Grief Cycle: DABDA

BCRE8TVE · 2020-06-20T16:56:10+00:00

The 5 stages of grief are useful, but not everyone goes through all the stages, and people don't necessarily go through it in that order. Still helps to understand it, and to understand that if you're stuck on one of those emotions and can't move beyond it, there's probably some unresolved emotional baggage that you need to address to be able to move on.

AnotherPhilosopher · 2020-06-20T16:42:52+00:00

2,4,5 is how it goes with me.

In the end if you can't change anything why be angry or sad?

Do what you can. Everything you can. Until you hit a roadblock then go around or through the problem.

The only person really stopping you is you.

RazorRex · 2020-06-20T18:57:45+00:00

I'm working on it.

She still puts herself in my way though, so that I'm still reminded and see her often. It's made getting over her more difficult. Then I remind myself that after 2.5 years of a relationship, a purchase of an engagement ring, planning our lives together, even down to the names of our kids.... That she only respected me enough to break up via Email.

That helps when I start missing her.

Did I mention I'm fucking idiot? I feel like a fucking idiot a lot nowadays.

DevilComeKnockin · 2020-06-20T18:52:40+00:00

I've been going through it in circles, kind of. Sometimes I go back to anger, or a drop of denial will hit, then depression and some bargaining. But eventually, acceptance would creep in, here and there. It's most of what I feel nowadays.

Life goes on.. and now, it's far better than before.

djorphix · 2020-06-20T23:59:28+00:00

What constitutes bargaining? . I see many incel guys who are frustrated about not getting laid and they will say something like " I have been social, I exercise, I go to clubs, I wear nice clothes, still women don't want me" to me that sounds like they are trying to bargain a plea with life or the universe, kind of like saying " ok, I feel I've done enough on my side, where is my reward?"

deepspace7 · 2020-06-20T19:41:48+00:00

Understanding red pill and practicing stoicism allows you to quickly move to acceptance.

Impossible-asset · 2020-06-20T19:55:54+00:00

Grief for what?

Godfist04 · 2020-06-20T18:23:49+00:00

I've been stuck in depression for a long time. I just do drugs tbh it's nice

NotherThrowaway284 · 2020-06-21T00:25:57+00:00

Kind of the wrong sub; this place is for what we do after we're finished with all those stages.

Title	Grief Cycle: DABDA
Author	imcleverartistname
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	June 20, 2020 3:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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