I think women avoid STEM careers because they know they won't get enough attention and validation.

I work in software/tech and it's a mostly thankless job, nobody knows that you exist, and most times it's the Managers that get all the credit when something is delivered.

STEM is thankless.

You solve the world's problems, people benefit enmass from your work, and nobody notices that you did anything.

Planes fly, trains run, cellphone towers work... but do they ever thank you?

Noooo, they just expect everything to be there.

But the minute something isn't working, guess who receives all the bitching, late nights and weekends, and rushed deadlines?

Considering how much attention and validation the average woman requires to not have a mental breakdown where she drowns the kids in the bathtub, I get it... STEM is not a field for people that require constant external validation and praise.