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Game-aware women – the ones who have been forcibly exhausted of all pretense of maintaing the illusion that Game is a lie – feel as though it’s owed to them, in their concession of Game’s reality, that Men should use Game to women’s benefit. Even to the last effort women still cling to the tools of a feminized acculturation; and If I’m a Red Pill woman and I agree with all of these Red Pill men who, despite all my misgivings, align with my (self-defined and sanitized) definition of what it means…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 05:49 PM
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Game-aware women – the ones who have been forcibly exhausted of all pretense of maintaing the illusion that Game is a lie – feel as though it’s owed to them, in their concession of Game’s reality, that Men should use Game to women’s benefit. Even to the last effort women still cling to the tools of a feminized acculturation; and If I’m a Red Pill woman and I agree with all of these Red Pill men who, despite all my misgivings, align with my (self-defined and sanitized) definition of what it means…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/18 05:41 PM
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Alright man. Keep chipping away at your misbeliefs.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 08:13 PM
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It's literally an RP tenent. We are our own universe center, and our frame (worldview) must flow from that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 08:12 PM
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Totally agree on 0 value. Since you called him out, he'll probably delete, get defensive out of embarrassment, or whine and pout. My popcorn is ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 08:00 PM
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It's called diplomacy. Narcs don't understand it. Think everyone is out to get them. Kudos to you for giving him the play by play answers. OP, there's your path forward. Learn some social grace and balance it with a nice solid pair of balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 07:59 PM
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The man has FLEAS. Leftover narcissism passed down from his parents. He's just aware enough to hate himself for it and post about it, not aware enough to do anything about it but still post about it. Hopefully someday he'll figure out that he can be as narcissistic as he wants to be, but his frame has to revolve around himself and what he wants out of life.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 07:56 PM
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Jagged pill scratching your throat going down? We say AWALT because all women have the capacity to cheat. Through life experiences or morals or whatever, some decide not to, but that doesn't mean they aren't women and aren't seduced by the same traits that other women are. Namely, alpha traits. Let this mindfuck you even more: I've got a handful of examples from girls I've known who have cheated on their alpha boyfriends because beta billy offered his care and concern. You can never lock someone…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 05:20 PM
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Lifting and reading is great advice for the beginner, but it only lays the pre-foundation for all other changes. It gives you the discipline and familiarity with pain and discomfort to kill your ego and push through to your goal. How does one build their frame... You know what a frame is right? The way you view the world. And not just your philosophy, even though that's a part of the greater theory of the Red Pill. I'm talking about how you see your role in daily duties and interactions. How you…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 05:10 PM
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figure that into the time we need to leave Not only are you relying on mommy to plan your logistics, you're ordering her to do it. Rebellious children get consequences. Own your shit. Figure out your own schedule.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 04:43 PM
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See the top comments. Solid fucking gold.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 04:27 PM
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She'll push the issue to get a reaction, but just like a child or a dog, will stop the negative attention-getting behavior when she doesn't get the attention. Even unnecessary drama bullshit is attention, and women thrive on it. Are you providing some good drama? Excitement? Tingles? Surprise nights out? Spontaneous trips? Cuz if not she'll make her own.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 07:40 PM
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I'll check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 07:19 PM
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My wife has never been interested in giving head. Until the last couple years. It seems she has discovered an interest in learning how my cock works. The other night, in fact, she went down on my merely with the encouraging pressure of my hand on the back of her head. A few minutes later, I was ready to fuck her (she just came off her period, and I ain't about to part the red seas, so I was beyond horny). Funny, she was incredibly wet already. Just from sucking on my dick! Couldn't possibly be r…
/r/askMRP30/08/17 11:58 PM
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Fuck anything she's doing. This line was what made me stop reading: I am not yet happy being alone with myself You're a codependent, blue pill, milk drinking, faggot ass pussy with no connection to himself. Reading and studying alot my ass.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 11:35 PM
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Nah, Jesus imputed the same standard of perfection on his church too Exactly what I meant by "I could never measure up". The height of the standard is inversely proportionate to the amount that I'm going to try to meet it. And that's human nature, not just me. Men hear "be like Christ", and well, we supposedly have that example in... Christ. Perfection. Sinless. Impossible standards. Women hear "be like the church", then read about rebellious Israel in the OT, and all the examples of little fait…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 09:54 PM
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as the church submits to Christ The problem with the analogy is that we suck as submitting to Christ. I was perpetually made to feel guilty as a child because I could never measure up. Subconsciously, however, that sunk in and became my excuse to sin. Now, Christ is perfect, and so my impression was that men were held to a higher standard than women; i.e., women were allowed to be manipulative bitches, and their husbands had to sit there and take it. That's of course not the entire reason I left…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 09:33 PM
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I'm not a Christian anymore, and part of the reason is that modern Western pastors and churches gloss over verses like that, and instead pound the men into submission with verses like Ephesians 5:25. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 09:03 PM
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And that one girl who basically lunged at me, pussy juices splooging all over, when I said I was into "strugglefucking". Oopsie. She should have had one of those whistles. Seriously, use the term, girls love it so hard. Showerthought: either the entire collective manosphere is lying, or these bloops must admit that we are all the perfect ideal fantasy rapist, or... this shit works. I personally enjoy the thought of blue pill strays thinking I'm a 6'2" brazilian volleyball player, raping their ho…
/r/askMRP30/08/17 08:11 PM
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Byproduct of the person committing rape, not the one being raped? I agree. It's faster and easier too, than all that difficult self improvement crap.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 04:38 PM
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Which is why sex as the goal of self improvement can't work long term. It depends on someone else's decisions too. Self improvement in that light is merely cheap PUA manipulation. Pretty sure we agree on that. A great sex life becomes a byproduct of rape too. This makes no sense. Explain.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 04:26 PM
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Great info. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 04:14 PM
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Do you mean when they are actually lifting, dressing, going out, being awesome, but still aren't getting laid? Yeah that's a problem. I agree that most men come here because of lack of sex. So it makes sense that improvement for the purpose of sex is how we usually start out, as misdirected as that is. They're trying to fuck Until they start fucking, then they let their foot off the gas because they got what they want. Self improvement must come with no covert contract: MRP+self improvement+time…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 04:04 PM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 04:00 PM
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Could go either way. Sex addiction or really insecure. Best case scenario is she's this great person who happens to really love sex. Ya never know.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 03:59 PM
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Then there's no problem except the lease. Tell the gf you moved too fast and that you want out of the lease because you need to be real with yourself. Or move in and keep up with the game. Either way, I don't care, and it's nothing MRP can help you with. You do you.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 10:56 PM
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So you know what you want to do, but played the commitment card without thinking it through. You made a mistake. Now live with the consequences. Looking at it one way, you've got oneitis for the main girl. Looking at it another way, you're screwing up your goals of long-term family-making. You must make a choice. Deep down you know that you can't keep this up forever.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 10:49 PM
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It's usually more of an addiction to validation, thrill, or control, not an addiction to the physical act of sex. Look up material from Sex Addicts Anonymous and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. In your case, could be possible. Based on your history, she's overly concerned with your approval of her in bed, or that you look upset when you're not upset. That spells drama, and with the little bit of information you're giving (assuming it's the most pertinent info), I'd guess she's got daddy issues. …
/r/askMRP29/08/17 10:27 PM
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Letting go of my rights is how I gain control of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 07:50 PM
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how much negativity is polluting my headspace Like everything here, it depends on me. She fills the container, as long as my container is strong enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 06:44 PM
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She's already very much into spanking (even drive by's in the kitchen) and light choking. Sometimes throat fucking. Interestingly, she gives pretty hard no's at doggy style. She likes to be facing me. Just something to work within. I'm going to push things a little further before having a conversation about it. I want to have enough data points of her enjoyment so that it doesn't become a negotiation.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 06:42 PM
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how that is addressed is a mirror Absolutely agree with this. All comes down to frame. Thinking about it more, my hesitancy comes from bad (read, frameless) experiences in the past. She says she doesn't like something, I get butthurt or embarrassed. Total mountain out of molehill, and all my doing. Gotta make a fresh start! Just got a new job with higher pay. Gonna make a purchase with the first check. I'm really interested in ropes and knots, I think it's a delicious combination of beauty and r…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:06 PM
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The aftermath is probably worse than the original position. I used to be someone who would avoid doing something unless I was 98% sure I would succeed. This seems like a good time to bring back that caution. Also, my wife is going through some personal changes, so I'll start planting seeds here and there. I still have to learn to navigate her submission as a loving Dom should I love a good challenge. Any favorite shops for toys and materials? Any experience with ropes/shibari?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:49 PM
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My dad coached my and my siblings' baseball teams when I was growing up. Some of my favorite memories. So very much looking forward to coaching my son and daughter. This post whet my appetite again. Think I'll put my boy in coach pitch next year. He's already got a lot of natural talent, will be a switch hitter and thrower. My daughter, we'll see. She trips over her own feet.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:33 PM
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Great post. We need more of these. I realized my dominance is still rooted in anger. Not that I'm that angry anymore, but whenever I get dominant I channel that anger again. Essentially reinforcing a bad vibe for both of us. Not good. Ironically, a big factor for me not pushing the BDSM more is that it sounds like a lot of work. I have more than the normal grind on my plate right now (career change, house sale, etc.). Thoughts on that? I'm probably bullshitting myself, but want another perspecti…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:58 PM
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I came here to stop being afraid of my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 11:10 PM
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My wife is flashing me, what do? DGAF about those pretty tits? She doesn't control me, right? Hur dur, I have no balls or testosterone.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 10:43 PM
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You're new here, so let me preface by saying that the majority of the comments so far are probably safest. That is, removing your time and attention is the answer because she's power playing. I think you can do more with it though, and that if you can truly understand and tap into her biological imperative, you can really show your dominance. If she didn't respect you or want you, she would wear granny panties and cover herself subconsciously any time she thought you might be wanting to make a m…
/r/askMRP28/08/17 10:41 PM
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Nope. I wouldn't want to punish the flashing, which removing time and attention will do. You don't want to shut this behavior down, you want to ramp it up.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 10:28 PM
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Didn't change a thing. Wrong person.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 10:26 PM
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Dude, you were more a part of the drama than she was. A main event is when she brings hell to your doorstep. You brought an annoying, butthurt manchild to hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 03:39 PM
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Was going to say this. He contributed to more of the drama than she did!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 03:38 PM
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I'm gonna do this with my wife. Great game to play, she loves to people watch.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 03:37 PM
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Step 6 - earn your seat like everyone else does
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 03:29 PM
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If doing any or all of those things will make you happy, then go for it. I used to want to be a concert pianist and travel the world. Then my gf got pregnant, and I wouldn't give up my family life for any stage fame. The point still stands that you have an imperative to be happy, so go do whatever makes you happy and apologize to no one for it.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 03:21 PM
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Did you even read my comment? You completely missed the point. Spoiler: I agree with you.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 03:20 PM
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So strategy is the overarching plan, and self improvement is a tool to achieve that plan? As long as you're not covert contracting yourself, a la "if I improve myself, my sex life will be great." Which I think we agree is not helpful. Ironically, improving one's self usually does lead to a better sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 11:03 PM
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So stop improving myself? That'll make me happy? That'll make me alpha? That's the real red pill? Or is that just MGTOW quitting? Everyone is a slave to something. Even the most alphaest alpha ever, unless you define an alpha as simply being non-committal. Because inside every man (no exceptions) is the voice that tells him to endure pain for later gain. That's commitment: believing that what you're a slave to is worth it because of the benefit you receive. We should not advocate for a complete …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 03:47 PM
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Look up "Everything is a rich man's trick" on youtube. The same people/families have been in power, on both sides of every conflict, since WWII, and it will always stay that way. Funded the axis and the allies. Created conflicts for profit. There is no difference in political party, good vs bad, rep vs dem. The world is fucked, if you wanna talk about the big picture. My response? To become as fucking awesome as I can and live life to the fullest, with the least amount of pain, because we're all…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/17 06:16 PM
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Gotcha. For the record I agree. It's easy to yell "next" or "don't root through trash" when a guy comes along with a demon from hell for a wife. But for most guys, working on themselves will reveal that their wives had the potential to be sweet, submissive, sexy, feminine partners all along; they were just lacking the right leadership. So the first decision shouldn't be whether to root through trash, but whether there's actually any trash to begin with.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 06:03 PM
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This goes against Rollo's "Rooting Through The Trash" post. Care to explain?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 04:04 PM
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Your third and fourth points in the TLDR are at odds. You have to accept that, should your affairs become known, it could spell the end of your marriage. Call it a double standard, but she is not obligated to show you grace, especially since you're not showing her grace. Oh sure, you're probably fine on the outside. But the grudge says otherwise. You have a massive covert contract with the emotional affair. You're justifying your affair with hers, expecting her to understand how hurt you are. Do…
/r/askMRP24/08/17 03:28 PM
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Appropriate.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 03:32 PM
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There should be guide which even a idiot can understand. Hey man, you said it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 03:26 PM
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Exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 03:12 PM
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Fucking with you
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 05:56 PM
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You appear extroverted, though you're not. I can tell. You're too intellectual.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 05:51 PM
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Can tell its learned with close observation. Also written word and in-person impression can be different. You're now tagged as keyboard warrior on my RES.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 04:38 PM
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Thanks. Many of my early missteps was using a tool for the wrong scenario and blindly charging forward, or using a tool for the right scenario and doubting myself. Used A&A when I should have used fogging. Ultimately, I was still afraid of hurting her feelings. Relearning one's self can only come with time and practice. You remember my early submissions where I blundered around. Like with anything, experiences - even the bad ones, or especially the bad ones - bring an understanding of the nuance…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:34 PM
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"The uploader has not made this video available in your country." Fucking Canada.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:48 PM
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Alpha cheating vs. beta cheating.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:40 PM
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Ya know, you're right. The post is fine, content is fine. But it's completely unnecessary. The newbs aren't ready for it. The pros aren't in need of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:38 PM
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The difference is Yoda does it intentionally
/r/askMRP16/08/17 02:37 PM
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Solid post, lots of good advice. I don't know why people are so hung up on it. It's literally a final step in the 12 Levels of Dread. Gaming the wife's friend is risky, and only recommended for relapsed alphas, not career betas. Also, try dating apps. Both married and single women on those love the taboo of hooking up with a masculine, married man who owns his shit. The only issue I have is this: that's what alphas do There's two types of cheating. Alpha cheating and beta cheating. Alpha cheatin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:03 AM
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I know there's like 14,000 lurkers here whose wildest dreams can't match OP. But for god's sake, we're not all newbies. If this isn't a place for advanced MRP discussion, what is? I agree OP should have given a caveat, but besides that, it's a solid post.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:51 PM
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Nah, OP's grammar and spelling are too good.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 10:52 PM
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Extreme Ownership will ruin you like recovery ruins the addict. You'll never be able to make an excuse or bullshit yourself again. Highly recommend.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 03:48 PM
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Fucking stubborn ass special snowflake newbie. Lurk more. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:33 PM
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At the end of the day, it's up to the individual man to assess what he wants to do. My wife is actually a great SAHM. The benefits of the kids being with her outweigh the benefit of the extra money she would make. For me, shipping my kids out to a daycare for 6-8 hours a day doesn't sit well with me. My wife recently quit her only tax-paying job. However, I have make it clear that she will continue doing her side job, which pays over $50/hr. I track that income for any future legal needs, and am…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 07:11 PM
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Bingo.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 03:22 PM
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Wait, which one?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 03:22 PM
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That was the biggest common point of ours. The kids are the biggest reason I stayed, the kids were the biggest reason he left.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 11:44 PM
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Makes me shake my head and grin in disbelief
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 11:38 PM
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We could learn alot from that
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 11:38 PM
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Suppose in this instance it does. Shame on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 11:37 PM
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The nuance is that he wasn't perfect, definitely jumped all around trying things out. But he NEVER went back to the way it was. Never got comfortable. Probably drove his ex mad. Completely unpredictable on a whim. Gotta respect balls like that. Can't tell if low self esteem or actual DGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:56 PM
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Gotcha. I agree with you. I laid into him alot via pm. He kept coming back for lashings. That's how I knew he'd be fine. Stubbornness can be used for good or evil.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:54 PM
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If he waited until he was ready, he never would have been ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:51 PM
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Ha. Fuck you, ya hairy girl. Get to readin, ya porridge wog. (courtesy of Google)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:49 PM
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Ah yes, the bro. How could I forget him.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:43 PM
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I suppose you were right then. Someone else, like myself, would try to burn boats but it would come across as Rambo. Depends on whether you're a relapsed alpha or career beta, or something like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:38 PM
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did she sign up for alpha, yes = proceed, no = see "rooting through garbage" Damn man, I'm triggered.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:21 PM
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Right. Do we follow the example of Corey Worthington or Theodore Roosevelt?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:20 PM
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Big difference between cheesy and shitty. I love me some cheese.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:14 PM
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better
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:09 PM
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I freaked out burning the boats That's called Rambo. Very few examples of successful boat burnings. /u/[deleted], any come to mind? I'm drawing a blank.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:08 PM
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Fine line between burning boats and rambo. Too fine for newbs to grasp, we can't teach it. Burning boats has to come with intelligence. Best for relapsed alphas, not career betas.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 07:04 PM
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nope, taking out the trash ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:57 PM
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gonna report you
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:54 PM
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When you master the rules, you know how to break the rules in the best ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:53 PM
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suk a dik
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:46 PM
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Damn u/abdada! You have me beat for least participation!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:46 PM
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Funny how slow and steady usually shows the fastest, most reliable progress. Like plodding up a mountain. You're beating everyone still at the bottom trying to find a quick way up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:45 PM
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FUCK YOU. I worked so hard to forget that fucking song.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:43 PM
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[deleted] must be the master alpha. He never sticks around for very long. We are blessed to be graced with his presence.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:43 PM
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Gotta get a little mental fap in over at the good ol MRP, I don't judge
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:56 PM
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Hm. That was fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:53 PM
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I question the productiveness of some of the mods and ECs around here
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:50 PM
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So much of the manosphere advice is just how to live simple, wholesome, thriving lives. How to be an awesome person who appreciates the small things and enjoys the moments. Who strings up polaroids. I don't have data on my phone. I pay $20 a month for unlimited talk and text, so I have to wait until I get to wifi to do anything else. I refuse to be one of those people who miss life going on around them because they're addicted to whatever validation, reassurances, contrived outrage, or veiled pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:46 PM
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"Well what about the times that you did it to me?" You obviously know that's a bullshit line of reasoning. And she knows it too, but people love to make excuses for the actions they take when they're miserably married to a fat, drinking, gamer. I cheated before and got caught. I allowed myself to be kept in the doghouse, though. This was before I found the red pill, and I was scared of her. My world revolved around the image of us, so when she was mad or accusatory or sad, I was shaking in my bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 04:44 PM
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Also check out Mark Rippetoe and Alan Thrall on youtube for form videos. They're no bullshit (well Thrall is a little, but it's all fun) and detailed.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 04:28 PM
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One more thing: if you're having to ask is it worth it, then you're not.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 04:23 PM
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the effort to turn the relationship around. Red Pill 101 for the uninitiated: MEN FIX THEMSELVES. WOMEN FIX THE RELATIONSHIP. Let's just say, for a minute, that I took your "is it worth the effort, though" question seriously. And also, let's say that, for a divine moment in time, I knew the answer. And I told you, in my great wisdom, that it was not worth it. That this woman is always going to be boneheaded, stubborn, refuse your leadership, refuse to fuck you the way you want, etc. Would you st…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 04:20 PM
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Please explain, and I'll then tell you how you didn't get my point.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 10:06 PM
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Unless you've ACTUALLY gone through the mountain of work needed to make that decision, kindly fuck off and keep your neckbeard MGTOW opinions out of MarriedRedPill. You're the fat guy eating cheetos and drinking mountain dew, looking at the healthy, fit mountain climber, asking, "but is it worth it?" Fuck would you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 04:11 PM
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wishing That'll get you into deep emotional shit. Acceptance and extreme ownership* are the most important concepts for me. It allows me to stop wasting time blaming, wishing, dreaming, wringing my hands, and being depressed, and start owning my shit. Because if I can accept that I got myself into this mess and that this is the true nature of women, I can start to work within those limitations. Give me some time to distill it in my mind, and I might be able to come up with a model for you. In th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 07:03 PM
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When you reply to people, make sure you're replying to their comment, not to your original post. Using a desktop computer would be better for this than using your phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:58 PM
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Alright man, you have to make a choice. Let me tell you my train of thought. In no way am I directing you, just sharing a similar path to one you're about to go down. First. I had to realize that, thanks to my betaness, her under-exposure to what passionate sex looks like, and our familiarity with each other, she will never satisfy me that way I desire. In the vein of extreme ownership, I screwed up 100% by 1) being a weak beta schmuck who feared women all his life 2) not challenging myself or t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:53 PM
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Fact: she's old and familiar with you. That won't change, she won't ever forget. You'll have to deal with that if you stick it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:03 PM
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Mine are 5 and 3. I decided to choose their emotional health over my desire for freedom (one of the hardest choices I've made, ever. Brought up a ton of existential questions). Maybe when they're older, grown and gone, or just whenever, I'll pull the trigger and call it quits. But for now, I'm in it for them. Not because I expect my wife to become a porn star. I've decided to be happy with the burger and fries. Like you, I go out for a filet mignon on special occasions. Maybe I'm bullshitting my…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:02 PM
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My wife does not require constant kino and attention, even when all is well. In fact, too much attention has the opposite effect on her. It took me a long time to realize this. Sometimes I'll go days without even initiating conversation now to keep her guessing. I'm not sulky or retributive, I just don't seek her out for anything beyond logistics. It also helps reinforce the reality that I don't need her. When she starts to feel "neglected" she'll come to me. Absence makes the heart grow hornier…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 11:28 PM
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If only the poor schmucks who fear their wives could have as visceral, physical, and shocking a wake up call. Unfortunately it's a slow death that most are never aware of.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/17 05:04 PM
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My wife asked me a couple times what dress she should wear, I considered for a beat, then gave a direct answer that she then tried to debate. "The black one." "But don't you think the other one is more colorful?" "I like the black one better." [no DEERing, no explaining why I like it. I like what I like.] "But - " "If you don't like my opinion, why'd you ask for it? Looks like you already know which one you want to wear. I just helped you narrow down the options ;)" [keep in playful] She doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 04:55 PM
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Oh gotcha. The "other" Reddit.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 04:10 PM
2

