How do you guys meet women?

PineappleScanner · 2023-03-17T22:12:10+00:00

First of all, I would advise you to carefully consider the way you talk about yourself. You are not "really effed up", because you can't find a girlfriend. Your subconscious will take whatever you tell yourself and make it reality. It is, in fact, a pretty normal experience among guys nowadays to lack female relationships.

Every day, as many times as you can, tell yourself "I'm an attractive man, and there's plenty of beautiful women for me to date." It doesn't matter if you don't believe it on the surface, because your subconscious will accept it, even if just a little bit. It takes time but you'd be surprised at how much this can change things.

I disagree with the common advice of "get hobbies and join clubs to meet women", because the very act of doing so puts you in a position of neediness and desperation. Rather, get hobbies and join clubs to become a more well rounded person, while remembering that you will meet women there you can talk to. Find common, broad hobbies and clubs that interest YOU. Weightlifting, intermural sports, running, biking, reading, tabletop rpg's, etc. (there's many others, I'm just a gymbro lol) Fitness hobbies are great because they are great for your overall well-being (and attractiveness), and have a high percentage of attractive women your age.

Becoming an attractive man is important once you've developed a strong social network. Men are visual creatures, we'll usually take a nicely sculpted body and pretty face over the perfect personality. Women are only like this to a certain degree. Building a nice looking strong body, having a good sense of style, grooming, and smelling nice opens up a wonderful world of opportunities, but it will only get you about 20% of the way there.

The other 80% comes in the form of who you are as a man, specifically how in-tune you are with your masculine core. But not in the old-fashioned, macho way, or the modern day "wimp-guy" who lets his boss and woman push him around. You must learn to feel and align completely with your masculine core, and understand the feminine core to the best of your ability. You must respect women as your equal, but recognize their core differences to you, and embrace those differences.

Be strong, confident, dependable, and immovable, but funny, personalble, and easy-going. Know who you are, what you stand for, and what your purpose is, but don't take yourself so seriously that you cant find humor in the constant chaos of life. We all know the guy who's strong and appears confident, but takes himself too seriously to crack a joke or laugh at himself.

Never change your mind to please a woman (or anyone for that matter). If you want to do something, do it (respectfully), if you want to say something say it (respectfully). This includes compliments and positive gestures. And if being you pisses a woman off, creeps her out, etc? Good! It shows you are controversial, and willing to step on others' toes. Women want someone who is immovable, with a strong sense of self. Not some nice-guy who goes around trying not to offend.

You cannot be an amazing, life changing presence in the lives of some women, without being a joke to others. You just can't. Embrace it, and let your true self out in every moment.

If there is one book I would suggest on this subject, it would be The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida. It's a wonderful book, so dense with knowledge on women and life. No stupid "red pill" junk centered around insecure-hypermasculinity, but also no beating around the bush. Just straight, to the point, and full of love.

A non-spiritual alternative that covers the same general area is Models by Mark Manson

Good luck brother.

UnHope20 · 2023-03-17T22:56:45+00:00

I would say it depends on what you are looking for precisely.

Are you looking for friends?

Short term relationships?

Long term relationships?

A spouse?

One night stands?

Casual relationships?

Business partners?

I would start by asking myself my goal for interacting with them are.

Once you come to a decision, then you need to become the person that the type of woman you are interested in will want to link up with.

For instance, if you are not a very attractive man who has fantastic photos then stay off dating apps.

If you have a lot of great qualities for a long term partner (emotional stability, high income/potential, kind and shrewd) then you will want to look in the sorts of spaces that women who want an LTR would be: religious gatherings, public festivals, friend group hangouts.

Can I ask how old you are?

drinkpls · 2023-03-18T00:03:13+00:00

Women, very much worth dating, are involved in combat sports. Also many of them don’t want to be the dominant force in the relationship or want a wimpy man. Women want to be equal and respected and desired. Depending on how you approach the relationship some may take advantage and some may say bye. Just explore all the hobbies you want bc you want to explore them. Do not do anything just to meet women. Do you and you’ll become the version of you that you enjoy, living your best life. At that point a woman will connect with you.

Yesyesnaaooo · 2023-03-18T05:45:30+00:00

Theshort answer is 'yes, you'l have to do something different if you want to meet someone'

kiadragon · 2023-03-18T18:12:50+00:00

Get a passport. Visit places like the Philippines or Thailand

Title	How do you guys meet women?
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Date	March 17, 2023 9:32 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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