I am a Simp

Such_Temporary_9597 · 2021-03-14T07:18:32+00:00

We were all simps i was a simp from 2005-2018 i wish i knew mgtow in those years but hey

We need simps so they can keep the plantation going and us mgtows can smoke cigars get jacked buy bitcoin ride harleys race rc cars shoot guns and go hunting

MeisterMGTOW · 2021-03-14T11:57:16+00:00

How did you grow up in a "christian household", but were raised by a single mother?

Not very christian, is it?

You don't have a 'submissive, timid. unassertive nature', that's bullshit.

Your mother raised you to be a simp and brainwashed you into following "values" that she herself didn't follow.

Wake up, man!

wokeprince2020 · 2021-03-14T07:02:43+00:00

How much do you masturbate to porn? Because that pretty much shatters any little confidence you have and puts women on pedestal all the time.

ZlayerXZ · 2021-03-14T05:48:18+00:00

I don’t really know how you can heal/fix yourself while being married. That said, the solution to “simping” is to drop red pills daily, until the lense through which you see life change, it will take some time, but eventually it will happen (idk how you can do that with a wife, not that It can’t be done either, just 0 experience on my part).

The red pill, is nothing more than knowledge of human nature, and knowledge is liberating, at least eventually, that freedom will help you strengthen your manhood and your will, and that’s what you need to solve your other problem, being fat, to solve it you just need a good workout schedule and the will and consistency to do it, that actually should be a must in every man lives.

Good luck buddy, and remember that it is never to late to change what must be changed, better late than never.

Qyual · 2021-03-14T06:03:53+00:00

The best thing you can do right now is to prepare yourself financially for a divorce. If it happens then you need to stay ahead of her to protect your assets as much as possible. Probably just talk to a lawyer when you have time just to ask them what you should do to prepare for your situation. For now just focus more on your hobbies and tell her what you want , don’t compromise your lifestyle because she doesn’t like it.

Impossible-asset · 2021-03-14T13:32:07+00:00

I believe that one has to acknowledge that they have a problem before they can fix it.

There you go, step one accomplished.

Wife isnt bad but even i see that if im not careful i can get fcked by her

This is true. You are married, then you are a slave. Period. She leaves, you lose half your shot and up to around 60% of your future income. But....that does not make it a certainty. It does mean that your marriage will alter who you can be. Now you say that you were raised and conditioned from the beginning to be a blue pill... so the caution here is that should you choose to go full bore and end a marriage or start living that mgtow life it would be a drastic difference. That said. If you are aware of the ways in which you are being manipulated, that's definitely a big moment for you. Taking the red pill and seeing how the world really is is a big furst step for a man.

Now atm im employed not the best salary, fat and pretty much lack any form of self esteem and i know i need to change these things, but i honestly dont know where to start.

You start with a goal. A picture of what you want to be. Whether it is the job, or your body. For example, take your body and physical health. The first thing is to create a goal. What image or feeling would you be happy with? Being reasonable here, looking like 1985 Arnold Schwarzenegger is probably not an attainable goal. But, let's say that being in good enough shape to run a marathon, or hike machu pichu, or pass a marine corps physical fitness test. Something that is tangible and attainable. Once you have your end goal. You set milestones on that path. Let's say you choose to be in good enough shape to run and fonish the Boston Marathon. That's 26.2 miles in less than 4 hours. Roughly a 6.5 mph pace. Pretty zippy pace.

So you set milestones. For example you need to finish a half marathon. ... so set a milestone for that. Finish a 10k...milestone

Finish a 5k. You get the idea. You break down milestones into smaller and smaller goals. Alllll the way down to the daily level.

Once you have broken down your goal to milestones to daily markers, you can then begin.

This is where willpower kicks in. You only need willpower to last for about 2 weeks. That's it. After that, willpower will turn into a habit. And once something becomes a habit, it becomes easy.

Your daily walk around the block becomes 2. That becomes 2 more blocks, and before you know it you've finished that 5k, then yhat 10k, your first marathon, and by the time you've qualified for Boston, you're in the best shape of your life.

