OPINION REQUESTED: I recently found out that I woman I was seeing has been cheating and basically lying during our entire relationship.

DangZagnut · 2018-12-06T01:18:24+00:00

Be an adult. Quietly ghost, escape, etc. remember, she is a born liar and doesn't respect you at all. Change passwords and pin codes on anything. Stage yourself to be damage proof. Ghost and disappear. Now would be an excellent time to say you got a new job in Swaziland.

uh_huh_ya_dont_say · 2018-12-06T01:28:38+00:00

Quietly walk away is perfect.

GlobalAsshat · 2018-12-06T01:18:50+00:00

Act like a beta simp, start talking about your feelings and insecurities, how you can't handle life and don't like to trave, and she'll leave voluntarily.

Docbear64 · 2018-12-06T02:43:35+00:00

Your freedom and happiness will upset her more than any vindictive shit you try.

Also you don't want to enter a vindictive match with a woman, her bottom is much lower than you could imagine

adrocknola · 2018-12-06T01:18:33+00:00

You can be civil. But there are dealbreakers. This may not be the last time. Best to end it now before experiencing one or more times further down the road. She is clearly not on the same page as you.

DIG_ROOKIE_DIG · 2018-12-06T01:31:25+00:00

As much as you think it might be satisfying to go nuclear (and it probably would be, for about five minutes), that's absolutely not the thing to do.

Not only is that a childish device of women, and makes you look the same, but you need to realize that if she's been cheating and lying to you (which are one in the same, really), she has already effectively said that she cannot be trusted.

You need to realize that our current social climate is geared very much in favor of women, in everything. If you make any sort of perceived slight towards her, she could destroy you legally and socially.

Pretty much any relationship that ends over a cheating women, will go on to become a string of accusations that you are an abusive, shitty person, who was controlling and full of neglect. You'll be made out as a monster, to cover her infidelity and shitty behavior. How many women have you heard talk about their ex's in this way? It's so common it's ridiculous. Apparently every woman who has ever had an ex, all dated psychopaths who were abusive, controlling, and neglectful. If that were true, we couldn't go out into public without being assaulted from all of these crazies that seemingly exist.

The best thing to do, as another dude said in here, is to quietly ghost her. Give HER a reason to leave YOU. Or at minimum, make it out like it's some other reason.

But before you do, slowly and quietly remove any of your money or assets from the situation, either keep them in cash, or give them to someone you can trust until the storm passes, and then make your escape.

It might feel good to go ballistic and burn the whole thing down, but the very second you do that, she's going to be on the defensive. She'll be out to ruin your life, in hopes that your reputation will be so damaged nobody will listen to anything you say. Because she doesn't want anyone to know what she's up to. Women truly are willing to completely and utterly destroy someone, simply to conceal their shitty decisions. They have to maintain the image, at any cost.

Once you've made your escape, if you can do it quietly, just be happy with that. Many, many men end up ruined after a relationship goes sour over cheating. Some even end up in prison.

If she doesn't like the fact that you caught her in her lies and infidelity, she'll likely make accusations. Some have even been caught giving themselves bruises in order to frame you for domestic violence.

It's so astonishingly common now, that any dude out there should just assume it is standard operating protocol for them. It may not necessarily happen, but you might as well expect it. It comes from the ones you least expect it from.

They'll change in about 0.003 seconds from someone you didn't think you would ever get falsely accused of, to a fucking dumpster fire.

So put your pride to the side for now. The only thing that matters is getting out safely and with your life still intact. She'll eventually spiral down into her own misery, which is good enough.

Then, learn from this experience and realize that it's just the way society is now.

2018-12-06T01:18:04+00:00

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[deleted] · 2018-12-06T01:35:37+00:00

TL;DR: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Ghost her. Forget her. She never existed. Obliterate her from your memory. Block her from social media, phone, emails etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sqz5dbs5zmo In the event you cross path, she doesn't exist. If she tries to talk to you, you don't know her.

BadassGT-CS · 2018-12-06T04:17:29+00:00

Just say fuck it and drive on.

Texian_Fusilier · 2018-12-06T06:05:08+00:00

Cut away and dont look back

Bestoftherest222 · 2018-12-06T06:21:07+00:00

OP take it from the many men on this board, ghost her and let her move on. Getting petty and shit only ends with her getting more petty. In a game of who can fuck the other person more, the female wins because she can call cops and make false claims.

Ghosting her is not only a great way to not enter into a fight with her, but it also insulates you from the wave of bullshit she may throw at you.

Remember OP women are masterful emotional fighters and capable of screwing you over. If you don't ghost her you enter her battleground, where she has every advantage. Ghost her and you never enter her arena, easy win.

I have told countless friends, you (my friends) are 185 pound dad bodes. When you fight with a female in her arena she is mike Tyson, don't fight Mike. Just walk away and Mike can't do a thing.

burner9716354783 · 2018-12-06T14:07:30+00:00

I was in a similar situation a couple years ago. Having made the mistake of responding with fire, I can say it gets you nothing but more problems. Be the better person. Anything you do to get revenge can be construed against you, especially in a courtroom. Don't ever put yourself in a position of weakness by letting your emotions guide your thinking. Make yourself better. If you aren't fit, work on getting fit. Put the time and money you wasted on a woman into your own hobbies. There's nothing more satisfying than being successful years after something like this and seeing the person who wronged you as a post-wall single mom while you enjoy the fruits of a life you build as you GYOW.

TL;DR make yourself better in body, mind, and wallet and let your success do the slapping down. As Frank Sinatra said "The best revenge is massive success."

AliceGaveMeTheHerp · 2018-12-06T15:46:33+00:00

Just be an adult about it, end things quietly and leave.

Puddles503 · 2018-12-06T01:35:40+00:00

If you're up for it go completely ghost....cut off every mode of conduct abruptly and permenantly after saying anything you want to. That's option A and probably most dignified.

If you'll be tempted to take her back...do something to offend her enough she won't talk to you again and you won't be able to patch it up. Fuck her rival or sister. Savage but better than giving her a second chance.

I'm a girl but my two cents.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-12-06T01:49:23+00:00

Tell her what you know, with evidence. Tell her it is an absolute deal breaker. Then wish her well, and walk out. Ghost protocol.

AWALT.

2018-12-06T02:19:59+00:00

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sitk65 · 2018-12-06T02:49:43+00:00

Ghost

suhmydudessssss · 2018-12-06T08:51:01+00:00

just leave her for Christ's sake

Title	OPINION REQUESTED: I recently found out that I woman I was seeing has been cheating and basically lying during our entire relationship.
Author	TrashyMillennial
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Comments	24
Date	December 6, 2018 1:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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