It’s easy to be mediocre; it’s even easier to allow others to be mediocre. If you haven't done so already, ask yourself these questions and answer as objectively as possible.

Self

  • Are you fat?

  • Have you been reading?

  • Are you utilizing your time properly or do you get sucked into hours of redundancy without progress like Reddit, YouTube (‘researching’), Clash of Clans, and Analysis Paralysis?

  • Do you have clearly defined long term and short term goals?

You need to have an answer to these questions. Finding out where your deficiencies are enables you to hone in on them and with overwhelming violence destroy them.

Most likely you've already used up all of your 'zero days' and now it's time to go as hard as you can at self improvement and accepting that you aren't giving it your all and that you can improve, if you want to get the most from this life as possible.

Wife

  • Is your wife fat?

  • Is she improving mentally? Professionally?

  • Does she bring any value to your life?

  • Do you actually know her?

  • Are you having fun together?

Now, if you're fat, how can you expect your wife to look any different? Her leader failed her and allowed her sub-par performance to lead to the hamplanet she's become...your fault, fix it through setting the proper example.

As for the rest, your wife needs to bring value to your life and it is her responsibility to ensure she's making that happen. But, she isn't going to do that for a dude who got his shit together a week ago, so while you may have this dream of what life will become, she sees it for what it currently is.

Guide her to being the woman you want her to be. Suggest topics for her to research, fuck around with her, have fun even though you resent her for being who she is (a woman), and recognize that you generate your own happiness and by doing so you'll charge her up with happiness.

You actually need to know her, something I thought about after reading Rollo's recent post. Some chicks are fucking awesome and their faggot husbands can't bring that out of them. I brought a couple paint-balling with my wife and I and he initially told me she would hate it. this chick was putty in my hands, she fucking loved every second of it and talked about how she hadn't felt that alive in forever. If I wanted her, she was mine because I gave her something her husband couldn't, something different. You need to know your wife and be the ever evolving Man who doesn't get complacent. Always improving and always keeping your wife on her toes.

Be a Leader and own the fact that a majority of your wife's failures in your eyes are your fault, Fix Them.

Kids

  • Is your kid fat?

  • Do you read with your kid / Does your kid read?

  • Do you take time alone with your kid?

  • Do you educate your kid on top of what they get from school?

At this point you can tell that I have a thing against fat people. I truly do, I fucking hate them and I hate their choices, and I hate that they complain about entirely preventable health complications (/end rant).

Your kid doesn't buy their groceries, you do. Your kid doesn't tell themselves they can watch hours of TV, you allow that. Your kid is a fucking kid and should be outside enjoying the time they have as a fucking kid. Be the Dad that is involved with his kids and not just looking the other way, allowing the video games to be played for hours.

My kids are outside all of the time because I'm outside all of the time. The sun is out Dad is out and they fucking Love it. Your weak ass kid disappoints you? Then be a better father and help them improve their habits, health, and ultimately LIFE.

Don't just do the minimum and play a game of horse or read 2 pages before bed. Let them see you reading, let them see you working, bring them with you when you go to Lowe's or Ace Hardware.

Sometimes I'll just walk the aisles and answer my sons questions about paint, tools, how shit works, etc. It's not the most efficient use of time in regards to accomplishing my task, but it is time spent investing in my son.

Teach them the things you know and the things you wish you knew at their age.

Friends & Family

  • Are they fat?

  • Have you ever objectively checked to see if they bring value to your life?

  • Do you allow their opinions and beliefs to have an impact on what you’re trying to do?

I won't go too in depth on this one. Just look at the fucking people you surround yourself with. Are they bringing you up or down?

As you improve and they are forced to face their own mediocrity do they come to you for advice or do they tell you that there's no need for the change and that it is somehow a negative?

I coach my son's flag football team and we had a Halloween party. Well, my wife and a few of the other coahces wives were drunk as shit and dancing, one of the guys remarks, "TTB, looks like you're getting lucky tonight..." I just smiled and drank my beer. He doesn't know that I had fucked her in the ass, under the blacklight, while she wore a gag before we went to the party.

Side Note I didn't get lucky as she passed the fuck out when we got home, fucking wine...

Pay attention to tone, body language, and words that are spoken as they will tell you who is on your side and who is there looking out for themselves.

Don't just write down a response about what you're doing and going to do, DO that thing.

Acta, Non Verba