Why do relationships go bad when cohabiting?

DangZagnut · 2019-02-18T11:53:10+00:00

One the relationship nesting has occurred, you're ability to leave (or kick her out) is much more difficult, which is why you never mix finances. Untangling finances with someone you're dating is very difficult, especially if you're in steal mode before a break up.

You can't just go to a restaurant, break up,, and tell her you need to return some video tapes, you've got to move shit out, box things up, worry about grabbing your things, her things, who owns what, etc.

She, is already in married mode. Her interest is far less because there's no female competition, and you can't really date anyone else and a bring her over to fuck or give resources, as she's already laid claim to them, so you're value is paying rent and resources now, so her interest disappears.

If you're in a cohabitation relationship, like marriage, as a man you have to work 10x harder to keep her interested, because she just wanted money. You have to do all that stupid frame holding and red pilling and dominating and all that crap for what, a roommate?

Cohabitation is no different that marriage, just with less legal protection to give her a pension, but you're still fucked, because her primary goal is resources, and any idiot will do.

everythangspeachie · 2019-02-19T02:36:59+00:00

Just dont get married

Mindraker · 2019-02-18T21:43:27+00:00

Cohabitation is always bad.

Someone inevitably starts to have "feelings", while the other person doesn't.

Or, as in your instance, it just gets violent.

laptopdragon · 2019-02-19T02:11:09+00:00

Maybe you both need to sync up your periods first?

/s

:P

magx01 · 2019-02-19T13:26:15+00:00

Once you commit she stops seeing you as being desirable by other females and THAT is a HUGE thing for female attraction. They look to other females to confirm a man's attractiveness and if they don't see these signals coming from other women with respect to you they start to question things.

On top of it the mystery is gone. Hard to keep a sexual vibe with shared bathrooms, snoring, morning breath, floor mopping and all that shit in the mix.

car23975 · 2019-02-20T00:12:23+00:00

Lol I studied statistics on this and found there was a big chance cohabiting would end badly. I would tell friends and they would get mad. I said you know what? I will just shut up and laugh when they try to go against math. I did and its been great since then.

GlobalAsshat · 2019-02-18T20:17:03+00:00

You are probably acting beta. The science is located in the red pill sub and in this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoRlb6xcymA

If you are not all that interesting or emotionally stimulating she will turn bitchy. If you aren't willing to put up with shit tests and hold frame she will get bitchy. It's just the way they are wired.

avtarius · 2019-02-18T11:57:10+00:00

For one, there's scarcity bias, it's a very basic instinct, you will just want what you don't have, until you get it.

Then there's chemistry, you either have it or you don't.

Now there's you, either a masochist who likes this challenge, or someone who needs to learn the lesson and move on.

Maybe you need a little exercise, what does she offer you, and what do you offer her ? See if the transaction makes sense.

Fabianstrategy1 · 2019-02-18T15:11:41+00:00

She can effectively police and control more of your time if she knows where you are or at least has an idea of where you should be. This in turn begins to degrade her need to go the extra mile on her part because she perceives she has a monopoly on your time and resources so she now has to do less to be appealing to you. Move out and the dynamic changes doesn't it? Because she is now less certain about market competition from outside competitors she doesn't see. This what the red pill calls "dread game". Anytime one of the women I'm seeing gets too comfortable I just take a small vacation on seeing her. So far this has worked 100% of the time.

drqxx · 2019-02-18T11:59:52+00:00

It's cuz you put up with it.

J_Milton_Jr · 2019-02-18T12:00:52+00:00

What I've found is that there's a conflict in general when I live with someone , whether it's my mother, a friend, or my partner. For me, it was simply insanely stressful not to have a place to retreat, this was mainly because the apartments were always too small.

Now we live in an appartment where everyone has a room where he can retire. (My ideal idea of a perfect living situation ina relationship is two apartments next to each other, but that's logistically rather difficult)

Now i have been living with my BF for 4 years and it works fine. You have to say that we both have a very similar sense of cleanliness. In the past I used to live with people who were very sloppy/cleanly , which of course was annoying for both, me and the other person!

I think, especially when it comes to living together you need a lot of patience, willingness to compromise and a similar sense of cleanliness ( What is messy for one is not a problem for the other)

Similar sense of cleanliness is always underestimated!!!

BastaHR · 2019-02-18T12:04:42+00:00

Because you get to REALLY know each other.

DT1726 · 2019-02-18T12:12:11+00:00

Because it's like marriage life at this point. She at the point of almost securing you as a provider for her, no need for keeping up with appearance like in a relationship. She thinks she already own you, there will be more shit tests and her shaming you into giving her your freedom. It's the battle for control at this stage and you must set a perfectly clear boundaries if you want to keep this up.

TheRealEyesWideOpen · 2019-02-18T12:22:15+00:00

Never engage in cohabitation, marriage or procreation.

You are signing your own financial, psychological and emotional death warrant. Unless you have nothing to loose in all regards.

The way the laws are written, you can be paying for a short 2-3 year relationshit for years to come. It’s not worth in; just fuck her and get her to go.

MAGAMANIA · 2019-02-18T14:35:36+00:00

Should’ve ended after the year 1 bitching and nagging. You don’t need that negativity bringing you down.

daniellederek · 2019-02-18T15:59:28+00:00

Because it's disrupted her hypergamous lifestyle. She can't openly be on her phone on social media's seeking attention. She can't just say lng day I'm tired at 9pm and then be out dining somewhere at 1030. She was not ready to actually give those things up.

oldrunnerguy · 2019-02-18T16:03:14+00:00

Shit-testing. Women constantly need to be convinced that you are willing to sacrifice intimacy to stand up to your principles. If you don't and you instead try to appease her, you lose all her respect. Unfortunately you always have to run the risk that she will walk out on you. It is further proof that men and women are wired differently. It took me too many years into my former marriage to realize this and now I'm at the point that I don't have any desire to deal with the bullshit anymore. Consequently, I think about how it was and I refuse to deal with it anymore.

batfish55 · 2019-02-18T18:45:15+00:00

Moving in together represents some level of commitment. That's when the shit tests begin in earnest. And you get complacent, so you start failing. Hypergamy is a harsh mistress.

LTRs are gaming on hard mode.

nihilismMattersTmro · 2019-02-18T18:56:16+00:00

no two people get along long term if they spend too much time together. Move in with your bestest good friend and see how long it lasts.

as soon as the girl lives with you she can get under the hood and start tinkering away making changes.

why do you need to live with her? why even have a relationship with her? do what you like, see her when you can, and DON'T care what she is doing if she's not around.

the idea is too often "well if I have a relationship with her, I have sexual exclusivity" maybe you do maybe not ... but if you stop caring, you have all the power.

why do you need to be with someone who is a pain in your ass anyway?

Broken_Face7 · 2019-02-18T19:02:47+00:00

She is shit testing you and she thinks you keep failing them.

Title	Why do relationships go bad when cohabiting?
Author	Scantraxx12
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Date	February 18, 2019 11:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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