I concur. I made the mistake with past girlfriends to share my suffering at the moment. I was a blue pilled idiot thinking women actually gave a shit about me. The truth is women don't. It's a power play. When a woman talks about wanting her man to share, she's manipulating him so she can further control him. The biggest lie that all women will say they want their man to share so they can feel connected. The moment a man does share, no matter how minute the issue, the woman loses attraction for him. Cunts will always be cunts. Stay single.
Exactly this. In my last relationship the following literally happened:
Two weeks prior: I am desperately job searching for a new job as my current one is running out. She knows this, but has a million of her own comparatively minor problems and talks about them nonstop. Trying to be dutiful and proud, I spend our time together listening to her worries and trying to help her out. I downplay my own situations because A) she has her own stuff going on and B) I'm trying not to make too big a deal of my panic.
Wednesday: Girlfriend is distant and weird. Doesn't respond to texts. After continually asking HER what's wrong, she tells me she's worried that I "am not worried about not finding a job" and is starting to think that we are on "different pages" about responsibility. I finally confide in her that, yes, I've been very worried for a long time and have been panicking. I tell her I've been trying not to make a big deal about it, but am worried and am a bit strapped for cash, so I am spending all my time looking. She tells me that "she just wants to be there for me the way I'm there for her." And that she is happy to know I'm thinking about it. She's proud of me, she says, and I shouldn't be afraid to share with her.
Friday: In order to, you know, share with her, I text her an update on a job I'm waiting to hear back from. The "support" she wanted to give me 48 hours prior consists of a three word text two hours later. She later ignores our plan for the night. The next day she texts me that, because I shared I'm looking for jobs and frustrated, "she's worried I might be doing it just to please her. And now she doesn't believe I actually want to find work. Also, she's 'worried' that my bank account might be low and doesn't want to "make me" do things with her if it'll be hard for me."
Goes silent. Breaks up with me a week later. This is not some casual girl. It was an LTR with a girl I had been best friends with for years. But once she saw I was weak/unsuccessful/worried/uncertain, it was over. It's like she actually had a moment of aspiring to be compassionate and supportive, but her need to feel comforted and protected won out within days.
That's brutal. That's how a woman sees a man. Just a utility. Nothing more. At least you are free of her. Image how much worse your life would have been if you had married her. Stay single.
Do we suffer in silence, though? I find stoicism & solace aren't mutually exclusive. Maybe men find histrionics, or whining, or mewing about problems generally exasperates the situation? Experience has taught me that moaning on and on about an issue, rather than approaching it like a problem that requires logic and problem solving is useless.
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I concur. I made the mistake with past girlfriends to share my suffering at the moment. I was a blue pilled idiot thinking women actually gave a shit about me. The truth is women don't. It's a power play. When a woman talks about wanting her man to share, she's manipulating him so she can further control him.
The biggest lie that all women will say they want their man to share so they can feel connected. The moment a man does share, no matter how minute the issue, the woman loses attraction for him. Cunts will always be cunts. Stay single.
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Exactly this. In my last relationship the following literally happened:
Two weeks prior: I am desperately job searching for a new job as my current one is running out. She knows this, but has a million of her own comparatively minor problems and talks about them nonstop. Trying to be dutiful and proud, I spend our time together listening to her worries and trying to help her out. I downplay my own situations because A) she has her own stuff going on and B) I'm trying not to make too big a deal of my panic.
Wednesday: Girlfriend is distant and weird. Doesn't respond to texts. After continually asking HER what's wrong, she tells me she's worried that I "am not worried about not finding a job" and is starting to think that we are on "different pages" about responsibility. I finally confide in her that, yes, I've been very worried for a long time and have been panicking. I tell her I've been trying not to make a big deal about it, but am worried and am a bit strapped for cash, so I am spending all my time looking. She tells me that "she just wants to be there for me the way I'm there for her." And that she is happy to know I'm thinking about it. She's proud of me, she says, and I shouldn't be afraid to share with her.
Friday: In order to, you know, share with her, I text her an update on a job I'm waiting to hear back from. The "support" she wanted to give me 48 hours prior consists of a three word text two hours later. She later ignores our plan for the night. The next day she texts me that, because I shared I'm looking for jobs and frustrated, "she's worried I might be doing it just to please her. And now she doesn't believe I actually want to find work. Also, she's 'worried' that my bank account might be low and doesn't want to "make me" do things with her if it'll be hard for me."
Goes silent. Breaks up with me a week later. This is not some casual girl. It was an LTR with a girl I had been best friends with for years. But once she saw I was weak/unsuccessful/worried/uncertain, it was over. It's like she actually had a moment of aspiring to be compassionate and supportive, but her need to feel comforted and protected won out within days.
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That's brutal. That's how a woman sees a man. Just a utility. Nothing more. At least you are free of her. Image how much worse your life would have been if you had married her. Stay single.
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Do we suffer in silence, though? I find stoicism & solace aren't mutually exclusive. Maybe men find histrionics, or whining, or mewing about problems generally exasperates the situation? Experience has taught me that moaning on and on about an issue, rather than approaching it like a problem that requires logic and problem solving is useless.
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