Having a problem of late - need some advice

Gaiinahat · 2021-03-02T01:56:17+00:00

"I'm tall, good looking, I can get dates and been with plenty of women, but I've never kept them around because I have always loved my space."

You answered your own question, bro. Go out on some dates. Get back to where you were before you landed on the plantation.

cleats4u · 2021-03-02T03:05:16+00:00

I was looking at a girls Facebook page who dumped me for another guy that came along the same time I did (this was like 5 years ago). Her kids were grown and in college and I thought we were really going to hit it off, even slept together once. Dude came in the picture and snagged her. I looked at her pictures of them over the years. There were vacations and pictures with her kids college graduation and she looked radiant. I was kind of pissed. And then I thought...could I have made her that happy...as happy as she looked in those pictures? No I couldn't have. She had just divorced a man who had helped her raise those two kids from another relationship. That was already a mark against her in my book (use a man to raise your kids then divorce him). I was never "really" going to give her a relationship like the one she has been in these past 5 years. And, I became actually glad for her that she found that. I would not have made her as happy as he did. Why? Because I'm a fucking MGTOW goddamit! Lol.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-03-02T01:49:06+00:00

I think when we are in relationships our ''brain chemestry'' is different so its probably somewhat similar to quiting a drug in some sense, you have to go through detox.
Then start producing and feeding a new brain chemestry of being alone, wich is more focused on your own experience and exploring yourself.
For example instead of giving your partner a present and watch how she reacts, you instead buy something for yourself and watch what that produces in yourself and learn about yourself with it or you go for a walk and explore what walking is to you its a more introspecting self exploring kind of life i think, your own private adventure.
It feels more ''artificial'' than dating someone because you are doing everything, but theres much more control and freedom to it wich is very appealing as well.

retal1ator · 2021-03-02T22:34:34+00:00

People need to realise we're all animals, and unfortunately we can escape our instincts only for so long. How old are you? At a certain point in our lives it is completely normal and acceptable to be wanting to have a family of your own - that's probably why you're feeling sad right now seeing others having kids.

My advice would be to meet new people, maybe adop a dog, and make sure you get all the human interaction you really need. If a more intimate relationship becomes necessary to you so be it, but remember all the practical advices we give here about absolutely avoiding marriage and making sure you don't get stuck in scenarios you don't really want to be in.

Also as a man don't be afraid to admit you feel alone or that you want a partner. Only YOU know what YOU need. Just make sure you do everything on your own terms, and don't let people take advantage of you.

cuddlemechloe · 2021-03-02T04:21:28+00:00

Maybe you're just getting older and your interests are changing. Maybe these girls weren't clicking for you, but maybe you're starting to want the consistency, reliability and comfort of a spouse and you're starting to be in the headspace for it. You either genuinely want it, or society is pressuring you into thinking you want it. The picket fence & 2.5 kids does elevate social status and that kind of life is smiled upon by society, family, employers etc.

19780521reddit · 2021-03-02T13:30:43+00:00

you didn’t try to get her back?

gashejje · 2021-03-04T10:57:10+00:00

Pictures from Facebook are not the way you measure success or happiness.

Don’t let anyone including yourself tell otherwise.

Title	Having a problem of late - need some advice
Author	AngryIPScanner
Upvotes	4
Comments	29
Date	March 2, 2021 1:33 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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