The same goes for your job. Set the goal, break it into milestones, into daily checkpoints. And then start.

Before you know it, you can go from being that guy with the mundane job and the couch and cheetos habit to (insert your career here) and (insert your physical goal here).

When it comes to the wife? Well, once you change your job, change your body, you may be in a position to re-examine whether yiu want to be the leader of that family unit, or drop it and go mgtow and chase the next goal which is already yours.

Maximum-Biscotti-247 · 2021-03-14T13:47:13+00:00

If you want to lose weight you can to the fasting subreddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/fasting/

You can also add fruits and vegetables into your diet, which will help with your weight loss journey.

At least you have a job, many people don't so look a the positive side. All you need to do is improve 1% each day. That maybe small however in a year it will be more than 365% improvement. If you fail at your goals, don't give up, sooner or later you will succeed.

Don't focus on women. You should try watching Elliot Hulse videos. He is really good teaching men how to be the strong man he should be.

https://www.youtube.com/user/elliottsaidwhat

30203forever · 2021-03-14T05:20:08+00:00

Now ill just put it out there that i cant be MGTOw since im already married, didn't find out about this community or lifestyle until late and even if i did, i probably still couldn't be because of the same values or beliefs i was taught.

Then "hold the frame" and pray to your god for the best. Good luck! => /r/marriedredpill/

ScrewJita · 2021-03-14T09:04:45+00:00

Sounds like you should start exercising. Get a fitbit (or knockoff pace-counter, either are fine) and start keeping track of how many miles you get just by following your normal daily routine. I guarantee it's more than you think. Once you know that, you'll be inspired to walk more, consume less calories and over time that weight will come off. It worked really well for me.

And your job? Well... I would start putting out feelers for a different job, and don't limit yourself. I gave up the 9-5 in cubicle hell for a machine operator job in a vinyl warehouse. It pays WAY more, keeps me active, and the best part: NO CUSTOMERS!

Ultimately, the key to a happier life is tiny routines we make every day. So alter your routines, just a little bit, and you're on your way.

ManofGod1000 · 2021-03-14T12:33:55+00:00

You can do certain aspects of MGTOW and be married, although that is not a popular opinion. The difference is, you are taking the aspects of self improvement for the sake of it and applying them to your life. True, you are married but, the idea that you should live under a cloud of doubt or having to walk on egg shells is no way to live. You yourself are going to have to choose if you still want to be a simp or not, anymore, and it really is that simple.

Time to change your diet, hit the gym and remember, improve yourself just because and not for the approval of anyone else, including your wife.

UnearthlyDinosaur · 2021-03-15T01:26:24+00:00

I was a simp for a long time. Visiting forums like this, realizing women for what they are, and watching YouTube a lot got me out of it. Honestly the shit I saw on social media accelerated the process. Now I see so many guys simping on social media that I told myself I’d rather not get any attention from women than try to get a little bit by simping. As you get older women get a lot worse and the dating market shrinks. When you’re over 30 the only selection you have is fat single moms.

Frosty-Gate-8094 · 2021-03-14T07:28:43+00:00

Once you are married, the game is over. Especially after kids are born.

You cant escape it now. If you divorce her, you will get f*ed.
If your wife is otherwise not abusive, not cheating and isnt being controlling... Your best bet is to improve your living situation and let kids get older.

You Can visit r-FIRE subreddit for financial advice...

Within your marriage, stand your ground. Listen to her, but make sure she listens to you too on important topics. If her family unduly influences her, dont conform to their views.
Tell your wife that, external people have no right to influence your marriage.
Seek marriage counseling if needed.

If nothing works, divorce will be last option. As long as you stand your ground, your wife cannot abuse you. Be prepared to leave if she crosses that line.

This is not the ideal subreddit, but that's the best advice I can give you. Can try it on r-relationship advice.. If you want more.

BubblyBath7 · 2021-03-14T10:14:48+00:00

Very slowly and carefully, some days will hit you hard and there's nothing that can be done except to prepare better.

holdthecreamer · 2021-03-14T14:30:13+00:00

Brother, first off: we are all in this life journey together. Never feel that you’re alone or you’re “less than” others.

