One-night stand or rape?

LanceCoolie · 2012-01-31T21:19:08+00:00

Pretty pleased with Prudence's response.

hardwarequestions · 2012-01-31T21:41:24+00:00

Shit like this is why we argue against the intoxicated=can't consent crap.

Bobsutan · 2012-02-01T19:48:21+00:00

Feel free to post some comments. I've been having a good time of it. Some people actually seem to get it over there.

2012-02-02T00:09:11+00:00

This is the classic "regret rape."

Bobsutan · 2012-02-03T00:27:46+00:00

As I've posted elsewhere, I fully believe that false accusing should be a crime unto itself. No more of this slap on the wrist crap for filing false police reports. I'd break it down by severity:

Class 1 false accusation would be directed at a specific person in a fraudulent manner. In such cases 10 years in prison, a stiff fine in the neighborhood of $10,000, and registration on the sex offender registry is appropriate.
Class 2 false accusation would be when false accuser doesn't direct it anyone specific, but by happenstance someone actually is arrested and/or prosecuted. Such a case should result in a minimum of 1 year in prison and stiff fine, plus registration on the sex offender registry and perhaps several years of probation.
Class 3 false accusation would be when a false accuser makes a generic claim, such as just trying to get attention, and nobody is really harmed and the only detriment is the wasted police resources. For such cases I think a $1000 fine, plus 3-5 years probation, lots of community service, and addition to the sex offender registry would be sufficient.

If anyone wonders why I'd like to see them included on the sex offender registries, keep this quote in mind: "When a man rapes a woman, it is against the law. When a woman rapes a man, the law is the instrument she uses."

2012-01-31T21:39:26+00:00

It seems to me that the only way to be safe from these kinds of rape accusations is to make them first. You regret it and never gave consent. She regrets it and never gave consent. Neither were more "the actor" than the other and both were just as drunk. It's first man or woman to the police who wins...

I'm always going to press charges because if I don't I could end up being pressed charges against.

2012-01-31T23:32:14+00:00

Trying to ruin someone else's life is a poor way to address one's alcohol and self-control problems.

I guess it's good that's not really the problem she's trying to address then?

fogu · 2012-02-01T04:51:48+00:00

A friend recently called me and said she had a one-night stand after drinking too much. She was beating herself up over drinking too much and going home with a guy she met at a bar. I reassured her that everyone makes mistakes and didn't think much more of the account.

Isn't it possible that her friend was 'beating herself up' over the one-night stand as a covert way of communicating her non-consensual sexual experience to her friend? Many rape victims beat themselves up over being raped and blame themselves, and some of what the letter describes is in line with that just as much as it is in line with being a regretted one-night stand.

It sounds like the author may not have gotten the whole story from that one phone call.

Title	One-night stand or rape?
Author	LanceCoolie
Upvotes	21
Comments	19
Date	January 31, 2012 9:18 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/p52q2/onenight_stand_or_rape/
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