I’m 42 I’ve been married 17 years with a mostly solid relationship tons of sex on command (No kidding)

Have the ability and knowledge to give the wife earth shattering orgasms again Not kidding

All this while being sadly depressed and overweight

Now for the past 2 years I’ve lost easy at least 40lbs For the past 6 months I have switched from diet alone to juicing and lots of veggies shakes and smoothies with lots of exercise although not really lifting getting in the best shape of my life

I’m back to my high school weight

My outlook on life has radically changed I’m a business owner and even though the business is going slow I’m starting 2 more business which should take care of things

Almost a year of not smoking btw used to be a half a pack a day guy

I even started playing the guitar which I haven’t touched in 10 years

All while the wife which has always been a solid 9 started to put on the pounds not too much say 20lbs in a year and even though she is slowly approaching the wall she still is a 7.5 at 35

I have been riding her ass on the let’s get healthy theme with no luck

she has stopped doing anything that resembles physical activity her smoking has easily doubled I‘m sure she’s smoking more just to spite me lol

And well the sex has not only dried up she came out of the blue a few weeks ago and stated that she doesn’t feel anything for me anymore

I stupidly attempted to reason with her only to go in circles as to why she wants to leave

She says it not money it’s my character it seems she’s had it with my anger issues, problem is that I was not aware that this was a problem or maybe she just hates the new me

The problem is that I’m good talking and I know her too well so when I speak I can make her feel for me again which has resulted in great sex but a day later I see the regret she has as if she is disappointed in herself for falling for me

She has come up with the most stupid plan for separation; we’re not married btw so when she leaves it’s only with her stuff and maybe a car if I’m in a good mood all my stuff I have protected (not in my name)

have 2 kids a girl in high school and a boy in elementary So she says I’ll take the boy and you keep the girl so she can graduate with her friends and then I’ll come back for her in a year

she says she wants to live with her mother 500 miles away

I told her no way as that the day she leaves I’ll move to a poolside apartment and the whore parade will start until I find a steady girlfriend

obviously it won’t be a good environment for my daughter

So we keep going at it and she asks for time

This is stupid and I’m getting desperate last time we had a discussion I decided to leave I grab all my stuff she tells me to stop and I ask for an answer she says she still doesn’t love me so I keep packing

when I start to walk out she says she’s willing to work on the relationship, after she says she’s not making promises

I stayed but now I feel like a moron don’t really know what to do

I feel I should be appreciated for all my effort and that she should be securing her future with me as she is starting to approach the wall

I wish I could fix this but besides becoming an overnight millionaire I don’t know what else is to be done here

I’m on my way to becoming the best version of myself and I have a wife that either resents the change, thinks I’m fucking someone else or just plain and simple stopped caring for me

Is there an approach to this crap that doesn’t end with a broken family?