[Effort Post] A feminist is a person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of all the sexes. Feminism is not only about women, it is about humanity. Then why do we make it all about women, that they're the only one facing discrimination? Ever heard about 'pussy pass'?

First of all, 'equality' here is not 'equality of outcome' rather it is 'equality of opportunity'. ‘Equality of Outcome’ requires that individuals have some share of goods. ‘Equality of Opportunity’ requires that people ought to be able to compete on a “level playing field”. So, having share based on some group's representation in population is not "feminism".

Secondly, women and men are equal (in terms of value) not same (physically, physiologically, psychologically, emotionally). So first understand what 'equal' means. What irks me is the number of people who reduce feminism to blindly agree to everything a woman says or continually reinforcing a woman’s belief in her ability to do ‘anything a man can do’. You can't do all the things a man can do , and you shouldn't try to either.

Thirdly, ‘Woman empowerment’ is another term thrown around like plastic wrappers in India. Sex, drugs and profanity on the daily is not 'women empowerment' as some movies and TV shows nowadays would like you to believe. Reducing the cut-off percentage for girls in DU colleges isn’t empowering anyone except those already empowered; true empowerment would come around only when every girl in the remotest village of this country goes to school without once thinking that she’s lucky to be able to do so. I don’t see why a woman should need a lower percentage to qualify anyway. Education should always be a level playing field. Equality is in equal opportunity.

Fourthly, majority of "feminists" are hypocrites. A woman could literally get away with anything by ending her sentence with ‘because Feminism’. No, you do not deserve an added portion of respect just because you happened to be born a girl. You deserve the same amount of respect as any other human being. Whatever respect you get after that depends on how you earn it. Don’t tell me I’m supposed to know how to talk to ‘ladies’ because I don’t. I know how to talk to human beings and I’m sorry if that’s not enough for you, but that’s my idea of equality. Women can wait in line for their turn and can offer a seat to a man. If a women accuses a man of sexual assault he's automatically the culprit. As we've recently seen in 'boislockeroom' controversy and on countless other occasions. No one knows if they're culprit or not, but there are screenshots and a women accused them so it must be true. Bill Maher, the comedian pointed out, in one of his stand-ups, that if someone said men were smarter than women, there would be a chorus of disagreeable challenge; however, if one said that women were smarter than men, everyone would cheer almost reflexively because that’s just how society is. We’re selectively moral. We pick and choose the values and morals and ethics we’d like to follow as per our own convenience. That's not how feminism or pseudo-feminism works.

Fifthly, Feminism’s goal is to create a society where men are taught that expressing their feelings does not make them less of a man and where women are taught that they are strong too. It wants a society where men are no longer taught that “crying is for girls” so that they can actually communicate their feelings and problems and have more successful relationships with women throughout their lives. It is men who mostly suffer with depression, anxiety, suicide, loneliness. They are seldom complemented, appreciated, and guided. They are supposed to figure out life on their own, be successful, not be emotional, provide for family and be strong. But no one tells them 'how?’ 1 in every 10 rape victims is a man. Men are not supposed to talk about sexual assault because then they're 'pussies' and are supposed to consider themselves 'lucky'. Feminism wants a society where men aren’t expected to always be the moneymaker of a family and women are able to provide for themselves without expecting a man’s support. 90% of women marry a man who earns equal or more that them. If a man stays at home, takes care of children, and his wife earns, then he's a loser somehow, but a housewife is a "shero". Feminism wants a society where a woman is seen as an individual before she is seen as a sexual being or a baby maker and where a man and woman can be seen equally as parents and treated fairly in parental or custodial issues. So the next time you throw that word around unthinkingly, ask yourself, are you even worthy of using that term?