This is very long so I understand if you don't read it.

After reading a few stories which have felt very similar I wanted to share mine. Hoping it would either save someone or help reaffirm the MGTOW beliefs like others have for me.

I'm 28. Redpilled for over a year now. Knew about MGTOW and understand it but I held to the belief I was married to a "unicorn".

I'll try to keep this brief and use bullet points where possible. - I wrote it out then had to cut more stuff to minimise.

I knew her from school and had mutual friends. We started dating when we were 20.

Red flags I ignored: - Our relationship started off the back of her previous relationship. - after our relationship started I drove past her coming from her exes at 7am - her excuse was she was picking some stuff up. - I had many nights out with her while she was her ex and she used to flirt/tease other guys. - Crazy family, 3 older sisters all in relationships. Toxic relationships filled with domestic violence on both sides. Including her parents. - No true friends (her main friend she ditched when we started dating because I'd had a fling with her previously - She never admitted this but she is a very jealous person.

Ignoring all them red flags we began what seemed the perfect relationship. We were the envy of our peers, great banter together.

We never had much money but my income gradually in

We saved for a deposit while living with my dad. Bought our first house 2 years into the relationship.

She convinced me to get a joint bank account and combine our incomes. Even though I earned more. For the rest of our relationship every transaction I made was questioned. It was humiliating.

I proposed after 4. That's when it started to turn.

Breaking my back to make her happy. To let her have the perfect day. It put strain on the relationship but I thought once the wedding is done we can get back to normal.

The wedding came and went. Then it was "let's have kids". Sex became about having kids.

The nagging, the belittling, the demands just kept coming.

By this point my confidence and self esteem was at an all time low.

Now for the end.....

So the beginning of this year. 7 year + relationship and 18 months into our marriage. I got a new jobs, very well paid from what I was used to. Even better with the constant supply of overtime.

We decided to sell the house and buy my dad's (My childhood home). We sold ours and moved in. Renting at first with the idea we will sort out the mortgage soon. This was in February.

In March she went on a work night out at a pub her cousin (a cousin she never knew previously) bought last year. She was organising it with the bar manager through text.

After that night it seemed there was always a reason to go to this pub on a weekend. Nights out with work and nights out with her sisters.

All while I was working non stop to try and provide a better life for us.

In April I found out she was randomly texting this bar manager. Her excuse was "it's my cousins pub I don't want to be rude"

I've never been a jealous guy. I just said ok but cool it off and then stop texting him.

In May she was at the pub on a Saturday night. I was working overtime at the weekend to pay for a holiday for our 2nd year anniversary and I was going to pick her up on the night. It came to 1am I text.... no reply. It came to 2am. I started to call. No answer. Then I get a text back 30 mins later. I was at the toilet....

Eventually she accepted being picked up even though she was saying she would get a taxi. I picked her up and she came to the door with the bar manager he unlocked and she came out and got in the car. Didn't look at me. I knew then and I blew my lid. "You think I'm getting a mortgage with you now???" Etc.

Being the beta cuck I was she cried and I accepted I might have got the wrong end of the stick.

Fast forward a few more suspicious occasions similar to that. And my "paranoia" is getting worse. She made me feel like I was crazy, she would change history and make me doubt myself. Deny she ever said something and act like I made it up. I couldn't look at her anymore.

I never stopped her going out as I said to her I don't want to be the husband who stops his wife from going out. And I don't regret that.

THANKFULLY, she was having problems conceiving. She had an operation. I may as well have wiped her ass after operation. She wanted for nothing and barely left the bed for 2 weeks, even though it was a minor operation.

Right I'm going to try and cut to the chase.

July: One day I kicked off because she wouldn't answer my phonecall. That night she said we need a break. I accepted and said if you come back at least I know you want to be with me. I still felt like it was all my fault I was driving her away with my jealousy and paranoia.

I'll add that 2 weeks before this she was trying to convince me to buy her a brand new 4x4. I almost did it then flipped along the lines of "You think I'm going to buy you a new car while you are living your new life without me?"

She left the Thursday night, doing her makeup at 10:30 pm to go to the shop before heading to her mams.... why did I believe that.

This was 2 weeks before our holiday to celebrate our 2nd year anniversary.

I was breaking down while working overtime at the weekend. Monday morning came and I was driving passed her mams on the way to work, i checked and her car wasn't there.

I decided enough was enough. I sought outside opinions.

I acted like I didn't know when talking to her.

I postponed her return till Friday(my payday). Friday morning I transferred all my pay out the joint bank account (I had worked alot of overtime and she had been off work due to the operation). It wasn't long before I got a phone call when she checked the bank. "Are you trying to be funny?"

Friday evening came and I confronted her while we went for a walk with the dogs to talk. She tried to deny it but eventually broke down in tears.

This is when my plan went to shit and the only part I regret. I asked her to stay. I said if you leave tonight that's it but if you stay we can make it work.

She left. The following days I had everything from "i think we will end up back together in a few years like the notebook" to "lets go on holiday and see how it goes".

I packed her stuff in bin bags and removed any sign of her existence from the house and told her to come collect her stuff.

Although i was clearly still in a beta attitude. I am thankful for my redpill knowledge for how I dealt with the trauma.

After she left I haven't contacted her once (She has intiated contact with me multiple times).

I act like I'm not bothered. She has even said to me "it's like you don't even miss me".

I have been left with our 2 dogs which at first I thought was a bad thing but quickly became grateful for having them. They kept me going.

I got all the friends in the breakup. And my social life has never been better.

I started to lift weights.

I started to go minimalist. Easier to keep a tidy house. I have got rid of so much crap.

I started to plan my meals better to maintain my health. I lost weight and I am currently following leangains getting ready for a bulk after new year.

I'm looking to change my living arrangements soon. Minimal living costs and help with the dogs by living with a retired family friend.

For the record I'm glad I didn't end it before I had concrete proof because this way I got the friends. Otherwise I may never have got rid of her from my life.

Here I am almost 5 months after the split and I'm doing well. I'm very lucky in that.... - we sold the house earlier this year - I have a company vehicle - didn't have kids - No savings - there is nothing to argue with in the divorce. It cost me £600

To add... Who did she leave me for? - 5 years older - has 2 kids to his ex - earns less than me - has alot more muscle than me - not as good looking as me face-wise - but I think he has his shit together more than me? Only ever met him once when he served me a pint.

I'll also add this point... she has not took responsibility for the break up. When I told her I was divorcing her for adultery she said "well you weren't exactly innocent". She couldn't tell me what that meant. I can only imagine what she is telling people to justify it.

My initial plan was to better myself then get back on the dating game.

I dabbled in dating apps for the first time in my life. That's some fucked up shit for guys.

Anyways I didn't decide to go full MGTOW till Saturday just gone. I followed a girl on Instagram I had met once a few weeks ago while out with mutual friends. She has a boyfriend of 2 years and she instantly messaged me asking me to come meet her while she was drunk.

When I met her she came across as a nice girl, she was a 6 at most.

I was shocked and decided to GMOW and here I am. I am optimistic for the future for the first time in a very long time.

Sorry for the long post. I wrote this on my phone so might be quite a few mistakes.