How can I help?

2QuietDude · 2017-09-06T22:35:54+00:00

Post it in relationships. That's where all the good advice is. Sorry I'm an uneducated, unemployed nobody that lives in a basement.

SamCasey98 · 2017-09-06T22:37:05+00:00

Go Away.

0x123d · 2017-09-06T22:42:50+00:00

Branch swing. You know you want to

Vishapstein · 2017-09-06T22:48:09+00:00

The truth is that your boyfriend will change when he wants to change. The more you pressure him to change, the less likely he will be to change, unfortunately. Does your boyfriend have any single guy friends? Does your boyfriend have any successful male role models in his life? If not, then there is your problem.

mrcandyman · 2017-09-06T22:51:33+00:00

Unfortunately men don't want to do something when they are being nagged to do something. We are incredibly productive when not being told to do something but you tell a man to do something over and over again and he sinks into a pit of laziness.

wildfireboat · 2017-09-06T22:50:54+00:00

Men are made. He's not making himself. You will not make him. Only he can.

SirTopKekington · 2017-09-06T23:42:17+00:00

The parasite must find a new host

s0ma_ · 2017-09-06T22:51:27+00:00

when you love something, you let it go...
for most women this makes no sense; why wait around?

you need to find suitable mate before genetics takes over...
in the long run, you need him more than he needs you.
but i get recouping your time lost, in the guise of "investments".

if youve read up on mgtow then you know the answer already.

techstyles · 2017-09-06T22:56:18+00:00

Are you saying you want him to go his own way as in you want rid of him or as in you want him to be more independent and assured? From context I'm getting the second one in which case it's actually a really difficult question... Usually the red pill cannot be explained - the rot is woven so deeply into the fabric of our society. It has to be somewhat scorched into your soul, it's not fun. In my experience most women "help" a man mgtow by, you know, tearing his beating heart out of his chest and holding it up in front of him? Not helpful I know but it is traditional.

aidenSkates · 2017-09-06T22:57:17+00:00

I see my man suffering financially...

Hmmm

NawaltTheNarwhal · 2017-09-07T00:17:25+00:00

Respect.

More than anything, a man wants to be respected. If you want to make this work, expect to put a lot of work into it. You're going to need a tremendous amount of patience; we're talking months, years, maybe you'll never see the changes you want to. If you're willing to invest in him, don't expect quick dividends. I recommend a book called Love & Respect. It's from a Christian perspective, but the meat of the book is real and practical advice. Don't read it and expect your man to change, don't even tell him you read it. Just implement. He'll notice. He'll need time to grow into the person who you want him to be, without being pushed.

probablybluepill · 2017-09-07T01:38:34+00:00

Go to /r/RedPillWomen

MGTOW will not give you the answers you're looking for.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2017-09-07T08:24:29+00:00

I'll take the bait and respond despite knowing better. Your husband should realize that he should be happy on his own. By taking this responsibility, you are carrying a responsibility that is not yours and never will be good for the both of you. The love of someone who doesn't love himself is a burden most people cannot carry and a burden that will create a lot of toxicity between people. So what can you do? Stimulate him to find help, to allow himself to help himself and that's it. It's not your job, nor your responsibility to make him happy, as happiness comes from within.. you cannot do it for him. Instead, talk about the change you see, ask where it comes from and how you can help him get over it.. Supportive means just that, to support.. you cannot carry him, he also doesn't want you to.. So you can talk to him, support him and stimulate him.. but he has to make the changes and he has to WANT to do so. And honestly.. if you really want to help him, do NOT nag and whine about this.. help him, support him, but do NOT berate him or nag at him.. this will achieve the opposite.

Kamtre · 2017-09-07T04:07:39+00:00

Good on you for not flipping on the hate haha. Unfortunately it's a thing on here. I'm not an mgtow but I do really like some ood the content here. I can respect you for doing what you're doing. But yeah this may not be the right place for this post.

Altrightisalright · 2017-09-07T04:35:25+00:00

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FridgeCape · 2017-09-07T14:12:11+00:00

NoFap seems to be regarded as BS on this sub, but as someone who's partaken in it for for over a year, I can say my confidence has definitely sky rocketed, and continues to. Maybe you need to pull the strings behind the scenes so he doesn't know what's going on.

For example, in regards to NoFap: There's this thing called Karezza (sp?) which is basically sex with no climax on either end. You could come up with some story that you want to bond with him more. That'll turn into sperm retention. You'd just want to convince him to not jack off. Research NoFap benefits and Karezza. I believe that could be a powerful start into turning your boy into a man.

Title	How can I help?
Author	Altrightisalright
Upvotes	3
Comments	34
Date	September 6, 2017 10:32 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/6yj1wa/how_can_i_help/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/how-can-i-help.558430 https://theredarchive.com/post/558430

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