~ archived since 2018 ~

How exactly does one heal from the emotional toll of conscription?

October 20, 2022

I was born male, from a country with mandatory male-only conscription. Recently, I was found to be exempt for conscription, so that's past me thankfully. Before that, I had struggled immensely with anxiety, which cascaded to depression, identity issues, fear of women and society, etc. to this day, for which I had no-one to confide in. I had put my studies and pretty much my entire life on a 5-year hiatus at the detriment of my grades, was bullied for being anxious about conscription, and my issues downplayed and used against me by ... women who didn't have to be subject to it. I felt incredibly envious and afraid. Most of this still affects me from time to time.

I've been managing. I've resumed my studies and have been rediscovering my hobbies. I picked up some light gaming in my free time. A lot has happened so I'm trying to adjust. However, there are times the intrusive thoughts really hit me hard, about my anxieties and how I was treated just because I was born male, even if I'm mostly past that. I've had a female alter since my identity issues began, whom I would mentally escape to and confide in. From then on, I've been socialising as a woman most of the time, which gives me a semblance of peace but worries me a little as I feel disconnected for lack of a better word.

Sometimes I just feel lost. I don't really know how to overcome the emotional toll, if I can overcome it.

TheRedArchive is an archive of Red Pill content, including various subreddits and blogs. This post has been archived from the subreddit /r/MenSupportMen.

/r/MenSupportMen archive

Download the post

Want to save the post for offline use on your device? Choose one of the download options below:

Post Information
Title How exactly does one heal from the emotional toll of conscription?
Author SeekingAlternatives
Upvotes 26
Comments 13
Date October 20, 2022 11:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
Archive Link
Original Link

[–]a-man-from-earth 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is a level of anxiety that needs therapy. Have you contacted a professional?

[–]yup987 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just to be clear, it sounds like you're saying you managed to get exempted from conscription but the toll of the anxiety about conscription affected your adolescence pretty badly?

I served my time as a conscript (males only too). I'm not sure how to help you though - although there were damaging moments I experienced while I was in, it wasn't anything that crippled me the same way as it sounds like it's crippling you now.

It's possible the anxiety you're experiencing is worse than the actual experience of it? It's like when you experience something you fear only to realize it's not as scary as you thought it would be. Maybe thinking about it in that way might help.

[–]UnHope20 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't have any answers for you on how to heal from this. I just want you to know that I'm glad you're here brudda

[–]idontevenknowhmm -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]tinyhermione 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

How is conscription practiced in your country?

I'm from a country where there in theory is conscription for men. In reality it's extremely easy to get out of, they only accept guys who really want to join the military. If you say you're not motivated, you'd be dropped. Everyone knows this.

I'm thinking that if you're from a similar country, this is an expression of a pretty severe anxiety and isn't actually related to conscription.

Otherwise, it's still anxiety. But more understandable, people dislike losing control over their lives.

Go to therapy to heal. It's over now.

[–]ForeignSmell 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

for me you will get over it sooner or later. I did not suffer as badly as other did in term on physical or mental stuff. So it just like a bad chapter of my life just ended. Should stop with the mental escape tho. I used to do that and found out that its not going to change anything. Maybe you should do some light workout studies have shown that it help balance the mood a little bit.

[–]coolboy_24278 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

is this in south korea?? ik the feminists in that country are huge hypocrites when they mentionthat women shouldnt be drafted but still shame guys to go, and they wonder why Yoon was elected

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2023. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter