm moreso talking about the average person's … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/10/24 03:45 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Yea appearance does make a difference. I'm a 5'8 brown guy and I'm told I look mean. Brown guys in my area have a reputation of being thugs. Appearance does make a huge difference. I'm not a very confrontational guy, but one good look at me and I look like someone you shouldn't be messing with. Some people's appearance don't inspire that, making them easy targets for predators. If I was a man who's smaller than the average male height and look like I'm harmless or delicate, I prolly would've got… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/10/24 12:31 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?That's true. It's a point they go to when they talk about why some women who make more money than their husbands divorce them later or some shit like that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 05:05 PM |
| 0 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?I've heard stories of guys meeting girls at churches. I'm not a religious person so it's not my style, but it's possible. Idk what guy is out here hitting on girls at a funeral, I think that's an inappropriate place to do that. | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?My integrated strategy is similar to you saying treating it as a side hustle. I already worked on this, now I'm trying to engaging in it while preserving my social battery. | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?Interesting response man. What would you say are wrong places, especially if they have women with open body language and talking loudly? | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 03:32 PM |
| 9 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?One of the many benefits of learning to think for yourself :) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 02:35 PM |
| 3 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?I've made it clear in my post I'm not talking about allocating time to hit on a specific number of women, nor do I advocate for figuring out which location and lines to use. It's always better policy to be yourself and read body language and context. This is more if you go about your day and you happen to see someone you like. | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 02:30 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Seriously? That's fucked up on many levels. It's one thing female Asian massages are perceived as sex workers, a messed up assumption which is fine. But they get killed for it?? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 01:08 PM |
| 1 | What kind of woman responds best to cold approaches?You'd have to be really attractive to get this in a cold approach context. But you can pretty much extrapolate this into any given strategy tbh. | /r/seduction | 12/10/24 01:01 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Yea like relationship equity. It doesn't have to be strictly 50/50 but a dynamic where duties and responsibilities are split differently yet fair. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:28 PM |
| 4 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Dude I had to do exactly this for my ex, especially when she needed to escape a date from a guy and what not. It really is a different reality than what we live. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:26 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?That's true. My niece is in hs and even she talked about her experiences outside of school. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:25 PM |
| 0 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Ya I means even though the victim of stranger violence is likely to be men, I think there's a biological imperative for women to be cautious around men generally. The average man is physically stronger than the average woman, so that's gonna weigh in her mind when considering going out alone late at night. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:23 PM |
| 5 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?You know I'm attracted to masculine women. Not in appearance but in personality. But I do believe that socialization women with masculinity especially when they desire to be in a more feminine position, causes them to become resentful so I'm well aware of this. What do u think contributes to the masculinization of black women? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:21 PM |
| 9 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Sounds like these are contexts that require skill I can see women not being taken seriously in these contexts. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:18 PM |
| 5 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?I understand that, but it seems like those issues are being interpreted by feminist lenses which paints a specific picture of their issues that essentially leads to fear mongering of men. The street harassment study is an example. They say 80% of women experience street harassment (but in that study, harassment Is a loosely broad term which could include harmless actions perceived as harassment). There's also the wage gap where they blame workplaces being sexist when other factors could be the c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:17 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?This. And you don't know what they're capable of, or what they're doing hanging out at night. It's good to exercise caution for where you're at at night. Where I think that fear becomes irrational is believing every man is a potential threat. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:08 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?True. I heard of this happening. It might have to do with reproduction and shit. A lot of society judges a good looking woman as someone who's fertile and healthy to give birth to children (which they highly value women for). Loss in appearance is equivalent to being perceived as being less fertile, therefore unable to birth healthy children, therefore undesirable. But genetics don't often tell a whole story as you got women who are considered average that are healthy and fertile so this reasoni… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:06 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?True but there are issues that affect women more than they do men, same with issues that affect men more than women. It's like a trend, it's good to notice these things. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:03 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?Considering we still live in a society that upholds traditional gender norms I'm not at all surprised by this. Don't get me wrong I do think physical attraction is important, but I always feel sympathy for those who feel they have to live up to unhealthy body expectations. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:02 PM |
| 2 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?That's an interesting perspective. What about in the cases where the wife is the breadwinner? I read articles that state even in those relationships they still have to take care of the house chores. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 12:00 PM |
| 3 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?What places are we talking about? I mostly think of workplaces when I read this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 11:57 AM |
| 1 | What are some ways that women suffer that you can acknowledge or understand?That sucks. With the amount of things they gotta help with for a patients recovery, you'd think they get paid more here. Mayne they gotta become a doctor in order to get a higher pay. Idk much about the medical history, only that it's pretty intensive. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/24 11:55 AM |
| 4 | Chat GPT says MANIf you talk to chatgpt about feminism, argue back against their fundamental ideas and make your arguments sound convincing. I tried this on perplexity and the AI says to me "you're right" or "I apologize". AI is not only designed to take on existing sources, but your inputs as well | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/10/24 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.I mean if you're not gonna at least try to understand where I'm coming from, sure. | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.I come from the mindset that the strategy you take attracts a particular type of person. The aggro stuff you're talking about (at the specifics described in this post) does work when it come to attracting women who like the rough aggro guy. What kind of woman would be into that? Maybe a woman who believes a man should always take care of her, protect her, and not be soft so she can view him as strong and alpha. When you talk about "what works". What most guys are thinking of is "can it attract m… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Tried following the advice on this sub - now she’s furious and saying I was harassing her?"Can you point to the posts you learned this advice from? You said you learned it from this sub correct? I'd like to know which posts you're talking about here. | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.I'm talking about the externals. Did you find girls respond to that better when you acted this way? This sub values that when they talk about "what works" | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.How does it not work? What's your experience with it like? | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 12:18 PM |
| 11 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.100% agree with this. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 12:32 AM |
| 33 | Never reveal signs of stress, fear, or weakness when approaching a woman.This is one of those posts I heavily disagree with and wouldn't want a woman who responds to this during the approach. I have adhered to this mindset before. Despite the success I got with it, I didn't like being in that position nor do I enjoy the company of women like this. Too much unneeded pressure just to get an opportunity to talk to her. Being able to remain composed, especially in high-pressure situations, is a great life skill to be able to push through tough times. But if all it takes … | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Insights from Female Bullying Behaviour and it's correlation to men's social issues!They're kinda using it as a power trip. I watched my fair share of redpill content in the early days. A lot of it comes across as a male supremacist ideology hiding behind the traditionalist labels and what not. Like even though conservatives value traditional gender roles, a lot of them don't like majority of the redpillers. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/10/24 03:29 PM |
| 4 | True Cause of the Rise in Male Loneliness (and Loneliness in general)Yea I felt a unique level of isolation when I asked for help on this. It felt like they wanted me to follow simple shit without accounting for what I'm likely to face if I employ this. The lack of awareness for these dynamics is very jarring. It made me want to get away from society and keep to myself, and only handpick people that I know and trust, instead of just being thrusted towards ppl who'll most likely never understand the struggle and pain this brings. Even after I gotten better with so… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/10/24 06:27 AM |
| 25 | True Cause of the Rise in Male Loneliness (and Loneliness in general)I relate a lot to this post, especially about social skills. Late developed social skills really does hold you back, and I def feel the whole ppl not seeing things from my perspective. I had to put my studies and building my career on the side just to catch up socially in my early 20s and I managed to do it when i turned 25-26 i believe. I took a more nerdy route by reading social skills books to get there, but I wish someone was there explaining it to me as I worked on them. But that journey al… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/10/24 04:32 AM |
| 3 | Struggling to find and talk to womenWhat you're experiencing is likely to happen when you first start. Your anxiety shot up because what you wanted to ask wasn't something that can be seen as friendly, you're basically doing an action that sends a stronger message that you're interested in seeing the person again. This is a higher chance of getting shot down as that's the message your nerves will send to your body. I know, I had this happen to me a lot of times when I first started out. One thing you gotta remember is taking risks… | /r/seduction | 06/10/24 11:04 PM |
| 26 | Insights from Female Bullying Behaviour and it's correlation to men's social issues!It's known amongst primarily women and some very socially savvy guys. This is also known amongst redpill and PUA spaces due to some of their stories, but it's hard to believe them as the members themselves promote toxic stuff as well. Hell, modern dating is rife with posts trying to figure out subtle behaviour. We're not there yet, but I believe we're getting close to having this conversation, even if it's not particularly about men's issues. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/10/24 10:51 PM |
| 9 | Men are the only "oppressor" group that is expected to do better. And only "oppressor" group that are look down upon on for not living up to expectations.Jesus fucking christ bro. This post made me recall back some of the experiences I have. You're absolutely right about religion too. I heavily criticize religion as I myself come from a religious family and I've seen what it does to my parents. And considering religion was a big thing back in history, it's not hard to believe most wars were actually a result of religion, yet masculinity gets blamed for a lot of it. That was a perspective I did not consider. I understand a lot of religious people … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/24 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Controversial: I don't think we, as men should worry about unintentionally making women uncomfortable at all.Bruh wtf is with your username?? I don't think anyone will take u seriously if u call urself that. | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 01:14 PM |
| 10 | Controversial: I don't think we, as men should worry about unintentionally making women uncomfortable at all.Interesting post man. Honestly, the only times I would consider crossing to another street just to make a woman feel comfortable is if she sees my presence and is immediately terrified by the sight of me. But most of them don't even know I'm close, or they see me but they continue to walk, maybe sometimes shoot me a quick acknowledging polite smile, in those situations I give them the space necessary as you would with anyone. And yea I like giving out compliments too, and it's beautiful when the… | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?In my hs comp Sci class there was one female in a class full of men. I remember times she would call me and asked for help on her work and I would help her. I look back on that situation but I wasn't sure if she was comfortable or not, but I knew she was comfortable enough asking a man she doesn't know for help, but maybe it's cuz I was also her classmate so it could be different idk. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/09/24 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Where to cold approach girls in Toronto / gtaFocus on building a lifestyle and use the transition from one activity to another to fit cold approaches in. Its hard af to cold approach in Toronto, so if you wanna enjoy the process of doing it, this is what I would suggest. | /r/seduction | 26/09/24 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?So back then, they weren't scared of men to the point coming across one in the street at night time for example would make them feel like it makes them feel right now? Or are there different examples for it? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?Ah the alpha male gentleman status. I gotcha! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?That's true, Simone de beauvoir's work has been released in 1945. That means 1980-1990s timeline might not be a good example of what I'm trying to ask here. Idk if it's possible, but someone who lived in older times than that. I would like to hear from them, but they're probably dead from old age or don't use social media. You mention conservatives have a paradoxical and contradictory view of a good man? What do you mean by this? I know there's a lot of conservatives who want men to be good to t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?I used to identify as a feminist because I thought it just meant believing in equality between the sexes. I still believe it, but groups of people carrying a label also share distinct beliefs and behaviours that paints them in a very different light that i found extremely toxic, and these arent the minority members. I no longer call myself a feminist due to the many things I've seen people subscribe to with this label and how they move. I don't want to be associated with that. How do you call yo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:55 PM |
| 8 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?I'm aware of Christina Hoff Sommers dude I've seen the videos you've shared. She's got some good insight. I would suggest you look into reading books by Simone de beauvoir, shulamith Firestone, Andrea dworkin, Gloria steinam, Valerie Solanas, etc. While modern feminism is bad, it's not that different from the old feminist considering the authors involved here. If you don't wanna read them, Janice Fiamengo covers them as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:38 PM |
| 11 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?I've experienced this too. Therapy is not a catch all, but it's very necessary to fix deep seated issues. But even with therapy, u gotta be careful of which ones you choose. There's feminist therapy which is therapy that still adheres to critical gender theory, so I don't think it'll solve much as long as the man hate is still there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:15 PM |
| 7 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?I see where you're coming from with this but you can bet most feminist are misandrists. I'm not just saying this based on their current behaviour, the old feminist books from years ago also encouraged this level of hatred. And each book released after the previous one has worse messaging in them. That's why I don't associate with anyone who even calls themselves a feminist. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:13 PM |
