Please, Help Me Overcome Distrust and Fear

bucketh3ad · 2012-07-28T17:26:47+00:00

Time is your friend. Time and attention. While some people play long cons, the odds that you'll run into one are rather low. Remember that while women can choose to hurt you easily, many of them would choose not to.

So basically, get to know her. If you get an instinct that you can trust her, you probably can. But don't trust her too much unless you really know her. Honestly, I'd recommend the same for guys in your life, too.

Don't boink someone you can't trust. Don't make out with that person, or anything like that. Nothing NOTHING sexual until you know her and can trust her. If you do that, you'll most likely end up in pretty good shape. Bad things happen even to those who take precautions, but I do know many people who have had long lasting marriages and are still actually happy with their spouses. MR tells the horror stories because they do happen, but there are also many happy relationships out there.

Good luck.

Samurai007_ · 2012-07-28T17:48:40+00:00

You can't be afraid to live life even if doing so is more dangerous than locking yourself away in your room. Develop your instincts about people, take your time getting to know them, and even more time until you trust them. Don't put yourself into compromising situations with someone until they have earned at least some of your trust. Don't be afraid to back off or leave if things are suspicious or rub you the wrong way, but also don't be afraid to try and build that trust and relationship with someone who deserves it.

Celda · 2012-07-28T17:21:25+00:00

All you have to do is realize that the chances of being falsely accused of rape etc. is relatively quite low. Do you worry about being in a car accident tomorrow? Probably not, even though the chance you will be in a car accident is not super low (if you drive regularly).

And of course there are things you can do to protect yourself, such as by not associating with women who believe things like "it's fine if I hit my boyfriend, but not the other way around."

rightsbot · 2012-07-28T17:16:17+00:00

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EvilPundit · 2012-07-28T22:18:48+00:00

Try chatting to women on the Internet -especially if they live in another country. This is a safe way for both you and them to interact. Find the ones you like and disregard the ones with bad attitudes. Chat a lot, about everything, as long as it isn't controversial.

Don't bring up the subject of politics, religion and men's rights. Do encourage sexy talk, but try to avoid either of you falling in love.

The point of this exercise is not to develop a serious relationship, but rather, a friendship. Talking with good women in a safe environment - and separation by thousands of miles without knowing each other's real name or address is pretty safe.

Gradually you will come to see the good points, and to understand that women don't all hate men, etc. You will feel more confident in relating to them.

Demonspawn · 2012-07-28T20:37:00+00:00

Why would you want to pull a Cypher?

MaunaLoona · 2012-07-28T18:36:05+00:00

You've taken the red pill. There is no going back, my friend.

cthulufunk · 2012-07-28T17:34:44+00:00

Peruse the sub less than you have been. Focus more on the causes parts and less on the symptoms parts.
Maintain a healthy skepticism. Most stories are likely accurate. Some are glossing over incredibly stupid shit the OP did to get themselves into their predicament. A fraction are total bullshit. There aren't a whole lot of places for guys to go and talk about their experiences, so you're getting a condensed and concentrated number of horror stories here.
MGTOW is not for everyone. And most of them don't really shun women, they just shun committed relationships with them.
Being aware of your actual "privilege" (meaning: advantages as a male) is simply to prevent you from being manipulated by demagogues and genderpimps.

Don't become paralyzed with fear.

2012-07-28T17:55:55+00:00

I think really the only thing you need to avoid is having children. Also you need to avoid sex with overly emotional women. Otherwise I think you can trust women.

2012-07-29T05:35:24+00:00

Don't think with your dick. Judge a woman on her personality, not her looks.

heracleides · 2012-07-29T03:57:37+00:00

There's no way to reestablish trust with a side that is favoured legally and by society in general. You are going to have to adjust to this environment because it isn't going to change. Don't look for change and don't expect anything from women because society doesn't and a lot women don't expect it from themselves.

Do what you need to just don't get into any contracts with them or commit financially to them.

Women in America today are like the Jews of Russia in the 18th century. They take and take and take and the more susceptible population suffers for it. Play it smart.

I personally don't have anything to do with them anymore. They aren't worth the time or money because the majority of them aren't interesting except for the fact that they have lady parts. I find more enjoyment in learning and doing my own thing. If you stop worrying about it you'll find that they aren't as important as your biology makes them out to be.

Title	Please, Help Me Overcome Distrust and Fear
Author	bucketh3ad
Upvotes	15
Comments	21
Date	July 28, 2012 5:15 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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