I don’t know specifics, but you’re raised by a single mother and it’s quite possible that you’ve been conditioned to seek female approval. This is hard to break from. But it’s time to de-condition yourself from this impulse to please others. This is not to say that you should act recklessly, but you should act for your self interest in mind, first and foremost. This means taking time for yourself, especially for self improvement such as reading, exercise, and meeting with other men. Our society have forgotten that historically men in every society always had space away from kids and women to socialize and to affirm bonds. Today men do not have a good space for this. You need to take some time to do this.

You’re a Christian, and that’s another issue. Modern Christianity does not affirm men. Most pastors are running hard to the Left. Have you noticed how many times pastors make fun of men and chastise them but make every woman a saint? You will not find many allies in most churches today. This is not to say that you should abandon your faith, but that you need to seek out those affirm strong men in the culture of Christianity.

Chicagoan81 · 2021-03-14T15:00:05+00:00

I was a simp from 2001-2010. Women would treat me like garbage and I would assume that it was all my fault. I also had a thing for toxic women which made that decade a nightmare.

Marfi09 · 2021-03-14T15:44:20+00:00

I'm curious. How does a married simp act differently from a normal married guy?

MrsPoindextersMr · 2021-03-14T16:08:36+00:00

Realize than you can never please a woman. PERIOD. Don’t try. Knowing when to let a woman know you aren’t going to please her takes some skill. See The 48 Laws of Power for help with that.

Work on making yourself a prize. Start lifting weights. Work on patience and let things unfold.

capitan_cruiser · 2021-03-14T16:36:56+00:00

I don't think it counts but I too was a Simp back when I was a weird 13 year old, I felt like I wasn't good enough for women, I was anorexic, had little to no social skills and just over all weird, it pushed me to work on myself, started working out, eating like a human being instead of one meal a day.. and by the time I was 16, I was very fit and social, helped my nerd friends leave that nerd-ish circle and hang out with "the cool" kids realized girls aren't as magical and special like they teach you in Disney movies and moved on, started treating them like any other person I meet, that helped but when I realized that women aren't as special as I thought I started losing motivation with working out because I didn't find a purpose to look good, now.. man life is all about ups and down's right? so now I'm in my down...

Am 18 and back to being anorexic and eating one meal a day, I'm in mandatory military service and it really fucked me mentally tbh, brought me depression, made my body hate myself, now I have a Hernia and... a cancer scare (which I'm hoping to god is going to be just a false scare because that shit look terrifyingly like Melanoma and I've had it enough with my body fighting against me with all the vomiting, shin splints and Hernia, as you can see, the last fucking thing I need is god damn skin cancer).

Anyway I hope you the best of luck working on yourself, I'm hoping I'll make it through because the military and it's lack of fucks given about it's soldier's health is killing me faster than my own body.

And yes, I am working on leaving the military, at this point I don't give a shit how much it will scar my future when looking for a job, at this rate, I'm not gonna even live to my mid 20's..

Gaiinahat · 2021-03-14T18:50:18+00:00

I, like yourself, was raised by a single mother, from a Christian background. It doesn't matter if you're married, you can turn it around to be more in control of your situation, and out from underneath her thumb. She will not like it at first, but if you're steadfast, she will fall in line. Start working on yourself, the sooner the better. The more you raise your value, the more she will realize that you can and will replace her, and there's not a damn thing she could do about it. Take in as much Red Pill content as you can. Ask as many questions as you need to. Your situation is not hopeless. As a matter of fact, you've already taken the first step to regaining your power.

LairaKlock · 2021-03-19T00:18:14+00:00

Go to therapy. Find out what makes you unhappy about your life and make appropriate changes. It might end up with you having to make tough decisions or work hard, but slowly you will get to a point where you're more satisfied with your life.

Title	I am a Simp
Author	tropical_rhythm
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Comments	43
Date	March 14, 2021 5:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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