Hi all,

I just went through a break up with my gal. We were together for over 3.5 years and had become best friends. It was a mutual decision but since the break up she's been very cold and distant while I'm still looking for connection, like an occasional phone call at least. I know the thing to do is just give it space, process the sadness and let time heal it - but man I'm missing her a lot.

I'm in my 40's now and single again and feeling like I can't get it right. I've got a lot going for me in some ways but don't have a lot of close friends and no wife/partner so life is pretty lonely.

A silver lining of this break up is it has me doing a lot of reflection and writing - specifically about how us men can be better ally's for the women in our lives (and all women) and what we can do to help acknowledge and understand the burdens that women have carried in this world throughout history. I hope these reflections/writings will make me a better man and more worthy of a great partnership in the future.