I’m at a loss with dating

a-man-from-earth · 2022-09-25T01:26:16+00:00

You are definitely not alone, and this is a very common experience especially for young men nowadays. I've had my dry spells as well, but dynamics have changed quite a bit with people being terminally online and dating apps bringing out the worst in people.

You might be interested in this discussion as well: https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/xj29xx/a_bit_of_my_story_and_why_i_dont_like_some/

Rolaid-Tommassi · 2022-09-25T03:28:45+00:00

Sorry to hear it friend. All I can tell you is that it won't get any better. I'm in my late 60's and have had the exact same experience over and over. I honestly think that women today only want weddings, not marriages. Good luck bud.

leelbeach · 2022-09-25T11:31:49+00:00

Hey man, sorry that you've been dealing with these cheating women, I can't imagine how that feels. I wouldn't give up though as there are so many good women out there that will be faithful and respectful to you. Your still young and as you grow older, women should be more mature and cheat less.

Peptocoptr · 2022-09-25T05:05:05+00:00

God, you're not alone. I have a very strong suspicion my ex cheated on me with a friend of mine in high school, but I can't fucking prove it, and even my best friend didn't believe me, so I keep it to myself and I have no idea what I'll do if I meet either of them again.

Just that was enough for me to never really initiate dating again, so I can't imagine how you feel. Do you no longer feel you can trust women or do you feel like you can't trust yourself to trust someone else (at that intimate level, at least)? Either way, I'm so fucking sorry this happened to you.

UnHope20 · 2022-09-25T15:38:19+00:00

Hi sorry to hear that you've gone through this. I've been in relationships where the other person was unfaithful too. I've also been in situations where women who were in relationships tried to cheat on their partners with me.

It's brutal out here and it's totally ok to choose abstinence (Even if only temporarily) if you feel that is what is best for you.

I took time off before meeting my current partner and it worked well for me. Good luck in whatever you choose. We have your back either way.

pandejopanda · 2022-09-25T04:11:50+00:00

Focus on yourself bro. Make your bag and protect it. Do things for yourself, not to impress women. Lift, fix up and eat healthy for your own benefit. It's so much better for your mental health. Women have been taught to be unfaithful, you're not gonna change that. Get on with your life. You WILL eventually find one that's good, but stop looking. It's a waste of time. Be your best self instead, and do it for you.

ZulutheZebra · 2022-09-29T20:26:28+00:00

Hey man, little bit late to the party but still wanted to put my .02 in. I hate seeing endless posts always proclaiming it’s mens fault when a girl cheats but it’s WWIII if a guy does the same. What I would say though, in the kindest way I can, is to be careful about who you let in your life. Considering it’s multiple women in a row that have cheated on you, you may have some buried trauma or insecurity that is causing you to choose that type of woman as a partner. Maybe just try hookups for a while before you get into your next LTR. Either way I wish you the best man, sincerely hope your next relationship works out better.

Title	I’m at a loss with dating
Author	EfficientCow2644
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Date	September 25, 2022 1:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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