I was talking to an acquaintance of mine recently about some hateful man hating rhetoric that I was exposed to. Specifically women trying to control men through constant shaming and harassment to trigger overcompensation, and also, shaming men for having a little standards, while I’ve observed them having similar or even higher standards. He immediately proceeded to berate me and call me insecure, he told me not to say “women” because just because I observed some women thinking like that, it doesn’t mean that all women think like that, and I should refrain from saying “women” and instead use “some women” or “some people”. And you know what, I agreed with him, totally not fair to say that, and we continued the conversation.

However, in the same conversation, we then proceeded to discuss a “hate all men” rhetoric we saw online, he then proceeded to tell me that while he doesn’t agree with the opinion, he understands and can “see why she would say that”. He then proceeded to justify it by saying that people who say this are probably just frustrated because of the systemic issues facing women, and while he doesn’t agree, he can understand.

This drove me up the wall because, when I as a man are expressing my frustrations I am berated and called insecure, but if a woman expresses her LITERAL HATRED for all men, she is understandable. It’s like, be consistent with your bs. I know we didn’t specifically discuss systemic issues involving men, and while I don’t doubt that there are systemic issues affecting women, there are numerous systemic issues affecting men too, if a man ever said he hated all women because of these systemic issues, he would be labeled an instant misogynist.

Mind you, the woman who was parroting the hate all men rhetoric wasn’t saying that because of systemic issues, she was saying it because of previous heartbreak, and this guy still found some sort of contrived way to defend her hatred.

It just seems really silly to me, somehow women are ALWAYS justified for their hatred or terrible actions, because they go through issues but men also go through issues too and it’s never an excuse to justify anything.

The hypocrisy is just baffling to me, either we are all responsible for our actions, or we are all just going through shit, men are humans with feelings too. This society is infuriating.