Any advice?

DangZagnut · 2020-09-06T07:35:00+00:00

You probably are unhappy with yourself and mask it with "needing" relationships.

If you can't enjoy yourself, and enjoy solitude, you'll always need women as an emotional crutch.

Because you don't need them, you just want them.

If you feel you'll die without a female person telling you what you want to hear, do that, but you'll still have the same underlying problems and it will never go away, in fact, if you were feeling suicidal before, you'll most likely feel it again.

That's the problems with masking issues with food, alcohol, drugs, women, sex, whatever.

You're trying to fill a hole with the wrong stuff.

cleats4u · 2020-09-06T12:46:17+00:00

2 years since your divorce is not enough time to process the 12 years you were together. Women can move on fast. They dump a man in their mind 2 years before they hit the eject button, and still have sex with him (tell him they love him) while plotting his demise. Lol. That is their nature and no reason to hate them. All their companionship is temporary unless they are old and can't find better than you in the form of looks and/or a wallet (that is all you are). Love is the bull shit you are sold to reproduce slaves for the oligarchs and pay for it. It doesn't exist but in vary rare occasions. Like a needle in a hay stack or hitting the lotto. Having this knowledge, should make you happy as fuck. Today I have no problem going on exotic cruises, going to Thailand for sexcapades etc. I'm old enough to know that no relationship is ever going to last. But today I'm in charge of how long it lasts not them and it's not going to be long...if ever. Lol.

RedPilledWorld · 2020-09-06T08:36:48+00:00

I wish there was a surgical procedure to remove part of our brain that focuses on romance. That way, we won't feel that biological urge to need female companionship any longer.

VestigialHead · 2020-09-06T09:28:16+00:00

I do not agree that men are hardwired to need female companionship. We are genetically wired to want to spread out seed widely. This was a survival of the species trait. Getting as many females pregnant ensured that your genetics carried on.

But there was no survivability benefit from female companionship. In fact there could be an argument for the opposite. Men die younger when they are driven to work harder and protect a women and a family.

rabmcm32 · 2020-09-06T14:36:04+00:00

I’m going to say also read Tomassi s book, “the rational male”, even if you’re more swayed to MGTOW than TRP. You’re the catch, and if you don’t believe it , possibly due to the feminist nature of our upbringings , look inside yourself with acceptance and soberly about what motivates you and what you can achieve, put it into action and you will begin to believe it. Action and belief are symbiotic.

koshchei · 2020-09-06T16:07:49+00:00

I too have not had a lot of success with dating since my divorce more than 6 months ago. I had a girlfriend for a while that I met online but she was just a gold digger and I was basically just in it for the regular sex. I find that it’s harder to date women in feminist western countries like the US. Expectations of older attractive women are way too high and younger women mostly won’t give you the time of day.

However it’s a completely different story in places like South America and South East Asia. Those women are much more feminine and it’s common in their culture for younger attractive women to date older men who have their shit together.

I’m going to test out living abroad in Colombia when the travel restrictions ease up because of the low cost of living and the abundance of women that love westerners. I’m not looking to get married again by any means but I think I’ll have much better odds at finding semi casual companionship on the regular.

RangoDj · 2020-09-06T09:06:29+00:00

Females won't solve your problem, trust me. If I were you I would never sit alone and idle. These are unnecessary thoughts and you don't have to manage it. If you have a job at hand, food to eat and shelter to live you are in much better shape. All you need is fill up your timeslots with lot of work so that you don't have any time left for unnecessary thoughts.

Male friends could be your best companion. I came from a place where we don't get to do sex until we are married. Still here I am without an urge of having a girl and trying to make way to the top in my career, failing multiple times but still trying. Who has time for a girl. It's just a waste of time, energy and money and I think we all have shortage of these. Channelize it for yourself and your kids betterment.

Jake4523 · 2020-09-06T15:51:45+00:00

Why spend your hard earned money on sites, and dating places that aren't doing their job? Why not go buy a motorcycle and go on an adventure? Why not buy a plane ticket to another country and go and explore? Why not invest that money?

Robert_is_a_Loser · 2020-09-07T13:01:18+00:00

My advice would be to realize you are more than your marriage. Happiness comes from within and different things make different people happy. I would say find out more about yourself by delving into personality theory like MBTI, Enneagram, etc. That's what I did personally.

The dating apps ain't gonna help you (from what i have heard) I think having hobbies, friends, etc. will help fill the void. The problem is many married men don't have an identity outside of being a husband or being a father so without those they feel lost. I believe that is one of the reasons male suicide rates are on the rise: https://youtu.be/t1Y_xI1FB-c

Title	Any advice?
Author	Occasion_Jolly
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Comments	17
Date	September 6, 2020 7:09 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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