| 11 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?Considering the type of shit I've seen from people in general, a lot of them need therapy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?The barbie movie was quite polarizing but I'm not sure if I agree with it. There were quite a few people who said the barbie movie was ironically anti feminist like the rational female and shoeonhead. I never saw the barbie movie but I heard it got popular. I know some of my woke friends and my bro saw the barbie movie, I on the other hand didn't. Then again I've always been someone who doesn't get drawn to mainstream that easily. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?How would you address this kind of thinking? You bring up a very good point with this one. Nothing reasonable comes out of them as long as they believe in the oppressor/oppressed ditchomy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?I got a question dude. How old are you? I ask this because if you lived in the 1990s for example, I would like to know your insight on if women were scared of men back then and what not. One theory I got is women may be scared of men even if they're not feminist due to their biological disposition compared to men. Like the average man has more physical advantage than the average woman, so I'm wondering if that fact makes women very cautious of men in case some of them get angry for rejecting the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:05 PM |
| 14 | Question for my fellow LWMA's, how do we respond to statements such as this one?Df why would they do that esp towards gay men? That makes little sense. Do they believe they can convert them or something? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/09/24 01:00 PM |
| 9 | Positive male spaces that existIt's actually in their mission statement too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/09/24 12:41 AM |
| 1 | I cold approach girls and I always get the number, but I always get ignored. What am I doing wrong?I think it's more arousal than it is comfort. People talk about comfort to mean very different things, but how can you call talking to someone you barely know and wanting his company around for a couple of hours comfort? I think I associate comfort with safety and considering the talks I hear about safety, you think they'd need more days to get comfortable with someone, that's why I think it's more arousal. But other than that, attraction first and connection second is usually how it goes. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 02:24 PM |
| 2 | I cold approach girls and I always get the number, but I always get ignored. What am I doing wrong?What would your suggestion be if they don't have a friend group of guys and girls? Maybe their circle is mostly guy friends, mostly guys into nerdy shit, or maybe they don't have much friends except that 1 close friend? I think in those situations, cold approach would be best suited for them, but it would be tough to build a connection in that kind of environment. How can they build a connection in a cold approach environment if even 10 minutes of that conversation won't lead to a response? I th… | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 02:04 PM |
| 5 | This sub being perceived as anti feminist isn't necessarily the real issue people have with this sub. I think the issue here is that we are ironically "too feminist" lol.Both examples actually make sense. Erin Pizzey did start with women's DV shelters before doing the same thing for men. I believe it was the latter part that gotten Pizzey threats from feminists. I also heard and saw some books about suffragettes not being great people (I heard they were more like terrorists back in the day). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/09/24 01:27 PM |
| 6 | This sub being perceived as anti feminist isn't necessarily the real issue people have with this sub. I think the issue here is that we are ironically "too feminist" lol.If the advancement of women's well being and status isn't due to feminists, then who are the people who done the most to help them? You got any examples? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/09/24 11:01 AM |
| 19 | I hate how casual or normalize it is, for people to expect most men to automatically have fetishes about races, sexual orientations, etc.I don't really get racial fetishising. I do understand having preferences or being attracted to certain races, but not fetishising. I think we got this with brown ppl too. I'm a brown man and I even notice brown people talking about dating white women as some high value achievement, but I never really got that. Do I find white women attractive? Yea I do but I also have preferences for other races too and am pretty open minded on that front. I'm not sure if I have met any white women who were app… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/09/24 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Hate that if I ‘like’ one social media post advocating mens issues, my FYP gets infected by rightwing accounts.In that case I'll check out the edit history and see what I can find. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/09/24 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Hate that if I ‘like’ one social media post advocating mens issues, my FYP gets infected by rightwing accounts.We definitely do live in an era of identity politics, and I do think the discourse around it is worse than what it was before. Thankfully not everyone buys into the whole identity politics, and it seems a lot of it is mostly on the internet. Most ppl in real life probably don't even care for politics (unless you're in niche conservative or liberal circles) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/09/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Hate that if I ‘like’ one social media post advocating mens issues, my FYP gets infected by rightwing accounts.That doesn't really prove anything considering Wikipedia is easily editable. Even then, leftist discourse is what's dominant in the west rn, so who's to say the guy running Wikipedia isn't really a leftist but just someone brought up in a mainstream leftist environment and therefore thinks what it's taught to them are good without necessarily getting invested in these concepts like feminists tend to be? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/09/24 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Hate that if I ‘like’ one social media post advocating mens issues, my FYP gets infected by rightwing accounts.Wikipedia is a left leaning platform? Do you have any more info on this? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/09/24 04:02 PM |
| 9 | Positive stories against MisandryI'd like to hear more stories about this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/09/24 02:05 PM |
| 4 | Embracing Masculinity?This has been a topic I have thought about a lot back then and I think I can put it in these words. Mainstream liberal feminists pressure us to not be masculine, but right-wing conservatives pressure us to be masculine as well. Ik this sub moderates a lot when it comes to relationship topics, but when I sought out dating advice, I was advised to be that masculine man, the same advice mainstream liberals are pressuring men not to be. This gives me insight into how both groups function and contrib… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/09/24 01:45 PM |
| 3 | Straight men face stigma for being feminine. But feminine straight men are still mocked in progressive places though.I think I can see why these masculine norms exist tho from a very different perspective. Even though these can be cultivated through deliberate means, the masculine has a natural desire to take charge and be a leader either to themselves or to other people. But if you don't put up norms and what not, the masculine can end up crossing boundaries or being domineering, eventually veering over to toxic masculinity (from the viewpoint of the mythopoetic men's movement, not the feminist movement). But… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/09/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Straight men face stigma for being feminine. But feminine straight men are still mocked in progressive places though.Cooperation itself is not necessarily a feminine core, it can be more of an expression of a personality trait that is considered feminine, and that's agreeableness (not the same thing as agreeing with everything, but it's the big 5's way of saying you value and maintain peace and harmony amongst people, not wanting to raise a conflict whereas the masculine does embrace conflict but it's not the same thing as seeking it out.). Even people with traits that are considered masculine can be cooperati… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/09/24 02:10 PM |
| 19 | Straight men face stigma for being feminine. But feminine straight men are still mocked in progressive places though.Most of it is quite subtle. For starters, if you're a single male, a lot of people are gonna assume the worst of you but they won't say it out loud, it shows in their nonverbals. Even then, one of the girls I spoke to shared her stories with me at a club, and she mentions her friends would see who would get free drinks for the night. After that conversation happened is when the whole man vs bear online discussion came up. But the dynamics in progressive circles are largely the same dynamics as t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/09/24 02:48 PM |
| 27 | Straight men face stigma for being feminine. But feminine straight men are still mocked in progressive places though.Yea like men who appear feminine on the surface via either appearance or flamboyant behaviour, but their core behaviour is more masculine. Ik exactly who you're talking about. Even this article talks about it As a straight male who has a core feminine personality (I don't wear dresses or act flamboyant, but I like to be the more cooperative one and follow the flow most of the time) I have felt the most isolated from progressive circles due to the flippant attitudes. At least with conservatives y… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/09/24 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Has your views changed since learning gameWhat about social circle? | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 12:07 PM |
| 4 | How do you solo game?I've had to work with this situation a lot. The most important factor would have to be your inner state. 80% is inner state and 20% is skill. I say this because the biggest problem for guys out solo is to create their own fun and enjoyong themselves since they don't have company to share it with. The good news is since you're solo, you have absolute freedom on how you want to live your life. So doing exactly this will put you in a state of enjoyment. And if you just so happen to see a woman you … | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street?In that case there's prob a better alternative. No doubt they would need to practice actually going up to someone in that context and making conversation with them, but I think in the very beginning this is not a good strategy. The reason I say this is because the margin of error is usually huge and often blurry since you don't know if it's a moral or skill failure or if the problem is with her. A lot of complex emotions will get dredged up here. For this, I think it's a great idea to start off … | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 11:18 AM |
| 0 | Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street?Teenager or a college student with a lot of free time on your hand (the latter was me tho I worked on game after college) | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 10:50 PM |
| 18 | Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street?I cold approach regularly and have a lot of experience with it. The pickup gurus who give you this advice are mostly gonna tell you to run sets at a mall for hours on end, trying to increase your number count. So like if you approach 1000 girls, you get maybe 15 numbers, and 3-5 of them turn to dates. That's usually the math. The problem here is you're spending a lot of hours with a high rejection rate. For some dudes, this is okay, for me personally I wanna maximize my enjoyment of my own life,… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street?I agree here. Just because something is not necessarily the norm doesn't mean it can't work. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 03:19 PM |
| 2 | There is a trio that are detrimental to men issues. I call the trio, the Unholy Trinity.The conversation of the male protector role imo is a bit nuanced. I don't agree that men should be expected to be the protector of women. If there are non violent ways that can effectively help keep you and the woman safe, even if it means running away from the source and calling the police, then that should help. I think both man and woman should think of solutions where they can be protected without anyone getting hurt when they can. But why people have this expectation for men, I can understa… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/09/24 12:32 PM |
| 2 | When arguing with conservatives or red pill followers about masculinity and being a real man. You are setting yourself up for failure if you try to paint all women in a angelic way or progressive way in this context.Even then, some male feminist knows women respond well to some conservative values and even feminist women will belittle liberal men for not having them. Their response? Become the kind of man they want rather than calling their BS expectations out. I lost so much respect for mainstream feminists after finding this out. And they even try to rationalize it with "they just need to feel comfortable and safe" (not a bad thing mind you, but even men who have that femme look or flamboyant traits consi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/09/24 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Support group for men about relationships and sexual connections with women.can u still read the comments? I can | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/09/24 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Support group for men about relationships and sexual connections with women.Yea that's cuz this sub has had a period where there's an influx of dating related posts, esp from a LWMA perspective. But this sub is to discuss broader issues affecting men and boys so just focusing too much on dating would make it seem like we're mostly a dating focused group, effectively putting this sub in the same realm as purplepilldebate, redpill, or female dating strategies for example. It's funny you mention conservative. I read their mission statement, and part of their mission is to … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/09/24 02:57 PM |
| 2 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Yeah I think going a lot and building trust is best, some dudes can definitely be creepy I've been on reddit long enough to know that. Oh dude, I've seen screenshots of dudes treating women as kink dispensers so it's def a thing. Ik I talk a lot about how people complain about men being creepy for almost normal shit, but some dudes really are creepy around women. Like on fet, it's common courtesy to read someone's profile first before messaging them, but some dudes don't do that and just straigh… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/08/24 12:13 AM |
| 2 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".That was my comment you've read. You should probably take location into consideration as well. I live in Toronto and I have seen writings and posts of that nature from people residing in here as well as US and some European countries. Even though a lot of European countries are considered part of the west and some of them have problems similar to North America, the culture in other locations is bound to be different. Don't just take my word for it it's probably due to my location. Check out the … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/08/24 09:25 PM |
| 1 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Okay perhaps I wasn't clear. I meant this "as soon as I see that look, I know which women to avoid giving too much attention too." | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/08/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".as soon as I see that look Which look are you talking about? I'd like to know so I can be mindful of it. What are things you usually look out for ahead of time? In my experience, I don't get approached that often, even in times when I don't approach any woman, so idk how attuned to these signals I am given that's been an area of difficulty for me in the past. Even then, my process is if she clearly saw me in her periphery and doesn't show me any signs she's interested, then I don't really bother… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/08/24 08:25 PM |
| 1 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Interesting. Perhaps I'm more on the side of being proactive. I don't believe going up to someone you find attractive is a mistake. If what you mean by "hit on" is "damn baby, you look so fine, can I get ur number" right off the bat then yea something like that is definitely not gonna work out well for you. How I usually do it is address something about them that genuinely caught my attention (which is what they've mostly put effort into) and I've notice a lot of the conversations started on a p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/08/24 05:11 PM |
| 1 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I understand your point, but there is a flaw within that comment. You're using sexual orientation as an example. Just because your sexuality dictates you find a demographic attractive doesn't mean you're gonna find all members of that demographic attractive. Even if the bisexual is more attracted to women, she's still a bisexual. Even the straight women wouldn't be into you for the sole fact that you're straight and she is. I think it's more realistic to look at behaviours as that's our window i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/08/24 03:01 PM |
| 1 | I'd like to seek out therapy, but I'm conflicted on how I should go about it. I'd like some input to help me with this process.My concerns was finding a therapist who specializes in ACT and understands men's issues. Most of my research I found therapists that specializes in men's issues or ACT but not both. But I was also considering going to ACT therapists as well but if they don't understand the issues men go through, they might not understand or may even have problematic views towards men. So if I do go this route, I'd essentially have to find ways to filter my message to work through my problems without making it a … | /r/MenSupportMen | 29/08/24 12:30 PM |
| 5 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".6-8 year old boys worrying about that?? I get highschoolers cuz puberty,, but damn | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/08/24 08:56 AM |
| 5 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I see. It's funny you mention being in touch with your emotions. I do that too but I find I don't feel that's a feminine thing as I feel it's a skill to communicate your emotions to people, esp on important topics. Even some of my masculine friends are able to articulate their feelings, it's just that when they're not doing that, they go back to being that masculine person. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/08/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".True. What would you say is most feminine about you? When I talk to some people about it, they talk about how they dress a certain way or present themselves a certain way, and I guess for me I present myself as masc but on a personality level, I like being the more cooperative one, it's natural for me to be the follower, I guess I'm more agreeable, enthusiastic about things I like, and tend to follow the flow a lot more. A lot of my friends say I have that healer energy and what not. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/08/24 12:23 AM |
