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Interesting article: "There is a misconception about shared custody, in that shared custody does not always mean equal custody."

coffeeinvenice

December 11, 2018

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https://globenewswire.com/news-release/2018/12/04/1661472/0/en/Los-Angeles-Mediator-Mark-Baer-Calls-Out-CNN-s-Lisa-Ling-for-Failing-to-Suggest-Mediation-as-a-Conflict-Resolution-Tool-in-her-Recently-Aired-Show-The-Dad-Dilemma.html

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Title	Interesting article: "There is a misconception about shared custody, in that shared custody does not always mean equal custody."
Author	coffeeinvenice
Upvotes	57
Comments	3
Date	December 11, 2018 4:59 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/a53qxw/interesting_article_there_is_a_misconception/
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[–]AcidJiles 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

While some fathers blame the feminist movement for this bias, Baer points out that the feminist movement works to oppose gender bias saying, “Actually, those who believe in traditional gender roles are the ones who tend to believe that women are better parents than men. If you are going to let a judge make a decision on your case, you are subjecting yourself to whatever biases that judge holds. This is less of a problem in mediation because the final decision makers are the parties themselves.”

The Feminist movement is traditionalist when it benefits women and is not when it doesn't. In this case it benefits women and therefore they take the more traditionalist position. To view feminism only as non-traditionalist is to ignore it's only focus, benefit for women largely regardless of the consequences and effects on others. There are certainly women's issues to be solved but feminism's narrow and blinkered focus doesn't help women nor men in the long run.

[–]Mode1961 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Tedesche 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

In this case it benefits women and therefore they take the more traditionalist position.

Not quite. Feminists do believe that women aren’t necessarily better parents than fathers, and that to assume so is sexist, it’s just that in oractive they don’t actually do anything about instances of this form is sexism when it harms men, rather than women.

So, for mothers who feel overworked as a parent and want their husbands to help out more with the child rearing, feminists cite this sexist belief and fight for them. But when it comes to courts awarding mothers custody more often than fathers without just cause? “Well, yeah, that’s sexist too, someone should totally protest that shit.”

Most feminists just don’t care enough about men’s issues to do anything about them. And they get scared whe non-feminist men’s rights groups show up to do it, because they know success for them means greater ability for men to make progress in other areas that feminists might not like. So it’s about apathy and power, not feminists hating men.