How do I keep going

MrElderwood · 2021-08-15T15:39:05+00:00

Whilst I would never say 'I know how you feel' - because I don't - I can certainly relate.

I'm currently under the 'care' of what could be considered an emergency mental health team, who have done precisely nothing to help me in over 6 weeks.

I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. I wish I could kick down your doctors door and scream at them to take them seriously and show some compassion. I wish I could wave that magic wand and make it all go away for you!

Sadly, all I can do is say there are men out there that hear you. There are men that see you. There are men that empathise with you.

Of course you already know that as you have 2 close friends. I only have 2 close friends too, but I know I can count on them. I hope you feel the same way about yours too. And you are among friends here.

Try and keep your chin up buddy, even though it's hard right now. Much love to you.

BustaTron · 2021-08-15T16:59:10+00:00

one day at a time, one step at a time, its very difficult to banish negative thoughts, (I myself cant do it) but they can be mitigated. Its not easy, reach out to others irl if you have that support, if not its more difficult, but at least you know your are making an attempt, rest assured that in and of itself is a step forward, not a step backward.

thequeefcannon · 2021-08-15T23:47:58+00:00

You'll be okay bud. Remember, "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor." You will face hardship, and you will overcome it. I hope you get the help you need, and I'm proud of you for even seeking it out in the first place; that's a huge first step that many people never work up the nerve to take. Stay strong! <3

peanutbutterjams · 2021-08-16T05:54:01+00:00

I can only recommend what has helped me in the hope that it might help you too.

Take walks, especially through a park if you can. Being in nature even for a short while has been shown to improve mental health. I know that I always feel better after a walk, particularly if I bring music with me.
Exercise. Related to the above but some people like lifting weights or stationary bike than walking. Doesn't provide the fresh air but really getting your heart pumping every day helps to improve your mindset
Do something for yourself. I don't mean treats but an experience, project or hobby you've been thinking about doing but haven't get around to it. When you actually do the thing, you feel more productive and something else gets taken off your mental load.

and lastly,

Create art! This isn't just a plug for our Monthly Art Challenge. I've committed myself to it and spent a good 2 hours working on something. When my mind starts getting dark, I remember the art and brighten up. It's an "Oh yeah! I did that! Maybe I'm not worthless after all" moment. Or I'll just open up my photoshop file and look at it. Really though, anything constructive would work.

Hope that helps!

Fast-Mongoose-4989 · 2021-08-16T06:03:51+00:00

Thank you ever one for your kind words

Title	How do I keep going
Author	Fast-Mongoose-4989
Upvotes	24
Comments	6
Date	August 15, 2021 12:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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