| 2 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".So in your experience, bisexual women tend to be on the masculine side? I met a lot of bisexuals in the fet circles and I thought they were pretty diverse when it came to masculinity-femininity | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 02:35 PM |
| 6 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".While emotional intelligence and individual chemistry are very important, I'd hardly call that rizz. That sounds like having a deeper level of understanding and awareness when it comes to your emotions and preferences, which leads to greater empathy towards people when they're experiencing emotions as well. The reason why rizz is spoken of as it's a skill tree is that's how most discussion around game and rizz are. Those terms came from people who try to systematized dating. PUAs are a great exa… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 11:57 AM |
| 4 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Everytime someone Says, they're almost always talking about social behaviour and conduct that's likely to attract women. Of course a guy who's very good looking doesn't really need rizz. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 03:39 AM |
| 10 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".There's a good portion of guys that already see game the way you described it. You're describing the traffic light system. Most guys will use effortful game for women they perceive as having yellow light attraction for them. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 03:38 AM |
| 5 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I'm heading there myself. I'm mostly active enough to generate options. After I do that, I go back to being myself and see how they actually like me from there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 01:52 AM |
| 5 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I believe biology definitely has a part to play in this. Some men are naturally more in their feminine and some women are naturally in their masculine. They'd be a great match for each other, but I don't believe there are actually groups bringing them together. The average progressive believes attraction and preferences are based on socialization that they believe if they act a certain way then they become a certain way. It's no wonder a lot of them still respond well to RP game despite what the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 01:45 AM |
| 9 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".It's less of a requirement and more of an unspoken rule. I can't count the amount of writings I've seen on fetlife constantly telling men to be respectful of women and treating them like human beings. There would be the occasional "this is what you do in this situation" but a large part of this is making them feel comfortable. They don't talk about "rizz" there it's an underground conversation. As for other women, lesbian dynamics offer a pretty interesting insight. Before I got laid off from my… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 01:26 AM |
| 18 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".For me I'm still out there cold approaching. I don't go for women who have their phones out (easy way to get recorded) and I also don't have to deal with group dynamics (esp if they're tied to either conservative or liberal ideologies). I'm also an introvert, so I get that 1-on-1 time with her. Of course she can exit the convo if she's not interested or uncomfortable, but now I don't listen to what society has to say about my life. I am to live more authentically now and free from their bs. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 12:35 AM |
| 8 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I feel the same way too, which I feel conflicted with as I desire my partner to be more on the masculine side. You can't find those in more conservative circles. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 12:32 AM |
| 4 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Interesting, I didn't think of it from that perspective. But there is one key component that the autistic would lack (which is a natural flaw for a lot of autistics) that would hold them back from become more masculine. That is social sense and cues. Even the masculine would need to read body language in order to assess someone's dangerous intent (often done through body language). Autistics, due to the very specific things they want things to be done, could also be seen an hyper-sensitive (whic… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 12:31 AM |
| 9 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".How does autistic rizz work? I'm curious as I never heard of this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/08/24 12:02 AM |
| 15 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".Damn bro. Ik the people on fetlife can be pretty discriminating against men but I don't think I experienced unwelcoming behaviour. Then again I'm neurodivergent so I can't tell sometimes. I remember the first munch I went, I met a submissive woman who really liked my energy and on the first day of meeting her, she messaged me saying she hopes I find my domme. The host was somewat aloof, then the more times I went I can have casual convos with her. Then when I met her at an independent play party… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/24 11:59 PM |
| 13 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I used to have a problem with this statement, but now I'm thinking dating became a rocket science the moment we started putting roles and expectations on it. Men were expected to be the charismatic, masculine, protective one in conservative ideology, and now we're in a time where "men shouldn't make women feel uncomfortable, ever" and "if men want a dating life, they need to grow some balls and ask her out." "they need to make her feel comfortable while being aggressive in going after what they … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/24 11:38 PM |
| 21 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".They also see men with this problem as prey, and will try to defraud you the whole time. Taking advantage of the vulnerable. I notice people who give out dating advices to demographics that need it the most, often do so with the hopes of advancing their ideology to become more accepted. It could be one of the reasons most men are leaning conservative and women leaning liberal. But yea I agree, they really do see men like this as vulnerable. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/24 11:33 PM |
| 4 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".That's an interesting one. Using Johnny Bravo and Deku in this example. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/24 11:21 PM |
| 38 | I hate the pressure society puts on men to have "game".I had a conversation with a friend who found Fetlife and has met a couple of dommes he played with. And the fet circle has very mainstream liberal views. This is the place where they want people to start out as friends first and then become something deeper later, where trying to game women is seen as manipulative. You wanna know what he told me? You still need to have rizz in these circles, even when you are courting dommes in liberal environments where "you need to treat women like human being… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/24 11:20 PM |
| 7 | Feminists can't be "allies" to men's activists, because the feminist movement, broadly, is actively hostile to menBroski you're forgetting the bigger influences who started the feminist ideology. Simone de beauvoirs the second sex is considered the feminist Bible. Other prominent feminist pioneer such as Andrea dworkin, shulamith, etc, all started the feminist ideology and a lot of them held very misandrist views of men. Don't wanna leave the founding mothers out of this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 02:11 AM |
| 1 | I hate modern dating adviceI'm someone who still promotes dating advice but in gonna be honest I agree with everything here. And I'm actually relieved to find how comprehensive this post was, even though it's just a rant. I don't have much options on my end and I feel like I don't belong anywhere so my options are limited to meeting them in hobby groups, friend groups, or cols approaching. A lot of this will only work if they find you attractive enough to the point they take initiative. I'm an average looking man so I don… | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/07/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel the society you’ve grown up has caused you to struggle with being emotionally vulnerable?I never has a problem with being emotionally vulnerable. That seemed to come easily for me. However, I consider my experience to this date and now I feel like I don't have a group or space that I can belong to and feel safe with so I'm heading towards closing off emotional vulnerability. I've face criticisms where people tell me to man up or get over my emotions and issues. And if that wasn't enough, the feminist ideology of "men are oppressors" is poisoning the general social scene for men to t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/07/24 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Do any other “non-masculine” men also struggle with a lack of acceptance?I feel for this comment and feel like I've learned some insight. I'm glad to hear you got a gf now. I'm still searching for my someone. But yea like the rest of your comments about relationships, you know how to articulate yourself and your experiences. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/24 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Do any other “non-masculine” men also struggle with a lack of acceptance?Yea I think I'm like that too. My core personality is more on the feminine side than it is masculine, but I feel like I gotta be in a position to set goals and work towards achieving to help me maneuver myself to finding the life I truly want. Being involved in self-help also made the masking bit easier. All in all, this allows me to project myself as outwardly masculine, but if you get to know me personally, I'm more cooperative, agreeable and have a deep passion for developing relationships. B… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/24 03:17 AM |
| 4 | Do any other “non-masculine” men also struggle with a lack of acceptance?I notice this too. Because of the talk about masculinity, it became a topic they can't ignore. They're bringing it back because they still want their man to be that rock. I think when conservatism ideology was on the rise, the people who represent conservative ideas are very kind to men, and use that kindness as a way to instill masculine behaviours in them, and the men get rewarded for that rather than "cry more" which doesn't reward them and instead make them feel vulnerable to attacks. Femini… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/24 03:04 AM |
| 1 | How do we define "emasculate" from LWMA perspective.This is an interesting reply. If emasculation is what the person thinks of themselves, why do some people blame the other for emasculating someone I.e a woman who mothers her man is emasculated him. I'm a naturally feminine man and am pretty secure about this fact. If someone tells me my woman is emasculating me cuz she makes more money or is more masculine than I am, I'm not gonna care about that (infact I probably like it.) As I'm already good with it. At the same time, I've heard arguments su… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/04/24 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally?Okay I do know a UK youtuber that spoke about these issues too so yea I guess it does happen in the UK. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally?I see, so if they're not different culturally, then can I assume that even European countries like the ones I describe above engage in those same discourse in dating like how I described about North Amerixa? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally?So country with high birth rates = problems with women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally?Can you described those differences, as well as ways where European countries and NA ones don't differ in a meaningful way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally?The things you described in your second paragraph. Do you also see this in the European countries as well or no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 03:06 PM |
| 6 | Seeing the genuine wrong vs the prioritization of woman's comfort over menI understand that but in this case I wouldn't say it was that innocuous. I definitely did not mean to cause any harm or offense, but it didn't come off as great so yeah. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Seeing the genuine wrong vs the prioritization of woman's comfort over menOhh you mean the question. I don't feel comfortable sharing it here so I'll DM you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Seeing the genuine wrong vs the prioritization of woman's comfort over menMy question was if there's anyone here that feels a similar way how I describe it. I'm seeing if it's something I can relate to here or if it's just something I'm just going through as an individual. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 04:47 PM |
| 5 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.And it's even more hilarious that a lot of traditional women I see online are very assertive and opinionated. All of these traits are considered "masculine" traits by society. Do these behaviours show up in times of leisure or work? If it's work then chances are they had to develop a masculine mask (which could not be their natural personality for the most part) since the nature of work especially in high paying ones value masculine qualities (not the same thing a being male mind you.) Most prog… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/24 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Even when men don't interact with women. Men are still considered bad guys for not interacting with women. But this shouldn't be a bad thing though.dude I'm a guy, not sure why you said this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Even when men don't interact with women. Men are still considered bad guys for not interacting with women. But this shouldn't be a bad thing though.If that's your reason then it doesn't really make a difference to me as we're still talking gendered expectations. Cultures where cold approaching is normalized are more likely to be cultures that still follow traditional gender roles for both men and women. Of course it's gonna be awful as a guy to do it but I think that has more to do with what we expect from men, not the actual act itself. But I hear a lot about Scandinavian cultures being more egalitarian. That's why I wanna visit them and s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/01/24 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Even when men don't interact with women. Men are still considered bad guys for not interacting with women. But this shouldn't be a bad thing though.The topic of 'cold approach' i find is now a pretty nuance subject. On one hand, you got traditionalist saying "be a man and approach her" or "approach 1000 girls and get 10 numbers, and maybe you'll get 2 dates." On the other hand there's "never cold approach women, that's street harassment and creepy." Both schools of thought are things I do not agree with. My personal philosophy is if I see someone I find attractive, I will approach them and start a conversation with them, and I'd expect them… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/01/24 03:15 AM |
| 4 | Even when men don't interact with women. Men are still considered bad guys for not interacting with women. But this shouldn't be a bad thing though.Yea I guess for that bit then we can agree to disagree. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/01/24 04:17 PM |
| 10 | Even when men don't interact with women. Men are still considered bad guys for not interacting with women. But this shouldn't be a bad thing though.I understand where you're coming from. Some of the things they tell us sound contradictory and paradoxical. They don't want us to initiate yet they still want us to do it. Of course, context does matter, but there's only so much one man can take esp if the male gender role expectations are still a thing. That's why I no longer listen to the large majority of them. I now do things because I want to regardless of what anyone else thinks. I now would interact with women I find personally interestin… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/01/24 04:12 PM |
| 52 | Gen Z men are leaning more conservative while Gen Z women are much more liberalAnd then we have this subreddit, men who lean left. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/01/24 04:57 AM |
| 6 | Societies financial/success expectations of men IS their version of bodily autonomy.In a society like this, make your money and live your own life. These absurd expectations for men just tells us how hypocritical western society really is. I'm sure there are reasonable women who understands men even left leaning men...in other countries. At this point ya might as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Tired Of The "Men Do It More" BSThe men do it more BS crumbles down when you look at dv studies which shows abuse goes 50/50 even severe abuse. When it comes to rape though, the studies, mostly nisvs sex assault study, does show most women being victims and men perpetrators so there is some truth to here specifically, even most male victims of rape had male perpetrators (unless I missed something) but everything else here is mostly bs. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Government guidelines on teaching children sexual consent advise starting early and using plain language (with arbitrary focus on protecting "women and children")She just wanted me to initiate so she had no responsibility for the sex act. What's even more fucked up is that one of the dating sources I started out with ENCOURAGES guys to set it up this way in order to be successful. The wome here today sucks, no accountability whatsoever. Everything has to be our fault. Fuck outta here with that BS | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?I have to agree with this. Reading up on these types of individuals can help bring insight into the behaviours of the guys they dated. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Sure the burden of performance exist in every culture, but here's my thing though. At least in 3rd world countries or right wing ones, the expectations of men are consistent, even if men have to take the leading role. But in the west and esp in leftist circles, we get mixed messages to the point we kinda have to assume the opposite of what they say and look at their actions. It pretty much fucks with your mind, but we add new layers of standards (emotional labour in this case) to ramp up the pre… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?I don't think that, but I don't know the exact exp. Theoretically the left is supposed to be more accepting, but I found in some aspects the left are hypocrites (I.e they say men aren't expected to approach women, but they'll never talk to him first unless he makes the first move in practice) so I just wanna be aware of the exact patterns (as an autistic person myself) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/01/24 12:14 PM |
