I was thinking about starting a post in the NoFap subreddit but I didn’t want to get into politics or whatever there.

I feel like the majority of men in NoFap are like in their teens or 20s and are hoping that by doing NoFap for a long enough period of time, they’ll get a girlfriend, get married, and live happily ever after, adoring only one woman and getting the same adoration back in return.

That was me in my 20s. I did the work and broke my addiction. I went from hours every day to zero. I got my mojo back, went on dates, and even got married and then went through the divorce machine.

I don’t watch porn much - maybe once a week or so. But it’s a far cry for every few months before the divorce. I don’t feel good (not morally, just physically) after I watch porn. I get a hangover and lose drive and energy.

I don’t want to keep doing it.

But I’m just filled with negativity: - Dating sucks. Flakey women, juice isn’t worth the squeeze - Uneasy feeling that even if I find a woman to have children with, I still need to be prepared for more BS (state getting involved in my life, divorce rates, the general rise in degeneracy in society, etc) - My entire life, all I wanted was to find a wife and have a happy family. I never cared about sleeping with as many women as possible or dating multiple women at the same time or whatever. But as I look at society now, I’m seeing the only way for me to make good decisions with women is to date a lot of them. And it’s just exhausting - I’m not sexually attracted to most women I’m going on dates with

And all this negativity is leading me to porn.

Anyone else have these struggles?

I’m trying to find a healthier way to relate to my sexuality and frustrations, but watching porn isn’t it. And I’m no longer naive enough to think the other side of the NoFap rainbow is the life I always dreamed of.