Child Support: The debate that never ends.

catipillar · 2011-04-12T09:46:10+00:00

The woman that wrote this is shockingly ignorant of the subject.

AnnArchist · 2011-04-12T17:18:51+00:00

Does it take away your empowerment as a woman to accept child support?

Yes. It means you can't make it without a man.

Bobsutan · 2011-04-12T12:11:00+00:00

Let's turn the tables though. The mother earns the big bucks and has primary custody, while the father is out of work. He is court-ordered to pay child support. The mother doesn't need that money, should she give it up so that he can have a better lifestyle when the children are with him? He doesn't have the same luxuries as the mother at his home. He can't afford the latest and greatest Nintendo DSi with the big screen or even have enough bedrooms for each kid to have his own space. He can't afford cable much less clothing to keep at his house for when his children come to stay with him.

Why is he court ordered to pay anything in the first place? That's the question that needs asking. In this example, if anything she should be paying him!

Or better yet, since the mother does make more money, should she subsidize his standard of living so when the kids are with him, they are comfortable? After all, we all say child support is for the children.

This is getting interesting...

Let's face it that would hardly ever happen that the mother with custody and more money will pay the dad. I do know some that do it, but they are resentful and angry about it and feel it is the father's responsibility to support not only himself, but his kids.

At least she recognizes the inequality.

Light bulb moment! The mother who is paying feels it is the father's responsibility! And, isn't that what all the father's who pay support to their wives are b*tching about? They want to pay for their children, but feel it is the mother's responsibility to provide the lifestyle they want for themselves and the kids.

Yes it is what we've been bitching about. About time you see things from our perspective. How would women like it if the dads quit their high-paying jobs and took a low paying job so they'd have more time with the kids. Of course mom isnt' going to like it when she has to pony up money to dad, or at least get a much smaller amount from him due to his lower wages. THIS IS THE PROBLEM WITH THE CURRENT SYSTEM and is why child support should be paid only on the costs of raising the child. The status quo of cs as a wealth transfer vehicle needs to stop!

Title	Child Support: The debate that never ends.
Author	thetrollking
Upvotes	6
Comments	6
Date	April 12, 2011 8:37 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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