The idea behind it is that in nature we see that birds poke and prod on the rhino, it remains unphased. For me, the birds that poke and prod have been thoughts and feelings of insecurity and lack. In my work with the TRP this has been one of the toughest things for me to come to terms with, to get comfortable being uncomfortable and "doing the opposite". Up until recently I would say that I definitely made myself too available to my LTRs (2 years) emotive ups and downs. This typically happened when the lady would get into a mood and I would constantly try to see what was on her mind. Whatever it was, I thought the best route was "communicating" about it, easing her anxiety, for me to be her safe space. However even after we spoke about what was going on in a particular situation, I have had the realization that it wasn't about my genuine care about her or where she was, but about soothing my anxiety through her communicating to me what was on her mind.

Much of the time, what's been on her mind has been innocuous emotions about the day, her own insecurity, etc. I recognize there are times when it is necessary to overtly address issues, and there are times when I have to let things pass and just STFU. However, I found myself having to know what was going on, not because I cared, but due to my own insecurity and need for immediate gratification and soothing.

Sex has never been an issue in the relationship, the frequency and intensity has consistently been on the incline since she was promoted from plate. My thing was to take the dominance from the bedroom, and the DNGAF attitude to our everyday interaction. My turning point was this past weekend when she visited her family, 6 hours away and I didn't hear from her for four days she didn't hear from me for four days.

I hamstered all weekend, recognized what was going on and just got comfortable with being uncomfortable. This has allowed me to develop rhino skin against not so much my woman's tendencies, but my own insecurities. She got back, and was in a mood of some sort before a meeting we had. I did the opposite and did not play into it. I went to the gym afterwards because as opposed to sitting around and trying to "loosen her up, etc." I focused on investing in myself and fitness goals. Got back from the gym, she was ripe and ready. The quality of sex is a side product of one's focus. The more I focus on myself and follow Pook's 2/3 rule, the more she craves me, does things which overtly communicate her desire for me to fuck her.

To develop the Rhino skin is to maintain frame and be the oak. This experience has been an incredible lesson for me to learn and is why I pass it along.