Damn, when was this?
/r/askMRP19/07/17 03:59 PM
2

You're what happens when Pajama Boy sprinkles a little alpha on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 10:13 PM
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It's like a secret language to these fuckers. I've actually had conversations in high school where it was supposed to be a friendly bible study, but really everyone was trying to out-verse everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:31 PM
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Happy little accidents
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:29 PM
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Lines up with what stone just said: I wouldn't mind lying either, I found blunt truth more effective though, only becuase it means your bluff is never called, because it's not a bluff. If she rejects my advances, I'm not caught with my pants around my ankles, hanging around like a clingy bitch, looking for something to do. I've got a plan: Flirt with wife Mow the lawn Start the project In that order.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:22 PM
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Why I can't stand motherfuckers who quote bible verses. Bitch, that's good stuff because it's useful. Not because it's moral.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:18 PM
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Can't tell if your use of "plow" in "you game, you plow" is sexual or not
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:17 PM
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God damn, you triggered me. Fuck off with your religion and your moralizing. Jesus was red pill to an extent, just as Buddha was, and Krishna, and Socrates, and Aurelius. Nothing special about Christianity that you can't get from any other religion. How the fuck do you know that OP's church is a good one? Or a Christian one, for that matter? What if he goes to a cult church? What if he's catholic? I go to a Unitarian Universalist "church". Pretty sure that means I'm going to hell, according to y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:09 PM
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I don't believe this one will get it. He's been in the rut far too long. I would say that he would probably be happier if he went back (option A). But now that he knows, he's ruined by the thought that though a better life is out there for him, he doesn't have the guts to make it happen.
/r/askMRP18/07/17 03:48 PM
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cant U coz u U dont u ur What happened here? Regressed into a 14 year old ditz in the middle of your report? Heard mommy wifey coming down the hall so you typed it out real quick and got back to pretending to take a shit? Thoughts/Opinions. About what exactly? Option A vs. option B? What the fuck kind of question is that? (edit: the answer is option C, NEITHER) You're so fucking weak. And not how you think either. Progress is fine, in shape, making money, basic knowledge of red pill terms. But c…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 11:52 PM
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Cheers, old man.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:53 PM
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I tracked her cycle for awhile, until I learned the cues. Then I ditched it, because it just didn't matter anymore. Her cycle disappeared into the background of my frame. It doesn't control our sex life anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:52 PM
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Reminds me of this post, which IMO was spot on. I don't want to be unknowningly taking advice from an incel.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:36 PM
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Patience. Patience is all I needed to get here. I'm currently starting a business. Or trying to. Funding is not easy to get, due mostly to some prior credit mistakes in my past. I'm having to repair my record, and that takes time. In the meantime I'm chomping at the bit and considering giving up and switching careers altogether. It'll be at least 5 months from now before I can try again. I can wait that long, right? I realized I'm not the type to see something through to the absolute end. If som…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 04:16 PM
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Low effort post, belongs on askMRP. If you don't think they're old manish, then wear them.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:49 PM
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It's half mental, half physical. The mental is focusing on me, not being scared that I'll have PE, and not fapping as much/fapping for the enjoyment not for the climax. The physical is something along these lines. It's something I'm working toward.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:07 PM
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If it helps, I'm 5'9", 175lbs, caucasian with striking hazel eyes, long flowing hair, and hands that soothe.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:05 PM
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it's on you to pull her sexuality back out. I love being in charge.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:03 AM
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The nuance is lost on a text based forum like this. I'm sure you're not the angry guy going around correcting bitches all the time. It just sounded like it. We agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 10:54 PM
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Sometimes it's her own blocks, and sometimes it's your laziness. Maybe she just thinks that married people don't do "crazy" stuff like that anymore? Maybe the precedent you set has allowed her to believe that married people must have boring, planned, proper sex. I've had to reteach my wife to have sex that doesn't always happen at home, in our bed, under the sheets, with the lights out, missionary style. How? Just doing it, with a healthy dose of A&A. Not much talking, but lots of confident smir…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 10:21 PM
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I would agree with that theory based on experience. Leadership and all that. If I'm leading with my arousal, she'll follow with hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 10:15 PM
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You take yourself too seriously. I think there is time for shutting down bad behavior, but a little back talk is better handled like this. Now, blatantly disrespectful behavior, outright ignoring, etc. would be addressed more like you describe.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 04:12 PM
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I've been pulling in sub/dom talk when she's out of line. "Or else what?" "Remember how your ass felt the day after that one night?" I had wailed on her ass while pinning her down, the roughest play-hatefuck we've ever done. I don't know if I'm making things harder for myself, conditioning her to associate back talk with bedroom pleasure. But the speed at which she goes from nagging bitch to blushing kitten is incredible. I enjoy the challenge of bitch management. Keeps things fun for me, and ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 04:08 PM
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My wife told me she was a virgin, and if she is to be believed, I am her only sexual partner. PIV, anyway. It came out years after we were married that she did her fair share of making out with the hot foreign student athletes in college. Developed enough of a reputation that she started getting approached and grabbed in public. Do I believe that I'm her only sexual partner? Define that. I honestly don't give a fuck. u/rppilot, all you can do is take the information as fuel for your improvement.…
/r/askMRP07/07/17 06:53 PM
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The generalizations resonated with me. That's all I care about.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 05:54 PM
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Can't tell if joke or...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:55 PM
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Unfortunately, this is not a realistic exercise for getting her to drop the list Haha, I'm working on it. And she's on board. In fact, she's pushing me to homestead. I think she's tired because she's at least partially aware of all of this. hence the short-term exercise I proposed in my post I will be doing this and reporting back results. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:53 PM
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like a good BP guy I told her I did anyway Women don't hate that beta guys are weak. Weak guys are just omega. They hate that beta guys are weak and fake, with a side of secret expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:51 PM
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I wrote this comment before reading your other post. Not sure I would have written it the same way. These sentences especially hit home: That's why they felt all tingly before they were your wife and stopped when you started treating them like a wife and The stable husband mentality is, essentially, to live as if you are a single dad with sole custody of his kids dating a hottie who you like having around I've been relying on my wife to pick up her slack too much. There are a few parts of my hou…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:47 PM
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I did something like this a few years back, right after I found RP. I wouldn't run her life quite so micro, but before I would leave to work (she's a SAHM), I would give her three things to do every day. Some of them were basic (do a load of laundry, wash the dishes, vacuum the carpets), others were not (call the doctor about such and such, contact so and so about the church function, take a walk around the apartment complex). She absolutely ate it up. When I didn't do this, she would get overwh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:23 PM
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I like the advice, but it is different than other advice I've gotten from lawyers in my city. Granted, the two that I got the most in-depth consults from were both women. I've been under the impression that she needs to be able to handle herself like an adult, so that if we get divorced she can't lay complete provision on me and rape my wallet. She's a SAHM. So little things I've been delegating to her, training her, watching her. Things like handling insurance questions for her braces, scheduli…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 03:47 PM
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People can change. We pave the path, and they have to walk down it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 06:14 PM
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Yes and no. That phrase, taken literally, leads to low standards and nihilism. I have expectations from people, but when they fail to meet them, I have EFFECTIVE ways of dealing with it. It helps if I don't tie my own actions to their actions via covert contract to begin with.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 06:13 PM
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Bet that moment took longer to arrive than you would have liked. Good thing you weren't holding your breath. A man is liable to go mad from lack of oxygen. Satisfying, isn't it, looking back at your self improvement, knowing all that hard work is what made this happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 06:12 PM
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You shitlord
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:58 AM
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Oo... yeah... talk code to me baby.
/r/askMRP06/07/17 01:55 AM
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Must have felt good
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:50 AM
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Let me break this down. Hopefully you see where you're being boneheadedly blue. I don't want to get divorced Ok, this you can control. You have a say in this. I want my wife to put in about 2-3 more hours of effort Ah, this you don't have control over. You can negotiate (which you did, but maybe there's other things you could offer to sweeten the deal), you could beg, you could make empty threats, you could make non-empty threats, you could give an ultimatum (but with what consequences?), you co…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:49 AM
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So you're telling me that if you got divorced right now, you'd go hungry?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:05 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:04 AM
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I have nothing against you spending money on a kitchen. I'm a DIYer and amateur remodeler myself. It's highly satisfying. WHEN IT DO IT FOR ME. Even when I do projects for my wife, I have to tell myself not to expect something as simple as a "thanks". I'm never disappointed, because I decided to do it for her, and nothing else. No covert contracts. No expectations. Just, wanted to.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:00 AM
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About your "advanced techniques" question, that simply comes with time.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 11:04 PM
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You said it yourself. You stuck your dick in crazy. The only thing you can do, and could ever do, was take care of yourself and get a solid exit plan. Sounds like you have an outline of one.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 11:03 PM
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The RP way: start doing ALL the cooking. Make her contribution obsolete.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 09:57 PM
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You did the equivalent of buying roses for her then expecting better sex. I'm surprised you've gotten as far in your career as you have with those negotiation skills. Sorry buddy, you threw away all that money.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 09:46 PM
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I'm surprised the cognitive dissonance doesn't hurt them more. Isn't it amazing how humans are capable of deluding themselves when their emotions are involved and they're determined to see something in a certain light? They'll rationalize anything out of or into existence. I find it much more time consuming and rewarding to identify and eliminate areas where I do this than worry about when my wife does it. Ironic how catering less gets us what we want.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 09:38 PM
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suicide cut herself xanax Why not divorce? Because apparently your basement music studio is more important. Why are you still with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 09:33 PM
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Billiards, bungee jumping, breasts (I tried)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 04:02 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3kfaqt/all_men_are_like_that/
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 04:02 PM
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Makes sense. Was speaking too much from personal experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 03:52 PM
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Completely agree. No such thing as an addictive personality vs. a non-addictive personality. Just better addictions and worse addictions.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 09:35 PM
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Congrats man. Keep trucking. Lots of my clients stop injecting meth but then take up smoking cigarettes. They replace one habit for the other and never address the core issues that made them addicts in the first place. Eliminate all vices. After that, you can get real work done.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 07:39 PM
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Would probably be easier on his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 06:55 PM
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How long have you been clean?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 05:45 PM
2

Or "breath into this for me real quick so we can get on the road..."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 05:44 PM
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What can you do to fix YOU? You can't fix her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:50 PM
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Fuck you, man. Fuck you for thinking that you can keep your addiction and still run your life the way you think you want. Heroin is no joke. Fuck you for finding the (IMO, well justified) splinter in your wife's eye while ignoring the log in your eye. I'm not religious in any way, but I had to bust out that reference just for your sorry ass. You're a sleazy salesman focusing on how you can get get get from your wife, but you refuse to acknowledge how shitty and absent you're being. Ya know what,…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:47 PM
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Asking the important questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:24 PM
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I was chatting with someone just now about the old TV show Friends. When I first swallowed the pill and realized how far men have fallen, I couldn't watch that show... or any other show... or listen to music... or watch movies... or observe relationships... without getting righteously angry. But I've progressed and accepted. Just the other night I was watching reruns with my babe, laughing at the funny parts I still enjoy, mocking the terribly cheesy parts, and having a great red pill discussion…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/17 06:37 PM
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DOES NOBODY READ ENTIRE COMMENTS ANYMORE?!?!?! Fucking hilarious and sad. You should be ashamed of your bandwagoning self.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 06:21 PM
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Read. The. Whole. Fucking. Comment. Dumbass.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 06:20 PM
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Classic. I've gotten to a point I never thought I would. After I swallowed the pill, I used to hate Friends. The guys were weak, the girls were hypergamous, it was all fake anyway... I was angry and couldn't stand it, like lots of the guys here are saying. But I don't really care anymore. I watch Friends because it's a great way to provide comfort with my wife (she's a big fan too). Some parts are truly hilarious, and the painfully cheesy parts we make fun of. And it gives me an opportunity to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 04:17 PM
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And I was more drawn to the nerdy Ross getting superhot girl next door Rachel (Jennifer Aniston? Yes please). I think the more pathetic the man, the louder the cheering when he finally wins in the story. Like I said, it's an escape.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:32 PM
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What they don't show is how the sex life died after the kids arrived. Shows are great at portraying only the fun parts of relationships. Never the part where you have to fight becoming a boring schlub. It's the reason sitcoms like that are so successful: they allow the viewer an escape from reality. By definition, they cannot depict reality. That wouldn't sell. It's almost like I could watch a sitcom and then do the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:30 PM
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Passing fitness tests is the single most mindblowing, counterintuitive thing we can do. And that's why sad men who don't know the game think women are so confusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:27 PM
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... are ... are you joking?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:22 PM
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The truth is I've been improving over the last 3 years, and they've slowly been rotting. Love em, and tried to talk to them about these principles. No, I'm a try-hard rogue for wanting to make my wife chase me. Their loss, and they wonder what's gone wrong. You made me think though... The number and intensity of IOIs a wife/gf will give me is directly proportionate to the softness their man has acquired.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 09:09 PM
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Acts of Service turns into Chore Play reeeally fast.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 09:04 PM
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Ironic how growing a pair makes you an "asshole" but also makes you attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 09:03 PM
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Every single one
/r/askMRP28/06/17 08:48 PM
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For a minute I thought I was "J" in his story. Same first initial, short, no morals, long-term friends with hot gfs... it all adds up. Except I don't have pussies for friends.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:34 PM
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If you're a recovering beta, and you come across 5LL, RUN. My wife said this to me once, verbatim: "The reason I don't want to have sex with you is because you haven't been complimenting me much lately. My love tank is empty." In reality, I was being a whiny bitch even subscribing to this system. No. I will never recommend 5LL to anyone except maybe hardened criminals and drug addicts who could stand to grasp the concepts of reciprocity and consequences a little more.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:30 PM
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We sit down and I say "So let's talk about this." You have much to learn. She starts going on again, and I just repeat the same thing I said the night before. I'm confused. You started the conversation again, just to give her the same lines? It's so fucked up and I just hope all of it was subconscious. Let the anger flow through you in the iron temple. And accept that this is real life. Now I await the next test You still in her frame? Waiting around for her to test you? Always thinking about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:20 PM
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Now, I get to decide if I want to go to his bullshit party.. (being miserable and only thinking about how fucking high the grass is) I remember the first time I decided I wasn't going to go hang out with the in-laws for some bullshit "just because" get together. This is a family that is stuck in a rut, always go to the same mediocre restaurant, same place after, same cheap cake if it's a birthday, same jokes, same sibling drama between wife and hers. I like my in-laws enough, they're alright peo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:15 PM
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I love watching Friends. But sadly, the dudes in there are painfully beta. Except Joey. He's a natural.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:09 PM
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NICE
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 05:03 PM
0

Mmm... bereetoes...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 05:03 PM
2

If she can suck my brain cum out properly FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:36 PM
2

Cringe at that spelling. Never was your strong point
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:35 PM
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Good on your for taking the first step. Many guys, myself included, cling to the "value" principle like socially autistic fucktards. We don't give anything unless we get first. Wife doesn't greet me at the door? Perfectly fine, but I have better things to do with my time. I respond to her energy in kind. Terse for terse. Tit for tat. I know you took action based on an experiment model, where you were testing for a certain reaction (newbie disclaimer: this doesn't indicate a covert contract neces…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:29 PM
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Abundance helps this, if you know you can get other women But abundance comes later. Owning of the shit comes first, for it's in that owning that our confidence, and thus abundance, grows. If you're not owning your shit, then deep down you know, maybe even subconsciously, that you're a shit person and that no one else should want to be with you. Own your shit > abundance > real confidence > a better life
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:17 PM
1

Texas?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:12 PM
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If I was in a car with some dude going the speed limit on a 450-mile road trip, I'd be screaming and bitching too.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 11:31 PM
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It's mindblowing reading questions like this. Such a simple concept, made to be abstract and complex by our love of victimhood. Your shit = everything that is in your sphere of influence. Own it = make decisions about it all, and make no excuses for those decisions Also helpful: DEER = don't fucking Defend, Explain, Excuse, or Rationalize your shit. When you've owned your shit long enough, you'll start becoming natural at it. That's when you start developing Frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 11:22 PM
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SAH - LID.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:51 PM
1

she wanted to go to bed early and was getting really bitchy again I got in bed and she did too with some sexy panties, still mad. She immediately jump on top of me complained I was not hard yet Doesn't even know what she actually wants, just knows that your frame is sending her on an emotional roller coaster. And she likes it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:38 PM
1

Or phoenixing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:17 PM
1

Oh hey that makes more sense. I was thinking zombies.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 07:03 PM
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Haha, can't tell if you're being sarcastic. I'm sure the mods know who this guy is. But I don't put blind faith in anyone, even mods. I don't get the patient zero reference...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 04:56 PM
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Who are you and how are you MRP and TRP approved on a 10 day old account?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 10:58 PM
2

The success of a relationship when one or both partners are addicts depends largely on how they started. Were you an addict when she met you and fell in love with you? Then getting clean will destroy the relationship. Were you clean when she fell in love but then fell into addiction and beta bitchiness? You have more of a chance. It's the difference between a career beta and a drunk captain. And it's what I was getting at here.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 03:15 PM
3

Of course this assumes good will from both parties. I'm not sure if this sounds sci-fi or is possible, what do you think u/alphabeta49 ? I have a theory. Too long for here. Get that schlong in your mouth baby. Show him that you love him. u/DoctorNini, this is the best advice you'll get on this sub. Follow it and you'll be doing your part.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:43 AM
1

He better.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 11:45 PM
3

getting more attention then I have ever past teen years. You must be a total hunk. I can't imagine putting almost 50 lbs on my frame and thinking I looked good in a shirt. Time will tell if you're gonna respect yourself enough to set and actually enforce boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 06:16 PM
7

215 5 ft 9, still have a bit to lose to be optimal You think you're close? Unless you've got insane muscle mass, there's no way you're "close to optimal". I'm 5'8", never went over 200, but I was a fatass. Now, at 178, I look good with a shirt on, but fuck me if I take it off. Still working on that, I still have a gut. Stop mincing words. You're obese. Calculate it yourself. yelled at me while driving People have already reamed you about taking her back. Regarding the car fights: don't engage wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 04:33 PM
2

Alcohol - or any negative addiction - is an excuse, a coverup, a way to take the hands off the wheel and say "not my fault, I don't have to deal with it." It's always a symptom of something deeper, too. Getting clean is the first step, and the easiest. It's always much more difficult to deal with the character deficiencies that the lack of alcohol uncovers. Especially that emotional immaturity that Ment and Ex alluded to. I'm a drug and alcohol counselor, and the type of men who come through my …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 04:29 PM
2

It seems there's some confusion on the part of OP. He doesn't understand that some IUDs are hormonal and some are not. Some fuck with a woman's emotions and cycle, and some don't. His wife obviously got the hormonal one. My wife has the non. Massive difference in experiences.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 04:20 PM
1

Soft, or too hard? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 08:53 PM
-2

We can make you an honorary member, since you already spend so much time perusing our histories.
/r/ExRedPill14/06/17 07:08 PM
1

The more I think about your FR, the more I agree with your perspective. It's solid, not just because you're owning it. It's exactly what I do, fuck the negative responses you're getting. The only pause I give is for the RP belief that women acting like that is subconscious flirting. Thoughts? Did you miss an opportunity to fuel the fire/keep it fun?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 07:07 PM
1

Are you willing to go as far as divorce if that's what it takes for him to get it?
/r/ExRedPill14/06/17 07:01 PM
1

Adding value
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:00 AM
0

Glad I could provide you some chuckles.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/17 11:56 PM
1

I think W&S went fishing for validation or out of boredom, and the bait was a whole hell of a lot of powertalk. Wasn't in vain though. It's funny that I had to get almost halfway down the comments before I saw any ECs. The hive mind is shallow and simple. Ironic that the top comment calls you autistic. I've done the same thing you did in your story. Don't take me seriously? I'll take my seriousness somewhere else.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 11:55 PM
1

What worked for me was time and maturity. $100 says your husband has no really great older, real, tangible role models. So he's learning everything through a computer screen and forums like TRP. Give him time. That and a patient wife was what helped me break through. Take away the patient wife and you have a divorce. Maybe life needs to hit your husband square in the face to get him to wake up. Are you that kind of person to trigger those kinds of consequences?
/r/ExRedPill13/06/17 11:46 PM
5

Because before marriage, he seem He's a faker. If all of this is true, I can relate to your husband. Was great at putting on a good front but was really scared and confused inside. Sought out the red pill because I was unhaaaaaapy, when in reality I was a big fat man baby who couldn't pull together a work ethic to save his soul, had no confidence but was so stuck in his head and ego that he went around breaking things in his life. Your husband has deep insecurity and validation issues that stem …
/r/ExRedPill13/06/17 10:29 PM
2

I don't know why they don't encourage sex between the newly formed couples too. Sorta like an R rated Wife Swap. I think it would give more insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 06:11 PM
1

Just got back from no-cell vacation to this. Should have brought popcorn. It's like walking through a battlefield posthumously. "Wow, wouldn't have thought that guy would have died that way..."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 06:01 PM
3

Not all treasure is silver and gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 10:16 PM
1

Career choice is a huge factor. If you've got a job that regularly requires long nights, extended travel, separation from the family, etc. then yeah you've got a harder row to plow. I'm transitioning from a full-time (40+hr/wk) gig with supplemental projects on the side that take 2-10 hrs/wk. Not much time for family, exercise, hobbies, friends, etc. Planned career is essentially a really involved landlord. Come and go as needed, occasional midnight crises, but no clock-in/clock-out schedule. An…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 07:39 PM
2

Wait until you grope her before you've spoken a word. In a park. During the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 11:47 PM
1

Good to know. I'm a musician myself. Don't like commercialization. Gonna look into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 03:42 AM
1

True. How do you pay the talent directly?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 11:42 PM
3

Oh, and I love pirate/viking metal for a healthy dose of ridiculousness.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 06:27 PM
1

It's like your methadone
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 06:23 PM
1

I'd downvote it, so you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:56 PM
1

this is just naval gazing It really is. I used to be consumed with these thoughts. And while it's good to know my history, it's better if I just get to work. Finding those "answers" doesn't change any part of my current path forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:46 PM
1

First of all, spend the $5/month and get Pandora Plus (ad free). It exposes you to great bands and musicians you might not have been aware of or thought of. Lately I've enjoyed a Tool/Puscifer/Lamb Of God station for workouts and a Blackmill station for lyric-less soft jams. Definitely ditch anything mainstream/pop/cuntry. Second, and more importantly, consider not listening to music. Sure, it can be motivational, but I've found that I accomplish a lot more mentally when I work to motivate mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:43 PM
1

Scripts are comfortable, that's for sure. That's why starting a business is scary. You can't read to the end and spoil the ending for yourself. The problem is, many men don't realize how great of a story they are capable of writing. Makes me wonder if the core problem with TBP/feminism is the decline of the collective self esteem of men.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:27 PM
1

Same. When I stopped caring about sex, I appeared sexier and got more sex. Funny. It has helped me separate what is important and what is not, based on my values. Yesterday my wife asked for me to pay for a rusty red vintage wagon. I didn't want to prioritize that in the family budget, but instead of DEERing and hoping she wouldn't get mad for getting turned down, I just said there's no money for that. She did get mad for getting turned down, but then figured out a solution on her own and all wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:24 PM
2

It's a strong argument for asceticism, even nihilism. Fortunately we have an innate biological/psychological desire to find value in morality and meaningful existence. So it balances.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:21 PM
3

The "man who did stop" link no longer exists. What video is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:50 PM
3

I was thinking more about the irony today. I hate roaches, to be sure. But they only look out for themselves, and they don't give a brainless damn who they trample to get what they want. Even when I find a nest and try to scatter them, they fucking climb over my feet to get away. Roaches give no fucks. They're undefeatable, legion, and worthless, which has allowed them to evolve into IDGAF critters. Compare that to the nice guy persona I'm leaving behind. The guy who would shake in his boots whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:39 PM
1

Newbs struggle with not going rambo. We struggle with balance and fine tuning, all while keeping the pedal to the metal.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:15 PM
1

With houses or social media?
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:12 PM
1

That's why lots of people have a summer home and winter home. When you've got lots of resources, you can have both!
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:07 PM
2

I hate em too. It's an ironic parallel.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 06:04 PM
3

Good to see you back
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:03 PM
2

You seem really familiar with the lingo.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:03 PM
9

She cheated because you're not providing something to satisfy her dual strategy. Your job is to figure out what you're not providing. Not so you can get her back, don't even think about it. But so you don't continue being a pathetic screw up loser for the rest of your life. Your wife is offering you a massive life lesson as a parting gift. Don't leave her hanging. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 06:01 PM
8

you are 1 of billions It's getting warmer here, so the cockroaches are out in full force. I did a little home spray job a week or so ago, and laid down a ton of poison around our front door. Well, a couple days after that my wife and I are sitting out on the step after a date night. I've got my pipe, she's got her cherry cigarillo. Life is good. Then I look down and see this giant roach on it's back, sputtering and dying because of the poison entering its body. And then I thought, I'm like that …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 05:53 PM
2

It's because the kids with dynamite think the forehead kiss "means something". New guy's wife: "WTF is he doing. This is stupid." Advanced guy's wife: "He's the one in control. I feel safe."
/r/askMRP22/05/17 11:55 PM
2

You remind me of my 18 year old brother. Great intentions, talks a great talk, is charming in person... but is completely clueless. Sprinkled a little alpha on, got some results with some girlfriends... now he's got this amazing girl that he's going to bend over backward for because she's frankly out of his league. Completely clueless and out of control you are. Sometimes I wish TRP were harder to find. You Blue Pill Rambos give us a bad name.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 03:29 PM
1

...<the point>... . . . . . <your head>
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 03:20 PM
3

Right...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 08:51 PM
1

Why not both?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 08:47 PM
1

Moving up. Awesome man.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 03:31 PM
1

I also doubt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:54 PM
1

Based Stick Man gonna turn into Based 2A Man, and he's gonna multiply by the millions. The loud obnoxious will give way to the silent but deadly if they push too hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:46 PM
2

As for children running amok, good. About time kids learned how consequences worked without helicopter parents killing all the fun. BRB, just gotta fight my own tendencies now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:41 PM
2

gasp No!!! Really??
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:40 PM
3

Mmmm, big trucks... Just read that Tennessee banned Antifa. Looks like I'm gonna go be a redneck.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:23 PM
0

She already works hard at her "job", being a SAHM. But it completely shifts the dynamic in a fun way when I have her do something I usually do, especially if she can subtly tell I'm coaching/judging/watching her.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 03:23 PM
3

You and W&S... I always thought the little asian guys in the rice burners, looking straight ahead all bored while their bitches drove (horribly I might add)... thought they were chumps. Real men drive. I'm shifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 03:22 PM
3

Sorta related. I used to think that it was masculine to handle all administrative tasks myself. Paying bills, calling doctors, scheduling shit. Hell, I even drove 100% of the time we were in the car together. Thought that guys who rode passenger were pussies. Then realized if I ever leave her, I'm screwed because I've enabled a very comfortable lifestyle for her and given her zero responsibility for it. Hello, alimony. Plus, as a SAHM, she needs some responsibility other than full time babysitte…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:53 PM
3

Ha, didn't even catch that. Sloppy opsec. Not going to waste any more time on BigEsophagus.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:08 PM
1

Frame is weak when a random internet stranger can affect your feelings. Are you a troll? Fuck off. Are you not a troll? Then my accusations carry no weight and should roll off your back. Trial by fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:05 PM
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You went from "drunk" to drunk You've got a problem. You're out of control, with drinking and in life. You haven't internalized shit. $100 says you haven't finished either sidebar. This is all sorts of wrong. Go suck on the big macho FBI agent's dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 09:40 PM
1

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/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 09:33 PM
1

Agree with Rex. Don't ever refuse sex, especially by pretending not to hear her. That's some feminine, manipulative, passive aggressive bullshit. Did you want to fuck her? Then fuck her. You're not in the place to be turning her down. "wanna do me real quick?" Yeah, I'm sure she was real disappointed when you "didn't hear" her. The only time refusing sex works is when you decline and she goes apeshit. FYI, the "worry when I stop" applies to everything. Worry when I stop asking how your day was. …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 04:08 PM
1

Not if you don't get caught
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 04:01 PM
4

Not if you don't get caught. It's actually safer. Both of them being married means they both have lots to lose. Speaking from experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 10:10 PM
6

It helps when your wife is doing her damn best to lose the baby belly.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 10:08 PM
12

Both yours and coward's comments are right. Yours first: be attractive, don't be unattractive. His second: doesn't matter what you do, you can't control her, no covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 10:07 PM
1

wife's idealized marriage and how it doesn't jive with yours I think this is why I didn't pull the plug sooner. I obviously want a highly sexual, fun marriage. My wife's idealized marriage didn't exclude that, so it was a matter of leading her to my version of the priority list. Sex was always on her priority list, she just let it drop so low she forgot about it because, kids. Sounds like you fit my Precedent post better than I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 07:53 PM
6

Husband Of The Year sounds like a prize for beta bitches who do great dishes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 07:43 PM
15

Great power = great responsibility. Good job not being a child with a hand grenade.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 07:42 PM
2

1) You're overthinking shit. You even post in r/philosophy. 2) Fuck you for not giving us details. Were you attractive? Are you now attractive? 3) Are you making Red Pill Rambo changes? Is she pushing back? Or is she just ramping up the beta bitch pigeon hole she's got you in? 4) Why do you care what she thinks? Outcome independence, man. Keep reading the sidebar. 5) Good answer to her "respect" statement: you shouldn't worry when I sexualize you. You should worry when I stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 07:05 PM
2

A woman will crawl across broken glass and over barbed wire to fuck a man she's attracted to.
/r/askMRP16/05/17 04:50 PM
1

We're watching in the order released. Not much of a movie couple, so the first six episodes will take us months. Not going to bother with VII etc. I have Gattaca, Hacksaw Ridge, John Wick, and Glengarry Glen Ross on the list. And 40 year old virgin.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 04:34 PM
1

Why haven't I still not seen that movie. I'm walking my wife through the Star Wars movies right now. Just finished Ep. IV. She's a newb.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 04:14 PM
1

Love reading stuff like this. It's like justice porn, but focused on the dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 04:04 PM
1