| 18 | Feminism Was Never About Equality : Dr Janice Fiamengo / The Fiamengo File 2.0I'll do you one better brother, A couple of years ago, Janice had a very old account where she released a lot of her old video. From what I know, that account got perma-banned on Youtube but they're not lost. You can search up the keywords 'fiamengo file' the original content will be there. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/01/24 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?I agree with both of your points especially point number 2. That strategy is not foolproof if they still respond to dark triad men. They still somehow meet jerks and complain about them after. At some point, your strategy has to come into scrutiny. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/01/24 01:18 PM |
| 6 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Tbh I've read a lot of dating material that emphasized women use their emotions and primal urge more than logic. I understand the basis of this but I believe this would apply in a very specific context, and that's initial attraction. Men are like this too. We don't need a pretty woman as long as she's young and healthy enough to procreate, yet we feel a primary response to their appearance (unless you're asexual demisexual etc) so even us men will act from our primary urges. So in short both gen… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/01/24 12:54 PM |
| 8 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?What you just described falls under the type of situations I'm not talking about as they aren't normal. This post was made assuming said guy is a regular sociable person. Also anytime someone struggles socially or romantically, we gotta stop automatically assuming it's a moral failure. This is a really obnoxious attitude from the left and the reason it's turning men away from it. Imagine trying to seek help and your morality all of a sudden comes into question. This post isn't the first one we h… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/01/24 03:56 AM |
| 3 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?"Friendless Johnny over in the corner" I get the picture you're talking about. Basically if they're not having fun or enjoying their life. This sentences paints someone with self-esteem issues. But that's a pretty specific scenario. For example, I used to go out a lot by myself when my friends didn't want to do anything. On the surface, I was 'that guy in the corner' but I still struck up conversations with people around me, and have even spent a couple night outs with girls I've met too. This q… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/01/24 03:53 AM |
| 5 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Was this mean to be a reply to my previous statement or is that an independent response. If it's in reply to my previous statement, I'd like to know how it connects to what I've said. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 09:29 PM |
| 22 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?My ex gf had this exact same thinking and judges people who are 30 and single to be losers and shit (cue expressing why good ones are taken). Looking back at it now, she had a really toxic mindset about how she approaches life. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 08:53 PM |
| 10 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?I reviewed this study in whole. It seems while setting the stage for the introduction, the research of this article is to study mate choice copying via facial features to help expand on their theories. But there are some things that caught my attention. The study mentions that women tend to be drawn towards men when surrounded by other women, whereas men tend to be repelled from women who are surrounded by other men. It's basically the same thing, but the opposite effects are happening depending… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?This kind of attitude I believe would be more prevalent in right wing circles, then again I don't expect mainstream leftists to be better as well. Have you witnessed any discrimination from left-wing women towards autistic, socially awkward guys in this context? Also on the whole "Having a lot of friends and GFs shows that they are a macho manly man who is successful and therefore valuable" I interpret macho manly man as someone who is a tough guy. Is it possible this could also happen not becau… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 07:33 PM |
| 12 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?I've heard of that answer too and i get it but at the same time, at least to me, it doesn't make sense, simply because I've seen enough pos guys who are social savvy enough to have women friends but are abusive or manipulative of their SO's so it baffles me that this strategy is what they use, esp if psychopathic guys are smart enough to skid by these screenings and trick them into acceptance, but there are the kind yet awkward guys who by experiencing his nerves could inadvertendly come off as … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 05:59 PM |
| 5 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Imo how women experience attraction the way you describe it is the same way men experience it as well (tho maybe we're more visual as women do look for other things than just looks but it doesnt change how the body responds to someone we find attractive), but the reason why men are usually DTF is that a lot them are coming from the mindset of "going for what they can get" rather than "what they want". I've met plenty of guys who have slept with women they were not at all sexually attracted to, a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 05:28 PM |
| 4 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?U got any scientific sources for this? I heard conflicting things about this topic. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 05:12 PM |
| 4 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Yea I can understand this, esp if they experience men being their friends to try to get in their pants which is already a problem for them to begin with. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Why do you need to see men with female friends in order to think he's valuable and not weird?Based on what you're describing it sounds like someone who's just working a room. More charisma and social savvyness would be needed for that than just being friends with women. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/01/24 05:08 PM |
| 0 | I agree with the message of the post- I don’t agree with how it’s worded, or the comments.I'll be blunt, a large chunk of said reason is physical attraction. I'm not saying I'd immediately go up to someone with only sex on my mind. What I am saying is that there's something about their externals that caught my attention (doesn't necessarily have to be their appearance per se, it could be a unique hairstyle I haven't seen, boots, jacket, handbag, or even necklace.) Or maybe you think they have a very nice style which I notice with ppl a lot since I'm very into fashion. As for the cree… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/01/24 07:25 PM |
| 1 | I agree with the message of the post- I don’t agree with how it’s worded, or the comments.Yea in those situations she's busy. I'm talking about situations where she's mostly relaxed like sitting down enjoying a drink or snack. I've also had experiences where I had conversations with women while shopping, but it also helps that I'm also there to shop as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/01/24 07:12 PM |
| 3 | I agree with the message of the post- I don’t agree with how it’s worded, or the comments.Yea i spoke to a woman who was in what she calls the safest city. She spent time in a city I grew up with and she said she felt safe in the current city she was in. Looking at where I come from, we definitely do have a lot of homeless ppl on the street | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/01/24 01:36 PM |
| 10 | I agree with the message of the post- I don’t agree with how it’s worded, or the comments.I don't agree with the idea that approaching someone at the street or at work is not okay, you'd be surprised how many ppl are open in those situations. As long as ure being normal, having a conversation, and respecting her boundaries even when she doesn't wanna talk to you, let her go and u do ur thing. It becomes a problem when you persist with someone who has made it clear she's not interested in talking. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/01/24 01:34 PM |
| – | It's hard to be open to anyone anymoreI'm in that same boat. I know when it comes to my family, I can barely open up to them about a lot of things, but that's my family and they have their own issues. When it comes to rest of society, I think individuals I have no problem opening up to, but I find it hard to truly be open after seeing how ideologically attached and divisive western society can be, especially for what they expect from men which is just different forms of conforming to male gender roles. I still have my close friends … | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/01/24 01:11 PM |
| 10 | How feminism makes me want to die: a detailed but relatively short explanation with an exampleNo I don't agree with it, mostly because any articles that adhere to fundamental beliefs of feminism are biased and will conduct these resources from the lense of that ideology, removing any intellectual discourse that could come out of it. No. The idea if rape culture is if people are out there in the open getting raped and everyone sees it and thinks it's normal. If watching porn counts as contributing to rape culture, you would need to question the existence of things such as only fans or get… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/12/23 05:54 AM |
| 37 | Double standard with regard to insecurityThis post has put this into words. Men's insecurities I have noticed are spoken about as a character flaw. And even when people understand where someone's insecurities are coming from, they offer no sympathy or consideration of their plight and just tell them to "work on it" (no problem there as that's what we generally need to do with our insecurities in order for them to not define us.) Even then, media portrays women's insecurities as inward (criticizes herself) but men's insecurities as outw… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/12/23 10:46 PM |
| 3 | The majority of Reddit is pro-feminist. Maybe the majority of society.Yea I remember when I was in college. The people who have right wing views or even left wing views that tend to go against feminism they tend to keep to themselves and curate their circles to be selective with certain kinds of ppl. They just know enough progressive buzzwords to get by without attracting too much drama, even if they themselves don't buy into them. You show people you're a non-judgmental person, they will show you their true colors | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/12/23 05:01 AM |
| 1 | The majority of Reddit is pro-feminist. Maybe the majority of society.I agree. Especially if you interact with platforms like reddit, they form communities that contain niche people, therefore you're more likely to be exposes to certain kinds of people the longer yous stay exposed to it. I will say that I've been on the right, center, and left. If you really target mostly left leaning spaces, these spaces are def gonna be pro feminist, and I'm talking about the kind of feminist whom carries beliefs by the likes of Simone de beauvoir and Andrea dworkin (i bet the l… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/12/23 04:57 AM |
| -1 | The majority of Reddit is pro-feminist. Maybe the majority of society.This!. Feminism is an ideology, ideologies are meant to be criticized. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/12/23 04:39 AM |
| 20 | So Tired Of Hearing About The "Patriarchy""How is the same system built by men is the cause if their own problems." Blame bell hooks for that one. They just wanna turn men against other men with their intellectual dishonesty. I'm now reading the second sex by Simone de beauvoir. It is amazing that a literature considered the feminist Bible touched briefly on how men have hardships and die in wars but at the same time we're privileged under the system. There's a lot more contradiction I found in her book regarding many of the things I've… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/12/23 12:14 PM |
| 2 | INTERNALIZED MISANDRY should be in the dictionary! Here's my attempt at defining it. What do you think?Which dictionary website are you using to edit definitions? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/11/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Any leftist YouTubers that are male advocatesI love Cole Hastings work. I don't think he has any political views but I've seen a lot of masculinity content that would very well fit the mythopoetic men's movement definition of toxic masculinity. But Cole's work doesn't fit into that. The way he approaches masculinity is a very empathetic and kind way towards men, unlike the other channels who's approach to masculinity is shaming men to "be a man" | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/11/23 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Any leftist YouTubers that are male advocatesapparently based on what she said | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/11/23 06:57 PM |
| 13 | Any leftist YouTubers that are male advocatesA more moderate example would have to be Aba and Preach. They discuss issues on both sides, from men's issues to women's issues. There's also RomaArmy who's more of a liberal mra. There's also thetinmenblog. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/11/23 04:58 PM |
| 17 | Any leftist YouTubers that are male advocatesI can second NotSoErudite. She did recently start calling herself a feminist earlier this year. She said something about 4th wave being based but other than that she does a good job addressing men's issues in good faith. https://youtube.com/shorts/JD5d9pyptS0?si=7tjqUsEODf7NfMFl Up until that video she criticized the feminist movement a lot esp their use of certain concepts I.e the patriarchy. Even her other videos after this one shows she's very empathetic to men's issues and does a good job ad… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/11/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Let us now praise awkward menThis is mostly possible for a neurotypical male with no confidence issues. They have an easier time doing this. But not a lot of men can fit this profile. If I hadn't taken the time to work on PUA/redpill skills I would've gotten a high paying job while relatively young. But it's a good thing I worked on it, cuz I would've attracted gold diggers without realizing it. But it's still sad how we're still expecting men to be competent at almost all life skills, even one of them taking years to pract… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/11/23 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Let us now praise awkward menIt sounds like you're trying to tell me nobody will ever like you. I guess my question is why do you think that? > First approach means everything, you botch your first impression and you're fucked What kind of impression do you think "I like your style" or "I find you attractive" would give? Or are you thinking of other first impressions? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Let us now praise awkward menWhat the redpill usually talks about women like looks/money/status. If we're going by this logic, money is not an option for the boss babes since they can get the bag themselves. But they too are attracted to good looking men, they too can develop an emotional bond with men. They too have sexual desires in a tough guy who isn't necessarily making money. Finding a man that makes more than her is one way for her to develop attraction, but if that's hard then she still have multiple avenues that do… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 08:41 PM |
| 4 | Let us now praise awkward men> This is my whole problem. I wish I lived in alternate universe where women have to take the active role. I'm not meant for this world, I don't belong. I wish for this too, that shouldn't be a reason to not try though. There are women who do make the first move, but a lot of them are a minority, even in leftist circles. And their first moves are just subtle hints. They're just scared to make it as men are, which is why even leftist women expect us to make the first move (only to make it feel li… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 08:33 PM |
| 4 | Let us now praise awkward menMaybe maybe not. Confidence is usually built not something everyone has. I don't mind if they're confident, but can they also be vulnerable is the real question. And vulnerability is not an easy thing to express, that's something u wanna reserve for someone you really trust. This also applies to confident ppl as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 01:47 PM |
| 8 | Let us now praise awkward menIts also one of the reasons PUA/redpill exists. I think guys can get away with being awkward if they're really attractive (much like awkward attractive girls. The unattractive awkward girls I find usually gets ignored or buttered up so the guy can get with her more hotter friends.) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 01:46 PM |
| 9 | Let us now praise awkward menMaybe not my friend. I have a lot of experience approaching women I like but I don't try to be confident. What i do is basically the classic "Hey I really like your style" or "I find you attractive". It's definitely not suave nor is it smooth, but that's the point. The women who respond to smooth and suave are likely the same women who'd expect you to be the man. But if she responds positively to you just saying very simple shit like this, you'd likely have found someone who's more down to earth… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 01:38 PM |
| 9 | Let us now praise awkward menThis reply right here. I was in that exact boat before and I was hella afraid of being left behind. What did I do? I studied a lot of social skills, but in terms of the actual dating market, I ended up going to a lot of PUA/redpill material. OPs post and this reply is the reason those industries even exist. They wouldn't have existed if society hadn't demonized awkward men and given them chances | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 01:04 PM |
