Should I be looking for a relationship?

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-02-11T10:40:00+00:00

First of all, I am glad to see that you are finally out of your redpill rage phrase (probably never entered it) and entering acceptance. Glad to see that.

All our lives, we were told that women were beautiful angel unicorn goddesses that shit rainbows and you should consider yourself lucky that one of them would deign to give you their attention. See how absurd it sounds? Yeah, a shitty lie that we once believed.

Now you've finally discovered that women are mostly manipulative beings with societal "speshul" privileges that play the victim card whenever they can.

Eventually you'll realize (you already started to realise) that women are just people - no more, no less. You don't need to put them on a pedestal, you are better off without them. They can be an addition to your life, but not anymore when the risk is too high.

Let me know if I am wrong, but something tells me you don't really respect yourself. I don't mean that harshly, you need to better understand your strengths and weaknesses. What's in your control, and what are the things you can never change. Female nature is something no one can control (they themselves are unable to control it), what you can control is your biological and phychological self. Always remember that.

The fact that you are asking whether you need a woman or not, it shows that you are having a hard time breaking out from the programming because of these people who are forcing you. I understand, I am going through the same thing. My family and friends are also doing the same. Dont worry, just focus on yourself.

Look, you're 20 years old (just 2 years older than me). It's not too late to take a step into improving yourself and your mindset so that no one can force such thoughts in you. I don't think approaching women is a good idea for you right now. You need to take a hard look in the mirror and realize that you need to take ownership of who you are. Stop trying to make whether you want a woman or not, and start making it about yourself, its about YOU, not anyone else. Develop an abundance mentality in you, along with an IDGAF attitude. Always stay within your frame and dont let anyone exploit your frame by telling you what to do. Take some hobbies, try out some things you've been interested in but haven't gotten to do.

First thing I would do is make a list of things you want to do, things you can do alone, that can add massive value and satisfaction in your life. Then do one of those things each week. You'll find somethings aren't what you like, or you may find something you are passionate about. Try to find a purpose, and don't make that purpose women.

Women are not evil parasites or something, friend. They're people, just like us, does not matter how much you deny it. They're controlled by contradictory impulses, by primitive impulses hard-coded on her brain. As men, we have come to be more rational, More Human than Animal. Girls are uncontrollable humans who dont have any control over their nature. I'd say they're in fact way smarter than us in terms of manipulating (why do you think they are masters of manipulation?) but their instincts get the best of them. They say it themselves "I'm a mess and i don't understand myself". As a result, guys always suffer.

They can't help it, mate. They're simply born that way. Through the efforts of Ovidius, Tomassi and the mgtow/redpill community we've come to understand that we can't change them, but we can change the way we act in order to avoid them. In order to avoid pain and instead obtain gain.

I will recommend 48 laws of power, this book is good enough to get you started about things. Also try the rational male by Rollo Tomassi. Always remember, do not develop oneitis inside you.

Here are some laws from the 48 that I think you should closely consider (from the book The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, its a very good book, and I highly recommend it to anyone)

Offensive laws:

Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument.

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: ignoring them is the best revenge. (On the subject of people telling you "you need a woman")

Defensive laws:

Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies. (Don't confuse who you're dealing with here, relationships are not harmonious, they are battles.)

Law 3: Conceal your intentions. (Do not openly admit anything about mgtow/redpill to anybody)

Law 4: Always say less than necessary.

Law 5: So much depends on reputation - guard it with your life.

Law 19: Know who you're dealing with - do not offend the wrong person. (Be careful, AWALT)

Law 20: Do not commit to anyone.

Deceptive Laws:

Law 6: Create an air of mystery.

Conclusion : Yes, You are better off on your own.

DogMuh · 2019-02-11T10:35:42+00:00

If they come to you, without you asking, and tell you that, then they are trying to control you and live their lives through you. Also, if someone is happy as they are, how ridiculous is it for me to come and tell them what they "need"? But don't blame them because they're messed up in the head too

moxjet66 · 2019-02-11T14:39:23+00:00

I am old, 52, and let me tell you something. You have the rest of your life to deal with women's games and their bullshit. At your age? women should be nothing but pump and dumps. If that. Pussy is always available. Concentrate on YOU.

Get your shit together, put your energy into YOU. Then, in your 30's you call pull all the young hot pussy you can handle.

Banner248 · 2019-02-11T10:42:51+00:00

Pump & Dump my friend. Pump & Dump ^{with a condom always.}

DT1726 · 2019-02-11T11:54:11+00:00

Still no, you manage to get so far because you have no girlfriend. Don't listen to anyone and keep with what you are doing. Always remind yourself that women and relationship are attention sink, only you can make yourself successful and happy, no women can.

Fubar08gamer · 2019-02-11T10:37:43+00:00

You, like many others, discovered what going through life alone entails. You established this mindset before you happened upon the material that preaches what you already know.

You already know the answer and you don't need anymore validation than the internal validation you haven't quite acknowledged.

Edit: Upon rereading, this comes off a bit condescending. That was not my intent.

ForNowICanSee · 2019-02-11T11:42:10+00:00

Relationships are great...until she betrays you. It always happens. It’s just a matter of when.

funknaught · 2019-02-11T19:26:31+00:00

I was married at age 21. Dont even think about being as stupid as I was.

Itiswrittenkjv1611 · 2019-02-11T13:50:27+00:00

It's because the average person has no purpose or direction in life but to get a job, get married and have kids.

Astral-Projector · 2019-02-11T15:11:43+00:00

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”

― Lao Tzu

[deleted] · 2019-02-11T15:11:53+00:00

“It has been a fruitful year” there’s the answer to your question bro. Say goodbye to all the time for growth you’ve had once you enter a relationship that will give you nothing. Stay MGTOW.

rooster-one4 · 2019-02-11T15:39:50+00:00

Your first serious relationship should be with yourself; pay attention to you, listen to what you say, figure things out. Make this a long term relationship.

You'll need that understanding of yourself if you ever consider a real relationship with a woman; she's banking on you being an untrained guy looking for female validation, and if you've already learned to validate yourself through you and your accomplishments, you'll weed out a significant amount of cum-dumpster trash out there automatically.

Older_Miggy · 2019-02-11T17:08:04+00:00

No.

CastandRefused · 2019-02-11T17:10:19+00:00

You're too young to be in a relationship. You'll see everyone around you making the mistake of having gfs, getting tied down, knocking them up, etc. BIG MISTAKE. You're so young and haven't gotten your life together yet. Focus on you. Bang if you want, date, but don't get into anything serious. Accomplish what you want to first, you'll see it will be much better for you.

nigelh · 2019-02-11T19:07:04+00:00

Your life is obviously good and you are enjoying it.
Well done.
Change nothing.

padpump · 2019-02-11T20:15:31+00:00

Ask yourself: And then?

Title	Should I be looking for a relationship?
Author	uptonogoodarewe
Upvotes	24
Comments	23
Date	February 11, 2019 10:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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