That's the thing. I don't remember consciously pulling away from her. I guess I did, because apparently it worked (or something worked. Maybe just giving it time?). Truly not giving a fuck, not just pretending or doing the things you do when you don't give a fuck, is the goal. So many guys (including myself) come on here and say "I truly didn't give a fuck", which means that in a particular situation they didn't care about the outcome, because they had analyzed all possible outcomes and come to …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 04:04 PM
2

So what do you talk about? Um... positive things? Whatever you want, man. Are you doing things with your life that are positive and fun? Share those things. Without doing it for approval, obviously. "Hey mommy, look at me, I'm hanging out with my friends! Isn't it cool?" is different than "You wouldn't believe what happened last night. Dave was picking up this chick and made her laugh, and she shot beer out her nose so hard she had to go home!"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:55 PM
1

Was confused by "at home 99 percent of the time"
/r/askMRP16/05/17 03:52 PM
2

I have an ongoing booty call affair going on with what used to be a SAHM (she since got divorced and started a career). Don't kid yourself. SAHMs are a loaded gun. All that free time and nothing to keep her occupied, unless she's actually reenacting Little House On The Prairie for you.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 11:43 PM
4

Only thing I can think of that was different was cutting off the already minimal sharing of negative info. I don't say a word about much anymore, business, workouts, friends, my own psyche, whatever. If things are going bad, she doesn't need to know. If things are going well, she'll see, I don't have to tell her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 11:41 PM
1

I'm giving my kids plenty of time. They're honestly the only reason I haven't pulled the plug already. I'm not yet 30.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 11:14 PM
4

Most likely she has not heated as she is at home 99 percent of the time The hamster is real.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 11:13 PM
2

If you're going to burn your marriage down, why not wait until you find out if any of its misery is your own fault? Good work man. I've got a long-term exit plan, 5-10 years. I need to be in a better place financially, and I want my kids to be older when I leave so they're not poisoned against me. Who knows, in that time I might decide it's not worth the freedom.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 10:46 PM
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Bitter jagged pill going down, yay! All sex is this way. You've only got as much value as whatever she's after in the moment. Yay solipsism and Briffault's law! Married? You're a meal/lifestyle/status ticket. Maybe a hot and handsome ticket with a six pack, but you're a ticket nonetheless. Men here are working their asses off to elicit the raw, animalistic, cat scratch, sweating, panting, lustful attraction that is all we care about. Since women know it's all we care about, they guard that side …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 10:30 PM
1

Care to expand?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 10:28 PM
2

If you know that you'll fall into that trap, don't do it. Keep it simple. What would mean the most to her? Then do that as your "thank you". That you're rewarding her after her behavior means it's not a covert contract. Its conditioning.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 09:55 PM
3

Good eye. Looks like she's proving me wrong. Her interest in sex has gone up consistently each ovulation over the past 3 periods, she's gotten more compliant to my moving her around in positions, less reluctant, asked for anal, asked to be violently spanked, bought sexy lingerie. All in the course of a couple months. I never would have guessed. I would have written the same post up until about two weeks ago. Now... I'm not sure. I still think there's a place for the Precedent theory. Just not su…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 09:43 PM
1

Both, and more. Dole out whatever gets her dopamine flowing the most. 5 Love Languages would work here. Verbal compliments (words of affirmation)? Grabbing coffee, rubbing her feet, or doing the dishes unannounced (acts of service)? Hanging around after the deed or randomly (quality time)? There's a couple more, but you get the idea. Whatever makes her feel loved, do that as reward for good performance. Sometimes that's words, sometimes it's actions or other things. You should know what works be…
/r/askMRP15/05/17 09:33 PM
3

Who is the prize? Saying thank you puts her on a pedestal. If you want to reward good behavior, a few words will do, IF you have the burning desire to say anything. Actions are more effective for positive conditioning.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 07:18 PM
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do not usually vibe. I'm sure you've got a lot of great qualities. Nuance isn't one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 07:06 PM
4

Starting a business. Going from +/-$30k/yr (single income family) to anywhere from $60-180k/yr, depending on the contracts I can land. And I'm already directly connected to the best paying contract out there. I've got a great team of consultants, tax guys, and other professionals who are personally helping me out and doing me favors. Lots of people believe in my vision because I've passionately sold it to them. It's just a matter of time til launch, I am beyond excited to go from shit pay with a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 07:03 PM
1

Trick, manipulate, and hate are strong words. He didn't mislead any more than women do when they wear makeup. If he has indicated he was someone he was not or was looking for something he was not or flat out lied to get into her pants, then I would agree with you. And even then, so what? Your statement was that it was a shame he "had to do exactly that in order to come to this realization." And? But actually, I agree with the rest of your comment. OP was upvoted so much because of his sincerity.…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/17 12:05 AM
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It's a shame that OP had to do exactly that in order to come to this realization Where did he do any of that?
/r/TheRedPill12/05/17 09:19 PM
2

I've already reserved social_autist
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 08:34 PM
1

And if those decisions pay off often enough, they're real enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 07:06 PM
1

I'm a thinker, always had an easy time with abstract concepts. But I might have to pick up this writing thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 06:02 PM
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Hey fucktard, he said he has depression! Don't TRIGGER his deep and sensitive feewings!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 05:57 PM
2

If you have emotional reactions to your memories, it's becuase you haven't articulated them properly This is the best justification for journaling, therapy, and "talking about your feelz" I've ever seen. Simple as that. You don't like how you feel? Talk about it. Either to paper or a shrink who won't kick you in the balls or leave you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 05:45 PM
3

You're in your feels. You feel bad being rejected, and you feel good having a strange pussy rubbing your leg. That's what you're basing this on. Not gonna end well. But you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 05:41 PM
3

TIL
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 05:27 PM
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needs of my family almost all the cooking a lot of the cleaning i am a savage in the weight room the lovin fell off big time almost any sexual interaction is transactional You're not anywhere near alpha. You're a pretty awesome housekeeper though, so props, I guess. savage in the weight room Sounds like something a neckbeard would say. i take time and vacations for myself She's probably relieved that you're gone and she doesn't have to blow you anymore. She had a bunch of naughty fun with you, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 07:39 PM
3

No. Why the fuck would you advise him to talk about his feelings? And before he reads the sidebar or actually puts in any work?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 07:33 PM
1

Yeah, don't talk about it when she's not turned on. Even better, say this in the moment: "You turn me on so much, I can't help myself. I have to taste you." Then it's not you going down on her intentionally, it's "whoops, passion overcame me" which is much more fun and plays with her ASD.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:42 PM
11

So glad you brought it back around in the last two paragraphs. I was salivating. I've cheated in the past. When I was sleeping around, my abundance was very real. My home life was actually pleasant in spite of the rest of my beta self, because I wasn't reliant on my wife for anything. Even sex. I wouldn't recommend affairs without titanium frame, but it taught me a lesson. Now, what happens when you realize the thrill of the chase is always more fun than gaming the wife? Let us know when you get…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 11:42 PM
2

Talk about a let down.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 03:38 PM
3

Here's a good one. Searching "maturity and addiction" in Google Scholar turns up quite a bit of research as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 03:37 PM
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Clinically, the age at which someone falls prey to a substance addiction - alcohol, drugs, etc - is the age at which they stop maturing. If/when they finally get clean, they have a ton of emotional catching up to do, and it's the hardest thing in the world for them. They have to go from [age they started self medicating] to [their current age] as quickly as possible. Addiction isn't limited to drink and blow. Some of us are addicted to women, validation, safety, comfort, routine, drama, hot show…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 09:55 PM
3

Define "playing". I wrestle with my boy and girl. I teach them sports, fighting, and competition. I don't play tea party, kitchen, or house; that's my wife's job. I doubt that my test levels are lower because I play with my kids. Unless kiddo playtime is distracting me from lifting heavy things. But the more pressure I'm under, the more I should be owning my shit. Example 1: I'm not a Christian anymore, but there's a megachurch pastor in China I once read about. He was asked once how, in the mid…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 04:52 PM
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Same answer I would give to this question: How do I keep hygienic when fucking my wife's asshole? I take precautions. Simple. Didn't read the article. Don't need to. The lifestyle of the average dad compared to the average single dude says enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 04:42 PM
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I'm available for more advice if you ever need it. I do this for a living, have had addictions myself, and have counseled lots of people informally (exaddictbro is one).
/r/askMRP28/04/17 05:11 PM
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I agree with your layers of abstraction. Be the whole package, be a great parent, father (I understand the difference), manager, and husband. That's the best way to do family successfully, and getting there will help you determine if she's really the problem. I'm great at the parent and father bits. RP has helped my improve the other two. When I was new to this, I "stayed for the kids". But really I was stupidly immature and didn't know up from down. Self improvement has shown me that I owe my m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 05:10 PM
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Fear that she'll take the destructive path. I have a younger brother who is experimenting with meth. He still lives at home at 18. He's fit, good looking, charming, and an asshole. Great red pill kid, but doesn't control himself. My parents should kick him out and force him to learn the lessons the hard way. But they won't, and they will continue providing for him, because if they do kick him out, he'll go live with the people he's partying with and end up 1) in jail, 2) in a gang, or 3) dead. T…
/r/askMRP28/04/17 04:46 PM
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Post got me thinking, even though I don't agree with all of it. Ultimately, this: It got traced alllll the way back for both of us, even though her family never split up. You shot your whole argument in the foot by admitting that even when parents stay together, they fuck their kids up. I'm an example of that. Parents are still fine and married, but I was a worthless, drifting pussy until a few years ago. I've had to reassure my wife that, despite our best efforts, our parents are going to come …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 04:37 PM
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I'm a drug and alcohol counselor. And you're a fucking enabler. The whole time she's saying "yeah it's starting to weigh on my mind" and "if it scares you I won't do it anymore" and excuses excuses excuses, she's buying time. SHE knows it's a problem, but she's not owning her shit. And you're not giving her that option. The only way to fix an addict is to drop her on her ass and make her figure it out. Hard boundary. We're talking: She can't watch or discipline the kids when she drinks She can't…
/r/askMRP28/04/17 04:09 PM
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Bummer, I was hoping someone hadn't spoon fed him the answers. See if he could come up with strat's "levels of defense" on his own. But you made it very clear. Hope OP gets it.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 10:53 PM
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Strat was a good one. Awesome transition, you should go back and read all of his submissions from the first when you have time.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 10:50 PM
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I think he answered your question, and MRP might not like it. If we are our only judge, then what prevents us from slipping up and thinking it's ok? What keeps us from deluding ourselves? IMO, it's the reaction we get from those around us, including our wives As much as we want to only judge ourselves (and in many ways we should, like fitness and progress towards our own personal goals), we naturally include outside opinion in our assessment of ourselves. "What is my place in relation to this wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 07:46 PM
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True. Maybe I transferred too much of my wife. Mine would shut down and act all whipped once I put her in her place. OP's might not go so quietly.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 10:05 PM
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You've owned that you did nothing wrong. Awesome, you're at net zero. But if you want to make progress, realize that she violated your trust, not the other way around. I agree with McGill and Fire. Address this with her, as soon as you can get your head straight. Chastise her like the teenager she is acting like. Firm and righteous anger wouldn't be a bad thing here. Set your boundary, enact consequences. Simple.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 05:23 PM
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This is what is happening: Your wife has zero respect for your, ball-less, spineless, sack of shit, self. You've so convinced yourself that she thinks YOU'RE cheating, when really she's the one cheating, and she hates you for being so weak and gullible. "THAT'S the man I married?!" She's accusing you of sins to cover her own, and you're falling for it thinking you're laying down some dread. You gave her that taste by creating the account in the first place. Your relationship, if you want to be a…
/r/askMRP18/04/17 07:56 PM
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He didn't know moving to Europe would affect his kid? "Hey look, I'm in Europe now... WHOOPS!!! My kid is being affected by my absence! Whodathunkit?"
/r/askMRP17/04/17 11:47 PM
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no problem pardner
/r/askMRP17/04/17 11:39 PM
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Stands for "read the sidebar"
/r/askMRP17/04/17 11:24 PM
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Haha
/r/askMRP17/04/17 11:24 PM
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Can confirm. Was raised in a church. OP has some good ideas, but need to be fleshed out and de-religioned.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/17 10:54 PM
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"man who saved themselves for her" The fuck did you get that? Uncomfortable truth: men's sexual strategy and women's sexual strategy are different. Experienced men are more attractive, inexperienced women are more attractive. She can save herself for marriage and marry a great RP man who sees her self improvement, such as it can be.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/17 10:52 PM
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You're raising your daughter to use the red pill with a feminine strategy, which is different than the masculine strategy. Former is to be picky, not slutty, be a deep thinker and improve herself. Latter also has the improvement component but doesn't encourage men to be chaste. These dumb dudes are getting the two confused. I don't agree with your take on religion, check your stats. Religion isn't a failsafe against painful divorce. But it makes sense that the way you do red pill, as a man, is g…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/17 10:49 PM
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I have a son and a daughter. The way that I raise him will be very different than the way I raise her, though the structure is similar. He will self improve in traditional masculine ways, at least at first. He can pick his own path once he is responsible enough to own it. He will learn to conquer, and find women worthy of his conquests. Men with lots of experience are most attractive. He will know what purpose his gender serves to women. She will self improve in traditional feminine ways, at lea…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/17 10:36 PM
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To each their own
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 09:46 PM
1

Prime minister. Weak acronym game, my man.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 09:40 PM
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Too bad your pm sucks
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 08:58 PM
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Alcohol and other drug
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 08:35 PM
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Thanks, peaches. These AOD clients are worse than women sometimes. Race to the bottom in terms of childishness. It's like they conspire, but they're too burnt to do that. Big daddy ap49 gotta come in and wake them up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 07:25 PM
1

Just look at which country has bigger balls against ISIS
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 07:14 PM
1

I have a short one this morning. Not related to the short bus, don't get fucking confused.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 07:09 PM
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The only reason they're color coded in pastels is for women and people like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 04:24 PM
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Here you go, lazy ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 03:58 PM
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S'why I don't go over there much.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 03:51 PM
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True. I only know the benefits when you make less than $50k/yr.
/r/askMRP17/04/17 03:21 PM
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You get to file joint taxes. Bit of a cut, at least in CA. And if your spouse dies, its easier to legally get a payout. Everything else a marriage is good for, like raising kids, sex, joining income, etc. can be accomplished without involving the government. I got married because we got pregnant. This was before I found TRP and I believed in Jesus and thought that religion would make sure everything turned out alright. I wouldn't do it again. In fact, I wouldn't ever offer commitment to a girl a…
/r/askMRP13/04/17 11:37 PM
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Point by point, because I have a few free minutes. it was impossible not to notice and try handling shit tests better WTF are you making changes for? Lurk, listen, watch, lift... then change when you know where you are screwing up. And of course it's hard to argue logically You're overthinking shit and trying to swing a dick bigger than hers. Shit test, right? Not after 15 years of this. This is business as usual. I'm like No, but sadly did go get them You already know about this fuck up. i gues…
/r/askMRP13/04/17 11:17 PM
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Dude, you're at fucking level 11. You should have such mastery over yourself, such a clear mission, that you should be able to answer your own fucking question. You don't take it to level 11 with no mission unless you're a faggot and an idiot. That IS rambo, just latent. It's like you worked your ass off to climb Mount Everest, and now that you're actually at the top, you've decided to take your oxygen mask off and ask for the next step. You SHOULD know what you want to do. The answer is so pain…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 05:59 PM
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I wasn't clear. I was speaking I of things in the past that's I can't change. That's what was making me angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 06:52 AM
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You can only assess where you truly stand when you're not in anger mode. Anger is not inherently bad and serves some great purposes. But it clouds judgement and shouldn't influence major decisions like whether to salvage a marriage or not. I've worked really hard, using my anger as fuel. I'm slowly coming to a place, though, where the unfortunate circumstances that caused my anger are simply part of the past that I'm working with. I'm more stoically inclined to say, "it is what it is."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 08:19 PM
1

My reverend is similar. He spent some time in the Middle East, started out extremely pacifist. After talking to the locals and local government alike, he saw the need for military presence.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 07:59 PM
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Once the hubbub from the election dies down, we'll get back to normal. I still don't like church, but it's the most tolerable and tolerant one I've found. And I enjoy the emphasis on Buddhism. Sucks for masculinity though. I'm a beacon in a dark ocean. Wouldn't be surprised if some of the men are actual cucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 03:45 PM
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It is a UU. My church is a little different in that there's tons of young families and an emphasis on getting more. There's also a strong conservative counter culture and a reverend who isn't blatantly activist from the pulpit and is actually moderate on some issues (I'm politically conservative, socially liberal). It fits as long as I can still roll my eyes and laugh at the Trump haters. But most UUs skew older.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 10:08 PM
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Right. The degree of honesty I maintain with others is incidental at this point, and I use the flow of information to get what I want. But I strive to be honest with myself, which is the ONLY way I know who the fuck I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 07:04 PM
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I don't foresee walking away from the Church or my faith I didn't either. Grew up in church, it was my life. Went to a private Christian college, seeds of doubt were planted. Then theory met experience. My then-girlfriend (now wife) got pregnant, and I could have written a rule that all of our Christian friends/family would judge, and all our non-Christian friends/family would accept unconditionally. It happened to a tee. I didn't lose my faith in spirituality, but in modern western Christianity…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 07:02 PM
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As it should be. Good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 06:52 PM
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it ain't the fucking that'll kill your relationship, it's the lying Bingo. Honesty is paramount. If not with her or anyone else in the world, at least with yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 03:52 PM
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Do you still go to church?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 03:41 PM
2

Say Rex, where do you find these sources?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 03:22 PM
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I have biographies on my list for this reason. It's not enough to conjure up some fantasy of what an RP man looks like. Sure, it's possible to reinvent the wheel for the 21st century, but past generations have tried and tested and failed and learned; we would be wise to build on existing wisdom. Currently reading "Mornings On Horseback" for this reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 03:21 PM
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Agree. You're her husband, rock, provider, tingles-generator... and counselor.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 03:14 PM
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no matter what you pick, you're wrong Massive shit test, and one you've been failing for far too long. A woman who shit tests and then gets submissive and coy when you pass is just being a child. A woman who shit tests and then fortifies her position when you try to pass is either 1) strong headed and stubborn, 2) has a stronger opinion on this topic than you do, or 3) has had to be the man for too long already and is just doing what you've taught her to do. Me: "What do you want to do?" Her: "C…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 07:50 PM
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I have to get her drunk Weak pussy ass faggot
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 07:34 PM
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It's a mind fuck when you finally see shit tests, and it's another mind fuck when you see them for what they are. That second mind fuck is when it gets fun, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 05:43 PM
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Good example of what not to do. I can remember a few instances in the past month or so where I did this. "I would prefer xyz, but it's your call since it's your [kitchen, life, body, whatever]. I'll support you in whatever you decide." Fuck me. Supporting is her role. Even when it comes to decisions about her. She currently can't decide whether to pursue her career or stay home with the kids more. I want her to go back to school, for various reasons. She's waffling bigly. Time to lead. Thanks sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 03:53 PM
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This is freaking beautiful. You really clarified why it's good when she shit tests, how it's actually foreplay. Occasionally we use sloppy wet blow jobs as a metric to our progress. I think the amount of childishness is another metric. Is she shit testing and being playful after you crush it? Is she acting like a bratty teenager, practically asking to be punished? Is she allowing herself to become scared of moths again? You're doing something right.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 03:50 PM
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There's always pros and cons to everything, even illicit drug use. The user has to ask himself if it's a net gain or a net loss, and if it's a net gain, at what price. Here's a good working set of definitions: Is your habit causing problems for you legally? Are you at risk of, or have you been arrested for, being drunk in public or driving under the influence? Disorderly conduct because you were wasted or high? Then you have an addiction. Is your habit causing problems for you financially? Are y…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 03:44 PM
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The second group is hard to get a hold of, simply because there's no "problem" forcing them to change. There's no acute pain like the third group. If you're trying to justify cannabis, you have an argument. Cannabis, especially the medicinal properties, can be hugely helpful to several medical conditions. But there's also an argument that weed is a gateway drug. There's lots of social, moral, and personality influences that can also determine that; it's not a hard rule. But I've seen too many pe…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 03:29 PM
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I'm an addictions counselor. There's three types of people. Non-addicted (I enjoy alcohol, but I can and sometimes do go days, weeks, even months without it) Functional addicts (I say I could stop, but lord knows that would be tough... but hey, I still go to work and have friends) Dysfunctional addicts (I'm starting to see bad things happen in my social, legal, financial, or romantic spheres, due to my habits) Many, MANY people are in the second group and don't know it. And it doesn't have to be…
/r/TheRedPill03/04/17 03:58 PM
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What could he be fishing for? No id'ing info is asked for. I'm also not tech savvy...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 07:39 PM
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Sounds like it would be. The questioner gets questioned.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 04:23 PM
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I agree. Some of the questions I had a hard time answering honestly, like "I have difficulty expressing my emotional needs to my partner" assumes expressing emotional needs is good, and not expressing them is bad. I don't express my emotions, and I'm ok with that. It's not difficult because I'm not trying and don't see the need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 03:29 PM
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Don't know if this will help, but I understand where you're coming from. I allowed it on the rpf sub because the worst thing that can happen is he gets info about fathers and twists it into a conclusion that he wanted all along. Best case, we actually help make progress. Let me know what you decide. I do believe it has more potential good than harm.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 03:27 PM
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Fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 03:26 PM
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Roll over and go to sleep. Conversation ended. The way you wrote it originally made me think that you were interpreting STFU autistically. Like you had some arbitrary length that conversations could go, and you went over that, and you thought the bros at MRP would give you a hard time for having a conversation with your wife or letting your wife vent (neither of which are weak). But no, you're right. You said you wanted to end it, but then you let her cross the boundary with no consequences. Tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 10:23 PM
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see my edit
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:52 PM
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But... did you fuck her? Congrats on the progress. And thank god you're not trying to "win her back" or some bullshit. That phrase makes me want to gag. It's the epitomize of making her the prize. Edit: the conversation went on nearly an hour (a failure on my part) I just decided to stoically wait it out and let her say her peace. Why is this a failure?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:44 PM
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as long as you have a feedback loop, you will correct the wrongs and discover the right. Instructions unclear, stuck in permanent feedback loop.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:41 PM
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That's why writing music is for big boys. With the freedom of the blank staff comes the daunting responsibility of creation. I can learn to imitate just fine, and its beautiful only because I'm copying someone else's beauty. It's much more challenging to come up with your own beauty out of thin air. RP Training Wheels is like people reciting classical music. Sure, there's some interpretive license, but it's clear when it's wrong. But guys who have truly internalized their philosophy (not just th…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:33 PM
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Instead of teaching kids to protect their ego, dads should be teaching kids to harden their ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:13 PM
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She turned me pretty blue pill over the 2 years of our relationship Stopped reading. Wrote it off as a shit post by someone who didn't read enough sidebar. Prove me wrong fucker.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 09:07 PM
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I don't watch many movies anymore as I generally have better things to do with my time. But a few have stood out as it seems they contain great RP truths, and my wife enjoys watching manly movies with me. The Matrix, obviously. Fight Club. James Bond. 300. The Wolf of Wall Street. Anything made before 1960. Can you recommend any more?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 07:06 PM
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Be bigger than your aversion to early mornings. Where is that from? Look up attachment parenting, and attachment in general.
/r/askMRP27/03/17 03:23 PM
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Aw, are you weak and sensitive? Maybe you could whine more, please. You post adds value to the sub. Don't ruin its effect by getting your panties in a bunch because a few people don't like it.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 11:50 PM
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It sounds like you have a high anxiety, low avoidance wife. In other words, she's anxious and has no problem interfering when the anxiety tells her to. My wife is similar. It's a process. You demonstrate, not tell her, how easy it is to take it easy. Instead of engaging her, telling her to leave you alone, or fighting, instead try a look of amused disapproval. Like saying, look at you, all huffy and cute thinking this is important. Go eat a graham cracker ;) It sounds like you're working on the …
/r/askMRP24/03/17 11:05 PM
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aMRP isn't a fucking journal unless you're an approval-seeking pussy.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 11:02 PM
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Precisely. You're playing chicken, so to speak. Who is going to break first? You lose when you respond, so have enough amused mastery to not respond. Get out of your own head and look at the big picture. I would strongly suggest talking to your wife about interfering, but have that conversation outside of an incident.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 07:01 PM
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Two things. 1) Your kid isn't testing you. He's exploring the world, and that includes what happens when he shits in the pot vs. doesn't shit in the pot. That's a harmful mindset because you're expecting resistance when in reality he's just exploring cause and effect. Amused mastery FTW. 2) I've dealt with my wife interrupting my time with my kids, and I've interrupted my wife's time with my kids too. When we weren't in the middle of a situation and we could both be rational, we agreed to let th…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:59 PM
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In the middle of a storm? Or in the middle of a drizzle that the crew thinks is a storm? Unless you think the drizzle is a storm too...?
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:18 PM
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For not being a dad, you did pretty well with the feedback. Biggest point: Respect and love are earned. When you earn it, you don't have to tell your wife you deserve it, and you don't have to tell your kid your kid that mommy is mommy, but you're the boss.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:17 PM
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Or a dog for eating your sandwich and slobbering on your book when you leave it out while you change your daughter's diaper in another room?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 06:12 PM
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Psst... Do your own then. I don't get on reddit on the weekends. So I miss those days. But that's because I'm fucking killing it on the weekends and don't have time to log on. So I am a failure of a man This is either a very sad, gross overstatement, or a pathetic plea for attention, or drama for drama's sake. Stop it. If you failed, then the last day you failed is your new starting point. E.g., if you failed on March 15th, then you start again on March 16, finish out TFA's prompts, then start h…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 04:19 PM
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I have a small handful of comments for you to peruse.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 11:00 PM
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So what should you have done?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:09 PM
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I'm wondering why you didn't go have a blast anyway. Like, the line about lecturing the other dude about being BP... You sound like fun. Now, if you expected the Vegas trip to turn your wife on, you had a covert contract. Past sexual thrills should play no part in this. This is on the sidebar of the main sub, which you should also be reading as it contains the basic RP foundational readings. The first bullet point in that post: Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:08 PM
2

