Fathers as "Babysitters"

CasyD · 2013-11-02T03:23:07+00:00

it isn't Baby sitting if it is your own kids it is parenting

nigglereddit · 2013-11-02T08:31:44+00:00

Yup. Happened yesterday at the playpark.

My three year old daughter had been playing on a climbing frame with a little boy and when they went near his mother, she bent down and said, "well isn't it nice to have a baby sitter for the day?".

My little start hates this stuff and looked her right and and said firmly, "No. That's my daddy."

How proud was I?

chocoboat · 2013-11-02T07:18:10+00:00

I'm a sahd and get this a lot.

"Oh, you're babysitting the kids, so now you know what she goes through when she goes shopping eh?"

Actually said to me at a grocery store. I wish women would grow the fuck up. It doesn't bother me as much as it crushes my oldest daughter. She seems keenly aware that 'dad' is maligned by all the ads on tv, the ads in the store and the attitudes of the cashiers and other shoppers.

JaydenPope · 2013-11-02T03:29:04+00:00

Its the same ol' washed out stereotype that men do nothing for their kids. I wonder if people would change their tune when they actually see single fathers or divorced father raise their children, especially after a long drawn out custody battle.

Society need to treat fathers better.

raptorrage · 2013-11-02T14:12:51+00:00

Ugh, I hate the attitude. Hell, just today, at his suggestion, my husband and I bought him a baby bag. Now, we have one each that we'll be individually responsible for and hopefully thus not late to things we're taking our son to.

I also got a big smile when my husband grabbed a rubber ducky to add to our purchases. I think it's the first thing we don't need (ie it's a whimsical buy) that he's grabbed.

HolySchmoly · 2013-11-03T04:07:58+00:00

20 years ago women weren't trusted to babysit. They were regarded as unreliable. Parents wanted male college students.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2013-11-02T13:35:13+00:00

I have my daughter about half the time, and have for most of her life- her mother and I split up when she was very very small.

I still get unsolicited parenting "advice" from women who haven't been parents as long as I have, and whose children are Coke-guzzling little hooligans.

I am remarried now, to a wonderful woman who is really helpful with my daughter. But for some reason, people seem to feel better about me as a parent when my wife- my kid's stepmom- is there to "supervise" me.

Nevermind that my wife does not yet have any children of her own, and has less experience with children than I do. Apparently her instinct trumps my experience.

rightsbot · 2013-11-02T03:14:17+00:00

Post text automatically copied here. (Why?) (Report a problem.)

lokidemon731 · 2013-11-02T22:00:04+00:00

It's incredibly condescending.

2013-11-02T10:25:14+00:00

I have no problem with it. I mean, fuck, it's not like society doesn't lionize women simply for doing basically parenting skills -- they just don't act like it's shocking when women do it, but they damn sure do act like simply raising a child makes single mothers into saints, for instance.

Title	Fathers as "Babysitters"
Author	raptorrage
Upvotes	18
Comments	26
Date	November 2, 2013 3:12 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1pqc6p/fathers_as_babysitters/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/fathers-as-babysitters.1159816 https://theredarchive.com/post/1159816

Comments