Briffault's law

walterwallcarpet · 2024-08-03T08:43:05+00:00

"I guess I'm lucky that she at least packages everything in a palatable container..."

That situation is at the apex of what men can hope for. It's as good as it gets. You struck gold.

Sanity and understanding can be painful and gold can be cold, but they're valuable beyond belief. Hold onto all of these assets, brother. Hopefully, comprehension will eventually bring inner peace in place of turmoil.

OldGuyWithAttitude · 2024-08-03T04:53:08+00:00

yep, welcome to the red pill mate.

Capable-Mushroom99 · 2024-08-03T20:23:37+00:00

The only specific thing you mention about your wife is that she cuts her hair in a way you don’t like. Ok, maybe just tell her what you like and try to reach a compromise that sometimes she’s going to let it grow out more the way you like it. She can even wear wigs or hair extensions if you’re going out somewhere; plenty of women do that.

As for the money stuff, why be jealous of other people getting easy money? They aren’t taking it from you, and women (and men) with no talent have always been able to make money just on how they look or acting outrageous. Better just to focus on how you can improve your own life.

TheNattyJew · 2024-08-04T03:00:31+00:00

Every relationship is a transaction my friend. Even your relationships with friends is a transaction. There is nothing evil about it. You just have to make sure that in your marriage, you are getting as much out of the transaction as you are giving. Never be in a relationship where you give more than you get

2wicky · 2024-08-03T11:52:17+00:00

Yes, your value is based on what you can provide to others.

That said, it doesn't mean you should give that value away for free. It's okay to ask for something in return, but the only way you can do that is if you know what you can contribute to a relationship and what the other party wants from you.
It also means you will need to be prepared to negotiate. And that can be anything from direct verbal communication, like clearly stating your expectations, to non verbal communication in the form of setting boundaries.

Also recognise which values to others you can offer that you have in abundance. If you don't have any, you really need to work on that. The idea is that if you were to lose everything tomorrow, you should still be able to get back on your feet, start over and thrive again because you have the ability to create value out of thin are so to speak.

And lastly, with your intimate relationships, you should be setting the terms of the relationship. And one of those terms is that it ironically shouldn't be transactional.

Everything put into the relationship should be an investment. The difference is subtle, but in a transactional relationship, party A will do X with the expectation that party B will do Y in return. In an investment relationship, party A does X regardless of what party B does or doesn't do. Obviously, party B will need to invest, but individual actions are not linked to each other. What is required is that both parties are contributing to the relationship as best as they can in a meaningful way. This avoids the trap of where party A will try to re-negotiate the terms by stating they'll stop doing X unless party B starts doing Y. Because if that works, they'll withdraw X again to now get you to do Z.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2024-08-03T05:09:13+00:00

Would you prefer to live in times that believed in even stupider bio-reductionist things?

Title	Briffault's law
Author	Fancy_Still_9918
Upvotes	34
Comments	6
Date	August 3, 2024 4:13 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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