Paging u/over60_stupid_loner to give this poor man a much needed kick in the ass.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 08:14 PM
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wait for her to notice See anything wrong with this? Glad you're looking into handling all the shit.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 07:31 PM
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will she fucking die if I do more? [...] Again, my marriage - whatever. You're saying you don't care, but you do. You're still trying to control things you can't control, e.g., her. Why do you give so many fucks about her and simultaneously tell us you don't care about the marriage? Look, I understand that you want the best for your kids. But if you really didn't care about the marriage, you'd hire a housekeeper, invest in good quality childcare (I would recommend Montessori), tell your wife to …
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:48 PM
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So I work in addiction counseling. And 99% of the time, the addiction is only the symptom. Addiction forms when people want to escape from a harsh truth, but the escape method chemically, mentally, and emotionally traps them. There is a pretty universally-held theory that the age at which someone starts using is the age they stop maturing emotionally. On the flip side, when they get sober, there's usually a ton of underlying personality and character issues that surface that cause more problems …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 04:24 PM
1

Day Without Men?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 12:51 AM
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I'll bet Ebenezer Scrooge wasn't slaying.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 12:24 AM
2

I need to fill my time better Fuck, yeah you do. Get off social media altogether, it's fake and makes you a mindless consumer. You'll find out how much time you were truly wasting, and it'll drive you absolutely insane until you find something else to do with your life. Fuck man, I'm reading your other responses on here... you're not ready for MRP. You're not owning your shit. You're asking, what do I do with this raging boner guyz?!?! Have you no control? Have you no mission? Have you no goals …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 11:24 PM
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Addiction counselor by trade here. You have to customize your recovery to your needs, personality, intelligence level, etc. Do what works for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 11:20 PM
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Value, man. Does the value she add to my life outweigh my desire for strange? Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn't. I have a rule: if I can bed a sane, beautiful, fun woman, with excellent logistics and plenty of plausible deniability, and it falls into my lap, I'll go for it. But since I've been working on myself so much, starting a business, putting more effort into my growing kids, yada yada... I'm not interested in cheating because I'm simply too busy. Cheating is exhausting. I would cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 11:17 PM
1

Breaking from the norm here: I'm growing my hair out completely. I can put almost every strand in a hair band. It's taken a quick browse on r / fierceflow to realize that it can look really greasy if done wrong. There's a whole science to it. Long hair isn't easier than short, it's harder. Does my wife like it? Does it help our sex life? Do I look like a wild hippie or a greasy bando? Don't really care. I'm really enjoying the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 11:10 PM
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looks like a tire Had a hard time imagining that
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 11:04 PM
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Wax or laser if you can afford it. I can't yet. 3-day old stubble down there is like someone poured in itching powder by the bucketful.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 10:59 PM
1

r / fatpeoplehate, and now r / fatlogic, has provided me the best motivation to lose weight and get in shape.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/17 07:24 PM
2

Yup, now that you're not married, you no longer have to own your shit ;)
/r/askMRP06/03/17 08:21 PM
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Of course it's your fault. It's not just the lack of escalating that killed your chances. You worried about if she liked you after she refused to kiss you on the first date. You don't understand ASD, or "playing hard to get", or "keeping her perceived value high". You let her decide how well the first date went. No kiss? Must have been a boring date! Oh, she says she had fun? Ok, whew, it was good date again. She went home early on V day? Way to kill it, tiger. IMHO, if a girl calls me handsome …
/r/TheRedPill06/03/17 08:19 PM
1

Nice, if the point is to make money. Most of our downsizing has been done by my wife, who just wants the crap out of the house. We sold things in bulk, didn't worry about the price. I'm slightly kicking myself now. Meh.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/17 07:59 PM
1

Over the course of the last two years, we've had half a dozen large, successful yard sales, taken many car loads of shit to Goodwill, and sold bigger items individually. We're also getting ready to move, so 80% of our daily items is in boxes. AND WE STILL HAVE TOO MUCH SHIT. Example: we have 4 of each: plates, bowls, forks, spoons, butter knives, and cups. When we want to eat, we wash the few items we need. We're not wasting water by using the dishwasher. But... we have three skillets, of varyin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/17 05:43 PM
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Even comes from a site called freestocks.org. Lazy photo game, u/thefamilyalpha. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 06:58 PM
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Excellent breakdown, stone. OP, my SAHW sucks at managing her frustrations and the kids too. Her can't-be-pleased dad is living in her, and she knows it, and it drives her crazy that she can't control herself. That's how bad women are. Even when they're aware, they can't stop. Be firm and constant, and give her some patience. you can ignore the feedback for now, it will always be bad I want to second the "lag" concept. If there's a correction or change I want made, I'll either make the changes m…
/r/askMRP03/03/17 04:57 PM
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So do not put half-naked-female-ass on your blog, yeah? Isn't he trying to use all-original photos instead of stock? I think we all got a shot of Mrs. TFA's ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 04:36 PM
1

Obviously all in your sphere of influence.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 08:33 PM
3

We're in the process of moving to a new house, so most of our stuff is packed, including extras of everything. This means that each person (me, wife, son, daughter) has exactly one plate, one bowl, one fork, one spoon, one butter knife, and one cup. Pots, pans, cooking utensils, etc are also pared down. It actually fits our minimalist lifestyle really well, so we're having fun with it. You want to eat something? You better clean your plate from lunch, or else put it on a napkin. Needless to say,…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 08:30 PM
1

Absolutely. Have you accomplished everything there is to accomplish in life? Everything the world says is important? Money? Travel? Power? Leadership? Either you push yourself for more, which tends to corrupt. Or you realize those things aren't what truly matter and you go be a hermit or move to the backwoods and enjoy your family. That's when you're truly free to make your life whatever the fuck you want. And precious few reach that place.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 08:25 PM
1

There's been a couple people taking stabs at the "end game" topic. It's a tough one because 1) not many guys reach a point of accomplishment where they have the freedom to think big like that, and 2) it's an incredibly personalized adventure, no one can give you feedback beyond "well, if you want to do it..." I'm nowhere near needing to answer this question yet, but I mostly believe I'll never get there, I suppose. Let us know if/when you find a way to answer these questions you're asking.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 04:45 PM
1

Love it when that happens
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 08:11 PM
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Some of your lines are cheesy and starry-eyed. But really, it's probably that I'm just too cynical to think like that anymore. The world could use more language like yours, Hunter. Looking forward to seeing where I'm at in a month. I don’t care; you failed and you know it, you don’t deserve the life you see other masculine men living. They worked for what they have and obviously it’s too hard for you. Killshot. OYS embodied. The truth. Best line of the whole damn post.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 07:47 PM
2

"Omit needless words."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 04:51 PM
2

I loved that book when I was growing up. Read is several times. Heartily seconded.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 05:16 PM
1

Let's go
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 05:15 PM
1

Fortunately I'm the only one she knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 04:35 PM
1

You're using the greatest research tool right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 04:35 PM
1

That's as far as I got too.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 12:06 AM
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calligraphy It was an email. He used Brush Script MT. Edit: I see the letter part. Hadn't read far enough. Surprised I got to the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 12:00 AM
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No, (.)(.) is more relevant for my wife. I think my wife would feel intimidated by ( o Y o ). r/breastenvy is real.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 11:36 PM
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Oh, and apparently chillstep is the magical music for the deed.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 11:33 PM
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Replied to drty_pr
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 11:30 PM
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Keep in mind, this is with a woman who also had it in the "never" category. Not a girl who has tried it and decided she doesn't like it, or a girl who only does it for super hot alpha hunks. The biggest thing is that I'm all over her ass, not just her ass crack, whether we're having sex or not. Drive-by slaps in the kitchen. Foreplay. Every position I can manage, and especially when she's on top. I also eat out her ass when we shower together. I've worked up to it. First just massaging the shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 11:30 PM
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I read the title and stopped: "What do you do when you have an eight month old and can't - " That's all I needed to know. Excuses. Weak frame. You'll always have excuses if you want them.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 09:58 PM
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I completely agree with you. He's apparently physically attractive enough, but its obvious through the process of elimination that he's not creating a sexual environment, and hasn't been for awhile. Her head just isn't there, and that's almost entirely his fault. If I get caught up in daily business and fail to game my wife, but then realize at night that I could go for some sex, I'm not surprised when it's starfishy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 04:21 PM
1

TIL there's transferable skills between the two.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 04:10 PM
2

licking sugar-crusted fingers Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 12:02 AM
1

As long as my sexual cardio exertion rises with my caloric intake, I should be good, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 12:02 AM
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This is a woman who used to like it missionary, under the covers, lights off. Since I stopped forcing the issue, she's "developed" her own interest. I'm just patient because anal isn't too high on my bucket list.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 11:59 PM
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Owning: Had full blown anal sex for the first time. She initiated, due to the fact that I have been priming her mind for it for months. That and the right mood music. Not owning: I can't stop eating the damn sweets she keeps baking for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 06:19 PM
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My wife got to go out to ice cream with one of her girlfriends for V Day. Win win win.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 04:57 PM
1

It's a two step process. First step is figuring out how women think. Learning the hard way sometimes. Second step is realizing you didn't need to figure out her thinking in the first place and you stop giving a fuck. Seems I had a little slip back to first phase. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 04:21 PM
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Only if you do. I doubt she'll have an awakening and realize you're a total, short, fraud.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 04:20 PM
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Hey, as long as you're happy and not bullshitting yourself, good for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 04:19 PM
2

Sometimes the owner
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:16 AM
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Guess I'm a few steps behind you is all
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 10:50 PM
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I skimmed his history. Don't see much evidence of an anxious wife. Just a normal shit testing wife. There's a line between "Rebranding To Alpha" and "Building A Better Beta". OP is on the wrong side of that line. Close, but still wrong. Coming on heavy with the comfort, unless he is already seen as alpha in her eyes, will keep him on that side. Time to interrupt the proverbial ice cream and chatting. but it's for OP to decide whether that is enough for him, or not Dude, he's on MRP. I know the a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 10:49 PM
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I know AWALT and shit, but my wife doesn't respond to me in a classic MRP way (I took a stab at why in my Man Child post). Figuring out her thinking isn't a cut and paste process. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 10:36 PM
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Grabbed her by the toe? All I have stuck in my head is the eeny-meeny-miny-moe rhyme that my kids repeat daily. Time for a refresher trip to T_D. Serious now... how much do you meter out real affection like that? Intermittent reinforcement?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:57 PM
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your response?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:50 PM
2

Curious about the comfort test on friday evening
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:47 PM
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what would be a shame, is for one party to do everything within their power to repair a crucial part of a relationship while the other does very little and also fails to see the importance of this What a load of butthurt bullshit. No, you shouldn't have sent this. Yes, it's negotiating desire. Or at least negotiating guilt-ridden, obligated duty sex. Not the direction you want to be going, my man. Speaking from experience here. The sex lasted two weeks and I was back to square one, or probably w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:43 PM
2

What's this guy still doing here?
/r/askMRP14/02/17 05:06 PM
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I got my bachelors at 22, masters at 25, bought my first house at 25 also. I'm just deciding to start over because my previous choices had a very low ceiling and I didn't do my research. I'm not saying I'm in a better position than an 18 year old. I'm saying it doesn't make sense, and instills unnecessary fear, to say that after your 20's you're done for.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 10:15 PM
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Makes sense for your situation, good for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/17 07:46 PM
1

As someone who just read Vasily's most recent post, I say fuck you. As someone who is starting a business and a new career path at almost 30 years old, and will be going back to school in less than a year, I say fuck you.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 05:36 PM
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Great response. Couldn't have said it better. She gives freely only because she has to I know you have an attachment to your wife, insofar as she's your choice. But doesn't this grate? Why would anyone want to be married to someone who provides value because they have to? I'm not being bitter or rhetorical, genuinely curious. What are your reasons for staying with someone you don't like, who does plenty of things you don't like, and who gives freely but only because she has to?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/17 05:11 PM
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Glad to help!
/r/askMRP11/02/17 12:05 AM
2

I don't remember which philosopher it was, Plato or Aristotle, but one of them would spend winters in simple summer garb with sandals. Others would think they were crazy or hated themselves or had huge chips on their shoulders and wanted to prove something to the world. But in reality, they were practicing the art of self control. Wim Hof is a modern day example. Negative visualization helps me. I regularly imagine losing my job, or my kids dying. I try to feel what I would feel and imagine what…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 07:35 PM
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I feel like typing, so I'll take over for Jive. Comfort test failures: I read your post. Unless Jive is referring to another post, I didn't see much wrong with how you handled the comfort tests. The puzzle and milkshakes idea is interesting... not something I would have gone with, as it reminds me of Obamacare Boy or NeckBeard. Now, a hot hunk of a man offering puzzles and milkshakes? I'd even be down for that. But she's clearly not attracted to you, as I'll discuss in the next point. Desexualiz…
/r/askMRP10/02/17 05:10 PM
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Surprised you're taking this guy seriously. See potential I don't? His handle alone screams troll or idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 04:26 PM
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Come on bro, I'm laughing my ass off here in my office... You've gotta be a troll. This is hilarious! You can't be serious. I'm incredulous.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 04:22 PM
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It's all about what you will tolerate Today my wife called me at work (something she only does for emergencies) and very angrily vented some frustration at our son doing something worthy of his age (4 years old). Her ego was hurt because her work was wasted and the work she didn't do was thrown in her face by this particular situation. So she's raging... and raging... and raging... and I stop responding. She turns it on me: "What, so now you're just not going to listen to me?" "You need to get a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:34 AM
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More or less I'm just looking for practical advice now its about philosophy You're so fucking contradictory. Fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:47 PM
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yup
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:26 PM
2

Too male-centric for a man to do? That's a mind bender.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:26 PM
1

And yeah that was a shitshow
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:23 PM
1

I misspoke. I know what you're talking about. Playing dumb because I didn't want to talk about it. And here we are talking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:22 PM
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not literally
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:21 PM
1

Hardly. In fact I don't know what you're talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:17 PM
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, right? A few months ago I dropped a plate sooner than she would have liked. Suddenly "I came three times...you're delicious...can't wait to explore you more...I'm still sore from yesterday ;)...I promise I can give better blowjobs than that, I was just nervous" becomes You're such an asshole...I can hardly walk because you hurt me so badly...If that's what you call technique, I feel sorry for everyone else you finger fucked" Funny how the truth changes dep…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 10:53 PM
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It was all worth it. I don't know about this. Would I do it again? Fuck no. Do I regret my children existing? Also, fuck no. I love them to death. And since they're here, might as well do the best I fucking can. The "it was all worth it" line struck me as blue pill justification to make you feel better about the sunk cost.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 08:07 PM
0

Again, the work of liberals, not gays.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 08:02 PM
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I don't know why I waste my time on such "edgy" contributors. Ruffles personal feathers, I suppose.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 07:55 PM
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Name calling is on me, not on them to tolerate it.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 07:54 PM
1

Meant to comment somewhere else?
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 07:53 PM
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But if you face up to it, and do the hard work, your wife will fuck you like a porn star This is a bullshit claim. MRP is not to fix our marriages, its to fix ourselves. See my recent controversial post with almost 200 comments. Fuck off with your blue pill, porn star fantasy. To use your words: reality bites. If this worked for you, great. Enjoy. But you're only one half of the equation. Your wife gets to decide if she wants to fuck new you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 05:49 PM
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People shit on the main sub because the signal/noise ratio is bad. I admit it is, but there are nuggets and discussion there that has helped me tremendously.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 05:38 PM
1

That's a really dumb and simplistic answer to a very complex problem. I work in mental health and addiction, don't start with me.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 05:36 PM
1

I'm sure I am, but the libertarian candidate this cycle was a joke. I also have lots of national pride and love some good, old fashioned capitalism (which I understand is a bygone concept).
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 04:30 PM
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Impose their values? Like they think I should be gay? I haven't met a single LGBTQ person who imposes his or her views on me, or oppresses me or makes me feel uncomfortable. I live in a city of less than 600k people though, so maybe the larger more liberal cities are more gay and a straight pretty white boy like myself should feel oppressed...? Gays tend to have more radical liberal views. But that's because they're radical liberal, not because they're gay. The radical liberal side has done a go…
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 04:29 PM
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Those two things are different, the way I define them. Maybe you see them as synonymous. The govt needs to butt its nose OUT of issues like homosexuality. The government should concern itself with legal issues only, not moral ones. Concerning welfare... government assistance is fine, when limited. Everyone needs a leg up sometimes. But it should never be ok to make a career out of collecting welfare. Welfare=government assistance. Social policies=moral topics.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 04:24 PM
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They are. It's called prison. And it's not working.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/17 04:19 PM
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Embracing the LGBTQ community is a start. Here's the thing, I don't believe the government should have social policies. So the fact that you don't think he has much socially liberal bent doesn't matter. He lives and lets live, and actually focuses on what the government should be doing, which is establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 11:09 PM
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Exactly. I am politically ultra-conservative but socially ultra-liberal. Those two things operate well together in the real world, and Trump's policies are damn close to epitomizing that blend. There needs to be either a major shift in one or both primary parties or a stronger third party. Big Rep vs. Big Dem (with a very quiet green or lib party) doesn't work anymore.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 10:44 PM
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Cycle tracking is something that newbs like OP have to do in order to have that "oh shit this is real" moment. These guys are so clueless that just realizing that their wife's physical cycle affects her attraction is mindblowing/reassuring/fun to play with. After that, yeah, the novelty should wear off as you get used to the cycle and can predict it without looking up a calendar. And then you get to a place where you realize that catering to your wife's cycle is weak to begin with. But we all ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 11:04 PM
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Good. Then get her whatever would bring you joy.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 10:46 PM
1

Sounds like a family alpha.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/17 05:24 PM
2

Then just answer me
/r/askMRP02/02/17 05:04 PM
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When you reply to someone, use the "reply" button right under their own comment. Don't reply in the box under your post. We don't know who you're responding to when you comment. Also... I like this idea, but could you explain how she will actually get turned on by this? Can you not get gifts for your wife in order to turn her on? In fact, can you do it without expecting appreciation at all?
/r/askMRP02/02/17 04:59 PM
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Was wondering where you were going with that.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 04:54 PM
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I view my wandering eye as a form of validation Unless you're truly stoic in the philosophic sense, everything you do is for validation, whether internal or external. Stop it with this "validation is a dirty word" bullshit. Why you need validation in the first place, or more importantly, the methods you use to get it, or even more importantly, whether or not you can live without validation, is the more important issue. If I bang hot side chicks and get away with it, it validates my belief that I…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 04:20 PM
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Right, but he won't believe us until he does it himself. Then he'll get to decide if its worth it. Right now he's making the decision without any other option/knowledge/experience, which isn't really a decision. I can completely understand how he feels trapped.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 10:24 PM
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Join the club. We offer sad handjobs and the the tears gleaned from a thousand neckbeards. This is a case of "when you're poor, $5 is a lot of money". The cure? Make a lot of money. Or in your case, get a lot of experience. Yes, I'm telling you you need to go fuck other women to feel better about yourself. That's ok. And what you'll find in the end is that the Chase of the Strange Pussy is thrilling and all, but at the end of the day you're a man and you'll never be satisfied. You're never going…
/r/askMRP30/01/17 08:00 PM
1

Every time I consider that some ECs are the same person with multiple accounts, I consider again that there are billions of people on this planet. Good writers aren't unicorns.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/17 07:42 PM
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This one is good too https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3sq4r3/example_of_amused_mastery/
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/17 04:41 PM
1

I missed something...?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/17 04:40 PM
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I agree with bogey, your game is off. You're way too forward. Women like to play games, and they get much more turned on if they are trying to figure you out. But you give your wife nothing to figure out. It's either "ok lets do the sex now" or nothing at all. There's no push/pull, there's no mystery. You barrel forward with brutish dominance. I recently saw a sharp increase in my wife's desire to fuck me when I started teasing her with "Come here and cuddle with me. But we're not having sex ton…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 09:56 PM
1

Damn, the dude has a twitter. Gonna have to get myself a twitter...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 04:46 PM
1

Pick a hobby because you like it Check Pick hobbies that make you well-rounded Check Have a blend of social and solitary hobbies Check, is solitary mostly have at least one hobby you can include your kids in, especially your sons Check Here's my point about asking your hobbies. Hobbies by definition are a waste of time and energy. Do you like wrenching on motorcycles? Why not pay for a mechanic to do it? He's much more qualified and you won't have to get dirty. Do you like painting? Why not just…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 04:32 PM
1

It helps put things in an evolutionary perspective. The sexless cleavers aren't bad, and sexlessness isn't bad. Most guys don't like it, but its certainly part of a reproductive strategy that helps parents provide stability and high investment. I simply choose not to follow that strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 04:30 PM
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There is a school of thought about being Red Pill and married that believes that getting a wife (or LTR girlfriend) to accept the ‘new you’ as being impossible. Things may nominally improve due to Dread working, but your new Red Pill marriage will never be what you want it to be because you have improved, she hasn’t and she never wanted you this way in the first place. I don’t accept this assessment in its entirety, however I do see where this sentiment comes from. Most men who are awakened whil…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:11 AM
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The abject lack of sexuality in those shows was, amazing Have you seen Molyneux's "r/K Selection Theory" video?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:04 AM
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Excellent post. To be a master is to manage those situations so that boundaries are clearly established and future behavior is managed. not just feed-back but feed-forward control This is the crux of it. I don't want to stay in a reactionary stance, nor just anticipate and handle the same pattern better... but actually train/teach (implicit/explicit) her so the pattern itself changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:43 PM
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A site you missed with a massive selection and great starter kits: maggardrazors.com I went with this kit when I first got into it a year ago. The London Barbershop soap scent is absolutely incredible.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:28 PM
1

Do you have hobbies of any kind?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:25 PM
1

Doing all my stuff homemade is on my bucket list. Nicely done.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:23 PM
1

I tried to have a will power with my daughter when she was 1 month old Well sure, 1 month old you're in their frame 100%. A three year old girl should know better. But again, should she? She's literally only been learning the rules of this world for just under 36 months. She'll make mistakes and learn from them. Its not my job to force her to have the awareness of an adult. If I make a decision, I make a decision and go with mine. If I don't make a decision and she wants to instead, I'll go with…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:14 PM
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I see it as she's trying to communicate and we're being negligent as parents. There's a balance between two parenting styles that I want to find. On one hand, ghetto single moms who have tons of welfare babies put zero effort into their children, as long as the kids are clothed and fed-ish. Babies learn very early how to fend for themselves as they realize that no one is coming to help them. On the other hand, rich and educated folks have one or two kids and invest heavily in them by breast feed…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 09:03 PM
1

I loved Gaffigan. Unfortunately I lost respect when I watched his comedy show on TVLand. Just a live action Homer Simpson or Peter Griffith.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 08:00 PM
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There's a balance, and you're finding the equilibrium. The key isn't to not do nice things. Its to not expect appreciation or nice things in return. You get her coffee because YOU want to. If she literally spits it out and sends it down the drain, you smirk and go on about your merry way.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:37 PM
1

My son (almost 5) isn't dishonest, he just gets carried away with himself because he likes to play and explore. Very imaginative. He loves throwing balls, but after the third time I told him not to throw them in the living room, there were consequences. What I do love is when the consequences happen naturally and I don't have to lift a finger. He threw the ball a week ago, hit a wall mirror to the ground and it shattered. He's a sensitive guy, I didn't need to say a thing except "now you know". …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:35 PM
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Agreed. Its the reason lifting is essential. When I lift I feel happy, weightless, powerful, confident, masculine and whatever the manly equivalent of sassy is. When I don't lift I get headaches, feel sluggish, feel worse about my outlook on life in general, etc. I'm either on an upward spiral or downward spiral.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:19 PM
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I like that quote too. Its a work in progress. I never thought I would make as much progress as I have in the last few months on that topic, as angry as I was. I have two or three posts in my history trying to justify, rationalize, or utilitize anger. Which is fine, but better not to have it at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:15 PM
1

You must be white too.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 08:19 AM
1

Good clarification. We parent very similarly. I organize and order big picture plans and my wife figures out bath schedule, clothing, meals, etc. That's her job, and she's great at it. But she sucks at discipline without losing her shit, something she knows she needs to work on but I still have to step in on once in awhile. I let my kids make mistakes and learn from them, and I let them learn for themselves what to do when they're bored, and I don't give them more than three chances to follow di…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 08:17 AM
1

And maybe I'm being dense here, but are you disagreeing with Rule0DAD and saying that leading isn't necessary with your approach? If I understand you correctly, you lead by developing the vision 100% by yourself, then you back way off and let her execute 100% by herself, more or less?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 07:17 AM
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Not saying your style contradicts EO. Different personalities will execute differently, and that's one way to describe it. How involved you are as a parent is one area where it really depends on how competent your wife is. You trust your wife to execute your vision, so you can sit back and watch it happen before your eyes since you did all the heavy lifting in developing that vision to begin with. Awesome. That makes your wife rare. Most women nowadays are narcissistic children themselves, even …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 07:15 AM
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I'm starting a business, and I have family that will bail me out if shit hits the fan. I jumped in knowing that I would never feel "ready" or "safe" unless I had a million dollars. That's what I meant.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 07:02 AM
1

Done
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 11:15 PM
1

Ah, you missed the "Beta Shit Goblin" days
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:54 PM
2

lifegoals
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:51 PM
1

Aw, so sensitive boat boy?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:49 PM
1

Can't believe that's coming from a navy guy
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:46 PM
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Military boner. Younger bro is in USAF, crew chief for sv22. I'm not a jealous person, so I'll say I really really really admire him. Does whatever the fuck he wants, treats his wife with respect and his wife is getting on board. He's a natural. No tricks, no games, just working hard to make life his bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:41 PM
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Both Gen Mattis and the convicts I try to rehab are alphas
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:36 PM
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weakandsensitive helped me realize I'm only getting in the way of myself when I fucking over think shit. My problems are only my problems in my head. They're not real.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:34 PM
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Yeah your approach goes against the Own Your Shit/Extreme Ownership model, but if it works for you then awesome. For the record, I don't think its either/or. Its beginner vs. advanced. Once you establish that you're now a high value man, your wife should be enthusiastically doing you and your chores alike. Reminds me of guys on the main sub who pull a chick and she's so attracted to him that she comes over and cooks, cleans, and fucks him joyfully and without prompting. Is that guy not owning hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:31 PM
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B-b-b-but you're not alpha if you're letting her do all the planning!!! Or are you the king of the lion pride that eats the food that the fully competent bitches kill? I have to throw in a measure of safety when I have the wife tagging along. Just me? You better believe I have no plan and $80.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 08:05 PM
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Yup. Why would the words "I'm sorry" mean anything? Actions speak louder than words. OP got lucky this time. Maybe she was ovulating and really needed a good pounding, as the expense of her ego (I hope I don't confuse too many people with that word).
/r/askMRP24/01/17 04:35 PM
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I love planning trips. I truly get a rush out of finding the best deal, researching all the menus, deciding on the sights we'll see, mapping the route and alternates, even getting a google street view if I haven't been there before. The pinnacle trip was when we were dating to SF on her birthday. We rented bikes across the GG, even though I forgot to tell her to wear something stretchy/athletic. The day ended at a particular spot that's incredibly emotional to her, in a good way. Then when takin…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 04:24 PM
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Reporting you for concern trolling
/r/askMRP24/01/17 12:59 AM
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She believes she talked you into submission Funny how it doesn't matter if I correct the record anymore. Reminds me of the "winners focus on winning" quote. I can't be bothered to care what she thinks of me, to be honest. Too busy making my own life awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 12:58 AM
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And there's always that aspie who thinks STFU actually means to not say a word. Or that "lift" and "crossfit" are interchangeable.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 12:33 AM
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But if she wasn't satisfied with blue you, then either enough time will get her to accept your changes or she's just really stubborn. At some point you were alpha, which is what she loved. That's not what this post is about.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 05:37 PM
1

