An 85-year Harvard study found the things that make you happy and helps you live longer. Acting like a “Real Man” isn’t on the list.

rabel111 · 2023-02-11T03:31:45+00:00

The conclusions of the article and the results of the research are not precisely aligned. The article professes that the research supported 7 key-stones of interpersonal support as the basis of a happy life. The research actually demonstrated that men with positive close relationships were happier and healthier than men without positive close relationships. This must be interpreted with caution given only 60 of the 724 men recruited into the study remained alive at the end of the study, and no details of censoring of the population were included in the article.

So men and women who are in positive close relationships are overall happier and healthier. But the OP suggests that men generally lack most of the 7 key-stone characteristics parashuted by the author of the article as surrogates of positive close relationships. This is not supported in the article or any other evidence, its just an opinion.

Given the places men can gather to engage in positive close relationships with other men have been systematically destroyed by radical feminists, given men have been systematically excised from family units by radical feminists in the Family Court systems and public policy, and given the OP ignores the positive close relationships many men have with their partners and families, the opined statement that most men lack in most of the 7 keystone surrogates for positive close relationships is not only most likely untrue, but largely irrelevant.

The miss quoting of the results of the study is a frequently use psychology bait-n-switch, a classical error in logic where evidence of "A" is presented as proof of "B" even when "A" and "B" are not directly related.

g1455ofwater · 2023-02-10T22:35:29+00:00

That's good I was looking for something like this. I think looking at upbringing and the lack of positive relationships should be the focus of leadership that is concerned with helping men. Those 2 missing pieces are both a problem in themselves but also lead to other issues.

It's scary how little attention this kind of meaty issue gets.

nyarlathotep999 · 2023-02-11T00:38:37+00:00

If you are a man, you shouldn't be acting like a real man, because you are a real man- no matter what you do. If you are true to your nature, your life is by consequence an authentic expression of masculinity.

NeoNotNeo · 2023-02-10T23:42:12+00:00

I posted as most men don’t prioritize themselves or their health. Most act like service dogs in life. Taking care of your family is one aspect. But the other is establishing healthy relationships and boundaries. Your sons should see you making yourself happy

Read their recommendations

Safety and security.

Do you feel safe with partner?? I’m saying most men don’t think like this. They should

Emotional closeness and confiding. Does the partner you are with provide it.

SolidStateCowboy · 2023-02-11T02:19:32+00:00

I don't Even waste Thinking about this stuff.

Here is something that will hopefully help some people.

When other people try and label you or say you're behaving a certain way and paint it negatively - it's often because they have a problem with it it themselves or are affected by it.

It's like when someone is super shitty to you so you're passive aggressive toward them. Then they make a huge deal about how you're so passive aggressive and it's wrong. But they only feel like it's wrong because you're directing it toward them.

Same with women and society telling men they are weak if they don't do something THEY want.

I'm me and I do what I want and behave how I want. I don't care about other people's skewed perception. Because people rarely base anything off real hard solid facts and almost never on ALL of the facts.

nineteenletterslong_ · 2023-02-10T21:46:27+00:00

what? what are you complaining about?

blaizken_420 · 2023-02-11T06:53:23+00:00

Good, such a snarl phrase is a shaming tactic.

Ronniebbb · 2023-02-11T20:16:12+00:00

I mean when you read it, it's not that bad of a article. To me it suggests to men and women make sure the relationships aren't toxic hell holes but uplift you and support you. We all need that and we all need to cut out bad relationships

Title	An 85-year Harvard study found the things that make you happy and helps you live longer. Acting like a “Real Man” isn’t on the list.
Author	NeoNotNeo
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	February 10, 2023 7:09 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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