How to not get oneitis?

FuckYouAmHonest · 2019-09-07T12:59:11+00:00

What helps me is saying that no matter how she looks, I would end up loosing (peace of mind, money, my goals, etc.) Remember, women are like slot machines. The longer you play, the more you are going to loose.

notadaddy · 2019-09-08T12:21:31+00:00

Get rid of the notion that there is a girl out there for you. Enjoy your time with them, play with them and be the “gentleman” so they come Back for more but just know they aren’t special. Just like you aren’t special. Your not at the top of the food chain and that’s okay, so forget attaching your self worth to external things, possessions or people and focus on yourself.

Only once that you have invested time and pain into yourself will oneitis go away. Lots of men are failures and having a woman is at least a “win” in their life.

You aren’t defined by success or failure. You are defined by how you live. Did you bitch and moan about the last girl that hurt you or did you come home sore from working out in the gym for an hour today?

Once you make yourself strong and smart and collected and start getting the things you want in life, your eyes will open and you will see how sloppy people are and you will finally understand and see people for what they really are. It’s just that when you are uneducated, no class, no experience, every pretty smile looks pretty slick and too good to be true....

EmptyRedCloud · 2019-09-09T19:15:02+00:00

I'm glad you mentioned this in a post. It speaks directly to me this after this weekend. I've been a happy bachelor since 2009. Officially MGTOW-monk since 2017. At the end of 2016 I just lost any desire to date or really be too involved with women outside of passing co-workers at the jobsite. But this Saturday....

I'm only attracted to a specific look that hardly any girl has. Its scary when a girl has the look there's almost no way to avoid oneitis.

This Saturday I saw a costumer come in that was looked like some type of subconscious fantasy come to life. Kind of like that 1985 movie 'Weird Science'. Keep in mind I work in a industry where literally thousands of people pass by me every day. By the end of the weekend I seen 100's of beautiful women so not too many stand out or stick in my brain.

This Red curly haired woman with a seriously big booty that was my exact height passed me, made eye contact and smiled at me like 'ohh , your hot'. You know that look. Any guy with experience with women knows that when I women has an attraction to you will give you that look. It's probably the same look we give them when they catch our eye.

I don't know if I'm just tripping on left over acid from my teenage years but I haven't had a 'oneitis' since high school. I keep thinking in my mind that 'Wow, this is that perfect girl' This is the unicorn. She lives in my city and if I ever see her again I got to go talk to her. Marry her and make a bunch of beautiful red haired babies together. Ect. Ect.

I don't have any problem being single. I love the bachelor life. But I wonder, if I'm just one big booty red head away from going back to the plantation.

I must meditate more on this.

taco_smasher69 · 2019-09-09T18:12:42+00:00

I once saw a collage of pictures of this girl with her fiance/husband. He was a good looking dude. Looked like someone that everyone would want to hang out with. It was a collage of pics of her w/her guy and the other pics were of her blowing/fucking other dudes and having other dudes run a train on her (from before and after they got together). She looked like the sweetest girl next door/church type. Can't remember the details of how it got made. It was kind of my blowing to see that. I have that image seared in my mind whenever I get too attached to a girl.

throwd444444 · 2019-09-08T19:37:51+00:00

There's a thought, don't be that dogmatic as to automatically rule out the possibility of finding a suitable woman for your entire life.

Remember the natural order of things is to have a partner. MGTOW is a reactionary movement based on the existing status quo with women but there are always exceptions to this.

I'm not saying rush right in there, neither am I saying the situation out there with women is completely fine. The vast majority out there won't be worth your time.

But if you do manage to form a good solid bond with the one you like and live the rest of your lives together or try to. Well, there's nothing wrong with that either.

Cfaraway · 2019-09-08T18:50:42+00:00

This is an absolutely stupid answer, but I'll say it anyway. Bite your tongue. Whenever you have that thought - I know, I've had it a few times too ("maybe her and me ...") - whenever that thought strikes, literally bite your tongue. Hard enough to hurt. Be honest with yourself. Thought hits? Bite. Every. Single. Time.

Eventually, you will get tired of the constant, searing pain in your tongue and you'll have to stop thinking the thought.

CalmElk · 2019-09-08T11:23:41+00:00

Are you attracted to the girl or a fantasy of the girl? Most men are attracted to a fantasy of the person that is completely different from the actual person.

If you get to know the actual person behind the looks you will realize that you have very little in common and lose all attraction.

pmmemonay · 2019-09-07T15:02:24+00:00

See them as Petri dishes. It is close enough to reality.

Goaliej · 2019-09-07T13:05:47+00:00

If you choose to get involved with women and you don't want to get oneitis, consider:

Don't be overly involved with one woman.
Consider getting a sex toy/sex doll so that your sexual needs are not dependent on women.
Live your life, active with your goals and hobbies, and let her pursue you and then you can fit her into your schedule/agenda of what you are doing that day/weekend, etc.
Be careful about becoming emotionally attached or dependent on women, their children and family.
Never live with them, even temporarily.
Don't have sleep overs often.

Title	How to not get oneitis?
Author	throwawaygamer05
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	September 7, 2019 12:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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