That all sounds familiar.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 05:33 PM
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Agreed. Yet another dimension that I'm struggling with... If she's exceptional in every other way, but doesn't put out like I want, am I a complete asshole for expecting perfection when I certainly haven't been perfect?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/17 12:03 AM
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Makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 11:44 PM
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Even I don't have enough data for my own story. Am I improved enough to reasonably expect my wife to respond? No. I have more improvement to make before I can even take my own advice. But I'm seeing the trend in my life and wanted to put my musings out there. The fact that Rollo himself is picking up on it and has written about it before lends credence to my situation. Its actually kinda funny, the disconnect between that trash blog post and what many people think MRP is for. In reality - and wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 11:44 PM
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This won't slow my forward drive It's an advanced topic because of this. Too many guys who are fresh here and still improving so that their wives will fuck them are going to use this information to blow something up unnecessarily or chicken out and half ass everything. Too easy to blame others.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 07:47 PM
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Too many guys just don't know how much blue is still hiding in their blood That's why I keep coming here. I theoretically have all the knowledge I need to succeed. But this place reminds me to be honest with myself, which is essential. The fear I have comes from my history of failure and perceived powerlessness, which is why I called it blue. Maybe I'm splitting hairs, maybe its all the same fear. I would love to just charge forward, knowing that I'll change this time around, in spite of all the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 10:20 PM
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On both the Married Red Pill [...] Reddit forums there’s been discussed the concept of being ‘awakened while married’ Hey that's us! Thank you so much Rollo for this. Looking forward to the next installment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 09:14 PM
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longer term the relationship This is why marriage - literally a lifelong relationship - is RP on hard mode. I'm not as old as you, old man, and I really don't want to have this confirmation bias, but as I grow older and I see my married friends grow older, I'm morbidly curious to see the pathetically low percentage of men who can keep their wives on their toes after 20, 30, and 40 years. The more I ponder this, the more I see religion and morality playing an insidious, controlling role. Maybe ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 09:01 PM
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I'm curious what you mean by god pill. I'm slightly dense, so spell it out for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:53 PM
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Fucking exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:51 PM
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even after losing the weight and getting the finances in order she still will see herself as superior to me in every way [Maybe](even after losing the weight and getting the finances in order she still will see herself as superior to me in every way). Maybe not. Doesn't matter. I wrote that post hoping that it would provide a shortcut to know if your wife will respond to your changes. But don't listen to my advice if you're not reaching maximum attractiveness. You assume your wife won't respond,…
/r/askMRP17/01/17 05:54 PM
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Good lesson in leadership. Outcome independence and other RP terms aren't just for sex. I tell her if she’s starts getting upset, remember our sexy times, and there’s more where that came from. This is a good reminder for me to get back to training her to view sex as a solution rather than a task. Whenever my wife gets stressed, I want her to default solution to be sex because of how relaxing and fun I've shown it to be. For so long in my beta days, sex was a chore for her. The thought literally…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 05:33 PM
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Right. If my wife was the same person but loved sex, I wouldn't be on MRP. Or maybe, I just need to become more attractive? Either way, self-improvement to the grave.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/17 06:50 PM
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I figured. Had to give you a hard yme
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 01:55 AM
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I saw. Looks like he knows about your brain injury too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 10:08 PM
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I miss [...] My theory is that marriage kills desire. Put another way, comfort and tingles don't coexist. Its a given, unless you're lucky (TFA) or put in a shit ton of hard work (other ECs here). Many times its not worth the effort. It sounds like you're assuming the default for marriage is to miss those things. True? Men have a dual strategy as well, to an extent. We want the certainty of an LTR but the thrill of the chase too. But it sounds like you're "should"ing on yourself. You should feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 06:29 AM
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I broke out Grampa joke ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 06:24 AM
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Do what? Act slutty for your husband?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 06:20 AM
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But how many came to the second BBQ? Just kidding. I get your point. I have lots of inner game to work on. I can fake it pretty well, but its not natural by any means. I still have to remind myself to be outcome independent and to take care of myself first.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 12:06 AM
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My mom's name is Lisa, I'm the oldest of 5 kids, and we don't really look alike. Theory adds up.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/17 11:44 PM
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Sounds like most of your game is/was internal?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 11:30 PM
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Putting those entry level "admin asst" typing skills to good use
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 08:07 PM
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Does that seem like validation seeking behavior to you? It seems like validation seeking behavior to me. Yup. Gotta work on myself more. Damn you. I don't post content that I'm sure everyone will agree with. I don't give a fuck about upvotes. But 200+ comments? That's woodshedding.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:55 PM
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I don't mind, flexes my muscles.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:52 PM
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You burned your bridge with the first insult.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:26 PM
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If you want anyone to take you seriously, I would suggest not starting off with insults.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:14 PM
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You forgot "asshole". I'm an asshole too.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:56 PM
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Put your penis away now
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:32 PM
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i'm willing to put time into you I know you "don't care", but I appreciate that. First, when you replace alpha with attractiveness, it is self-consistent I don't like using the term "alpha" because it's binary and nebulous. But I hesitate to use the word "attractive" because - and you're starting to uncover it - I don't know if I'm attractive. On another note, your formula thingy makes sense. Its a blend of internal and external validation that tells me if I'm attractive. Right now, you're not l…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:20 PM
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Have you made a MAP? NMMNG, which hopefully you've read I'm not MRP approved because I have a way with words.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 04:20 PM
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But none of those things are required for you to give zero fucks and "be alpha" Agreed. The rest is fine, and I understand the emphasis on making my choice. I know what I want, which is a woman passionate about getting my dick inside her. Will she be the one to do that? Time will tell, and I've decided how long I will wait.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:01 AM
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Saw your edit. Question. If I wasn't married with kids, I would break up instantly. What keeps you attached to your bf if you know you wouldn't do it again? Is he that much of a unicorn?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:38 AM
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Yup. You go girl. I'm sure there's some guy who can handle you. Explains why the mods haven't kicked your ass out yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:28 AM
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Its an uncomfortable truth when you realize you defeated yourself by marrying her and then decided to change, yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:11 AM
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Have you considered going gay? I'm sure there's lots of feminine submissive women you'd be happy with.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:07 AM
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We had a shotgun wedding due to pregnancy, so we were kinda doomed from the start. I appreciate the sentiment.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:07 AM
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That's the plan. I didn't make this clear because the post wasn't about my personal situation necessarily... But I have an exit strategy actively implemented. Finances and kids being a little older is all I'm waiting for.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:05 AM
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I was a choir/music comp nerd in college. I'm with ya.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 11:35 PM
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He's a dude on the main sub that's constantly posting and commenting conspiracy theory stuff. He's ALWAYS getting shat on for it. I get a kick out of all the autists in here who don't understand powuh tahlk.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 11:29 PM
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it's hard to read emotion through the interne Definitely. Maybe my post honestly just wasn't helpful, and if that's the case, then at least I know and got something out of it. If I was butthurt you'd know, I get really sarcastic and pouty. See my history a year ago. Thanks for your concern though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 11:24 PM
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A seeming rejection of the orthodoxy disturbs the dreams and faith of the congregation Stop, you're starting to sound like neoreactionsafe.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 11:18 PM
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13: what if that response is true though?
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 11:10 PM
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The theme of drama, discomfort, excitement, anxiety, and such keeps coming up in this thread. I've realized maybe I am that sexy beta family man. I thought I was doing well, and trust me, from two years ago, you'd have a hard time recognizing me from my maturity and mastery of myself. But maybe I'm not as far as I thought and my wife just needs to see more change (not making it about her or making her my judge, take it in context).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 11:07 PM
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it is a choice. She could choose to overlook the precedent People rarely want to change from external motivation. But I don't believe there is really a "reach this sooner" path for men Maybe not. I'm a father, and one of my greatest regrets is that I know my son will have to learn some of the same lessons I did, the hard way, as much as I try to tell him its a bad path. Sometimes learning the hard or long way is best. Maybe my advice is not helpful here. Fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:57 PM
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If you know about the r/K theory, I'm r. My wife is K. He is on Team Deadsandsushi or not; I do my own thing This makes you sound like a redpill dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:54 PM
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Its a fine line, and I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:52 PM
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No no, you have the gut. I'm the scrawny boyfriend.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:51 PM
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maybe it just turns out that she sucks in general And I'm suggesting a quicker way to get to this realization.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:49 PM
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It's when you make the choice This is incomplete advice, because otherwise I would have bailed when I first found RP. There has to be some time before changes are noticed, acknowledged, and adjusted to, and if there's no adjustment to my changes, then I bail. Where's the covert contract? I'm saying that I want to know as soon as possible if my changes will be appreciated by my wife, or if I should go find someone else. Improvement is a given, and doesn't have anything to do with the theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 10:48 PM
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MRP teaches you need to size up yourself and then size up your marriage. Looks like you got that far. Should have kept it at that. This is working for me. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:46 PM
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Don't act coy, you enjoy it. Now you're blushing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:44 PM
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Sometimes it takes a new unit to see the changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:44 PM
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Then what is this thread?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:39 PM
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On the contrary. At 5'9" I think we'd have better eye contact than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:37 PM
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So an "outlier" tag would be more appropriate. I've already gotten PMs about this topic from men who can relate. Maybe its not an outlier but a new truth. Or at least a relative truth, for those in certain scenarios. RP is only a decade or so old, even the dogma is flexed at times. There's faggots here everyday, blabbing about their woes. But maybe some of the guys who fail at marriage, who we judge for not taking their improvement seriously, actually fit into this "once a beta always a beta" sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:31 PM
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You're an easy target for my eyes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:19 PM
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Others have said it, showing him your actions and being really honest about your successes and failures, especially as he gets into pre-teens and teen years, is going to do the most good. Resources are out there, but scarce. I'm not far along the journey enough to be an expert on the topic, but wouldn't it be helpful to be able to say more than "son, don't do what I did"? I'm a mod at r/redpillfatherhood. There's not much there, not for lack of interest, but my time is stretched right now. As ne…
/r/askMRP12/01/17 07:18 PM
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I just do that so I can see that cute fanny pack gut that shows when you reach up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:13 PM
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Can't let you get too... comfortable. Gotta... keep you on your toes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:08 PM
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Aw, warm fuzzies. Let me get our friendship blanket and we can enjoy this moment together.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 07:00 PM
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Everyone is different. You're assuming I'm invested beyond an eye roll.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:59 PM
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I'm sure my wife agreed to marry me because I was a beta nice guy she wouldn't have to worry about keeping up with. Which is a legitimate part of her sexual strategy, she's not broken or stupid. But its incompatible with who I want to become. I know it really is unfortunate for her that her husband changed on her, but going back isn't an option. People change. TFA makes me laugh tiredly. sex is more important to men on the whole than to women, especially women 30s + Which is why I'm completely c…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:57 PM
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Unfortunately its something we gasp can't control.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:49 PM
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She doesn't refuse sex. My affairs struck enough fear into her. But that's what it is, fear-driven sex that she ends up enjoying half the time. Is that good enough for me? No. Will it get better if I alfalfa up enough? That's what this post is trying to figure out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:32 PM
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Obviously too much about her, I've realized. I didn't realize I was protecting our comfort zones. I don't post on here when I've got everything figured out. I post when I have an idea that needs feedback. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:30 PM
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The pendulum never stops. I'll just be happy if I can keep it from swinging so low next time. It makes me tired just thinking about TFA.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:25 PM
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Of course, because it means they either fucked up and have no control over how their wives see them, not matter how hard they alfalfa up (started-blue, i.e., me), or have no clue what actually being beta in a woman's eyes means because their wives wanted them to be alpha all along (alpha-turned-beta).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:24 PM
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Makes me think... maybe I'm not sprinkling it on, but am I going as hard as I could? Am I reserving myself some comfort, some cushion, and can she sense that? Is she really on her toes, or is she desperately clinging to her safety blanket of a husband?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:22 PM
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Agreed. But binary discussion is the simplest to understand.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:18 PM
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Something to be said for that. Maybe I'm wasting my time trying to figure out if this marriage is worth it. Maybe I should just go through the motions while I'm in the prime of my life and improving every day, waiting to see if she'll respond. Maybe I'll be more manly when I'm in my 50s and she hasn't met my expectations for 30 years. Where do you draw the line and say enough is enough?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:16 PM
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The problem with dogma like the red pill is that it leaves little room for outliers. Some truths are relative. Maybe I should have tagged this post as "theory". I'm hearing lots of calls for proof in this thread, and most of those are from alpha-turned-beta types. Which is exactly my theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:13 PM
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The problem with dogma like the red pill is that it leaves little room for outliers. Some truths are relative.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:11 PM
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That's assumed
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:09 PM
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The precedents that are biting me in the ass were that its ok if we don't have sex for months at at time and that I'll always defer to and fix her emotions. Those things are a constant struggle. I think I'm doing well objectively, but maybe I'm just not alfalfa enough? Maybe I should keep my hopes up because she'll come around and see me as alpha one day? I'm not seeing much evidence of that. Maybe it doesn't exist in this marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:09 PM
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So since I'm not getting the results I want, am I just not alfalfa enough? Is there a threshold she'll have to reach before my improvements affect my marriage? How long do you suggest I wait around to see if that even exists? And how do I objectively know how I'm doing? There's a funny bit of circular reasoning here. We can tell we're alpha by how women treat us, but we shouldn't let women define how alpha we are. So are we supposed to determine our alphaness ourselves, with no outside confirmat…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 06:05 PM
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So you're fixing yourself. The catch is this: when do you know when you're alpha? When do you know you're not just a fitter, sexier, blue pill family man? Outside confirmation? IOIs? Numbers? Affairs with hot feminine women? Or it an internal realization? I believe I'm more masculine than I've ever been. But is it enough to change my wife? Where is that threshold? Does it exist? And do I wait around to find it? I understand its not about my wife. But I'd like to know if I'm going to spend the pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:59 PM
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I started breaking rules a few months ago. I wish there was a "mature" tag for posts so autistic newbies would know to let us have our woodshedding in peace.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:55 PM
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I don't remember that. What happened? I'm still waiting for neoreactionsafe to crack under all the hate.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:53 PM
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I wasn't clear. I'm not suggesting to hold of on improving until I'm sure my wife will respond well to my changes. This post assumes self-improvement is independent from the response to it. Honeymoon period, sure. I had that while we were dating. Sex dropped off before marriage though. I should have known. But that's exactly what I'm saying. The precedent I set said its ok if we don't have sex. I was beta, through and through. Women still have sex with betas, when they want to tie down their res…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:52 PM
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If I've interpreted the OP properly he's saying "Don't go too far!" Nope, you're wrong. I'm not saying to calculate how much alpha you should sprinkle on so you get the optimal results. You should always be improving to whatever YOUR goals are. I'm saying maybe your wife won't want the new you. In which case, bounce if you're not happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:46 PM
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You didn't read. My point is that maybe your wife never wanted to see you as alpha. Maybe you'll always be beta in her eyes. So what will manning up accomplish? Maybe her appreciation, at best. At worst, her resentment, hostility, or indifference.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:44 PM
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Excellently put. Then you just make a decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:42 PM
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Am I to believe that she will still deep down only see me as the dope smoking junk food addict? I think scurvemuch said it well. She married the beta you, but she still won't fuck the alpha you. Its not necessarily because you aren't alpha enough. More likely, its because the beta is what she wanted. If you're the family alpha, balancing beta and alpha and giving her leadership and tingles and feels and stability all at once, and she's still not bouncing on your cock every night, maybe she doesn…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:40 PM
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Not that I care, but this ain't gonna be the highest voted post because people like TFA all yelling the MRP motto "EXTREME OWNERSHIP!!! ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!!"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:38 PM
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Right. I fulfilled the beta side of her mating strategy. She gave up on having an alpha. As far as I know, I'm her one and only sexual partner. She's perfectly content with 2x/month sex and being a kick ass SAHM. I don't blame her. We just want different things.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:37 PM
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My wife is scared to death of divorce. She had a meltdown trying to put air in the tires at a gas station when I was out of town recently. She is so comfortable because I'm owning my shit [hmmmm..... lightning just struck] that she knows she would be a hopeless case. But that doesn't translate to sex. It just makes her anxious. The lightning... thinking out loud here... She's comfortable. She knows it, and doesn't want to be uncomfortable. But discomfort is what gets people to change. Damn. I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:35 PM
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She probably is too She's a great mother, hardest working woman I personally know, more responsible than I am in many things, better with money, great red pill father. No real issues except sex isn't on her radar. So in that sense, yeah, I'll have no problem doing better. Which is fine, I don't plan on LTRs after this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:29 PM
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I'm on my way out already, just waiting on timing. But I was able to make that decision because, in spite of two years of improvement, she still sees me the same. MRP says do X and Y will happen I'm saying its not as simple as this. Some things are out of our control. I completely agree that we should be improving for ourselves, not so our wives will fuck us. But I want to know what likelihood I have of being satisfied with this marriage, so I can make a more educated decision and not wait aroun…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:08 PM
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FireT brought it to my attention that I didn't make this clear enough. I'm 5 minutes past that moment. Made my decision, implementing my exit plan. Who knows. Maybe when I'm about to leave she'll change how she sees me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:04 PM
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I was and still am a prize Stopped reading here. PS, if you're that alpha-turned-beta and you’re tempted to say that’s not how real RP works, or that I’m just making excuses, or that I’m not alpha enough or haven't led enough, kindly fuck off since you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:01 PM
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I've cheated. I've shaken up finances. I'm starting a new business. There's plenty of uncertainty and drama. My wife is obsessed with stability. Drama doesn't turn her on, it actively turns her off. And I just don't like emotional drama. Someone else said it on this thread. LTR's just aren't for me. Call me a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:00 PM
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Maybe LTRs aren't for you? Bingo. If you act beta or she gains 50lbs Not the scenario of the post. Assuming all ducks are in a row, you may still never get raw attraction. There is no way that her hamster is going to get in the way of having sex with an alpha man, on the contrary her hamster will find ways to justify whatever shit she does to get him off. Maybe hamster was the wrong word. Maybe she knows cerebrally that she should be attracted to you, or that she should have sex with you. But sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:49 PM
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I considered it. But 1, I didn't want the post to be about me, and 2, I didn't feel the need to validate my work with my actions. But you're right, how else would you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:47 PM
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Hah, I was never that loser status. Just dealt with depression. And almost a year ago now. I'm glad I stayed with it. Obviously.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:40 PM
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One of my favorite posts of all time, not just from you, is your "turn off your brain." And for the most part that is the correct advice. But using your brain to see obvious trends or know whether or not to continue investing in your marriage is proper use of grey matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:39 PM
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The whole manosphere is built on collective anecdotes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:37 PM
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I've seen the trend in my own experience, in my friends' marriages, in observing the relationships of others, of guys here... and several experienced contributors have agreed with me to varying degrees in past discussions. I take it you disagree.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:38 AM
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I've already made my decision and put my plan in motion. I hope my path will help others, and of course I'm open to critique.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 05:34 AM
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That's the spirit
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 10:08 PM
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What about five shots and seven beers? Do your pickup lines get any better?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 09:55 PM
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I don't wanna see that. Oh wait, I won't... Proceed.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 09:28 PM
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I've read your post and all your comments... Dude, she just wants to play the game. She's advanced level powertalking, and you're sitting there like a caveman. She resists because she wants you to lose control of yourself and take her. Its the game you should be playing, and you're not "just getting it". She doesn't know it, but that IS what she wants. Stop using words to initiate. In fact, do it silently with actions and eye contact only. Actually turn her on physically first, get her own emoti…
/r/askMRP11/01/17 09:04 PM
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Speaking of harmonica, check this out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GInlcSrvpL8
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 08:45 PM
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I'm sure there's an old tyme song in there somewhere
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 08:34 PM
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played hockey 3 times a week and lifted 5 days a week Sounds alpha to me. Meh.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 08:29 PM
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Aggressive as long as I make strong eye contact. Ironically it also makes it gay. Yes I've had my coffee today.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 08:14 PM
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I am not even sure what the insult thing in my ass is, but I like it. ftfy
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 08:05 PM
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My guess is you're alpha-turned-beta. All you had to do was implement a few changes. You're not fighting her entire view of you from day 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 07:33 PM
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Hair, meet splitter.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 07:31 PM
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Agreed. So many factors. Chumps will kill themselves trying to figure it all out, assess the risk, devise a plan, guess if its worth it, blah blah. But simply put, if you're improving yourself, you'll be better for it, no matter the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 07:30 PM
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With that in mind, you might end up putting out the trash anyway And its neither hers your your fault. My theory, based on my own experience and others I've observed, is that precedents are powerful. The more you change from who you were when she fell in love with you, the less likely the relationship will work out. I said to someone else in this thread: Alpha-turned-beta does MRP, and his wife thinks praise god and hallelujah, my husband is back. Beta-resource-dude makes the same exact changes,…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 06:10 PM
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"were you alpha turned beta" or "did she marry a beta resource" This makes a huge difference. Alpha-turned-beta does MRP, and his wife thinks praise god and hallelujah, my husband is back. Beta-resource-dude makes the same exact changes, but his wife thinks, who the hell is this man I'm supposed to call my husband?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 06:06 PM
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Mustard's the shit. Virtually no calories, tart and tangy.
/r/askMRP11/01/17 06:00 PM
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Are you still cheating? Do you still have that need? Or was it "I've done it, so now I know I can do it, so I don't need to do it anymore"? I work in substance abuse counseling. For some people, marijuana or alcohol are gateway drugs. For others, there's no problem getting buzzed on the weekend if they really feel like it. My reservation is, will I ever be satisfied? As long as I am a man with decent libido, I don't see myself stopping. And I'm not sure that's ok. Still thinking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 04:34 PM
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I understand the non-dominant alpha you're describing, and it seems like the right frame for this situation. If we're talking non-scientific science, the anecdotal evidence of a man letting another man have his wife and succeeding in a long term relationship is itself unicorn-esque. Best of luck to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 04:30 PM
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That's where I'm leaning too. I've tried pretending I have abundance, but the curiosity only sleeps and pops up again randomly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:50 AM
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Exactly. So the question is, what gives the most life satisfaction: acting like I have a billion dollars when I'm poor so I can stop obsessing, or working my ass off to achieve a billion dollars so I can stop obsessing?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:41 AM
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The fact that you're taking us, anonymous internet strangers who want to test your frame to make you stronger, seriously says alot about where you're at. Faggot.
/r/askMRP11/01/17 12:15 AM
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Yes, but he can't help but DEER and cross his fingers for her endorsement of his "no".
/r/askMRP11/01/17 12:13 AM
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I mean, fuck my life. You have your wife so high up on a pedestal... You're upset that a woman who disrespects your time and money isn't accompanying you. You let her treat you like that and still want her around? Have some self respect man. Go to your concert alone, or find a friend, or girl, or whatever. Whatever you'd do if you were single, do that. Stop thinking that your wife not attending your concert is a bad thing. You just obtained your freedom for the evening. First step to fixing your…
/r/askMRP11/01/17 12:11 AM
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I've come a long way, I ain't a hot head or clueless. I'm very intentionally going down this path because I know its best for me, and by my happiness, best for my family. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 11:37 PM
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Looks like overthink to me, but I honestly think only you can know that. You're right, I wasn't very clear. I was trying to figure out if my desire is for abundance or validation. I think both. Now I have a cleared direction to work towards. I suspect this is some long standing lack of experiences and abundance that may not have anything to do with you wife That resonates. I love my wife, and have no hard feelings towards her. She's a great mom and tries hard - and fails - at being a good wife. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 11:06 PM
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Luckily I am a naturally sarcastic person so I just had to refine my sarcasm a bit to be more playful. The one that comes difficult to me personally is showing dominance over women. That part was so ingrained in me it takes a lot to actively reject my upbringing. I've always had a sarcastic, fun-loving streak... that got socially beat out of me from childhood through my master's degree. Only in the last 2 years have I accepted that as a good part of me that seriously helps my marriage and friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 11:02 PM
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I hear that and cringe, because whenever people told me that it was always with a shake of the head and a tsk tsk. Ya know, the hard way is the best way sometimes. Because you truly learn the lesson as opposed to merely accepting but always being curious.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 08:49 PM
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This isn't the key to your sexless marriage, this is the raw metal and a hammer, you must fabricate that key. Good line. I get tired of newbies on aMRP: "help me squash this shit test." Damn it son, go try to squash a few yourself, fail, and then let us lovingly tell you where you went wrong. Don't ask for a handout. Make your journey your own. Oh, and... inb4 everyone freaks out at letting other men into your bedroom. Have fun and stay on top of your game.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 08:46 PM
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Thanks for sharing your perspective. I never thought that a man could have a mental shift later in life. You old guys are supposed to have all the answers by the time you're 50, right? The biggest challenge to this RP change is being honest with ourselves. Even if we think we're being honest with ourselves, its always a struggle to maintain that honesty. Our bullshit creeps back in and we resist introspection, naturally. I would like to think that I'm not playing the cheating game for validation…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 08:12 PM
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There's this phenomenon where people with abundance tell people with scarcity that abundance isn't all that. You sorta disqualified your advice when you said you had an LTR. I think boys, in order to become men, have to learn these things themselves. If I'm in poverty, I likely will not take the advice of a rich man. I must first become rich before I can possibly agree with him. And even then, I might think wealth is the best thing on the planet. I think there's a lot of value in your post for m…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 06:53 PM
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How have you been pointed - twice?
/r/TheRedPill06/01/17 04:44 PM
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I'll say it one more time. Sex is not the end-all-be-all of goals. OP demonstrated OI when he clearly could have fucked but chose not to. Not everyone is desperate to get laid. A broader, more long-term goal is to become a self-respecting man who isn't controlled by pussy.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/17 04:41 PM
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If you can bring her back in line, and maintain your leadership and self respect, I'd love to read that report.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 05:49 AM
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You think it wasn't emotional, because that's how guys think. I'm not suggesting that she's now head over heels in love with him. She would deny any emotional involvement. But she is now invested in that experience and wants more. That tells me very clearly that it wasn't a one-and-done for her. I doubt there's any going back.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 05:49 AM
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But none of option 1 will be effective if you're not valuable to her. If all you are is a paycheck and some cuddles, she might choose to risk losing you. If you're in shape, keep her on her toes, and are always mysteriously doing awesome things, then she might see this foray into swinging as a mistake. Good luck.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 12:57 AM
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But she didn't see it as that. Like all humans, she needs excitement in her life. And guess what, you're not providing enough of it. So she used this excuse of swinging to branch out and get some extra on the side. Of course she's gonna fight for more, she loved it. She gets her safe, sweet, loving, providing, beta husband AND she gets her exciting, studly, hour-long, emotionally driven fling. AND YOU APPROVED OF IT. She won the lottery here. There's debate on the married red pill sub about this…
/r/askMRP06/01/17 12:55 AM
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I think it was your title. It could have been written by a neckbeard trying to justify his involuntary celibacy, even though the content was not so. And then, thanks to confirmation bias, they saw you being unable to fuck her, rather than intentionally turning her down because you couldn't be bothered to play her game. For many, sex is the end goal. Being self actualized, having standards, having abundance, and not giving a fuck is a foreign concept. Try rewording the title next time. Something …
/r/TheRedPill06/01/17 12:47 AM
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Hah you thought banincoming was being serious
/r/TheRedPill05/01/17 11:54 PM
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Others in this thread don't get it. What you had was true abundance mentality. There was a girl, ready to fuck you, all you had to do was break some painfully easy LMR, and you would have been golden. Its not like you're some neckbeard swearing off cute girls because you never had a shot to begin with. You were literally one coy statement and a few seconds away from entering her. And you chose to call her on it instead of get your dick wet, because you're too valuable to deal with her bullshit, …
/r/TheRedPill05/01/17 11:49 PM