| 8 | Let us now praise awkward menI think for female autism they're kinda forced to be social very early on so they have the ability to mask much better than boys since we don't carry that kind of expectation of them. So unique gender experience can be a factor in it as well | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/11/23 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Feminism expects men to bend over backwards for empathizing with womens issues while shitting on men, and is then is surprised men double down imto toxic spaces.Dude I'm trying to meet women like this. They seem to be rare these days. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/11/23 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Feminism expects men to bend over backwards for empathizing with womens issues while shitting on men, and is then is surprised men double down imto toxic spaces.Oh no they care about men, the issue with men is they just don't embrace their feminine side to help combat toxic masculinity (not the mythopoetic men's movement definition, but our 2013 redefinition of the term that demonizes male behaviour) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/11/23 12:47 PM |
| 7 | Feminism expects men to bend over backwards for empathizing with womens issues while shitting on men, and is then is surprised men double down imto toxic spaces.No feminism does help men. It's apart of intersectional feminism. If you look at the arbitrary oppression hierarchy, trans men are below men of colour, men of colour are below the average white man, and the average white man is below the rich middle class white man. Because of our arbitrary hierarchy that we completely came up with, the patriarchy (another concept we completely came up with to distort history) hurts men too and that's why feminism wants to help men. It's truly one of the most in… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/11/23 12:45 PM |
| 13 | Men's general lack of interest in Romance novels and movies is very often attributed to Misogyny and Patriarchal expectations. To what extent do you think that's true, If at all?>They depict extremely unhealthy relationships that just magically avoid ever having to confront the consequences of those unhealthy dynamics, as would happen in reality. This is my major problem with some of the romcoms I see out there. Even when it's comedy, there's still some unnecessarily complicated elements in there that I can't really vibe with. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Men's general lack of interest in Romance novels and movies is very often attributed to Misogyny and Patriarchal expectations. To what extent do you think that's true, If at all?I've written something like this a while back about the current mainstream leftist culture. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 03:05 PM |
| 15 | Men's general lack of interest in Romance novels and movies is very often attributed to Misogyny and Patriarchal expectations. To what extent do you think that's true, If at all?Yes I very rarely see men getting romanced in media. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 03:04 PM |
| 7 | Men's general lack of interest in Romance novels and movies is very often attributed to Misogyny and Patriarchal expectations. To what extent do you think that's true, If at all?Men do love a good romance story, but most plotlines I've seen whether adult romance or hs ones are very poorly done. In some cases it's the "nice guy -> good girl -> alpha asshole" plotline, or a man always needing to confess to a girl and not the other way around (in some chick centered movies the girl does try to win her man back.). > If most romances were variations of a story involving some Christina Hendricks-looking Billionaire women doing everything to win the approval and love of a rand… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 03:03 PM |
| 24 | "You should read Bell Hooks" a semi-rant about the experience of talking to feministsThe funny part is mens right activists started roughly the same time feminists did. But feminist were known for shutting down discussions of issues actually harming men and boys. The whole "patriarchy harms men too" is a direct contradiction to what they originally wrote about patriarchy "a society built by men to benefit men". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 02:55 PM |
| 21 | "You should read Bell Hooks" a semi-rant about the experience of talking to feministsI also got "men who are vulnerable and get made fun of is internalized misogyny". It was clear that feminist didn't know the definition of that word. A lot of intellectual dishonesty here. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 02:53 PM |
| 15 | "You should read Bell Hooks" a semi-rant about the experience of talking to feministsAnytime feminist hits you with the patriarchy bs, read this post and arm yourself with this. Also if you read bell hooks book, have you had the chance to read the Seneca Hill speech by Elizabeth Cady Stanton, books Simone De Beauvoir, Kate Milette, Andrea Dworkin? I would start mapping the misandry bell hooks talks about in her books to the misandrist ideals these old school feminists had. Much of the feminist ideology we have today are based on what these ladies written. My guess Bell Hooks rea… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/11/23 02:53 PM |
| 6 | Feminist women want to pathologize and shame men’s sexuality as a concept so they have absolute control in the dating marketplaceYes, feminism has poisoned the mind of a lot of these ladies. That's why whenever I approach a woman I have a process of engaging them while saving yourselfs. If u guys wanna know how i do it send me a DM ill gladly tell you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/11/23 02:18 PM |
| 8 | Feminist women want to pathologize and shame men’s sexuality as a concept so they have absolute control in the dating marketplaceCap. Basically an emoji saying it's bs, a lie, wrong, etc | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/11/23 01:36 PM |
| 38 | Feminist women want to pathologize and shame men’s sexuality as a concept so they have absolute control in the dating marketplaceWomen aren't playing by the previous gender norms, if a woman finds you attractive, they'll make it known before you approach. That is absolute 🧢. We like to say we don't play by gender norms, but we still do. We don't conform women to their gender norms (we're getting there now), but we confine men to theirs, even in liberal circles men are still expected to approach. They also don't make it known before you approach unless you consider dropping subtle hints as this which is a fools errand sinc… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/11/23 10:42 AM |
| 55 | Feminist women want to pathologize and shame men’s sexuality as a concept so they have absolute control in the dating marketplaceAgreed. I have approached women at various places before and all of them were pleasant even in rejection. But I talked to a left leaning man who buys into feminist thinking and the only way he could interpret those interactions as "they're only being polite for their safety " which automatically makes my interactions seem like I'm the predatory one. It's a truly poisonous ideology. I took a trip to a far away city by myself this year and there were a few cute women I approached and gave my shot.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/11/23 09:15 AM |
| 18 | The biggest flaw with feminist ideologyBell hooks introduces the idea that the patriarchy hurts men too, an absurd idea since patriarchy is supposed to benefit us. Basically they want to minimally acknowledge men's suffering while putting a large emphasis on patriarchy. They'll do anything to keep their misandrist ideology alive so they come up with illogical statements like this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/11/23 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Does The "Patriarchy" Truly Exist?But like that timeline discussed, most of the rights we have as women today are periodically fought for in the past. Questionable. The mode of communication during those times have mostly been on foot, meaning it would take years for a single area to be aware of recent law changes from the year it was released. Even before the year it was released, those acts took years to develop and this could've gone on for over 10 years or even a lot longer. It's clear those congressmen were considering the … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/11/23 01:37 AM |
| 12 | What are your thoughts on gender roles?I'm not a big fan of confining men and women to specific roles but I understand why, esp in the past. I think these roles were related to their physical capabilities, which is why men were expected to be the hunters and women were expected to be the gatherers. But those were very primitive times. As society became more civilized (building cities, a system of trade, etc) I think once they established that, those rigid gender roles are not really needed. The importance of gender roles in today's t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/10/23 02:21 PM |
| 9 | Why do anti-feminist arguments usually fall flat? (and what are some that don't?)Most feminists just want equality. Dude read the old feminist literature and see how they talk about men and women. You'll find out very quickly that it's never about equality despite what they say. Most feminist are like the 'extreme' ones because the fundamental ideology they believe in is heavily bigoted. It's a cult | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/10/23 01:21 PM |
| 6 | "Neurodivergence" has become a trendy excuse for dating strugglesI had to practically beg them to take the hint and ask me out I think autistic men would really appreciate if you stepped up and asked them out (actually most men appreciate this as we barely get it). Idk what is with ppl and expecting men to ask women out. We're in the 21st century we should be over this by now and making our intentions clear. People on the spectrum need everything spelled out to them directly, and courtship is full of subtitles and nuances. These subtleties and nuances exist b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 03:43 AM |
| -2 | Why do anti-feminist arguments usually fall flat? (and what are some that don't?)Don't equate terms like toxic masculinity to feminism. They merely borrowed it and used it to advance their own political agenda. The term toxic masculinity was supposed to be a term used in a self-improvement context, it's just that feminists applied this term to any male behaviour they deem bad or any male frustration expressed. But everything else is pretty spot on. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/10/23 03:18 AM |
| 17 | Why do anti-feminist arguments usually fall flat? (and what are some that don't?)Many of the things some feminist will tell you is that "we live in a patriarchy" "patriarchy oppresses women, and hurts men by making them believe they have to oppress women to benefit from it." What's their foundation for this argument? The fact that most positions of power throughout history were held primarily by men. The next thing is toxic masculinity i.e "Toxic masculinity is harmful to men and women, it makes men not show their emotions and believe they have to be super strong, so they be… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/10/23 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Everyone’s talking about the rise of male loneliness but not the huge decline in testosterone levels which could be a major contributing factor. So what’s the solution?I eat meat regularly and exercise pretty regularly. These are 2 things that are scientifically proven to increase testosterone levels. But that doesn't make me any more masculine than i am now (and am mostly coming from a feminine leaning 50/50 energy). This is just my personal experience so it is pretty anecdotal. But if more t level = bring more manly, then I probably should've been behaving differently by now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:04 PM |
| 6 | Does The "Patriarchy" Truly Exist?I 100% share your sentiment on the 'patriarchy'. From what I know, feminist claim to our society being a patriarchy has always been rooted in historical events. Maybe today might not be a patriarchy, but they'll always use the past to say we still have remnants of the patriarchy that we have to supposedly undo. But once you look at history, I find it questionable if the patriarchy existed in western history at all, but feminist will keep on insisting this dogma and not let us think for ourselves… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/10/23 12:59 PM |
| 58 | "It's worse for women"Feminists see that the top percentage of people are men, and assume that their privileges are given to them by virtue of them being men. This is the vibe I get everytime they use the word 'patriarchy' and use that term to describe men in our society | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/10/23 03:43 PM |
| 3 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I disagree that the solution is to strictly level up your life and lean on that. There's plenty of guys who are into self development and can't go up and talk to someone they're interested in. Yes, level up your life to live a better quality lifestyle, that doesn't mean you can't learn how to navigate social interactions esp interactions with dating. Btw I read the book it was great! Learning social skills is not even "cracking the code" it's about reading subtext of everyday social cues. What w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/10/23 07:51 PM |
| 2 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I used to research a lot of dating advice, i understand this position quite well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 08:36 PM |
| 3 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I can think of multiple interpretations of this. A meme that says "be an asshole to the world, not to your girl", another interpretation is being powerful to have enemies and competition fear you, but only reserve the softness and vulnerability for the people you love. It's like a prize to have a powerful person be soft and vulnerable only to that one person, making the one on the receiving end feel special of some sorts. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 08:19 PM |
| 2 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I used to hang out in circles with black ppl, I'm a brown man. I do notice there's a specific kind of culture within black circles. Feel free to correct me on this, but it's the pressure to be the tough masculine capable guy who's the right balance of emotional sensitivity but bold behaviour. Is this correct? I do understand the whole "help yourself" sentiment. I felt that's what I had to do my entire life. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:56 PM |
| 5 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?Yup the JBC advice is something I've gotten a lot, but I understand why they say it. People who are spouting that advice are coming from a neurotypical framework, and there's a fundamental problem since our brains are designed a bit differently to JBC. It works for them cuz their brains have sensors to easily pickup on subtle and social cues. So whenever they say this advice, they're coming from a neurotypical perspective than a neurodivergent one. I also experienced the toxic positivity and gen… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:53 PM |
| 3 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?Yea I had a similar experience to this. Today, I have a couple of genuine friends but coming across them have been pretty rare. I thought my hs pals were genuine friends but they were pretty toxic (but I didn't understand the subtext of what they would do to pick that up until much much later.) But outside of that, I'd also get the feeling that they'd have no problem talking to me but never really invited me to anything. This didn't bother me that much as I still had a good time with my friends,… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:50 PM |
| 2 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?This is a mouthful of information. Based on the things you're talking about, are you by any chance a level 3 on autism? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:09 PM |
| 2 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?what careers, traits, and interests did you feel you have to be pigeonholed into? Also when you say high end, do you mean that you're a high functioning autists, or that you're dealing with severe autism? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:03 PM |
| 5 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I relate to almost all of your posts here. Attention to basic things, overthinking, and talking impulsively have been problems I did have to deal with. Autism is related to anxiety, not sure about feelings of guilt. But I too have been haunted by my own slip ups too so looks like that's a common thing among autists. With regards to dating though, dating is basically social skills 10x, so this neurodivergence detector is due to that. Unfortunately, us autists have to struggle with social skills s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 07:02 PM |
| 2 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?I can't watch this. It says the video is not available to watch in my country. What's it about? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 06:53 PM |
| 3 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?Oh so they give you work that can basically be done by anybody. Not really a specialized job but a general job? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 05:42 PM |
| 3 | What unique experiences do you face as an autistic man and how do you deal with them?What do you mean by boring and monotonous tasks? Like doing chores, taking care of your appearance, etc? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/10/23 04:52 PM |
| 1 | why are autistic men and boys treated badly.Little sympathy is afforded for the fact that autistic people can be very literally-minded and systematic thinking, which doesn't lend itself to wokeism, wherein manipulation, distinctions without differences and creative construction of worldviews (that are likely to wildly differ from that person's experiences) are central. And even then we gotta be careful of this. I've encountered people on the r/autism subreddit expressing beliefs that align with those problematic ideologies. So even they c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/10/23 11:34 AM |
| 2 | Navigating the volatile line: Is it possible to understand and care for women's rights and struggles, while also standing up and caring for men's right's and struggles too? (Long)The feminist who help men shouldn't call themselves a feminist, not when the ideology setup by the 2nd wave (a thought process currently dominating feminist spaces) are inherently anti male. That's like saying there are some good redpillers standing behind women despite the ideology they support. This is a common misconception that people who buy into the idea that feminism is about equality fall into as theyre misinformed about what the influential figures of the movement really wrote. Yes ther… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/10/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of MRAs saying the problem is unmasculine men?I've encountered this behaviour as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/10/23 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"This could've been worse. The guys face and body could've been shown on camera. She could've turned her camera around and expose him physically. But regardless this is pretty shitty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 04:03 PM |
