Letting go

DangZagnut · 2019-04-16T13:21:51+00:00

The point is if I'm the prize why should I have to put in the effort?

You shouldn't. If they don't come to you, ignore them.

It seems women are the only gender that gets to have their cake and eat it too.

Most of them end up failing miserably. They get their "cake" and eat it for about 10 years. Unfortunately the average life span is many decades longer than that.

I want to go mgtow but can't let go of the desire to have sex.

So fuck if you want to. I did. Didn't make me commit to shit. Fuck all you want if monk mode isn't for you. Never commit. It.s just a wet hole you masturbate into. No more no less.

Needing tips on how to let go so I can focus even more on what is important to me

Value yourself and your life and existence on Earth more than a wet hole you masturbate into.

swankvagabond · 2019-04-16T12:25:45+00:00

Pay escorts to fuck or beat the meat as long as you don't get married, cohabitate or have children.

DerdyG · 2019-04-16T12:26:38+00:00

Hobbies man, just keep yourself busy preferably with things that would improve your life in the future. You can also take your daily dose of redpills to keep you from falling back into the plantation.

Paladin2903 · 2019-04-16T13:21:37+00:00

Porn and masturbate. Honestly. That’s it. Pay a hooker here and there if you need the real thing. You won’t have to run any game, and it’s a simple and easy transaction. You’ll take complete control of your life back from females.

FanofLemmy · 2019-04-16T13:31:42+00:00

Have sex if you want to. Going your own way isn’t about doing what anyone else wants you to. Focus on your mma career and your degree and do and act how you want to. The real way to get women to “love you”, treat them like you would anyone else. Don’t be nice just because they are women.

Keep working out, keep stockpiling money, do what you want and you will be more fulfilled and more happy than if you are a PUA and slay. If you want to have sex with women go for it, but make sure you get tested regularly, wear and bring your own condoms as well as dispose of them yourself, never give the women your real name or address/place of work, never leave any marks on them and take pictures of videos if you can as evidence you did nothing. Best case is a video of her thanking you for fucking or telling you she is really glad you fucked her.

Definitely don’t chase women. That will cause you to stumble. Write a list of your goals and what you want to accomplish. A power list of 5 things you want to accomplish each day is a good way to keep yourself in line, and you only “win the day” when all 5 things on the list are checked off. They can be anything you want.

An example of mine would be

Wake up an hour earlier Train hard for bodybuilding Eat 7 meals Play bass for 1 hour Spend quality time with my brother

Once those are done, I feel great. I feel accomplished and it’s something I work towards because the next day will have goals too.

If you find your sex drive is getting difficult to control, try going “off the grid”. Log out of all social media, delete all the apps off your phone for a day and see how much more relaxed you are. You can also try not watching tv or using electronics. Society is filled with sex and sexual imagery to make men thirsty, but scold and berate us for expressing the desire to have sex with beautiful women, and only beautiful women.

That has worked for me before. I would go weeks at a time without Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. I still have them but hardly use them save for hobbies and memes that I follow.

Another tip is “the clarity wank”. Anytime you have to make a decision about a female, jerk it and see what your decision is afterwards. I bet you she won’t matter.

Good luck!

MuleFool42 · 2019-04-16T14:36:23+00:00

Some MGTOW are monks but a lot have sex with women. That's technically not a requirement to be MGTOW. Just don't marry them, live with them, adopt their kids, or agree to pay for/adopt another dude's kid.

Just have relationships on your terms only, if you want to.

ZeroBlink · 2019-04-16T12:35:14+00:00

I've watched Antony Joshua talk about relationships once and he's also like "you know to get somewhere you have to eliminate the distractions".

wank and move on

Chad_Thunderfist · 2019-04-16T13:19:50+00:00

In my experience, as a (recently) sexually-frustrated dude, what you're missing is that "inner peace". That peace of mind that lets you float above that baseline desire for sex.

The only way I've learned that you can "get over" (hate using that term) it, is by following what the others have said below: focus on you, hobbies, and what you're passionate about.

I'll use myself as an example: I got hung up on getting laid (and frustrated to the point of almost-suicide) for YEARS, before I finally sought help. And when I began talking with people about it, it finally dawned on me: do what makes me happy is what actually REDUCES the sexual drive. This was eye-opening, because I actually thought the opposite would happen.

Basically man, if you begin to focus on hobbies, and stay focused with your eyes on whatever prize, you'll start to see that that sex drive will dip, too

insanityOS · 2019-04-16T15:09:20+00:00

Given your aspirations, you're probably pretty high-T, and unfortunately libido goes with the territory. Easiest solution is to beat the meat. I'd personally recommend that you limit how often you do so, because it tends to form a positive feedback loop (i.e. the more you beat, the more quickly libido returns). Basically, find a balance point that works for you.

More advanced libido control includes meditation and medication (go to a doctor about this).

SudoPatriot · 2019-04-16T19:38:02+00:00

As a Muay Thai fighter, I can advocate the need to cut women loose. Its important to keep a strong mental game while fighting.

Remember, sex is really just a dopamine release that you will easily get as a fighter, in fact, you'll get a much more high from fighting than any sex could bring. Of course its still fun to talk about girls with the homies that just natural. Never chase, never feed egos, and never give girls an inch to go off of. Once you cut the need for intimacy, you're a true free man.

Plus, its just way more fun being at the gym hitting pads, sparring, and bantering with your teamates and friends.

DWS33_ · 2019-04-16T19:43:30+00:00

i’m mgtow and still fuck?? and i’m tryna be a mma fighter too. just got my third stripe on my white belt. once i get to blue ima start getting ready for amateurs

shatterthecrystal63 · 2019-04-17T01:13:09+00:00

They're making dolls look more lifelike.

That red head sex doll I've seen in a meme on this site... I won't lie, I like. Not to mention I can just chain-- I mean stow, it away in the closet upon finishing my business.

No financial burden and I won't become an emotional tampon. Might be worth looking into.

Title	Letting go
Author	Splitdiscs
Upvotes	30
Comments	21
Date	April 16, 2019 11:07 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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