How do I stop looking for female validation?

DarthZontag · 2017-11-01T21:04:17+00:00

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OneLostMotherfucker · 2017-11-01T21:06:26+00:00

was 275 lbs [..] I'm down to 160 lbs

Dude, you're fucking awesome. Own that shit!

RedFoxOnFire · 2017-11-01T21:04:26+00:00

Recognize the truth: There is no female validation.

Women will only want to be with you to validate themselves.

Bebop54321 · 2017-11-01T21:35:02+00:00

This happened to me. When you were a fatty (as I was) you didnt learn how to play the game, and you didnt develop the social skills you need to compete or even exist in this new social sphere youre in now that youre visible to them.

I cant really offer any advice, just focus on yourself

jrmyster7 · 2017-11-01T23:52:55+00:00

I grew up without a father too. Without a father figure, your self-esteem plummets. Work on that first. Tell yourself, you're awesome. Learn a skill. Be humble. Say no when you want to. Take care of yourself before others. Forget what others think.

You'll be OK.

Xlasingx · 2017-11-01T21:17:22+00:00

look into your relationship with your own mother..

..this is where the core lies..

throwaway152038 · 2017-11-01T22:57:29+00:00

Incrase dosage of red pills.

Frongth · 2017-11-01T21:37:45+00:00

If you don't reciprocate moment-by-moment with a woman's feelings then you're 'scum / vile / weird / nuts / bastard / asshole.'

If you cannot 2nd guess when not to reciprocate you're 'gay / loser / weird / annoying / creep / stalker.'

If you have charisma (Chad / Alpha) or money (Alpha) then none of those labels apply and you do whatever you want.

Up to you if you want to play the game or walk away.

davebrain · 2017-11-01T21:22:50+00:00

Just read all the posts on here. Then if you still want female validation youre a sadomasichist.

That1BrownGuy · 2017-11-01T21:30:15+00:00

Take more red pills. The more you realize the true reality of female nature, the less you want their validation.

FlamingAmmosexual · 2017-11-02T00:35:13+00:00

Where were these bitches when you were fat? Exactly. They weren't there to help you push yourself. They weren't there through that rough times to change yourself for the better. They weren't there at the beginning. They just want to enjoy the end product.

This is no different than if you were still fat, won the lottery, and these same women were sniffing around. You don't want validation from shallow, gold-digging whores because they bring nothing of value.

NotMyWomen · 2017-11-02T01:21:59+00:00

It’s just wanting to have sex dude.

Anything negative you feel around them is based upon sexual tension.

Hire a prostitute, or jerk off to porn, and ask yourself what you're thinking after.

It's a fun little experiment: anytime you think you want to buy some female you know is a whore something, go home, rub one out, and ask yourself again if you want to buy something/do something.

You’ll see what I mean.

Watch out for that bullshit; same thing happened to me. Before high school I was morbidly obese, severe acne (I went on accutane) lost a ton of weight, and all of the sudden everybody’s a friend.

It works both ways: if you get a pimple or gain 30 lbs, you’ll see how quick they don’t recognize you anymore.

Understand everything you “feeeeeelz” from an objective, rational point of view.

It’ll start to make sense.

Watch out: all they do is pass diseases, accidental pregnancies, and false allegations.

All that becomes of that is dream derailment.

You can make a lot of money, you can do whatever you damn well please, whatever makes you happy.

But you need to be smart, and you need to want it bad enough.

2017-11-01T23:00:44+00:00

Work on yourself, set goals and achieve them. Each one you achieve will give you confidence and validation within yourself. Look inwards not outwards to explore who you are...good luck.

letsriseup · 2017-11-02T09:45:40+00:00

Step by step

First, travel abroad to find out how Western women are utter shit these days.

Next, be with foreign women to realize AWALT. But at least they still realize looks are their primary asset and attempt to look good and offer something. Monk mode in the West should be easy at this point.

After finding foreign women to be even more naggy and manipulative, going monk becomes more and more appealing.

This is how you easily stop giving a shit about female validation.

fuu999 · 2017-11-02T11:49:59+00:00

crazy how normal guys get approached, i have never been approached in my whole fucking life

I speak for myself, but when you fuck a girl you had to "work" hard to get to her pussy, you get the same validation as the end of a month when you get paid for your job. I guess only chads get the validation you are looking for

owninfools007 · 2017-11-02T20:46:59+00:00

Getting attention is such a new thing to you that getting shot down or mixed emotions from women is killer. It sounds like your still into getting chicks even though you say you want to focus on school, and that’s fine. But you have to make up your mind: pay attention to chicks or focus on the future. You can do both but you’ll have to open up. I’m 25 and have rejected broads whether they pay attention to me or not.

How do I stop looking for female validation?

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Title	How do I stop looking for female validation?
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Date	November 1, 2017 9:00 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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