I've been frequenting this sub for a few months now. In my opinion, this subreddit is dealing with an issue which stands in the way of actively helping out the men coming here.

First of all: the sub's intention is good. It's great to have a place where that nagging feeling in the back of your head is confirmed. You know, the feeling today's society is becoming more and more feminine, that the idea that men should just swallow whatever comes their way may not be healthy. So I'm glad that this sub exists.

For the newcomers, this sub is fantastic. You see a plethora of posts confirming what you thought and more posts showing why you just may have a valid point. Examples and stories of other men, danger stories etc - all good to get new guys to realize that women aren't the only thing in life.

There are also a lot of posts that show women acting crazy, going way too far and doing things that are just not acceptable. That's fine. The problem arises when half of the posts in this sub are about that.

That's my main issue with this sub: its focus is still very much on women. Whether you call it love, hate, desire to have or desire not to have - it's all focus. All those things still revolve around women. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. The opposite of 'desiring to have' is not 'not desiring to have', since you still desire something - it's letting go.

Hating women is a good way to start victimizing yourself. Then you're no better than those ultra-feminists. You want to be free? Go your own way? Stop focusing on women. Don't desire to have them, fuck them - whatever. Also don't hate them, blame them. Just let it all go. Find your own way in life, just like what MGTOW stands for.

I went 'MGTOW', so to speak, because I discovered that women are not worth the hassle. There are other things out there for me. I no longer look at women the same way I used to. My focus is no longer on women, but on me. I have a few creative and active hobbies to which I devote all my time.

Re-focusing was the biggest change in my life I've ever done. My entire life was always about women, getting pussy, what would they think of me etc - you've all been there. I'm much more content now, less drama, less talking, less nagging. More peace.

There are almost no posts about how to deal with MGTOW issues. Loneliness, finances, friends, female invaders - there's so much we guys need to talk about, and most of you focus on hating & blaming. I feel your pain. I've been mistreated by women as well, I've craved for the pussy and I've wept over insignificant drama.

So, I don't blame you. I'm glad you feel something's wrong. But don't stay in that negative zone. There's so much shit to do, and once you start to focus on your own life, you'll notice you'll feel more serene and peaceful. It's a rough ride, though, so let's help each other out, like brothers.