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Going from non-communicative, covert contract to knows nothing about communication decides to immediately talk is a disaster waiting to happen, and hilarious and sad at the same time. Like any effective set of tools, RP is dangerous when the user is clueless. But I disagree with communication being a female strength. When men communicate appropriately - and communication is not just verbal, or even obvious - it can be powerful and extremely effective. Maybe we're defining communication different…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 11:05 PM
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I'm starting a business. I'm meeting with lots of advisors and connections to get it off the ground and make sure it doesn't fall flat on its face. Some of these people I'm meeting with are women. Some of these women are attractive. Sometimes my wife doesn't like that I meet with attractive women, so she asks questions that come across as shitty comfort tests. STFU is the way to go. Why would I have to adjust my plans - business or otherwise - based on my wife's feelings? Its not even a tactic a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 10:59 PM
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For probiotics, learn to make your own kombucha tea and kefir. Has hundreds more good bacteria than even the most well-meaning pill. I'm fortunate to have a slight intolerance to wheat, so I've been down the rabbit hole and up the other side with a much healthier and aware lifestyle. I pity those whose bodies can handle the poison and will never know any better.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/16 11:36 PM
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Patrice O'Neal Bill Burr for starters
/r/askMRP23/12/16 07:22 PM
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All the autists in this thread don't understand power talk yet. Women (and people in general) don't really listen to specific things you say. They take everything you say in the context of other things you've said to get the big picture of what you're about. Individual brush strokes are meaningless by themselves, but add great meaning to the masterpiece. So paint them a picture.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 05:09 PM
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you told her you expect her to Its powertalk. I completely understand the implications of telling her in this way, if she's cheating or thinking of cheating. But (again) by stating my expectations so overtly, I give her hamster no wiggle room. Lots of other factors are at play here too, that OP didn't mention. Even though he titled it "101", its for guys who are clearly leading the relationship and have their wife's respect. Its the response to months of proper dread building. I still think the …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 05:04 PM
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Most of the newbs here are reacting to the post like its a shit test. But like you said, its a comfort test. W&S wasn't clear enough on that, though the other guys here could stand to be a little less dense. The stern look is good. Mine is a look of "not this again." And she replies quickly, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I know, I just have these feelings." And then I add the comfort. Its a little dance we do that I'm responding to less and less. I have had the conversation where I stated that I would …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 04:23 PM
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How would you do it?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 04:19 PM
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negotiated agreement with your wife Its not negotiated. Its a standard. He said: I guarantee I'll do you that courtesy. I expect you to do the same. not I guarantee I'll do you that courtesy so that you'll do it too. This is verbal standard setting. It gives her hamster no room to rationalize if she ever has the itch to cheat. You have several approved posters telling you you're wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 04:18 PM
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The discussion that W&S is suggesting is after at least months of improvement. You're doing two thing with this type of discussion. 1) You're calming any genuine fear she has that you're going to step out on her, and 2) You're implicitly making an agreement. An overt contract, if you will. If she ever has even just a fleeting desire to cheat, she'll remember this conversation very clearly. She'll have no room to hamster. And if she goes ahead and cheats anyway, you show her the door immediately …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 04:15 PM
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Alright... Click my username, click "submitted", go back to my very first post, and read your story, two years earlier. I had no clue what was up or down. I was completely blind, drawing arbitrary lines in the sand because I had no clue what proper boundaries looked like. I was overly sensitive to perceived disrespect, even getting all huffy when she would react negatively to some of my early bullshit. I was an idiot. When she asked you where you were, it was a reasonable request - unless she ha…
/r/askMRP23/12/16 12:58 AM
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But my parents never told me that. They just told me "stop playing video games", "Go be productive", "That's not normal", and no fucking shit I rebelled I have a huge issue with fatherlessness. Even if the parents are still married, most dads are absent mentally. My dad was, and we were a great Christian family, homeschooled, he was a fire captain making great money, we played baseball and did theater and had a great life. But because he didn't take the time to explain these life lessons to me, …
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 04:19 PM
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Not twisted when you understand solipsistic nature. It becomes an adventure when you drop the resentment. Be careful, because orgasms give brains the same chemical rush as illicit drugs. Its very easy to tell yourself that you're just using porn to get over your oneitis or whatever, when in reality you're using it as an excuse to sit there at your computer desk with your pants around your ankles. An effective mental exercise: Imagine the greatest alpha man you know or know of. Someone your respe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 10:51 PM
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Own your shit. Your wife ain't cockblocking anything you didn't allow her to. You're basically whining about the results of your decision to marry her under blue pill conditions and not divorce her under red pill conditions. If you're gonna resent anyone, resent yourself. the only reason I stay is because i feel like I have more influence over my wife's actions if we're married and a make more decisions on how my kid is raised You have decided that the benefits of staying currently outweigh the …
/r/askMRP21/12/16 10:44 PM
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That's such a foreign concept to most guys, for them to use that to their own advantage
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 10:17 PM
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I grew up in a strict religious family. Getting caught with porn was grounds for an intervention. Obviously, I had a ton of guilt about it, but my addiction to it drove me to consume it whenever I could do so safely. It actually encouraged me to develop a secret life that revolved around sex, when in my public life I was the perfect gentleman (i.e. "nice guy"). When I was in college and shortly after college, my girlfriend caught me on chatroulette. I went to Celebrate Recovery for sex addicts, …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 04:47 PM
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Being honest about your sexual desires is one of the scariest things for a plugged in dude to do. He's taught that women are pure and innocent and don't like men who act like dirty dogs. Pointing at your crotch... how many bloopers cringed reading that? Yet that's the behavior that gets my wife turned on. Win win, I don't have to pussyfoot around what I want, she gets to be honestly led by a hot guy. Emphasis on "hot", btw. A man-whale pointing at his crotch isn't going to have the same effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 12:03 AM
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Meh
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 11:34 PM
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The business is a sober living where I'm the house manager/owner. Kinda hard to get away. Its only a 5-10 year plan though. I've got other career paths I'm exploring for further down the road.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 10:38 PM
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Brilliant game, that's the episode I saw first. Unfortunately I think most Americans are too ADD to appreciate the strategy, it wouldn't work in the states.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 10:37 PM
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Here, I'm gonna need you to sign at the bottom of the page. Its our covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 10:35 PM
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Whew. I missed scurve for a second there. Glad you're back. That other pussy was annoying as fuuuuk.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:08 PM
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I'll take it a step further. Even with your wife, you need to keep in mind that "she's not yours, its just your turn." We hope that that turn lasts as many decades as possible, but there is no guarantee of anything. My own cheating helped to cut my blue pill ties to my wife. It made me believe that there's no such thing as "the one", and that I'm still with her because I choose to be. So if my wife cheated on me, my heart would not break because I know that I was nothing special besides a dick a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:06 PM
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I'm already thinking that way. Like, what if I want to take a vacation?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:03 PM
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Aw, its cute. Come here, I'll cuddle you. Really hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:02 PM
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When your wife stops becoming your judge, it frees you to make decisions based on utility. Its not useful for your wife to know about MRP due to the mystery you talked about. So you maintain that mystery. Zero fucks are given about her potential feelings about said forum. I think its cute when guys believe they have such a good frame that they intentionally introduce their wives to the manosphere. They still have shreds of blue pill thinking that tells them that their wife is 100% on their side.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:01 PM
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I really like this concept of clock maker vs. watcher. Its more widely applicable than just household function, though I know that was the point of your post. If you're a clock maker, and you make a bad clock, time stops and you failed. Ownership is part of the job description. At least as a clock watcher, you can sit back and plug in your time and always get the same safe, mediocre result. It is easy to transfer ownership. Its comfortable. Fuck that. I'm the master of my own ship. I'm about to …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 07:53 PM
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Wow, shitposting scurve showing his soft underbelly. Unprecedented. You know the path. You fill the gaps that she isn't filling, show her with actions that you don't need her, verbally instruct her if she continues neglecting, then if nothing changes, decide how you can withdraw value from her since she refuses to add value to you. I've run into this situation often. My wife's negligence cost us over $250 once because she didn't sweep up her dog's hair on the floor, so it clogged the ac unit. Gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 07:46 PM
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All of the expectations of me in that relationship are gone. No pressure to have kids before I want to, pressure to be a provider for a stay at home mom, pressure to live in a city I don't really want to be in doing a job I don't really want to do This is the lure for most guys. Freedom. What's the cliche that floats around the main sub... Women want access, men want freedom. Good job doing the hard thing. It looks like it was also the right thing.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 02:55 AM
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I doubt it. His self esteem is so low, and he places his family on such a pedestal, that I doubt he's worried about himself. He is, however, worried about what his wife thinks of him. More accurately, he's worried about what others, including his wife, will think about his failed marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 08:35 PM
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4 months Enough said. Come back in a year and reread this post. You'll shake your head at how naive and immature you sounded.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 04:49 PM
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Do you have an exit plan? Because kids and money are just logistical issues; if you really wanted to leave, they wouldn't be holding you back. But ah, the fear. The fear! It will kill you. You must deal with this fear before all else. Women are still your source of validation. When they don't want to fuck you, you start wondering what's wrong with you. Your self esteem drops. The fix? Stop caring so much. The party with the least investment controls the dynamic. But you have to be awesome first.…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 04:47 PM
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Exactly. Big difference between him and me. Kids and money are the reason I'm sticking around, but I have a fucking exit plan, and it doesn't revolve around my wife changing her shit. I don't whine. If my dick isn't wet enough, I go out and get it wet. By contrast, OP is scared his family will crumble.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 04:42 PM
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WTF is PFPFPM?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:20 PM
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Leave it. There might be some good affair buster stuff come out of this. Doubt OP will learn the lessons, but others might.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:19 PM
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She's in a better mood due to the emotional high her new man is giving her, so she's nicer to you. She also feels guilty, so she overcompensates with you. Can confirm. Have cheated. u/justthenewman, she blinded both herself and you. Probably not intentionally, women aren't that aware. But it tells you 1) the kind of woman she is, and 2) the kind of man she sees you as. The answer, in my mind, is obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:18 PM
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Its the social norm for a guy to get fat and ugly when he gets old. And you know what we think about social norms. OP needs more unplugging. You hold him down and I'll yank it out.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 10:06 PM
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Oh, and bro... don't start a family until you have EVERY PART OF YOURSELF ON LOCK DOWN. Once you have kids, you're stuck. Abundance mentality, outcome independence, and stoicism become things you have to fight tooth and nail for. When the mom knows you'll carry the weight of the world for your kids, she's got the power.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 07:11 PM
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with age my pool of potential high quality mates is going down Bullshit. I'm 29, got started making a family 5 years ago. Way too early. This would be my do-over dream. In late teens, get started in a good career where I liked the type of people in that career and can stand the work, something that doesn't have me sitting behind a screen 8 hours a day. Build my career and fortune. Save a ton. Travel a bit. Sculpt my body. Bang hotties. Explore spirituality. At 35, begin to start looking for LTR …
/r/askMRP14/12/16 07:06 PM
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Sure, go for it. Just be sure to call her mommy. Since that's the dynamic you're setting up. Serious questions: Do you cook for yourself awesomely? Do you do your own laundry awesomely? Do you stay in awesome shape? Do you have a social life that does NOT and will NOT include her? Do you crush shit tests until she's giggling and/or fucking you? Do you truly understand that the relationship will be on semi-hard mode after she moves it? That it won't get easier? And what the fuck does "I needed to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 06:50 PM
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It'll go well with a pinterest picnic
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 04:51 PM
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Get two tickets. You're going to the concert, and if she wants to put forth a little effort to be feminine and nice she can join you. Even if she waits to bitch until you're in your seats and there's no kicking her out, you still have a good time. Because you want to see the concert. You're just magnanimous enough to consider taking her, because she's your wife. She should feel lucky. But keep in mind, she's unpleasant because you've allowed it. So a dose of humility and rolling with the bitchin…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 10:49 PM
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Ouchie bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 10:36 PM
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GAAAAAYYYY!!!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 10:34 PM
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some bullshit Pinterest picnic How dare you!! What if OP is the one who loves Pinterest picnics?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 08:58 PM
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Another thing. Do you really care about all the pine shavings and poinsettas? Here's a scenario I run through my head to make sure I'm not indulging in covert contracts. Let's say I set up a great date. Childcare, nice restaurant, dessert, maybe a show, flower petals on the bed. Let's say the worst case scenario happens: she's snarky and disrespectful, constantly texting her girlfriends about how bored she is, does the opposite of things you ask out of spite, constantly shit tests you throughout…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 08:54 PM
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I don't know what to say. Its all in the sidebar and throughout this forum. Acta non verba. Be a skittles man. Don't pedestalize the pussy. Stop focusing on her. Stop making her the judge of you. No covert contracts. Don't talk, lead. Own your shit. Don't ask anonymous internet strangers to make decisions for you. Do you even lift bro?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 08:46 PM
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This is old ish, but nice revenge porn. The giant pink dildo was a nice touch.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 07:41 PM
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Don't mistake my opinions with my memory of statistics and facts and comparisons Your memory is great. I was mistaken. I'm single See ya bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 12:55 AM
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Found the aspie. My point was that your two options were essentially hedonism vs. asceticism, but you equated hedonism with singlehood and asceticism with married life. The correlation is invalid because one can be an ascetic single. You said: The latter hurts when you haven't built anything, you haven't served and built anything which serves and takes care of you If I were single, I'd be more capable of building a financial empire that would very much take care of me. Your constantly shit-testi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 12:26 AM
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I've found that forcing time for myself - even if its to go read a book at a coffee shop - does wonders for my frame. My kids are the main reason I'm staying too, and I want them to be a little older so they understand what's going on. Right now they're 4 and 2, and I've seen the bitchy side of my wife and would assume that when go full asshole and leave, she'll turn against me. Right now she very much wants to make me happy, even if she doesn't really get how to do that and doesn't put in much …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 12:20 AM
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This is a beautiful comment that I really relate to, especially the pressure to get married/have kids. May I ask, have you considered leaving? What did that look like? Do you still consider it? What convinced you to stay? I really relate to how you would live a single life. Unlike hobbesthebrave, there's other alternatives to married life that don't include handles of vodka. If anything, this "RP on hard mode" that is marriage is prepping me for an excellent lifestyle if/when I decide to bounce.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 09:15 PM
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You're being too binary. I'm considering leaving my wife in a few (or several) years. My lifestyle post-divorce would not include all night partying, debauchery, immaturity, or irresponsibility. It would be much like what u/redmountainpill describes. More ascetic, less money thrown around, more freedom to just sit and meditate, or climb, or travel. According to your paradigm, obviously a family will make you happier than bar hopping in both the short term and long term. I suggest there are other…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 09:12 PM
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So be genuine. Stop following a script. Figure out who the fuck you are, whether that makes you red pill, purple pill, or whatever. The sooner you internalize this shit and get on to masterfully living your life, the better. For both you and her. You didn't answer my question: when she fails your tests, are you adjusting your attention to her accordingly? Not as punishment, but as value giving/receiving. When she fails to add value to your life by nagging or being combative or disrespectful, do …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 06:10 PM
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Source for the unaware
/r/askMRP09/12/16 05:38 PM
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She's still testing me like she think she's the prize Thanks to solipsism, this will never stop. People, not just women, have egos. Her ego will want to stay intact as long as possible, and that means hamstering her way into believing she can afford to test you. Even if its an illusion, she wants to believe she has options. No one likes being stuck, and if you overtly communicate to her how thin the ice is, she'll freak out. Also, none of this is conscious. Its just how she's wired. AWALT. So yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 05:36 PM
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Its been said around here before... shit tests are foreplay if you approach them the right way. It means she still cares for you and wants you to step up to the plate and smash them out of the park. Crush shit tests, and enjoy the wet and sloppy rewards. Time to start viewing those tests a little different. Because unless she simply stops caring about you completely, they ain't gonna stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 04:33 PM
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Something to look into. Thanks for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 04:14 PM
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You approved mother fuckers think it's so easy to fuck a woman who doesn't want to fuck you You fixed your own problem. She doesn't want to fuck you. So of course its not easy for you to fuck her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 04:42 PM
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Get to work y'all!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 06:14 AM
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Bahaha! Read my early posts. And btw, my sex life STILL isn't where I want it to be. And I've been at this for 2 years. Stop trying to get us to think you're special. Cuz we sure don't think we are.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 05:57 AM
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Pretty sure it's a mental thing. I'm seeing a 34 year old also and I agree, her age doesn't seem to define much. Once my wife had kids at age 25, she shut down her "wife" role and ramped up her "mother" role. The problem is, as much as I'd like to, it's not my place to change her mind. At least verbally. I'm slowly realizing that it's likely just a compatibility issue. And I'd rather not have to resort to artificial support to keep our sex life where I'd like it. The whole point is, can I get wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 10:56 PM
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My wife is 29. She's very aware of her age and impending wall-hitting, though she doesn't use that term.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 06:01 PM
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I'll... be in my room. Does anyone know where the lotion and kleenex are?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 06:34 AM
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I accept nudes as payment.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 06:23 AM
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what I could change to make home a happier place for him Here's your path. Fix this, and you'll have done what you can. The rest is for him to put on his big boy pants and for you to butt out and let him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 06:20 AM
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Dunno if this will help... I used to get really moody on Sundays because I hated going back to my job on Mondays. (I still do, but I'm working on changing my career. Light at the end of the tunnel and all that, my moods are much better.) Again, no idea if his cycle and mine are the same. There's a similarity though. But do this the RP way of course. If this is the issue, be supportive and not his mother or fixer.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 05:12 AM
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I'd love to know how many minutes you've spent writing to us woman haters. Good luck fucking that knife.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 07:09 PM
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Selfish? Bahaha. You probably like the idea of Obama-boy for a boyfriend. Go back to your goo goo, Aimee. It all comes down to who is doing the chasing. I'd rather be chased.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 06:44 AM
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I don't usually feed the trolls, but this was pretty funny. If I was dumb enough to get a wife and she took off with her friends without saying shit to me about it Where in the world did I say that I would take off with friends without telling her? I'm talking about being on the other side of the house without her. We're both adults. If she needs help, she can call me. I am nobody's puppy dog. But way to put words in my mouth so I seem horribly inconsiderate. If my wife needs something, I gladly…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/16 06:43 AM
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Isn't it funny how we slide back to that, even though we know better and have experienced that hell? Good for you for opening your eyes. Keep pushing forward, never let off the gas.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 03:13 PM
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Its a great little (trigger warning) trigger. For me, I catch myself in little situations, that probably don't make a different individually, but they put me in a bad mindset that affects me in the long run. Wife is making dinner in the kitchen, I just got home from work. The blue pill default? Go hang out with her, ask her about her day, hope she asks about mine, ask if I can help, see if she needs me to take care of the kids if she's had a stressful day... What would I do if I was single? I gr…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 03:12 PM
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As long as your waist line is over 40", that's a must.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 03:09 PM
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Good point. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 03:07 PM
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Only when she's in a good mood. Must have been in a good mood the day I got the eye compliment. All Gays Are Like That apparently.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 04:22 AM
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Don't care if I'm alone, or even happy. Just want to have as few regrets as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 02:09 AM
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Geez I don't know how to save that one. I'm a faggot who matches his tie to his socks to his eyes.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 02:08 AM
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'Sup Cad. I'll xpost it
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 02:07 AM
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Guys guys, I already have my hands full with clients complimenting my eyes. Give it a rest. Sheesh if we weren't a bunch of homo matchmakers in here...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:40 PM
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Also, sacrificing current happiness for long-term happiness. Its basic stoicism.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:22 PM
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I thought my OP was pretty easy to understand.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:19 PM
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I am. Just hibernating... no, not even hibernating. Actively saving, growing my business, planning, reading, listening, raising kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:18 PM
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Like W&S said, I won't know until I do it. That's why I'm taking my sweet time figuring it out. Because if/when I pull the divorce trigger, there won't be any do overs. I've tried for three years now, following RP standards and then going beyond and forging my own path, to be happy where I'm at. I can't shake the desire for more. And like Phaedrus from Zen/Motorcycle Maintenance, I've finally accepted myself. This is me. The rest is logistics and mitigating risk.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:18 PM
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I'm sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 11:14 PM
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Not All Overinflated Men Are Like That.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:58 PM
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Bahaha. So many dicks whipping out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:25 PM
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And we come full circle.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:23 PM
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According to your various assessments of me, I would agree completely.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:22 PM
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Funny to see all the dicks come out as soon as some yells "everyone here has small dicks"
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:22 PM
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Ultimately I don't think one is more right than another. Its very relative and situational. Good to hear your story. And that's why I'm waiting for my kids to get older. My wife is a good woman, but a scorned woman becomes one nasty bitch. I have no doubt that my wife would be at least mostly fair with custody.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 08:32 PM
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Very. Men are boneheaded.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 08:03 PM
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/thread, because it went to PM
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:53 PM
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My mom is a lucifer's daughter, so I tend to view dt traits negatively. Only recently I realized that my tendency to be good at lying and looking out for my own pleasure could be a positive tool. Add a little - or a lot - of self discipline, and I'm a force.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:52 PM
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I haven't even told you about the trannies yet
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:51 PM
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Social autism, at your service. If I ever make an alt account, I just found my username.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:48 PM
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Maybe you're horny. I've got a client you might be interested in
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:47 PM
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APDALT
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:47 PM
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Prince was one of the first books I tackled when I found RP. I've read a bit about DT, but haven't gotten too deep yet. Seems you've let me to a rabbit hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:46 PM
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I prefer playing with the mouse
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:46 PM
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DT? Link me the post when you publish it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:39 PM
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Sometimes I think the posts they disagree with are shit tests for them, and they fail by engaging.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:38 PM
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We're on the same page my friend
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:36 PM
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Which, did we determine if W&S was WMP? I was out of the loop for awhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:35 PM
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Sometimes W&S and TFA are great at reading into things, but sometimes they're looking for something that isn't there. But its makes for some good banter.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:34 PM
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There's a huge split among merpers. Is is more masculine to stick with your old lady, manning up and leading her, staying committed to your vows? Or more masculine to bite the bullet and ditch, build your empire, and rock the single life? Don't know for everyone else... hell, I don't even know what's more masculine for me. But what's best for me, with the facts that I have, is singlehood.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:31 PM
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He was a big inspiration for my path
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:13 PM
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I'm a guy who has cheated and is ok with cheating, as long as its done with emotional levelness and for the right reasons (whatever that means, there's been other threads about infidelity). So take my advice knowing that. Take your morality out of it. Think of this as a cost vs. benefit analysis. And challenge your assumptions. Take your morality out of it Guys who have a conservative moral compass usually have covert contracts with the universe. Because they're such good, moral guys, nice thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:10 PM
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I'm glad we have enough experts on here to go this deep.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:02 PM
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I don't get this at all. Why the fear? Why would this be hard? She's a good mom. My life is enviable, except for the sex. This is very much a selfish, asshole move I'm planning, though it is best for me. Very few huge choices in life are 100% positive. I have to decide if the reward is worth the loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:01 PM
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Answered this in another comment. Waiting for finances and kids to be old enough to understand. "Looking" isn't the right term, my bad. I've got a plan, a very long-term one. Probably 5-10 years, depending on my financial situation. Its bad right now, gonna take awhile to get comfortable. Plus it'l give me time to develop excellent relationships with my kids. I'm ok with the temporary dissatisfaction with the wife, and I'm not complaining about it. Everything I've stated has been fact, not feeli…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:58 PM
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You're right, I have decided I don't want her in my life, and I am sacrificing my desires for my kids. Furthermore, I don't expect to be rewarded for that. My kids are worth it. So how do I stop "rewarding" her? It's not practical to leave now. Finances are not in order, kids are too young to understand. Those two things, money and kids age, are the only things I'm waiting for. Until then, I guess I'll have to keep rewarding my wife. Oh well.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:55 PM
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It functions just fine, if I was ok with a mediocre sex life. I've said this before, my wife is a great mother, and the kids are better off with us together. If I can push through this slight discomfort until I am ready (financially, mostly) to pull the trigger, that scenario will cause the least amount of damage to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:53 PM
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Let me assure you, it's going to be fucking hard to "fire" my wife. likely to be shit Why would that be? Why would an inattentive wife who is good with the kids be better than an exceptionally attentive girlfriend who doesn't have to worry about kids? But... This is the only point that gives me pause. And its why I'm taking my sweet time rolling this plan out. I have decided that eventually I will have my freedom. My concern is that the single life will get old, and I'll want my family back deca…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 04:51 PM
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I'm failing to see where I lowered my standards and accepted subpar. I'm being honest here, help me. Sometimes I'm a little to socially autistic.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 04:45 PM
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For a very long time on this sub, its been said that, after a man grows up and puts on his red pill pants, he then is in a place to judge whether or not his wife is worth it. I'm there. I'm no longer in the beginning stages where we tell guys to cool their jets. I have determined that the reward isn't worth the investment, and so I'm looking for the next exit. I've decided. But TFA, and now you, are arguing that I should stick with it still. Why? What evidence do you have that it will objectivel…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 04:43 PM
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Right there. Current property becomes a rental, which becomes my bachelor pad years down the road when I'm ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 04:39 PM
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Ha, I'm not scurred. Just want what's best for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 04:38 PM
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I hope so.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 01:32 AM
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I like this. Its too fucking hard to keep track of who should be giving whom the cold shoulder. Fuck it, I'm living my life awesomely. If she wants to join, which she likely will, she'll have to be awesome too. Simple as that. No games.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:47 PM
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Can you imagine being married to an unattractive, slobby doormat? No wonder women don't like fucking their fat beta bitch husbands. This post will help those who want to stay married, as well as those who don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:45 PM
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If you're any good at conditioning, she'll learn to feel safe when she's fucking you. So whenever she needs to feel safe, she'll initiate. Just make sure you watch for the clues, because they'll often be hidden in shitty comfort tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:44 PM
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Kids
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:22 PM
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Not match, but the perfect complimentary shade.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:22 PM
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Its obvious that I'm angry. I don't know what to do with that except allow it to fuel me. I'm sure that bleeds through. Whatever, that's what gives the posters here such variety. I work with addicts and criminals. Men who have tattoos all over their faces and necks. 60 year olds who have never worked. People our age who have been in prison for half their lives already. As much as I would like to tell them that "if they put their minds to it, anything is possible", it just isn't. Sometimes the ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:20 PM
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A client just half an hour ago complimented how my eyes matched my tie. I'm still coming down off that high.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:03 PM
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I don't think either is true. We both have issues and baggage from childhood that have affected our sex drive in opposite ways. Its a compatibility issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:02 PM
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My wife recently has a serious need for comfort. It comes with the territory of affairs, I'm used to these events and know how to handle them. At one point I made it clear that divorce was an option. Cue nervous breakdown. The best thing I could do to reassure her without falling all over myself - and giving up my balls in the process - was to say: "My first preference, BY FAR, is for you to satisfy me."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 10:52 PM
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she a woman someone will become niagara falls Just in case some guys swing that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 10:50 PM
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You edited twice ;) sneaky sneaky...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 10:49 PM
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I'm gaming a woman right now who, guaranteed, would be dtf if I made the logistics happen. Happened before, I have no doubts in that dept. I also never said this was my path. I said I found myself in scenario 2, but plenty of guys in scenario 1 will benefit. Hell, I did, because I was there. Just wanting a better marriage where I wasn't ruled by my balls. I am also not excluded from giving good advice, just because I have a different outlook on things. In an abundance of counselors there is vict…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 10:49 PM
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My wife is old news to me. Sorta like she's off my radar. Its tough to be attracted to and game someone who is a non-sexual being in my eyes. Probably like women have no interest in sex with a man they're not attracted to. TFA took my OP and "piggy backed". Not the same message, though related. Me: "act like you're single." TFA: "yeah, and game your wife so she gets wet!"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 09:02 PM
