And so it begins...

GrandYam_HomeRun · 2019-05-30T14:50:04+00:00

Closure is overrated. You think it will help but it doesn't - it's just a false narrative to pin your sorrows on. Your sorrow is your sorrow, saying goodbye won't change that.

Two things will help you move on faster - time and action. You can't control time so ignore that. Do not wallow, take action - any action, doesn't matter, just do things, even if they feel pointless. At the very least it will force your mind off her and maybe even open some doors that will crowd out her memory.

GigamusPrime · 2019-05-30T14:43:50+00:00

Godspeed to you good sir. It will be a journey, and it won’t be easy at times, but those are the best paths and the ones worth taking!

Bogey9119 · 2019-05-30T14:49:45+00:00

You are going to be fine. Same situation with me after 16 years of marriage. Ex wanted more a “life of fun and adventure” she called it. I gave her everything but it wasn’t enough.

First few months will be rough. I lost all my friends as well. I found this sub and started working on myself like so many before me. Down 50 pounds so far this year. Picked up a second job and am saving way more than I ever did while married.

You will go through the rage stage first. Then realize you are better off. You will make new friends, learn more about what makes you happy. So when you get that lonely feeling, just remember it will get better.

TexasMilitia · 2019-05-30T16:23:42+00:00

You dodged a bullet. You could sense something was off, and gave her verbal “permission” to move out. Which was what she’d been wanting to do for a while, I’d bet. Anyway, a life spent with someone who doesn’t love you is no life at all. Heartache will fade. The important thing to realize is the problem was with her, not you. Now the thing to do is focus on wholesome things that better yourself. Like get a dog. Figure out what you want out of the dog and spend the winter training it. Work out. Meditate. Take an online university class in something that interests you. Learn to smoke a pipe lol. Anything. The important thing is to train your brain to realize that your self worth is not dependent on the childish whims of women.

mgtowguy2 · 2019-05-30T14:54:48+00:00

Good luck to you.

My particular circumstances were different, of course, but when she finally left it was a relief actually.

Not easy but it didn't take long before I realized I was free and had a whole life open to me now. Anything is possible.

Hang in there. Lots of good things ahead for you.

CiceroVoltaire · 2019-05-30T14:56:32+00:00

It's difficult at first, look forward to your future, think about what you want for your life and future. Don't look back or dwell on the past, use the experience to make you wiser, stronger, and to motivate you forward.

You have the will, strength, resolve and capability within you. Connect to it, and move forward.

Non serviam

Domen81 · 2019-05-30T15:28:57+00:00

Women behavior is predictable, the same thing happened to a friend of mine.

MuleFool42 · 2019-05-30T15:15:01+00:00

Look at it as an opportunity. You're free. You start over. You do things your own way. If you have relationships, which we all need because we all have to have contact with others, make sure the relationships are on your terms only.

Do something for yourself that's fun and just focused on you. Make it a ritual signifying the end of the relationship and a new start, whether it's a long trip, or short. Or just some activity that you like that is just focused on you, your own wants, needs, ect...

Keep us updated on your experiences. All the best to you.

Dopeboy108 · 2019-05-30T15:21:01+00:00

You'l be ok brotha. Go treat yourself to something nice. A movie..a video game...a whore...whatever it is you fancy.

daddylonglegs72 · 2019-05-30T15:16:34+00:00

From 5600 miles away, I just gave you a hug.

You said it already, you are the price.

flow2high · 2019-05-30T18:47:17+00:00

Search for activities where you can fight and get wins from it (poker, chess, ...)

Learn about dopamine.

Depression is sometimes somewhat linked to nutritions intake, so I recommend to watch Vitamin D and non saturated fatty acids during winter.

SpasmaticPress · 2019-05-30T23:58:17+00:00

I'm not from that area, but if you ever need pals you got a shit ton in America! Also there should be a discord on the sidebar too, if not then I can pm you mine.

Domen81 · 2019-05-31T00:56:37+00:00

USA MGTOW here, some of the best hospitality I have received was when I visited your country (Lake Bled.)

You've got this.

RealBiggly · 2019-05-30T16:07:08+00:00

(((Domen81))) <- hug :)

GrisBosque · 2019-05-30T18:11:02+00:00

What a Lucky dog! You just havent got to the fun part yet!

When you look back and realize it sucked more than you knew at the time...

Winter? Snowshoes! or short hunter's skis! Nothing more invigorating than going on a day trip out into the snow, and back to a warm house...

realChebz · 2019-05-31T06:25:25+00:00

I didn't get a chance to say goodbye that's killing me.

Why? She wouldn't piss on you if you're on fire, yet you want to say goodbye? Be thankful she gtfod out of your place without drama and false assault accusations. It could have ended much worse. Oh and in case you're still thinking about this sappy goodbye shit, don't do it. She may go to cops or social media and fuck your life up.

Title	And so it begins...
Author	Domen81
Upvotes	53
Comments	48
Date	May 30, 2019 2:42 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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