I keep seeing this article pop up on facebook feeds with comments like "this is how men react when they know they've done something wrong." Just wanted to hear this community's thoughts on it.

2011-12-01T05:35:02+00:00

Empty and cheap. You could make similar claims about anyone by anyone.

womblefish · 2011-12-01T08:43:46+00:00

I'd like to offer an different interpretation.

Lets be blunt, we all know women who use emotional overeaction to manipulate and control others. Who hasn't seen a woman turn on the waterworks to avoid some unpleasant consequence? Who hasn't seen a woman respond to a minor criticism with a wall of tears? Who hasn't seen a woman become furiously angry over some minor disagreement or inconvenience? And who hasn't known women that respond to a man who honestly expresses his emotions with the clichéd "you're scaring me"?

How can any man in a relationship with such a women express his unhappiness when doing so results in a tear filled tantrum? How can he express his anger when his told that doing so scares her? How can he disagree when disagreeing provokes vitriolic fury?

The women who do this, know exactly what they are doing, and their primary goal is to silence the voices of the men in their life! Women who do this, are using their emotional outbursts as weapons to psychologically abuse their partners.

As for the article, its victim blaming at its finest.

Men have a right to express their opinions and defend themselves against abuse!

ignatiusloyola · 2011-12-01T12:11:55+00:00

Getting very emotional about an issue rather than trying to calmly resolve it is emotional manipulation also.

If someone is emotional about something, they should go off, work through their emotions, and then come back to resolve the problem. Otherwise they aren't being rational - emotions override rationality.

AnnArchist · 2011-12-02T01:07:29+00:00

Idk, every time I've said I thought a girl was crazy, she was doing something that was fucking crazy. . .

2011-12-01T17:46:02+00:00

I'd say that both men and women often act crazy in relationships. It's only the stereotype that women do this. If a partner points out that you're acting crazy they may not be gaslighting you. You may actually be acting crazy.

Women are emotionally manipulative, but men are emotionally manipulative too.

It's hard to get perspective on a relationship if you're in it.

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