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Been thinking about this reply... It just doesn't sit well with me. The point of my post was to direct men's attention away from their wives. And it seems the point of this comment of yours is to make their wives the prize, still. You said it yourself, there's lots of new guys here. Imagine what a new guy is thinking when your advice is basically, Jump through these hoops, and the prize will be her pussy. I know you're not saying that, but that's what they're hearing. she's a new woman that you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 08:30 PM
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For reasons that I won't explain on an open forum, I know what I'm doing. I appreciate advice though, so if you care to listen, PM me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 08:23 PM
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Yup. Read the last paragraph I wrote. "I don't feel close to you" "Well come here then baby ;) " Most of the time, I don't give these tests, whether they're comfort or shit, much thought. I've done this enough its pretty natural, so I don't even have to play dumb. I literally don't recognize that we're not close. We're close when we're fucking, which is what I care about. Wife enters my frame. The tests you're talking about is her attempt to draw you into her frame. Again, doesn't matter if she'…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 07:29 PM
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I'd also like to clarify, I'm in the group where the marriage is on point, so I don't randomly disappear or do my own laundry. We coordinate schedules, make time for our independent projects as well as 'us' time. We work together to make the family unit run like a well oiled machine. Wife and kids know their role, I fill mine, life is good and we're having a great fucking time. Which is why this is for beg-int, not adv.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 06:26 PM
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I have an addiction Funny, I don't have any of those kinds of addicts at my work... don't take her seriously, and don't worry about failing This especially. If you peacock with a ONS, and she doesn't like it, you lost, she's gone. But if you peacock with your wife and she doesn't like it, she can't leave. You've got unlimited shots with this girl, so get to practicing. being a valuable dude whose dick is worth riding Meat of the message. Damn you ninja edited... she will become niagara falls Dis…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 06:22 PM
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I agree with you and stone. My wife's dad is the old school dominant alpha, even a bit abusive back in the day. She takes after him, balances the budget like its sorting candy, and works hard for what she wants. Her mom is a typical Mexican harpy hen, and my wife despises her.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/16 10:13 PM
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I've never really wanted to be a mod until now...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 05:00 PM
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What are you a fucking woman? Snap out of it. Use this time to improve, practice catch and release, and get set for your exit. By the time you're ready, you'll have at least a decade of peak SMV to enjoy. Read my history. I'm exactly a year ahead of you.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/16 07:32 PM
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That was back in January-ish, and I did post in OYS. Ask stone about how I asked to get my flair removed. All better now. :) E: thanks for the check!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 07:28 PM
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Time elapsed means nothing. Employment applications that ask for references "who have known you for at least one year" are shit. The proof is in the language, facts, frame, etc. Hell, I even relapsed. Wasted time. I can't say I've been doing MRP for 2 years next month with any pride.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 07:00 PM
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Hypothetical here. Do you think porn is bad? If so, stop watching it. If not, continue watching it. But what you did was give her permission to mommy you when you "admitted" it to her, like she's the judge of you or something. I agree with u/sepean. I see no red in you, just a man with a bit of internet knowledge and Lyme disease. Maybe we're just missing the point due to lack of information. And I know about brain fog. Maybe consider editing your submission with more information. RP for 4 years…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 05:55 PM
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I would say it's entirely subjective to the dynamic of a givin relationship. Agreed. For me, a submissive, feminine wife isn't what I really want. I don't fault her for it, she's trying hard. But I want other things. Freedom, mostly. Let's put it this way: if my wife accepted a one-sided open marriage and threesomes, I might be satisfies. Realistically, there's not a single fucking chance of that. So for me, I'll eventually burn it down, when the timing is right. If it comes to burning it down, …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 09:52 PM
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Yes. I meant opposite. Its scary to do what you've always done, but think you're doing it different because thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 06:09 PM
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instead of doing the new thoughts (i.e. actually having new thoughts) they tried to understand and think about having new thoughts. They understand the need to think differently, they understand what the new thoughts need to look like, but they are not actually having those thoughts. They get lost in thinking about thinking about thinking differently. Hear this now: knowing what you need to do and actually doing it are not the same. Who gave you access to my diary? The cognitive dissonance that …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 04:41 PM
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Beautiful post. Ah, a flashback... I miss Jack10's endless comments...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 04:38 PM
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Right. Its difficult to address this in a group this large, because each man is different and has a slightly different version of "ideal". For example, I have a great woman, and many men would kill to have the family and wife I have. Someone who loves to be married to an RP woman would do just fine. So why am I still unhappy? If someone were to make a post that says what you're trying to say, it would mislead me into believing that I should just be happy with what I have, many guys are less fort…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 04:30 PM
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So do you submit to that reality or do you burn it down, remake yourself, and start over? I would posit that one way is better, or more masculine even, than the other. But which do you think?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 04:21 PM
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The shit sandwich may get more palatable, but it is still shit Shh, don't tell the newbies who think that all they have to do is lift, read, and pass shit tests and their wives will become their personal sluts as they go out and conquer the world. I'm not being sarcastic. Reality is much more complex, disappointing, and vague than that. The sooner men get past the "omg I'm a freshman and I'm totally going to rock all my classes!" stage and actually start doing deep, objective, inner-game work, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 06:19 PM
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Some of us were just that clueless. Pussy. On. The. Pedestal.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/16 12:48 AM
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This is why I'm not divorced right now. Their mom, my wife, is a pretty good woman, but if I could do it over I wouldn't be married. But its those little words, the way they look at you and unknowingly expect you to be there. I've decided, after lots of consideration, that it isn't worth destabilizing them to pursue my freedom. When they're older and can understand my choices, maybe. When I'm more financially ready to part ways, maybe. But for now, at least for the next several years, I'm choosi…
/r/TheRedPill15/11/16 11:58 PM
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I'm a mod at redpillfatherhood, I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Your comment describes exactly why I'm not divorced. Yet. For me, having kids throws a wrench in the works of the red pill improvement path. I cannot truly give no fucks, because I always have to consider the well being of two little ones who are dependent on my support, financial and emotional. But that's me. My wife is a good woman, and I've done enough improvement to see a future with plenty of happiness. I can completely u…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 11:03 PM
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take action, life is too short Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 07:45 PM
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Here here.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 07:44 PM
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There was one and only one time when I was COMPLETELY content being married. I had my game buttoned down tight, I was on a life high, really not investing much into the relationship at all (DNGAF works). She had a really randy ovulation, so we had sex six days out of 7, mostly her initiation. I thought, I could live with this. The reason I am where I am right now is twofold. First, when we started dating, I was squarely in the blue pill box. She very obviously saw me that way. Thanks to some ins…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 07:43 PM
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No shit. Haha. I'm gonna see if she drops any more obvious hints. She's just past ovulation, shouldn't be too hard to catch. I'm gonna start paying more attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:01 PM
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Not sure if this is what OP meant, but I don't think it has anything to do with her checking items off the list. My wife could be the perfect female, do everything I want, submit to my leadership 24/7, etc etc etc... and the fact that I can't go out and conquer will still grate on me. So at this point, and where OP is, its not about whether or not she's stepping up her game. Its whether or not I want to continue playing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:00 PM
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TFA missed the point. It sounds like you're saying that, even when we get things all dialed in, we're improving, she's following and the sex life is rocking - or could rock, if we cared enough to invest in it... that we can realize that its not what we want anymore. I'm at this crossroads, or perhaps a little past it. In my experience its just a choice, neither right nor wrong. If you want to, you could choose to believe that marriage is the highest achievement of a fully realized man, that anyt…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 05:57 PM
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Yeah, I'm gonna have to start paying more attention. I usually like her to be more overt, but that just means that my head is up my own ass sometimes. Gotta stay on top of the nuance and hints.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 05:45 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 03:42 AM
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Your approach is like a slot machine. "If I put in some money, push a few buttons, and pull this lever, I should get a payout." And you: "Because I make a lot of money, and I've asked nicely for better sex and a cleaner house, and even done passive aggressive, manipulative stuff to get her to wake up, she should step up to the plate." You're treating this like a technician. I know a guy like this, very proper, technical, and logical about it all. And that might have been how it was back in the d…
/r/askMRP02/11/16 09:27 PM
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I regret it. The only reason I'm married is because we got pregnant, just before I was going to break up with her. I'm still angry about how deluded and clueless I was. But that's the past, and as many have said, I can't change it. I try not to wallow in my regret, because it gets me nowhere. I can change the future, which is what I've been doing and will continue chipping away at.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:39 PM
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I failed to acknowledge bobby's anecdote, and you failed to acknowledge that mine was also an anecdote. Both can exist peacefully in the same universe. You do you, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:35 PM
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Yes and no. What my wife and I do is find the most realistic consequences possible. If my son hits his sister, we're not taking away cartoon time. The consequence must be related to the offense. My boss isn't going to take away my video games if I don't show up to work, but I might get a write up or lose my job. So I like your idea, as long as the kids' ideas pass the realistic test.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 11:46 PM
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There's several bits in here that were just what the dr ordered. Thanks for posting.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:09 PM
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Not gentler, more apathetic. Yes, huge difference. People care 0% about me. That thought has helped me focus on what is actually important and stop waiting around for someone to motivate me. No one is coming to save me. The deeper I internalize this, the more I accomplish. And it sucks, and I'm not haaaaaaappy, but fuck happiness. I'm in this to make life my bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:09 PM
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You have to stop thinking about how your actions are going to come across. You must become natural at it, which just takes time. Chalk this up to experience, learn the lessons, and move on. I have two dogs. I like the brown male more than the white female. He's my boy. I spend way more time with him. But if I'm playing rough with him (which I often do), and he bites me too hard... am I gonna sulk off and punish him by withdrawing attention? Do you think my dog will understand? Am I gonna spend m…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:00 PM
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they don't understand the complexities of these situations like you men do Stop bullshitting yourself. I'm in a little bit of a haze that you created and are willingly stupefying yourself in. Because it feels good. See, your feelings are really strong right now because you made a few surface changes (which, good for you, nothing wrong with that) and got some attention that you didn't realize you had been dying for. Now that the beast is woke, you're feelings are telling you that this is fun, and…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 04:02 PM
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more thoughts edit: see my comment too
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 03:52 PM
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Exactly. Some just naturally have strong opinions and desires, and it can be incredibly challenging to figure out how to make them happy and still be the dad. But when I call someone an asshole, I'm saying they're aware and its intentional. I don't think my kid popped into this world wanting to be an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 03:51 PM
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Gonna jump on board with everyone telling you that your baby isn't an asshole. I have two kids, a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. The girl is BY FAR more difficult than my son. Battle of the wills, crying and screaming until she pukes, absolutely defiant. But she's not an asshole. She's strong willed and very good at testing. Like any woman. Your subconscious mindset is telling you that your kid, and then your wife, are against you. That's where you're fucking up, before you even get out o…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 03:48 PM
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I have one too (the girl), but using the term asshole has a whole ton of connotations that go along with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 03:43 PM
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Agree more with this than with hater. "Because I said so" only goes so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 04:52 AM
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Let me tell ya, that little two year old has a bear trap for a stomach. No worries. I never said my dad did everything right. I completely agree with you, he could have done things different, and the outcome may or may not have been the same. I think the point you're trying to make (and the same point I was making, from the other angle) is that, since we see the big picture, and our kids - and most of the time, wives too - don't, things like a little disrespect, defiance, or testing shouldn't pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 04:51 AM
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The point was that its a rebellion against the rules of my dad (whatever those may be. For some, its other things). My 18 year old brother still lives at home, but his "rebellion" isn't a well-planned, level headed, coordinated event. My dad would do well to see the message that my bro's actions are sending. Which he's not. But that's another story.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 11:59 PM
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Its refreshing to be able to chat about this with like-minded men. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 09:04 PM
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moving the goal posts on her and she doesn't even know she's in the game Good catch. I used to do this. I was super clueless, and so I'd have her jump through all types of hoops in a lose-lose game. Poor girl, I really cringe when I look back at how I used to be. She's off the hook now. It really helps me too, since I'm not constantly finding things to gripe about, I'm appreciating her good qualities much more now. Which, ironically, makes it harder to leave since she's worked so hard to make me…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 06:50 PM
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There comes a point where you get back to some version of the woman you married, but you have to decide, is that the woman I want? I'm here right now. There's nothing really wrong with my marriage at this point, at least anything that I can't fix, except that its not what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 03:55 PM
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A little late to the party, but here's my two cents. I don't have a teenage son, but I have a 4 year old son. I also work with grown as adult clients who usually act like teenagers. You son really tried to be a man. He probably worked up the courage to confront you, thinking it was the right thing to do. He probably had butterflies in his stomach and all that. Reminds me of a time when I was in jr high. My mom wanted to check out the youth group I was planning on attending, and I said "merely yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 03:38 PM
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Its rare, but I've seen the exception.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 11:20 PM
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Any time a man says his wife, gf, so, ltr, whatever is his better half, I take a good hard look at who he's talking about. If she's not a feminine, submissive, fit, modest, hard working woman who obviously is attracted and devoted to him, I call bullshit. Huge beta tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 09:48 PM
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Don't just say less, but do more. Simple enough, its just another bad habit to break. Goes along with TFA's recent post about clowning.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 05:14 AM
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I'm getting back into the online game after awhile doing my own thing in real life. Gonna start putting some effort into that place. Please encourage any father-related posts on here to be cross posted (or just posted in the first place) over there.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 05:12 AM
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My wife got mad at me a week ago because it woke up our daughter who had come to bed with us during the night. I set this alarm every morning. Wife had not mentioned a problem, much less proposed a solution, at all. Suddenly, because she was short on sleep and cranky, she's going off at me. Full stop, not going to discuss such a non-issue with anger. I walk out. Her bad dreams are not your fault. On another note, good on you for this: I smile, pick her up, sit her hips on the bathroom counter an…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 06:38 PM
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Its about your frame, yes. My frame is, I like the thrill of chasing multiple women. I am ok living with plates, flings, and serial girlfriends. That's who I am. Wife and kids doesn't fit into that picture, but here I am. Finding that grey area and rocking it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 06:33 PM
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That's what's giving me pause. I don't know what I'll regret more: leaving my family, or never knowing. But the demon is cheating specifically. No demon if I'm out smashing strange. The demon is vows+strange.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 06:18 PM
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Ha, that's funny. Because I didn't realize at first that you were a woman. At first glance it just looked like the normal sarcastic bro love that goes on around here. And don't be surprised. You're looking at a guy (OP) who hadn't gamed anyone in 9 years. He's gonna use his new tools whenever the opportunity arises.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:51 PM
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So I was raised by a narcissist mom. I have lots of those types of traits, and instead of suppressing them, I've learned to use them. I've been happy, depressed, angry, you name it, enough times without cheating, so that those things are normal. I'm emotionally unpredictable, but that isn't a cheating tell to her anymore. I've completely manipulated how she views me, and therefore minimized the chance of her getting suspicious. Side note: I'm still the rock, I still keep the family grounded. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:43 PM
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BTW, I will get around to replying to your PM from weeks ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:26 PM
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Haha, touche. Religion is a soapbox for me, so you got me pretty good there. But in this instance, "demon" refers to cheating, not merely having sex. Its a demon because it acts like a siren (the mermaid kind). Calling you with sweet, sweet melodies, but in the end blows up in your face and causes lots of pain and loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:26 PM
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Second. I unfortunately am in a scarcity mentality regarding employment at the moment. Until I'm ready to swing, I ain't doing shit at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 02:22 PM
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Ha, thanks. I stop by here every now and again, you'll see more of me. Monogamy isn't natural Very true. Too bad I had to learn that after a wife, two kids, two dogs, white picket fence, the works. I don't want to sneak around forever, you're right, it is tiring. And frustrating that I can't give out my real number, or spend the night, or have my own place, or etc etc etc. This is a short term diversion because I know its only a matter of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 11:39 PM
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You might be called a big asshole for staying too…. True, probably will. Is not that an important or good enough reason? Never said that. Its harder to justify it when other men would die to have the home life I have. But comparing myself to others is stupid. I need to knock that off. It is not really about her I am fully aware. Just trying to consider all options. Ultimately its a matter of time, which I'm feeling out as we speak.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:57 PM
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Both? Ha.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 09:33 PM
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Yup. Can't do that and give my kids a two-parent family. It's been hell trying to decide which to give up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 09:28 PM
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Oh shit, yeah that's much worse than my situation. I would basically be the biggest asshole for leaving. I have very little reason to except my desire for freedom. Mine is definitely not a wicked cunt. Just prefers being incompetent in the wife thing so she can be superstar mom. I don't envy your situation.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:24 PM
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And did you see how she threw in extra things for you to do while she was coming up with the terms (which you did not haggle over in the least, btw)? It started off as just what to wear, but suddenly you were also to be summoned home promptly and made to babysit (etc etc etc). Sounds like a bad deal to me. Also, demand payment up front.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 07:39 PM
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My opsec is pretty damn tight, but if she went all CIA (which she has in the past), I'm sure she could dig something up. Validation... That's something I've come to a realization about. Its easy to say to myself, "you're just seeking validation. Don't be a pussy. Just be happy with yourself, continue your self improvement, and stay faithful. Who needs validation from those nasty women." But the truth is, I don't need their validation. I want to see for myself that the red pill, and the existenti…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 03:59 PM
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This. My wife has told me since finding my shit that she doesn't want to look anymore because she's a afraid of what she would find. Smart woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:20 AM
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You said your ex was more invested in being a mom than a wife. My wife tries to be a good wife, but she falls miserably short. She has only ever satisfied me once, and that was during a really random ovulation cycle almost a year ago. We fucked 6x in 1 week. Big whoop. I've gotten plenty of tastes on the side, and I'm on the brink of pulling the trigger. Considering that my wife has genuinely tried to satisfy me, but just doesn't seem to have it in her, would you recommend the same path as yours…
/r/askMRP25/10/16 10:15 PM
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You're not ok divorcing her. You're "all invested in her". Why? What are you losing if you divorce her?
/r/askMRP25/10/16 10:09 PM
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I always forget about askMRP... thanks. Edit: yeah, that's a good one. Ha.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 10:03 PM
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Which football game guy? Link? I've been away and the search engine here is shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 09:57 PM
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dangerous combo Too true. Join the club.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 09:52 PM
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Outcome independence, which only comes with time. I've torn myself up enough and fought that part of me long enough to know it ain't going away. I've accepted it. (Have you read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance? Like that.) As long as OP is waffling, his opsec and frame won't be bulletproof because he'll believe the things his wife says (you're such a dick, I hate you, how could you, you're such a loser, you don't love me, why couldn't you be faithful, why didn't you work harder on our …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 09:44 PM
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I have been dealing with the pain of finding RP/MRP too late. After I began recognizing IOIs I just think of all the pussy I missed... [now] I see opportunities everywhere. Nail on the head. Someone else asked me in this thread why I'm getting back in this particularly infamous game. This is why. It has nothing to do with my wife. In fact, I've seen enough to know that she is a pretty damn good woman, follows when there's strong leadership, is actually more mature than me in many ways. I just do…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 09:28 PM
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I'm in a very similar situation, 8 years younger age-wise probably 2 years ahead existentially, if that's a thing. Its not that the wife isn't a good woman, or doesn't respond to improvement. We could make a good life if I could just settle down. But the thrill of the chase, as cliche as it sounds, is too alluring for me to resist. Its built into me, as it is the majority of men. You're dipping your toes, and I hope you're seeing how common this is among attractive married men, especially once t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:23 PM
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r/adultery will have good feedback for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:02 PM
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Assume 100%. I've been down this road in the past, and I'm starting to head down it again. I have no doubt that something will give. Either I will get caught (not the ideal scenario) or I will file for separation from my wife. I do not intend to stop seeing other women, its not in my cards. Your opsec could be perfect, but women can smell it. My wife found out once because literally she woke up at 2am one night and somehow "knew" exactly how to look through my phone to find evidence. This is esp…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:00 PM
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Its ironic, isn't it? You wish it were easier for you to have sex, but the type of girl it would be easier with isn't the type you want. You want a quality girl that's worth some work, but you're not willing to (or just not used to) doing that work. There will be a point in your journey when you look back and realize that what seemed like hard work before isn't hard work now. In the context of sex, the "work" you describe will be fun because you will have put in the time to master the game. You …
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 09:57 PM
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25 lb. dumbbells That's all?
/r/askMRP12/09/16 10:26 PM
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So glad that this post lived up to the "mod" tag. They confuse things like lifting, and shit test dismissal as the mission, when in reality it’s simply training and contact with the enemy. I think this is a natural - though not necessary - first step. When I first discovered this place, my marriage and life was in such shambles that all I could focus on was how am I gonna stay consistent with my workouts, and how am I gonna id and crush the next shit test? But as I mastered those things, I had o…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 09:56 PM
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See, this is the sort of content TRP should have. Good job!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 07:03 PM
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Its the opposite for me. I have to let my boxer know he's losing it. He's a crazy guy, but I love him.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 06:45 PM
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Pretty sure that's what is meant by AWALT. Every woman has it. To what degree is variable.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 08:46 PM
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As are shepherds. Pitts and boxers... not so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 05:22 PM
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I wrote this awhile back, which stemmed from this FR. Similar to jack10's theory. Ultimately I moved away from that model because its too binary and aspie. When you internalize these concepts, they become a natural part of you and you don't have to worry about what category her actions fit into. You can just do life. You'll get there, young padawan.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 05:17 PM
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Its amazing the power of our thoughts. I try not to have too many of them. They stagnate me more than they actually help me. A couple examples: I'm a counselor in real life. The reason therapy techniques went from psychotherapy to cognitive behavioral trends is because, under psychotherapy, people thought long and hard about how their childhood screwed them up. There was great understanding, but those very mental exercises warped their sense of self and actually hindered current progress. CBT wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 05:00 PM
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Best case scanario: You stay on your A game, she steps up hers. Things go great for the rest of your life, but you have this nagging feeling - that you do your best to ignore - that she's only stepping up her game out of obligation and fear. You done fucked up. Now stop talking and do your best to get her to forget you showed your hand. Just be awesome and fun to be around.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 04:46 PM
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I understand now. And I agree. However, as a counselor I have seen the value, up close and personal, of helping someone understand and address whatever shit they went through in their childhood, and how their handling of that shit is affecting them today, as well as what to do about it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 06:22 PM
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There is no correlation to your childhood vs. your adult life This is absolutely incorrect. It is very difficult for someone to change the fundamental way they are, which comes from how they were raised. However... As a man you get to choose the life you want to live We have no excuses. No "but my dad was absent" or "but my mom was a narcissist." I am becoming the man I want to be, in spite of how I was raised. Call me dense, but I didn't really understand what you were trying to say with the re…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 03:52 PM
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Awesome. Final note: The beautiful thing is, they don't have to be awesome. They'll get my lavish praise if they try their best and still fail miserably. The outcome doesn't matter. Its the process of trying that builds character. And many would say that the lessons from losing are more powerful than the lessons from winning.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 10:38 PM
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I was raised like Stoney. I was very talented. My parents constantly sang my praises, and encouraged others to do the same. Not once did they say, "see, you're enjoying this success because of how hard you worked." The whole "you're awesome just the way you are" narrative that is brainwashing our kids is a killer. And kids can get away with it with no sharp consequences. Thanks to the actual hard work of previous generations, my generation and those coming after me are able to go out and purchas…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 04:50 PM
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I understand how difficult it is to develop your true opinion when you're getting told by respected authorities its a certain way. I have a pretty close friend in a liberal seminary right now too, and he's a liberal male feminist who believes in microaggressions and the pedestalization of women. (Ironically he's one of the fattest, messiest, depressed/depressing friends I have. The mind dictates the body, truly.) His education path isn't helping him, as much as he thinks he's pursuing "truth". h…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 04:54 PM
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Maybe your differing gun views mean you were never a good fit to begin with. Better get divorced right away than drag it out longer. Doesn't look like this marriage was destined to be.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 05:45 PM
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Bahaha, bro... I'm trying to see where she went nuclear... She said a few mean things about you in a therapy session? That's it? And those things were actually true? I'd hate to see your emotional state when she actually does go nuclear on your ass. I'm just enjoying sucker punching the new guy. There's lots of good advice around here already, listen to that stuff. Basically you're worthless to her, and you've proven it to us. I actually commend her for sticking around as long as she has, consid…
/r/askMRP31/08/16 05:37 PM
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Fucking stop focusing on her! Edit: you're not worth her doing all that for. Men EARN respect. You've done shit, and actually have work to do just to get to ground zero. Monk mode for a long time, bro.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 05:31 PM
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I work in AOD counseling. It came naturally.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 03:59 PM
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I'll still discourage toxic masculinity Shreds of the blue pill mixed in with the red, I see. There is no toxic masculinity. The wife abusers and drunks are not masculine. They're insecure pussy control freaks. encouraging a healthy masculinity must necessarily happen at the expense of the women This is true, which is why it makes people uncomfortable. In order for one sexual strategy to succeed, the other must fail. Women cannot follow their dual sexual strategy if their husbands are awesome, f…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 03:59 PM
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But just like shopping for a car drugs, you need to find the right dealer :) FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 03:49 PM
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It's been a week and I'm just trying to take the advice of not going total nuclear all at once. You're scared of rejection. You don't want to make a move, she says no, and you report back here that it "blew up in your face." You're right, and the other commentors are right. Just keep improving, don't worry about the massage table until you can initiate sex without getting butthurt after a rejection. (I gotta eat right to get rid of these 25 pounds of fat cause at 5'6 it doesn't look good-yup man…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 04:11 PM
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I feel for you. I have dealt with this, and it still crops up like an annoying neighbor kid you just want to go away. I wrote this to try to explain myself. In the short term, you have to choose actions over words. And you have to put a smile on and force yourself to play the familyalphatm part. Fake it until you make it. There is no other option. You can see for yourself that letting that anger out, especially misdirected and uncontrolled, does nothing but further fuck up your life and set you …
/r/askMRP29/08/16 10:15 PM
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Last bit: I'm currently reading Extreme Ownership. There's lots that fits your situation in that book. Have you read it yet?
/r/RedPillWorkplace28/08/16 05:48 AM
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Also people like u/VasiliyZaitzev (post history) have good info. Browse the main sub under top>all time.
/r/RedPillWorkplace28/08/16 05:46 AM
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If it's your ship, then it's your issue. If it's not your ship, then that is probably your issue. Beautiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 05:42 AM
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Oh I'm not worried. At this point I find it ironic that my own mistakes are reminders now. Makes me chuckle, keeps my ego small and my mouth closed.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 05:41 AM
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Not so much. Her tone is disrespectful and serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 05:40 AM
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"The Prince" and "The Art Of War" for starters.
/r/RedPillWorkplace28/08/16 05:40 AM
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My story is similar. Got all cocky with my newfound information. But I was like a computer geek who accidentally hacked his way into the nuclear codes, strutting around like he's the shit, when in reality he's about to blow his life apart. I literally said to my wife at one point during a self-induced fight, "you're just mad because I put you in your place." Like water filling a vessel, she now has these phrases built into her vocabulary: "... since you have to be 'the leader' and all ... since …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/16 11:01 PM
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Nah, this guy seems honest about his failures. He's already embarrassed himself by posting this, and I appreciate the honesty. Hopefully he sees the value in leaving something like this up, so future him and future MRPers have an example to avoid. Thanks, OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/16 10:56 PM
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Time for a little Machiavellian strategy. Play her emotions (she is a woman, after all). Feed her ego, get her on your side. This isn't you vs. her. This is an opportunity to manipulate her with warm amicability and delicious plausible deniability. Kill her with kindness. Take the high moral ground, but don't bruise her ego too much. Don't directly confront her bitchiness, but diffuse it. Think, what would Sun Tzu do? What ground are you fighting on here? And yes, I know I put Machiavelli and Tz…
/r/RedPillWorkplace26/08/16 07:07 PM
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I was exactly like your son in high school. Home schooled, very gifted, got a ton of attention because of my talent, but didn't do shit with them and didn't have to learn how to be social because everyone was coming to me. Then I got to college and had an identity crisis. I'm still unfucking myself at 28. At least your son has you. My dad was there but not there. My advice for your son: get him into some team sports, take him to the mall and see how he does with girls his age, push him out of hi…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:10 PM
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I'm at $33k/yr, single income, living in California. Its not a pretty situation, but ya know what? I've led the fuck out of it, and my wife is on board. In fact, she just sent a text out of the blue about half an hour ago stating bluntly how thankful she is that I work a job I don't like, and that she is on board with whatever we need to do to be successful. I have plans that I am actively working on to make lots of money. I want to retire early, a la Mr. Money Mustache. Its a pipe dream right n…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 10:19 PM
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Why is this in aMRP? I rarely come here... at least cross post, professor!
/r/askMRP25/08/16 12:01 AM
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I read the new posting guidelines, and then read this, and marveled at the beauty of a well-thought out post. I really appreciated this because, as I read Sun Tzu almost a year ago, I saw connections to the marriage platform but didn't draw concrete parallels like you did. Brilliant. I think the biggest takeaway for newbies is, the art of war is something that takes lots of time, learning, and practice. Don't go all guns blazing. You're likely to get absolutely murdered. The biggest lesson for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 10:18 PM
2