| 1 | What are some counterarguments to the claim that false rape accusations are a myth/extremely rare?Even then that 8% comes from strictly reported cases. They need to conclude that this is false in order to prove it as FA. But false accusations aren't classified as crime so crime stats won't account for this like they do with rape. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/10/23 02:00 PM |
| 5 | What are some counterarguments to the claim that false rape accusations are a myth/extremely rare?False rape accusations aren't even considered a crime so we don't have a number on how many of them are out there cuz of this | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/10/23 01:56 PM |
| 1 | What are some counterarguments to the claim that false rape accusations are a myth/extremely rare?The extremely rare part comes from the 2% of rape cases reported to be false and they're using that to say it's extremely rare. Here's what they miss tho. That statistic comes from strictly cases that have been reported, many of them are not reported. And only a few cases of rape get reported to the police, where 90% of those few cases do end up in conviction. Even when conducting surveys and accounting for unreported incidents, rape was recognized as a crime but FA is not, so they wont even bot… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/10/23 01:54 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?I'm not too familiar with India but I hear they don't treat their women well over there, esp when sex before marriage is involved as she would face more consequences from that. If this is true, then perhaps the women there are keeping quiet about this. I'm not too sure cuz ik in 2012 the New Delhi gang rape incident sparked a very huge protest. but I also watched a documentary of indians expressing that women shouldn't dress provocatively or she's asking for it. But you live in the country, do y… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/10/23 03:26 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?Okay if we're talking about the frequency of the situation with dating different men, that's a completely different thing so I get where you're coming from there. That "sense he has a bad personality" is most likely just a trauma response from the previous abusive ex. Nobody can see through other people. I've heard both men and women say this so many times. I'm more likely to believe she looks at the "are we dating the same guy" list. Why have a list if you can sense a "bad personality"? This is… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?Ik that's why I listed both men and women | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 06:17 PM |
| 2 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?Jesus christ grammarly fucked up my 2nd paragraph. The point of that was to show that there are abusers who are smart with their practice i.e isolate their victims from their support network while putting on a mask of helpfulness, and only let our their abusive side when they feel safe to do so. So some women think the guy they're getting with is the guy they present themselves out to be and in some cases how can you tell if it's a mask of it that's just his personality? Some abuser (men & women… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?I have to agree here. Once people latch onto an ideology, everyone else is wrong in their eyes. They keep blaming things on the 'patriarchy' due to the very theory they themselves came up with. You can never expect to achieve equality with that kind of ideology. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 03:48 PM |
| 4 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?Feminist ideology is heavily misandrist to begin with, not to mention if you look at their history they actually omitted a lot of things out from their supposed history. They left out the fact that most anti-suffrage movements were primarily led by women, claim they free men from their gender roles but actually enforced it on them from the start, even their claim to our society being a patriarchy is fragile when you actually take a look at western history, American colonization, the bibles histo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 03:45 PM |
| 5 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?women are the ones who make the decision to date/have sex with said men who abuse and/or rape them. There's definitely cases where the red flags are shown to them early on and they still get together with these guys, but in that case those women are very insecure or very naive to begin with, which happens to all of us. The "big fan of Andrew Tate" profile should be clear cut so even I wouldn't feel too bad. There's definitely cases where the red flags are shown to them early on and they still ge… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 03:00 PM |
| 3 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?That's rough man. I'm very sorry to hear that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?I didn't see any threads talking about this topic even though I've seen feminists use it a lot. That's why I started this discussion. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 11:16 AM |
| -3 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?What I was trying to point out is context. If you walk up to a woman and talk to her, she doesn't know who you are but you also don't know who she is (nor where she lives and her contact info). So as long as those information is kept hidden and she keeps her interaction with you public, there's less chance of her getting murdered here and that's most likely a situation where you would get rejected. But if she agrees to go on a date with you, at that point some form of contact info is shared, whi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?There is research demonstrating the effects of reputation destruction and humiliation in promoting suicidal ideation and social withdrawal. I can see this happening, especially if they're very mean with the rejection and talk behind your back. With that said, most of my approaches with women don't end in her humiliating and insulting me. I've only had a few women who were like this and I moved on just fine. But I think you'd have to watch out for that if you are talking to a woman in your social… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 10:57 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?For point 2. the redefinition of the term toxic masculinity might have something to do with this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 09:34 PM |
| -5 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?I agree that being laughed at is far more common than being murdered but the possibility of being murdered is something to be more fearful of than rejection (speaking from personal experience.) I get rejected tons and it's not that bad, you move on and find someone else who likes you. However, to treat every single man on the planet as if he's about to murder you is a very irrational response to men. But if you're going out with a man, the context is always you don't know each other well so anyt… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 09:32 PM |
| -1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?It is true that you wouldn't have to worry about those things as a woman, but then comes the problems of being a woman. Sure, you won't be perceived as violent and dangerous (which could actually work against you to the eye of predators), but you will be bombarded by men wanting to talk to you, some of which aren't able to handle rejection well which could cause problems for you if they're the violent type. Women primarily deal with relational aggression, think of this as needing to read women's… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 07:56 PM |
| 35 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?You framed these problems as men doing it to themselves, so i don't agree with you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?I'd be careful there if I was you. As long as a woman is a woman, there are gonna be fears that she will take into consideration? Does the stat support that she's highly likely to be raped and murdered? Probably not, but it doesn't hurt to develop protection strategies in case shit hits the fan, especially when women are genuinely physically weaker than men on average. Most crime stats can't be measured very easily, not even with data on unreported incidents. So wanting to trade men's issues wit… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 07:33 PM |
| 26 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?> I can give you a lot of reasons why dating as a man is suicidal (hyper agency, contradicting "etiquette", emotional confinement and so forth). Both men and women perpetuate this, even in left-leaning communities by their actions. > men don't give a shit about themselves, they don't care about the stupid rules working AGAINST them. For love, or for sex, all is forgiven and all is tolerable. The kind of men who don't care about the rules and would do anything to get sex I've seen mostly come fro… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 07:28 PM |
| 75 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?A difference in online dating exp does not equate to real fears people do have. By your logic, why are women on dating apps if they're gonna be meeting strangers that would put them in potentially dangerous situations in your mind? If this is the case both men and women should all be meeting their dates through their trusted social networks and do away with online dating for good. You don't hear stories about men being falsely accused because nobody takes them seriously, so they learn to keep qu… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 06:44 PM |
| 11 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?what??? If this is true then this is top-tier cult behaviour | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 05:47 PM |
| 12 | "Men's greatest fear in pursuing relationship with a woman is that he will be laughed at or rejected. Women's greatest fear is that she will be physically harmed-raped-killed." -Thoughts?As a man who's naturally feminine on a personality level and into femdom, one of the things I don't like is meeting women who are into femdom just to live up to a political ideology rather than just really desiring to be in that position. I always notice the femdoms there are still expecting their men to be masculine and they tend to be very harsh than gentle (no kink shaming it is something I have noticed.) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 05:37 PM |
| 5 | My problem with anti-feminist females.Patriarchy theory, redefinition of toxic masculinity, cancelation of men's movement conferences, distortion of domestic violence stats, demonizing male sexuality and behaviour (male gaze, mansplaining, manspreading). The list goes on and on. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 11:01 AM |
| 2 | My problem with anti-feminist females.I see this. Most anti feminist I've seen only want to bring back gender norms (tho in the redpill space, they wanna turn society into an actual patriarchy). They aren't against feminism after having done research on it. Janice fiamengo is a conservative but she's actually done research about the feminist movement, so shes against the movement for their hateful ideology (as she should be). But most anti feminists, like self proclaimed feminist who believe it stands for equality, haven't done rese… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/09/23 10:57 AM |
| 3 | How Is MVAW Systemic?As long as people believe in the patriarchy theory those same ppl will believe VAW is systemic and VAM is individualistic. It will never make sense unless you fully buy into a movements ideology. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/09/23 12:10 PM |
| 2 | Are Any Of These Real?institutional power was held exclusively or near-exclusively by powerful men for a very long time It was mostly held by men but it definitely wasn't exclusive to them. Plenty of women held these positions of power and exercised them before feminism was a thing. What you're talking about is not the dictionary definition of the patriarchy, which os a society built by and for the benefit of all men, but the feminist made concept of the patriarchy theory which looks at the apex ratios and are saying… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/09/23 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Are Any Of These Real?Many things we hear about the patriarchy I.e women have been oppressed, it hurts men too, all genders problems including toxic masculinity are due to patriarchy. They say all this because they're using their own concept to wiggle their intellectual dishonesty. They're not using the direct definition of the patriarchy, which is a society built by men to benefit all men, but they're using the feminist defined concept, the patriarchy theory, to say our society has been an oppressive patriarchy by l… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/09/23 11:27 AM |
| 8 | How I view the cycle of talking about men's issues from the left and why men are flocking to the right wingAbuse has always been 50/50 in heterosexual DV situations, this is not a gendered issue. There were women in power were causes of horrific events, so the men also got abused by women in power too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/09/23 11:19 PM |
| 5 | How I view the cycle of talking about men's issues from the left and why men are flocking to the right wingTheir claim to the patriarchy and male domination has always been based on decades of history which you can't even confirm exists. Even history departments know that they need to look at "eligible criteria" (by this they mean has the author lived through this history? Does this author have a PhD in history, was this media created in this specific period, etc.) Nearly all of these factors have very subjective and may not even encompass the truth about history. Based on my own research with source… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/09/23 11:15 PM |
| 1 | To the u/TheTinMenBlog, a checkup post of a sortBefore this year, she had many short tiktoks saying she's not a feminist, and recently reclaimed that title. I think she's one of the few people who's open to having their mind challenged when presented with facts. She even actively spoke about incels very seriously and empathetically and has even chimed in on some of the men's issues when it comes to dating. I think her heart is in the right place, but she definitely needs to start questioning feminism as an ideology, from first wave to the 4th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/08/23 03:22 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts/Advice On The Male Loneliness Discourse.Models and SucceedSocially I can personally endorse these sources. They're very great ways for getting started. I have a personal recommendation for some guys who are starting out and that's Nick Notas. Like Harris, he too discusses why redpill/PUA are toxic but he has a lot of practical advice on his Youtube and website that you can look at. I'm also at a point where I'm considering putting out dating advice for men too. Something that doesn't put too much pressure on them like the redpill/PUA/… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/08/23 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Recent changes in moderation and information for usersGotta point out this flaw. Wouldn't they join this group in order to bypass these rules? This could be a workaround for them to freely post misinformation. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/08/23 01:46 PM |
| 5 | Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative?I resonate soo much with this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/08/23 02:07 PM |
| 6 | Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative?There's a lot more I can say about this. I wrote about it on kbin and it'll lead to other issues for women. It's in the comments. Check it out. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/08/23 07:54 PM |
| 30 | Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative?It's not even that. I think the approaching thing as not being feminine is a bunch of balony. Approaching someone is supposed to be considered a masculine thing to do, yet most men experience approach anxiety (which is high btw) at the thought of approaching someone they find attractive and opt out of doing it. They experience the exact same fear women do, yet men are expected to get over that everytime. Whenever I have conversations with female friends about making the first move, they always t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/08/23 07:06 PM |
| 15 | Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative?I don't think that feelings of women are of our (men's rights advocates) concern. I agree with a lot of what you're saying except for this bit. Yes, how anyone feels is not something that we can have 100% control over, but this rhetoric is no better than the feminists who insist that the feelings of men don't matter when we talk about men's issues. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/08/23 01:39 PM |
| 44 | Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative?100% this. And the OP is wrong that most men aren't pressured to perform their gender roles. They are, especially when it comes to the context of dating. It's women who aren't confined to their gender roles. But given the rise of redpill, give it a few more years and we'll eventually get there for women too which isn't gonna be good for everybody. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/08/23 01:32 PM |
| 5 | (question) Did men build this system that men suffer in it thousands of years ago?Women were able to become queen without marriage to man and had equal power to kings in changing laws before monarchy became constitutional. All gender oppression is linked back to the monarchy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/23 11:33 AM |
| 6 | (question) Did men build this system that men suffer in it thousands of years ago?A system that doesn't benefit all men but just a few powerful men is not a patriarchy. These are a few powerful individuals that benefit not an entire gender. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/23 11:32 AM |
| 74 | (question) Did men build this system that men suffer in it thousands of years ago?This mainly goes back to history. Feminist like to say that because most men held positions of power throughout history (despite women holding those same positions), we live in a patriarchy. It's a theory largely rooted in an apex fallacy and is just meant to demonize men and encourage misandry. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/07/23 08:53 AM |
