On my commute I passed someone who was taking too long at the barrier gate, went round him (while he was looking for his ticket). Was a bit cheeky but I was in a bit of a hurry and needed a pee.

As I passed him I felt this sort if half assed tap/kick on the back of my leg, processed it for a couple of seconds then decided not to keep walking but to turn around and look the guy in the eye.

When I did he looked back at me, started blowing kisses at me and gesturing to say "Fuck you" etc.

I stayed right on the spot eyes fixed on him as if to say "really?" He then came right up to me and started shouting and swearing and saying that if it weren't for the cctv he'd fuck me up etc.

I stood firm, kept eye contact and did not give any ground but also didn't show any aggression but made it clear with my body language and eye contact that it would be a bad idea for him to take things further.

I'm 8.5 years clean of alchohol, been lifting 2.5 years, got a brown belt in wing chun (very modernised, pretty much MMA version) and been doing BJJ for about 1.5 years in private lessons with my wing chun sifu who is also 3rd degree bjj.

Thoughts going through my head were "I will drop this guy very easily", I don't actually want to hurt him I can probably just humiliate him" I felt the fight/flight reflex in my stomach but no fear and was more concerned with trying to reason with him but not backing down. He was with his wife and kids going on holiday...

Finding the balance between not taking shit but not being a bully just came naturally (being dangerous but peaceful as Jordan Peterson puts it) and he got it and walked away

I know a lot of guys in my class would have been up.for the fight or returning the verbal aggression, a few years ago I might have done the same but the sense of calm and having nothing to prove I attribute and credit to this community. I told my wife about it and how it all went down, we will have a good time tonight...