Hi all, I’m based in the UK, so please keep any advice relevant to the laws of that country.

I’m going through a tough time with my wife, where she essentially wants to separate/divorce. I can accept this as my fault for her not thinking I am a suitable husband, but I am more concerned with her actions and do not know what to do.

  1. She has essentially demanded that I pay her a sum of money which she deems her 50% share of assets. I am not convinced this figure is accurate, but I’m also not opposed to her having a higher percentage share if we split.

  2. She has become somewhat aggressive and demanding. She insists that I transfer the above sum, and frequently demands that I do so, even when I am tired and not feeling up to discussing the issue.

  3. She has become physically aggressive. She has hit me on two occasions (twice, the first time, I think three or four the second time). The first occasion was a slap on my butt, but not a playful or sexual one, it was intended to cause pain. The second occasion was a slap of my hand, quite forcefully, which stung a lot but has not resulted in any significant injury or damage.

I really would appreciate any advice on what to do. I’m struggling to know how to handle this. I do love and care for her, so please refrain from comments insulting or slighting her, although I don’t mind if you want to explain why you disagree with her (or myself, of course)

Thanks everyone in advance.