If I just keep frame and throw all this shit out she won't become suicidal, but now I am thinking what if she becomes homicidal That's why you don't just rip someone's security blanket away from them. You must have an attitude of gentleness and guidance, not pushing her but firmly and calmly strengthening your boundaries. After reading all of your suggestions, I am thinking I introduce the concept of "Room to Dance Weekend" (give it a cheerful name). The weekend will be September 24th (one month…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 06:54 PM
3

I had a college girlfriend whose mom was an OC hoarder (and passed it on to her daughter, one of reasons the relationship ended). This mom slept on piles of clothes on their bed, and her husband had to sleep on the couch curled up next to boxes of jewelery. You couldn't open the front door because of boxes of shoes stacked to the ceiling. She drove them into tens of thousands of dollars worth of credit card debt. She was an anxious little woman. Always dressed well though... Oh, and her doormat …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 03:58 PM
7

Nothing wrong with faking it until making it. What does your comment add?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 06:47 PM
0

Bullshit. He led, she followed.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 06:46 PM
3

I was just talking to my wife about this yesterday. When someone has to mention something, you're already too late. Even if you were on your way to do it. No option but to handle your fucking shit like a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 06:41 PM
1

Some guys are a special brand of faggot. What's pto?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 04:18 PM
4

so does anal the first few times, but it is really nice having a wife that will do it – believe me I know. Ooooooooo I'm jealous now. You remind me of the thegreasypole. Lots of words, lots of alpha posturing, very little substance. Though I'm glad you mentioned so often how you really have been alpha all along. I was worried about you, anonymous lurking internet stranger.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 04:16 PM
1

I got it, and it makes sense. He'll just carry his problems with him. New girl, same issues. Unless the divorce woke him up. Which is likely considering he left a nagging screechtard and roped a doctor. He knew he could do better, and finally did it. I almost recommend blue pill guys go through an awful marriage and get divorced, just so the more hard headed ones learn the lesson.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 04:03 PM
1

Agreed, and it helps if I'm handling my own shit. She starts going screechtard about whatever tasks she thinks she can assign me? Bitch, I'm on a whole 'nother level.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 03:54 PM
-1

Agreed. Look at his post history.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 09:59 PM
2

hear
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 09:51 PM
1

I have a brother in law that is similar. Badass guy, rich farmer, but not in shape. The whole in-law family love him, and I think he's great. Any time my wife brings him up, I allude to the fact that she better get to him before I do. Works wonders.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 09:45 PM
1

And assholes get women... or women love assholes... or all assholes... Fuck, I just really want anal.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 09:29 PM
2

Play the game. Does she cook? Hide her 1/3 and 1/2 cup measuring tools. Hide the whisk, but not the ladle. Switch the hot and cold hoses on the kitchen sink.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 09:03 PM
3

I have a serious shit-testing harpy that, when she wants to "talk", will follow me around yapping, demanding answers, demanding talk about feelz, demanding that I need to move out, go to counseling, whatever. When I decide to exit, she will follow me outside, stand behind the truck yapping until I literally have to slowly back into her to make her move. Even MORE reason to STFU. Giving in and yapping back is fucking basting in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 08:50 PM
1

Someone is obsessed with dicks
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 07:00 PM
5

You're purple, but I like this. Dance the dance.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 11:23 PM
2

You're missing the deeper message. I don't like repeating myself or countpudyoola's statement, so I'm done.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 06:59 PM
1

Again, why haven't you done that already and figured out whether to go out of town or not? And why is a little tiff with your wife making that decision for you? It sounds like you're a beta boss. Reading just the titles, I thought the post submitted right after this one was a response to yours. Its not, but it sure as hell should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:56 PM
3

Was about to downvote for saying "gainz", but this is solid. This is OI. This is beautiful. You're literally too awesome to notice her womanly bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:54 PM
1

Why is going out of town on business an option? If it benefits your company to go, why haven't you already been doing that? If it doesn't benefit your company to go, why are you considering it? If it doesn't matter, how important are you anyway? Edit: as the count said, keep business and pleasure separate. And more OI. Who cares if she had a bad day? It shouldn't affect your business plans.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:48 PM
3

Why the fuck are you not out living your life, getting fucking ripped, and having fun? At 20 you want to end your life? Come on man, wake up. There's plenty of good advice here. My two cents is that my brother was like you. High school sweethearts, got married at 20 and 19 respectively, he goes to titty bars when he's on deployment and TDY and has had to fight tooth and nail to get her to do anything around the house, fuck him, lose weight, you name it. It gets harder after marriage. You sure yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:44 PM
2

Adding it thrice. Not military but have two brothers in currently and bought a car from another recently. Seen enough dependopotami to know this is the right advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:37 PM
2

The books will give you plenty to think about. But ultimately you don't want to follow a script. She'll smell right through your fake alpha charade. Take what you learn here, in books, and on blogs, and craft your own life. That's why it takes awhile and why sudden moves aren't the way to get her wet. Guys take sudden moves because they have a moment of inspiration (good) and go implement changes without thinking it through or executing it methodically (bad).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 09:54 PM
1

Said it better than I was planning. You want your wife to one day say to herself, "Damn, when did my husband get so attractive?" while you quietly go about your self-improvement business. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 09:52 PM
6

You're about to realize how much better off you are without this woman and that you're seriously falling for the sunk cost fallacy in 3...2...1...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 07:55 PM
1

76c tgm, jbjyfl9ifch asoidty8-2490q3ut5ojk2nw 3;lo5i8 6sda8498asdf Sorry, the results of my load on my keyboard. r/bigdickproblems again...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 07:52 PM
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I make over 150K (to be fair, she does too so it's not a gold digger thing), work out 6 days a week, have an amazing family, am great with kids (raised 4 nieces), I do all the cooking and cleaning in the house (dinner is ready when she gets home), foot rubs and full body massages for an hour each most nights and pretty much live to please her and make sure she's comfortable. Hahaha, you're the woman!!! (I've read no more mr nice guy, I'm not a doormat but got some good things from that book, tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 07:04 PM
1

Aw, all deleted? I was enjoying the cock swinging. Had me laughing at my screen while lovingly stroking my massive cock.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 06:55 PM
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OP, you're getting shit on because your post is naive. Not bad, just naive. Newbie gains are a thing, and they're not lasting. In fact, Once she realizes you're actually changing, there will be pushback. I mean, good for you for getting started on this journey. There's nothing wrong with what you did necessarily, just like there's nothing wrong with someone who's never been to the gym before doing an empty bar squat with the wrong form and feeling all pumped up about it. At least you're here, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:48 PM
3

Because I was curious... Pile Driver Gorilla Punch Glass Bottom Boat
/r/askMRP10/08/16 06:58 PM
1

That makes it more clear. Are you initiating more?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:55 PM
0

You feeling threatened? Why don't you just enjoy the ride? Oh wait, that's because you're still an insecure little bitch who underestimated the power of the changes you're making. You realized that being an awesome man means you'll probably get a sexy woman. But you don't actually deserve a sexy woman. You're threatened by a sexy woman, which means you're still a little bitch. Guess what? Sexy women get attention. Gotta live with that if you want a sexy woman. I doubt that Michael Phelps (whose …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 11:45 PM
1

Its a common trope. Balls empty, stomach full. I say it to my wife regularly, whenever she complicates things or can't figure me out.
/r/askMRP09/08/16 11:10 PM
5

My sister in law just started dating a guy who is by nearly all measures a great catch. Tall, good looking, funny, wealthy, down to earth, very smart, holds his own. It would be very easy for me to get intimidated. My wife has even gushed about him to me. How disrespectful, right? Except I didn't get my panties in a bunch. Going commando helps with that. I'm the guy's biggest fan. I'm glad to have him in the family. I don't mind that my wife likes him, because guess what, nothing will happen. In…
/r/askMRP09/08/16 11:05 PM
2

They do with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 04:40 PM
1

Oh I agree with what you're saying. My comment was a balancing out of what you said. 5LL is not something I would recommend based on my experience, and definitely not for newbies. IMO, its not worth the time it takes to read it. There's much easier ways of figuring out how to fill tanks. Good post though.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 06:57 PM
12

Me: tell Chadgineer if he will take you lock, stock, and barrel; I will throw in the truck If this was done with a grinning-idiot smirk, this is gold. Also, here's a slap on the ass for your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 06:52 PM
4

I fucking hate 5LL. Not because there's anything inherently wrong with the advice, especially if you like being a beta chump. The book encourages covert contracts, in my opinion. The worst results come when you read it together with your significant other. I made that mistake, and so for years afterwards her love language was held over my head. She wasn't going to give me my love language because her poor love tank was oh so empty... It was used as an excuse. It was the medium through which she …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 04:33 PM
1

Phone blows up. Phone gets quiet. Fifteen minutes later, phone buzzes, "Why didn't you tell me you'd already done all of that?" Not justice porn. Not RP porn. Masculine porn. I'm happy because I've earned the right to experience this a handful of times. Your whole comment was gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 10:36 PM
5

"Ok" has been the magic word for me. "I don't like it when you don't listen to me" - Ok. "You do things without asking for my opinion." - Ok. "It's overwhelming to be a stay at home mom." - Ok. "I'm thinking of getting my bangs cut." - Ok. "My co-worker's friend is getting a divorce." - Ok. "I really need you to put in a new bag in the trash can when you take the old bag out." - Ok. Like you said, nothing actually changes in the relationship, so why was I worrying my head over her approval? I ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 06:41 PM
2

just think of it as God giving you a handy... That's what I do.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 10:03 PM
2

Of course it is. You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 05:34 PM
1

I know this wasn't a true story because you spelled it Atlantas the first time and Atlantis the second time.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 04:50 PM
2

Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:42 PM
2

Thanks for the feedback. I've been tossing around the idea of starting a group for months, but I want it to happen organically like yours did. Do you think a group that is started intentionally could work in the long run? Thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:04 PM
2

Just watched P1 of the r/K series. Holy cow, enlightening. Down the rabbit hole I go. Pun intended.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 06:28 PM
4

Thanks for sharing. At some point, a movement like ours grows to a point that we won't be able to help but create real life groups. What once had to be kept secret is now strong enough to see the light of day. We all know that this Red Pill thing is a work in progress, a collective method, pulled together piece by piece, using our own experiences and insights. There is no long-standing dogma; we're in a very special place, at the beginning of a turn-around. Hopefully something that future histor…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 04:09 PM
1

Good, fucking cheesy, Carrey movie. Also shows the blind, white-knuckle noob just following orders, who learns the "why" behind the rules. I.e., MRP noob pussy vs. "MRP approved".
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 10:38 PM
1

As in you don't think it exists or you don't think its an excuse?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 07:00 PM
2

Upvote for openmindedness.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 06:53 PM
2

I agree with this. If I have to document my life like I have some shitty boss (been there professionally), I'd rather not be married. I know I'm right. I have nothing to prove. I can't be bothered with a shitty attempt at blame shifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 04:47 PM
2

I meant out of the relationship. Same thing. Glad you're of a singular mind on this.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 10:21 PM
1

Holy fuck. Get out.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 09:51 PM
1

Love me some advanced MRP posts, rare as they are. This is an exceptional point you made. You got me thinking back on my relationships. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 09:43 PM
2

Why? Why do you expect her to think and communicate like a dude? A more succinct way to say what UEM said earlier: If she's in your frame, by definition she'll communicate overtly. If you're in her frame, by definition you're communicating in hers. Reminds me of a Rollo maxim: For one gender’s sexual strategy to succeed the other gender must compromise or abandon their own. Use it for method of communication too, overt VS covert.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 09:40 PM
2

For awhile there, adderallabuse was sounding like cad.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/16 05:31 AM
1

The reality is we are here on MRP because we LOVE our wives Just submitting myself as a statistic to go against that claim. I might be a drop in the bucket. I'm here because I chose not to divorce my wife for my kids' sake. I got married before I found MRP, so if anything I'm merely doing damage control. If it weren't for the kids, we wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I love my wife, don't get me wrong. But at this point its more "welp, I guess I'll make the best of it."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 10:01 PM
1

Holy fuck. I thought I was on top of things.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 09:55 PM
2

Low effort post. No backstory. No details of improvement. Yup. This is gonna get deleted
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 04:14 PM
1

I know plenty of guys who are better able to lead their wives because they're getting satisfied on the side. I don't necessarily know where they are in the improvement spectrum, but for whatever reason their sex life with their wives are dead, but in all other aspects (maybe there's kids involved) there's reason to stay married. So the man steps outside. Whether or not the man informs his wife of his sideline activities is his choice, and one that he should consider the consequences of. But ulti…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 04:09 PM
1

Some of my best work has been her on top, but with me thrusting up from the bottom, mouth on tits, finger in ass. Turns even an average night into a work of passion. Every. Damn. Time.
/r/askMRP28/07/16 12:06 AM
1

I'll take that lesson. I have turned down sex twice because of exhaustion. I'm a pussy.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 11:35 PM
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giving respect to TRP instead of demonizing us right away Just another form of validation seeking. I've seen it bro, its old. BY FAR, most women who come here 1) aren't looking for actual advice, and 2) don't tell the whole story. She enters the male locker room, and its chumps like you who make her think she's special there.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 10:01 PM
13

What the fuck is this? And where do you get that she seems like a great woman? That's a huge compliment for someone who by nature is only going to show herself as the victim and rake in sympathy points. Ever think about why he might have felt the need to take the red pill in the first place? This woman is going to paint you one side of the picture. Don't assume anything. Sure, I don't think the guy is doing it right, if what she's saying is accurate. But we don't know his side. I'd like to hear …
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 09:52 PM
4

Your last line "Help me Redpill, I don't want to lose my best friend.". Does he have other friends? Do you? Does he want best friend or a wife? This. The fact that she sees him as her best friend tells me there is no passion. That's the unhapppiness that led him to TRP, and now he's in the anger stage, realizing all the good life he missed out on. Both have their work cut out for them.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 09:50 PM
54

I don't want to lose my best friend. Men don't want to be their wife's best friend. They want respect, deferment, a feminine counterpart, submissive loyalty, and awesome, desire-filled sex. How much of those things have you been giving him? I'll be that you've got him in a beta box, and either he was put there or put himself there, and he's pissed. Read the link from stonepimpletilists. It explains everything wrong with your expectations. Not to say he's doing everything right. If he reads *Marr…
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 09:49 PM
3

WHY do you want to share it? Chances are, there's a little validation-seeking shoulder goblin that's whispering insecurities in your ear. If you share, maybe she'll...
/r/askMRP27/07/16 03:58 PM
4

she was starting to blow me away Here's the problem. If you're on top of your game, nothing should blow you away. Nothing should surprise you. If bad things happen, tap into your stoicism and move through. If good things happen, you're worthy enough to have it coming to you. Nearly any girl can turn on her best girl game for the right man. You showed her that you could possibly be that man, and she pulled out all the stops. If you really were that man, you would just think, awesome, now I can re…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 03:55 PM
1

I hear you. Just got out of a case staff meeting. They seem to enjoy ad hoc as well. Fucking casuals.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 07:57 PM
1

Good work.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 07:55 PM
1

Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Again, I really don't give a fuck either way... Keep telling yourself that. Not lying to yourself that you feel intimidated is the first step. Beyond that, listen to TFA.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 06:25 PM
1

This is why I just bought a 65 Stude, and saving for my motorcycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 06:19 PM
1

Eh, I'll take "nice."
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 06:08 PM
1

I will have to have that first talk someday, when my kids are old enough to understand and learn the lesson from their old man. I beta cheated. It wasn't pretty when I got caught. Didn't have the balls to follow through with divorce. So now I'm balancing my happiness and desire for freedom with my love for my kids and vision to see them grow up in a whole family.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 05:58 PM
2

I never said I couldn't leave, nor did I say I was a romantic in this arena. I don't make life-changing decisions like that based on my romanticism. I implied that having kids makes things more complicated with leaving. Unlike many single moms, and unlike many TRPers, I believe that putting my kids' needs before my own is an honorable choice. Not the only choice, sure, and its takes lots of self sacrifice that many people - men included - are not capable of. I hope that I am though. I'll hold on…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 05:09 PM
2

I like the two axis system. Someone needs to make a full theory post of this. You're assessment of my wife is about right, antislut-submissive - now. What's interesting is that she was almost the opposite when I met her. College athlete, man-hater, independent womantm , quite masculine in her personality traits. I don't know how I softened her actually. Has something to do with her childhood I'm sure. So I would postulate that people change depending on who they're around. Which agrees with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 04:59 PM
3

We also know that men love more unconditionally than women. Plus, in a divorce, who typically gets the kids? Come on man. Don't compare like that. Single mothers do it, why can't you? Yeah, strong argument.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:52 PM
0

Been there, almost done that. I had plates when I was a beta loser. And got found out, and boy did shit blow up in my face. I didn't have the guts to follow through with divorce. Thus began the hardest two years of my life. Perpetual doghouse. Then I found the red pill. So far, since I have more work to do, I am not blaming her for not being attracted to me. She also had an epiphany (ironically as a result of a beta relapse where I tried to overtly demand sex) in which she realized that her own …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:49 PM
2

OP may push his SMV to the statosphere, but if she does not recognize it or value it, no amount of conditioning will produce genuine desire. IMO, if this is the case best way to demonstrate is dread levels 6-8. I can relate to this. I had a covert contract for awhile because I sort of expected my personal improvements (fitness, reading more, working on the house, being a better dad, etc) would turn her on. They did not. You have to do those things for you. The only thing that turns her on is my …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:43 PM
2

I'll add my wife's type, although its rare. She never saw or received affection growing up. She recently had an epiphany she shared with me. She doesn't know what to do with affection when I give it to her. She's sort of like #2, but random slaps on the ass, butt grabs, playful shit, makes her uncomfortable and insecure. Basically an anti-slut. Just sort of dead. I've had my work cut out for me trying to get her into a full #2, much less #1. There's not a drop of #3 in her.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:36 PM
6

Oh, and... seriously, tell the chick you're married. Many women are even more attracted to married men. Its much more taboo. Play that angle, if you're going to play at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:08 PM
3

You are married, if you aren't satisfied, why not get divorced? Not for this chick but rather because there is no point to spending years of your life sneaking around, making it legit. If only it were that easy. I would be divorced in a heartbeat, but I have kids. Its the hardest MRP scenario I've come across, and one of the only one's there's not much of an answer for.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:07 PM
8

Your story is strangely similar to mine. Two small kids, low n count, wife not employed significantly, ready to cheat. Except that I did cheat. A lot. And the wife found out. Because I wasn't ready to give up my family, my life was hell for a year until I manned up and owned my mistakes. Our relationship is significantly affected to this day because of my affairs. Even u/theultmatecad, may he rest in peace, would have had his family destroyed if his wife had found out about his affairs. Now, his…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:04 PM
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Second this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 06:58 PM
2

Ooh yeah, they love that wall of text.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 11:28 PM
1

Look, kids rely on their upbringing to shape how they view the world. I was a career beta, never was given a chance at alpha or sigma. I'm not blaming my parents, but I am saying that I didn't know any better, mostly because my dad didn't know any better. So yes, my upbringing turned me blue, or rather, kept me from being red in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 05:55 PM
1

Did you even read?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 03:54 PM
1

That's true. I just haven't had much experience with them. Maybe I'll give them a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 03:54 PM
2

Regarding your addict brother: It was a process and I wish... Stop wishing for the past to be different. I work in an intensive, residential, long-term substance abuse treatment facility. Rarely does a severely addicted person come to us for help because a family member gets them to. We are their last option BECAUSE their family finally had had enough and cut them off. Their lack of family support is what got them into treatment and clean. THEN, as they progress, we contact their families and fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 09:59 PM
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