| 2 | Should I be suspicious of Dr. Warren Farrell, given things he has written about rape?Which pua was this? Cuz the pua material I've learned (not a classic source but a somewhat modern one) taught us that if she says no then we can turn it around eventually. Or they'll frame it as "she sees you as love value, once she sees you're high value she'll want to fuck you." Which gives off the vibes of "no means yes". That material as far as I'm concerned sneakily advertised treating certain nos as yeses. Now I don't pay attention to that and of a woman tells me no, imma take it at face v… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/07/23 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Should I be suspicious of Dr. Warren Farrell, given things he has written about rape?This | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/07/23 08:47 AM |
| 8 | Should I be suspicious of Dr. Warren Farrell, given things he has written about rape?I don't agree with what the redpill says about women most of the time, but this is a clear cut example of them acting like children. They need to be adults and communicate with words. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/07/23 08:44 AM |
| 10 | Should I be suspicious of Dr. Warren Farrell, given things he has written about rape?To not look like a sl*t in front of the public or be judged by their friend group. Either that or they don't wanna be seen as desperate or low value by pursuing something sexual with a guy they like. Either way this all boils down to insecurity. I used to read dating advice from back in the day and some of these sources encourage us to give women plausible deniability so we can get sex. I'm not doing that with a woman who expects me to risk myself looking like a perv. We either are on the same l… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/07/23 08:42 AM |
| 3 | "Hula - Dating Better Guys" dating app for women and men endorsed by other womenHaha I see you like to cold approach here. No hate I've done my fair share of that, and I honestly liked some of my interactions from there as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/23 05:59 PM |
| 3 | "Hula - Dating Better Guys" dating app for women and men endorsed by other womenThat's actually a thought to ponder on. I notice a lot of men and women, when talking about dating, have been very focused on the toxic aspects of both genders and they see dating as adversarial where one person needs to be in a position of power over the other. This is the result of being vulnerable or expressing feelings genuinely to someone who also acted like this to them, creating a vicious cycle. With me personally, I've gotten clear on the kind of partner I do want and what I don't want, … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/23 04:33 PM |
| 2 | "Hula - Dating Better Guys" dating app for women and men endorsed by other womenDoes that include Hinge? Ik a couple of my friends are currently using that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/06/23 12:57 AM |
| 7 | "women hold up half the sky" Or why I stopped dating cis women and identifying as a man."Society treat men poorly when they're not the stoic provider" Oh boy I can provide more reasons there. It's not just that, society also shames men if they're not acting in a masculine role, especially when it comes to dating. Before starting my dating journey, I had ppl look at me funny for not acting like how a regular masculine man would act. They find it weird that I'm inexperienced in sex, they found it weird when I was unsure or something or am naturally passive (active depending on how I … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/06/23 10:27 AM |
| 3 | How to get more women to understand the perspective of men and their issuesMy bad, I got the circumstances of her death wrong. I mean no disrespect to her, she's one of the few people I do respect. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/23 06:10 PM |
| 7 | How to get more women to understand the perspective of men and their issuesTrue. The only person that truly ever got the male experience was a lesbian feminist named Norah Vincent. She actually took years to step into a man's shoes and she saw the reactions she got from people were completely different. The reality of that actually made her depressed to the point she committed suicide. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/06/23 11:49 AM |
| 12 | How to get more women to understand the perspective of men and their issuesI'm saving this. This is a really important point. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/23 11:24 PM |
| 4 | How to get more women to understand the perspective of men and their issuesi see this. Thanks for sharing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/23 10:19 PM |
| 9 | How to get more women to understand the perspective of men and their issuesThat's actually pretty sound advice mate.Thanks! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/23 02:06 PM |
| 19 | The reason the group "Are we dating the same guy" is still upSounds good in theory, but very damaging in practicevery damaging in practice.. There was another group called "Toronto Unhinged list" where guys names either go on red list or green list. They laid out a vetting process for the public, but I'm pretty sure in private it's no different. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/06/23 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??And they say they're not about looks. Yea right. I highly doubt they be out here giving signals to someone average. Chances are, the average man had to work to make it seem like their interaction was "natural". Fuck outta here with that bs. Not towards you but them | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??Yup. I will say tho if I do take agency, my vetting process is going to be a lot here as I want to be with the right woman. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??Yes that I agree with. I believe notsoerudite actually provided non biased sources that actually discussed incels in a more sympathetic light. And tbh it actually makes sense. The only incels that committed terrible acts were Elliot Rodger and Alek Minassian but those are the extreme, most incels are just lonely men who desire love, acceptance and intimacy that's it | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 11:52 AM |
| 3 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??For example, they will say you can get a girlfriend even with autism. And you can get a gf even with autism. The problem is as others in the thread has said, the left is gynocentric towards women and promote a female sexual mating strategy, something that doesn't work for males due to the current social structure we have on expecting men to make the first move. The men with autism who could get gfs? 2 things would happen here. 1. he got extremely lucky and managed to meet and get a gf all during… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 11:31 AM |
| 2 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??I live in the core of that golden horseshoe, what a coincidence man. If that's the case then yea I def know some places here | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 03:32 AM |
| 5 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??emotional toll it can take on men to always be the ones risking rejection. It kind of follows that if they don't have to risk that rejection You know it's interesting you point this out. Many dating coaches will tell men "never ever ever take rejection personally" and I do agree with this advice, but I also notice dating coaches say this as a way of a default response when men do express frustration with a number of emotion. I think they themselves are aware of the emotional toll it takes on the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/05/23 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??Alan is not the only one to suggest this. There's plenty of modern PUA and redpill sources that do this as well. I don't think you should bring up other options and keep that a mystery whether you have them or not, cuz to me that's one of the few infos no one really needs to know. All they need to know is you find them attractive and you want to date them, that's it. You don't need to know if she's dating other people and she doesn't need to know if you're dating other people (at least before th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??I know ARC and I definitely liked his Mode One book. I still don't like that he carries the alpha beta mindset he has, but the way he describes mode one is the way I wish I could express my interest in this day and time. The coach I follow is Nick Notas and I find him to be much more balanced than all the other dating coaches I came across so far. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 11:07 PM |
| 4 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??The reason is probably that, because the left is heavily gynocentric, it enables female mating strategies which mostly boil down to a process of elimination based almost entirely on a woman's feelings. Truer words have never been said. Your response and the other responses of the left promoting female dating strategy and not strategies that work for men (which both of these things happen to be based on the male and female gender role) are things I agree with. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??To be honest pleasing feminists is a waste of time, the problem is their toxic movement has massive political and media influence. It is poisoning Western society. I used to think there were good feminist and the problem was really patriarchy, but after doing my research on patriarchy you have no idea how much I resonate with this statement. This situation is made even more toxic by the a fact feminist never acknowledge, that women exploit their looks and sexuality. That they lead men on to ge… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 11:03 PM |
| 7 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??You ask about why the left has an anti-male bias, yet are not interested in the perspective of a male advocate? What I mean here is that almost all members of this community know the real reasons why men aren't taking active agency in dating i.e demonizing of male sexuality, court bias against men, in group bias against men. What I was referring to is the leftist outside of that community because most often than not they're not even aware of these issues or don't think on it cuz "men are the opp… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 11:00 PM |
| 16 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??Not just that, but you have to do it without any effort. It needs to 'just happen', or you 'stole' it. This is probably the main objection to PUA stuff. The PUA source that I started out with in my journey actually have an articles that actually do state "most women want to feel like the men they meet just happened to them" so they're very aware of this, and it disheartens me to hear that because they don't really understand how much effort men are basically forced to do just to find love and in… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 10:55 PM |
| 20 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??This is because online discourse is heavily focused on female perspectives. To many women, "active agency in dating" means men hitting on them, which is something they perhaps understandably are fed up with. This is what happens when you don't actively fight against making men conform to their gender stereotypes. They put all that effort to fighting for women to be away from gender stereotypes. How about men? "You don't have to make the first move, women are allowed to make the first move as wel… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 10:52 PM |
| 10 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??I didn't think about this whole thing as a female dating strategy. Now it actually makes sense and it actually harks back to the female stereotype of them being courted and not them doing the active courting. And they want to feel special when anyone in real life in rarely special including the women themselves. Ironically, the feminist messaging are most likely to affect scrupulous men, and to not affect uncaring men And look at the cycle they created. They basically ensured that the uncaring… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 10:46 PM |
| 5 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??There's no rulebook on how to navigate the human experience, and I think we need to allow people the social grace to awkwardly make mistakes, as they try to learn how best to navigate building relationships with other people, romantic or otherwise. This is something I've personally experienced and to this day there aren't any resources in the mainstream to teach men how to do this. You'll find a post I made about the perception of men who read dating advice if you go through my profile all the w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Something I want to ask and I could be an ass for asking this. What is with the left's disdain of agency in dating and relationships??I hope u don't mind me asking. Which dating coach do you trust? I have one I trust as well. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/23 06:25 PM |
| -4 | How are men's rights viewed in scandinavian societies?Where's 'here' | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/05/23 05:19 PM |
| 36 | How are men's rights viewed in scandinavian societies?I'm actually interested in knowing this myself. But I will point this out for the sake of the discussion. I remember looking at equality index documents that rank countries on how egalitarian they are. However, The Global Gender Gap report 2022 for example (said to rank country by how egalitarian they are) are viewing equality in terms of women's representation. To them, high representation and access to things for women there are, the more gender equal a country is. This could be inaccurate as … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/05/23 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Men's rights Discord serverOne of the problems of being a wo(men)'s only advocacy group is the tendency to attack other movements (i.e feminism doesn't understand this, mra doesn't understand this.) I think having advocacy group being centered around a specific demographic would be very effective so as long as they acknowledge that there are specific issues another group they may not be representing are going through, and taking that into consideration while dealing with their group's issues and not just putting said grou… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/05/23 09:19 PM |
| 14 | Men's rights Discord serverThis is actually a good point. Feminism refused to change its name to egalitarianism because it doesn't see an issue with it being a derivative name of feminine (mostly associated with women). So by that same logic, progressive male advocacy should be more inclusive with their movement naming or else it wouldn't feel inclusive. I will say this though especially in today's climate, a lot of men's issues need to be brought to the attention of the large majority and away from associating with redpi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/05/23 09:48 AM |
| 2 | How does feminism help men?"It's not men we hate, it's the patriarchy" same shit as it's not women we hate it's female hypergamy. It's all the same shit. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How does feminism help men?Funny how that works. I written a post detailing our history and once you remove patriarchy theory out of your vocabulary, you find that most oppression was based on class than it is gender. That's why anyone who subscribes to patriarchy theory and the 2013 definition of toxic masculinity is gonna subconsciously blame men for the problems of the world and aren't people I can take seriously. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How does feminism help men?And patriarchy exist, just not the one you believe. I would like to see the names of those countries that live up to the OG definition of patriarchy. The only society that seemed to fit the feminist patriarchy theory society is the taliban. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | How does feminism help men?Most of our history hasn't been a patriarchy at all. Many of the obvious sexist rules were created by both men and women in power but patriarchy theory completely left that out. The ideology is not only rooted in misandry, but heavily downplayed the role women had in history before feminism as a movement even formed. Patriarchy theory is one of the rooted concepts of feminism, which means "male domination and oppression of women" or "societal structure built by men for the advantage of men" and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 12:50 PM |
| 2 | How does feminism help men?I find you reply insightful man. I did a post on analyzing american and british history to talk about "patriarchy theory" and honestly most of our history hasn't been a patriarchy at all. But I would love to know your thoughts on it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 12:39 PM |
| 1 | How does feminism help men?"They say men don't need to be in their masculine" I hate this in every fucking way and I got a couple of examples. They say we don't need to be masculine in order to find love and intimacy. But who do they go for by their actions? The confident masculine man. They also say they feel safe and protected when they're with their men, which goes back to the masculine stereotype of being the protector. I kid you not I hear them say this all the time "he doesn't make me feel safe." A lot of men's dati… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/23 12:22 PM |
| 22 | Have you ever been shamed by another man (or men in your life) for showing certain emotions?The only times men have ever told me to stop showing emotions were men who were deep into redpill manosphere content, but ik why men turn to those in the first place. To appeal to women. I have seen women by their actions go for men who aren't emotional and instead act from their masculine or when they don't show emotion. I have heard some women in college say "men today aren't real men anymore." Or "he's more emotional than me, I'm supposed to be the emotional one!" They'll tell you they like i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/23 10:17 AM |
| 6 | "If you want a movement for men so bad, just start one yourself. There's nothing stopping you."This is very contradictory to what feminism says. That it's beneficial for everyone, that they talk about and help solve men's issues. Without fail the amount of ppl I see tell men to start their own movement, the fact that they'd delegate men's issues to a potential men's group means that feminism actually does not want to help solve men's issues, or they dismiss those issues as a part of the patriarchy (cuz patriarchy hurts men too even tho the idea of that contradicts the definition of patria… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/05/23 02:09 PM |
| 1 | My therapist responded to me, I'm not sure how to interpret his response about my opening up to him, so I'd like to share it here and get some input.That wouldn't be much of an issue cuz everyone would be approaching hot people. Tbh it's just how it is. With the current way we're setting things up, I know plenty of guys that approach women they don't find attractive at all (tho the motivation here is they use them for sex). But guys go this route cuz not only are they expected to initiate in order to have a chance, but they are expected to be good at sex, good at setting up dates, basically taking the lead a lot of times. So their focus Herr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/05/23 09:07 AM |
