Dealing with isolation.

DangZagnut · 2019-08-11T06:49:37+00:00

Self-imposed isolation is not isolation. It’s solitude. Sinking in a ship and washing up on an island alone is isolation.

It’s like saying mgtow is incel. It’s not.

You’re as isolated as your choose to be.

You say “if I ever wanted to” do you? Or are you just asking for hypotheticals?

I don’t feel isolation, because it would require them to have some sort of power over me they don’t possess.

I prefer solitude, and when I need social time, I socialize.

likwid2k · 2019-08-11T22:38:18+00:00

Find peace within yourself.

That’s the only way to deal with isolation. Which ironically is the state everyone is in whether they realize it or not.

iseehot · 2019-08-12T13:10:46+00:00

Based on your post and replies, your thoughts and feelings are very chaotic. So is the world, so your responses are not unusual.

Find something that resonates with put all your effort into it. That will be your anchor.

cz_masterrace · 2019-08-13T04:12:41+00:00

Miles will vary, but start cooking elaborate meals for yourself and take up long range shooting as a hobby. Between these two I am always busy.

Cfaraway · 2019-08-11T22:28:24+00:00

I feel ya. Sports is one possibility. Either pickup, or find a way to join a team. Gym can work too. These are ways I've met people. You find acceptance on a team, or in the gym. I know it's a terrible cliche, but if you just keep at it, it will happen naturally. Not everyone will turn into a friend. But teammates (or people who see each other regularly in the gym) always have something to talk about. And maybe 1 in 50 of those you will find you actually connect with in a deeper, more lasting way. That's not much as a %, but if it happens once a year then you're doing great in the long run.

RT-AC66U · 2019-08-11T17:44:58+00:00

Make friends, be a friend. Go to meetups. Join a club, take a class. Try a new hobby. Volunteer for something you believe in.

Impossible-asset · 2019-08-11T07:08:26+00:00

Isolation is unhealthy as fuck. I mean that shit will kill you from brains to balls.

Isolation surrounds a man who craves attention, socialization, and does not receive it in any satisfying capacity.

That said, leading a solitary life is different. It's a GOOD thing that you don't burn yourself out in pursuing friends. The best ones will come from common activities that you share together. maybe from work, or school, or a hobby buddy. Fishing, hunting, gaming, etc.

Do not make the mistake of thinking that because you do not have the volume of social network that a social butterfly extrovert may have in any way diminishes your social intelligence or worth. Someone who has 150 friends likely just has 150 people who know their name and smile when they approach. But if you have 2 or maybe even three very close friends that you know you can count on when the chips are down, well in my opinion that outweighs all 150 of the social butterfly's network of socialites.

Now. It sounds like you are experiencing isolation. And man, you gotta nip that shit in the bud. First, look at yourself. How are YOU doing. do you have any habits that could put people off? really look hard. Hygiene? Eye contact? Attitude in a conversation? I don't know the answers to that, and if it is something that you struggle with then I would recommend speaking with a psychologist. There is no shame or harm or stigma in seeking help in things of this nature. If I had warts growing on my dick I'd be pounding sand to a doctor. If my tooth was hurting so bad it felt like it was eating my whole face in lightning bolts and gasoline, I'd run my ass to a dentist. And if I looked around and found that I was isolated from people in a city of 5 million and didn't want to be, I'd be on the phone with a psychologist faster than you could say "blueberry pie".

The most important thing is to care for YOUR needs. YOUR interests, and YOUR health both physically and mentally. If you have those cared for and find that you just don't really want to have friends, then you've CHOSEN solitude, which is perfectly fine. Though in my experience, having at least one or two good friends you can talk to is a great thing to have, even if it's just bullshitting over a beer after work or grabbing a cup of coffee with. Having good friends is an invaluable-asset, not an impossible one. I hope that helps.

Hando-jin · 2019-08-11T08:41:34+00:00

I reckon don't force it. Just let people come in (and out of your life). Even if they are women. I think there is a lot to be said for making friends coincidentally, in the context of mutual hobbies.

It seems fairly hard in this day and age. Might be my misconception but people just seem very unapproachable and unfriendly.

Presto1036 · 2019-08-11T13:00:43+00:00

I volunteer at a couple of places a few times a month. You go, you do your thing and get some social interaction, and then you can leave. For people who have some anxiety, it’s good to have finite limits on it...you know you’re “only” going to be there for a couple of hours.

801735 · 2019-08-11T14:19:59+00:00

I posted in the other MGTOW subreddit and really didnt get any answers. I'm guessing they really don't like talking to me anymore.

Weak. Femalish.

Deal with your isolation by getting out of your self-inflicted comfort zone and go out and FAIL until you learn enough from your failures to start succeeding?

Go to group meetups and learn about other perspectives, hobbies, realize you're not living a life but just alive, adjust, adapt, repeat, improve, soon you'll have more stories to tell than you do now. You just might also regain your ability to smile at mistakes and not take it as a dead end but an opportunity to overcome yet another obstacle, again, and again, and again, and again, and again...

ALSO, when out there, make females WORK HARD to entertain you. Stand silent and let her do the monkey dance. Then do the same with a man. Observe the difference, it's... whoah. Females are socially retarded. The VAST majority of them are absolutely non-entities - apart from their ass and tits the vast majority of females has literally NOTHING to offer, nothing to contribute to the wellbeing "of the tribe". Society's worst are female.

chalchium · 2019-08-11T14:27:52+00:00

You will be mentally isolated forever. Red-pilled men cannot enjoy the things they way blue-pilled normies enjoy. It is like an adult cannot pretend that Santa Clause is real and puts his gifts inside a sock every Christmas to make the guy happy.

It is part of the growing up, "think different but behave the same". You need to compromise if you ever want to socialize with normies. So decide your bottom line. Spending how much money? How much time. Learn to hide your fangs, don't be too critical on the outside. Put up a mysterious aura so people will come to you but not bother you too much. There is a lot to learn for survival as a red-pilled. Each person is different.

Snakerspug · 2019-08-11T18:40:24+00:00

This world sucks. If you want to be isolated its so hard. They keep making apartments, shopping centers, etc. They keep building and people keep growing. We live in a world filled with people who love to eat shit, get drunk, take meds and get high on all kind of drugs just to deal with it. Why do people think this is the way to live? I kind of gave up because the solution is to be fake like everyone else to enjoy life. I want to live alone and get away from my family for starters. If you try to isolate with a family then it makes you seem like your wrong. Its like life doesnt want you to be alone. So if you are the type to want to be alone then you are really rare and most people will not understand.

Title	Dealing with isolation.
Author	anonylaw2
Upvotes	6
Comments	40
Date	August 11, 2019 6:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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