| 18 | Abraham Lincoln used female pen names to attack political rivals, from which he could slander them as "unpopular with women", among other thingsDude those links you've shared. Use an archive URL to embed them. This helps preserve them for future use. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/05/23 12:07 AM |
| 6 | My therapist responded to me, I'm not sure how to interpret his response about my opening up to him, so I'd like to share it here and get some input.I'm not bothered by them not liking me (I'm assuming you mean they not being interested in me romantically by saying that.) What I don't like is the defensive behaviour that follows up with that. I understand if they act this way if I meet her outside of a social context and I basically cold approach her, but I even met this type of behaviour even in social circles and even after some time it feels very distant like. It feels like she thinks I would do something to her. That's whats fucking with… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/05/23 04:40 PM |
| 5 | My therapist responded to me, I'm not sure how to interpret his response about my opening up to him, so I'd like to share it here and get some input.I'm pretty good when it comes to the pickup stuff. I have no problem walking up to girls and expressing interest. And I do not mind if they express disinterest, but I don't like how that disinterest is sometimes followed up with very defensive behaviours as if I'm gonna do something to her. And to make matters a bit worse, they complain a lot about men "street harassing" them. And while I do agree that there are a lot of men out there doing this, we should also keep in mind that men still have t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/05/23 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.It's a text therapy app I'm using so I need to communicate with him for a few days to see how that fully went. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/04/23 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.Man I wish I knew this before. I ended up opening up to him to see what he says. Could I still ask the question after he replies to my venting? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/04/23 02:37 AM |
| 6 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.Not always the case. Some men really buv into the feminist ideology and will be the agent pushing that down your throat, so you can't really expect anything now a days | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/04/23 12:33 AM |
| 2 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.I framed it as an individual thing, but for this particular one I wanted to talk about things that are expected of me as a man that I don't see women putting up with and I have no individual framing for that as society still expects a lot out of men in the dating scene. This one is about exploring frustration and possible resentment on my part. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/04/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.Can you elaborate why I should see a psychiatrist? Don't they prescribe medications and shit? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/04/23 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Therapists to talk about men's issues or the current state of men's issues in therapy spaces.Can you elaborate more on the last point? How would stoicism philosophy help me with this issue? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/04/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | I think feminism is a right wing ideology.> No. The core problem is patriarchy, which causes gender inequality. You need to distinguish between men and patriarchy. The "patriarchy" you're referring to is a monarchy. Both men and women were rich and/or in positions of power (not just a few) and created as well as supported these gender roles and gender inequality. Feminism was a movement founded in 1878 and there were a lot of women rulers before then. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List\_of\_women\_rulers https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Li… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/04/23 02:57 PM |
| 3 | How much is male experience valued?Duuude! Do you mind if I message you in chat? I've been having lived experience in dating and your thoughts pretty much summarized my own thoughts and experience. I feel like we'd have a lot to tall about. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/03/23 10:46 AM |
| 7 | How much is male experience valued?Dude you have summarized my thoughts here. The def needs to be a culture chain where no gender has a pursuer role that way we can break out of these customs. If men feel desired or sexy, they wouldn't be out here in a pursuer role, therefore contributing to "creep" situations | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/03/23 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Finding courage as a modern manI'll throw my 2 cents. It's definitely hard to find that courage and I've actually had a point in my life where I was trying to find that. Back in college, I was struggling with dating and none of the people around me would give me practical advice that I could put to good use. So I stumbled upon material that talks about masculinity (what masculinity is, how to live a life in a masculine way, and how you can adopt it into your life.) However, there aren't really clear cut answers for that. A lo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/03/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | JustPearlyThings: Emotions and vulnerabilityGonna play devil's advocate here. Redpillers will invalidate this study saying "this is what women say they want, their actions show they want the complete opposite." And for the men, they'll just answer "the men have been socialized by mainstream society to show more emotions, not knowing that their girl isn't attracted to that and is fucking some chad until she finds a better man to monkey branch to." I have seen the EliteSingles study and I will be honest though, surveys that just collect res… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/22 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?This is unfortunately the truth. I know coaches who are far more considerate of their approach towards men and women. I always make it a point to direct guys there if they need proper sources. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Read social skills guidebook and checkout a website called sociallysucceed.com. it maps out all social skills and how to navigate most social situations. Check out The Guyde by Howie Reith who also maps out A-Z on how to handle both social and dating situations as a man. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Where can a guy with no friends or social circle go to meet new and potentially single womenThat actually makes sense. Thank you for sharing. I just say things to the point even in flirting but context also does matter here. I guess depending on how deep that connection is, you can not hold back your desires cuz it's safe to do so. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Where can a guy with no friends or social circle go to meet new and potentially single womenYes exactly. I think developing on your personality with simple interests can intersect some of your points like being humorous, suggestive, and expressing your desires and dreams I'm very big on that. I did have to read up on how to be flirtatious which mostly comes down to your nonverbals with some words in it. I'm not sure if saw but I edited my previous reply to include the thread. Have you checked it out? | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Where can a guy with no friends or social circle go to meet new and potentially single womenI see. By skills, do you think it ties back to regular social skills like making conversation and reading body language? I feel like with most cold approach situations you have to read their body language, and make sure the context is just right when it comes to approaching them. So maybe i she's walking fast on the street that's usually not ideal. But maybe she's sitting somewhere just enjoying her coffee? I also came across this thread on PPD talking about cold approach that I find interesting… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Where can a guy with no friends or social circle go to meet new and potentially single womenYou don’t need to have a social circle to meet people in gyms. I have met plenty of people there without having any circle. I agree with this. I haven't tried this with women but I have seen men on the punching bags and I made conversation with them. Yes, you can casually start talking about needing help with some weights or some bar, and then take it from there. Or maybe join any of the group classes where they do yoga or dance zumba or do crossfitt, and just start conversations there. If you f… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Where can a guy with no friends or social circle go to meet new and potentially single womenGym is more of a social circle environment. You see the same people every day. Are you saying you would approach someone at the gym the same way you would approach them at the mall? You say success rate depends on the person doing it and not the place. I get that. How high is your own success rate with cold approaches? I usually hear examples that if you do 1000 approaches, 15-20 numbers you'll get, and out of those maybe 5-10 will respond back to you and like 3 you'd end up having sex with. So … | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Why "making them wait" upsets many men...Out of all the dates I've been on I don't think I encountered this kind of attitude. I don't mind waiting until she's comfortable enough to have sex with me I think sex out of mutual pleasure is wonderful. But I definitely don't want to run into any women like this. Are there signs that I should look out for in case I meet a woman who wants me to earn sex from her? Or do any guys here have any stories of girls they dealt with that have thought exactly like this? How did you figure out that you w… | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Change My Mind: Men who want to be feminine or submissive in relationships are almost doomed.Hey man, have you considered making the first move with these women? Ik you're a feminine guy but there are videos that encourage women (traditionally feminine women) to make the first move with men. Since you're a feminine dude, maybe you can make use of these tips for yourself and hope you can find yourself a dominant woman who can pick up on these signals to approach you. I agree with you that trying to find women who was to be masculine is really difficult, but maybe you can make the process… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/22 02:42 PM |
| 1 | WHAT IS AN ALTERNATIVE?My suggestion is Nick Notas. He's a dating coach specifically for men (he has some articles for women as well) and I believe he's a healthier option. You'll see tips on how to approach women, build a conversation with them, escalate to sex etc, but he also teaches you how to do it ethically and actually answers how you should be yourself while implementing the other tips and whatnot. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | WHAT IS AN ALTERNATIVE?I'm learning from a coach who does exactly that and he's a much healthier alternative to follow than redpill. He's been doing it for 15 years and he has videos distinguishing what redpill is right but putting a healthy perspective on it and what not. You guys need to look up Nick Notas. He's exactly the middle ground men are looking for in terms of respecting women but showing up as the man they want. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?Yea the nice guy sthik is a terrible strategy and I would try my damnest to help guys like this out of there when I can. Ik you prolly seen Dr NerdLove cover the topic of nice guys, but what do you think about Nick's perspective on the topic? I would love to hear your opinion of his video. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?Oh I see! That makes so much sense now. Thanks for clearing that up man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 03:01 AM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?If I think a chick has nice legs or a nice ass, I'll comment on that and ask about her gym routine. This is actually something I'm still iffy to say of actually, especially the ass part. Perhaps if you frame it as you appreciate her ass in terms of like her working out. I would remember making compliments about their ass or tits once after I built connection and familiarity and got their number and talking to them a bit. But do you usually say physical compliments about her legs and ass even as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 02:25 AM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?I actually read ARC's book Mode One before and I liked how he described all 4 modes and stuff. I also watched the woman's video and I don't believe she mentioned specifically a time where a guy approached her and he made a physical comment on her that worked. She mentioned situation where a guy was forward and he got rejected, which can be in any context like before the approach or if you known her for a while. She also talks about men stepping into their masculinity and Nick has also talked abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?This is common advice that's been met with indifference 100% of the time for me. Probably because it comes off as too nice, too cautious and phony - I'm not saying what I really want to be saying in that moment. Nah I dont think compliments like that are too nice at all. Almost 90% of the time a man will get rejected whether he tries talking to her or approaching her, that's in part the reason why we play a numbers game. I could pay her a compliment about her personality (genuine compliment) and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?Many of his recent videos are short due to him posting on tiktok which seems to be a growing platform. But he's done many videos that are up to 15 minutes long and is spoken about in-depth. Some coaches do 2 hour videos on certain topics and me personally it bored me to death, but I get a lot of value from 15 min or even 45 min videos. I'm curious though, what advice from him do u find questionable? I work with his material and found success with my dating life so maybe I can clear some of those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 01:03 PM |
| 2 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?I can see that, but Dr NerdLove's stuff is more feminist-centred. Nick did speak out against misogyny and has an article about consent, but most of his stuff calls out both men and women for contributing to dating woes. I've seen reviews of Dr NerdLove, apparently he favors his feminist readers more while hating on guys, specifically "nice guys". The absolute disdain for them is not new to me, but I've seen Nick's video on nice guys and he's actually a lot more empathetic towards them than just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 03:47 AM |
| 1 | From Gamer Nerd to Dating Coach? Is Nick Notas a good alternative to PUA/Redpill?I study his stuff, I can say he's definitely not PUA and is actually much better than other dating gurus out there. He's much more about building genuine connections rather than tactics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Umm dude.....if you read my post, I mentioned we were supposed to meet up on a date, so I did ask her out. Are you suggesting I do it again? | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 02:44 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]didn't even bother explaining why she stood me up | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 05:52 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]She reached out to me a couple of day saying 'good morning' this was about 2 days ago | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 05:51 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Hey man. So I tried out your suggestion and I was able to find something interesting about it. I felt like growing up I had a more anxious attachment style as I grew up sometimes trusting my parents but sometimes not trusting my parents due to their own behavioural problems. I made a post about this at another reddit forum. So my relationship with my parents, I would say it's a more "anxious" type. However, when I took the quiz in multiple sources, I notice it's mostly asking me about romantic s… | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 09:37 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I've done meditation before and tried to seek therapy. Another thing I do is write my feelings down on a paper in order to figure out where it's coming from. I thought it was mostly due to a lack of experience in certain areas of life like since I hadn't had sex yet, I need to have sex in order to know I'm doing something right with my approach. But I was able to grow in this area without needing to have sex cuz I have been in a situation where I was on a date with her, and I was in the escalati… | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 06:28 PM |
| 1 | What types of girls should you approach?I'm not entirely sure what you mean by the last bit. Were you joking here? | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 12:08 AM |
| 4 | What types of girls should you approach?I agree what OP is saying here. Yeah lower your standards if you wanna get the experience and know what works and what doesn't, but I think personally, at some point you don't need the experience anymore and have no time to be approaching women by lowering your standards. At that point, I'd wanna use that honed game to approach women I do find attractive. Even if she rejects me, I'd have enough confidence to know I'll do just as well with other women I find attractive and if she likes me back. | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 12:06 AM |
| 1 | What types of girls should you approach?I see your point here. If I start seeing every girl as someone I could potentially have a thing for, even if I'm not initially interested in them, I'm gonna end up overthinking the process and start approaching every girl I see which I don't even have the energy for. I've already done enough overthinking as it is and am trying to keep my process simple. My process is this, if I see a woman I like, I'll go talk to her. If she makes it easy for me or seems friendly, I'll talk to her. Hell if she c… | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 12:03 AM |
| 2 | What types of girls should you approach?I never said I found these women attractive. I'm saying I see women that I could approach but decided not to, I didn't say anything about being attracted to these women, I was just pointing that out because I had a similar feeling for when I did it back then for sport instead of actual interest I had in them. I think that bit needed to be cleared up here. | /r/seduction | 06/06/21 11:59 PM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter