princessboy: supporting crossdressing behaviour in preschoolers. Side conversation: Girls can be 'tomboys.' what's a supportive descriptor for boys who want to cross dress?

thepinkmask · 2011-01-07T12:47:32+00:00

Thanks for making this post. While I'm not aware of any supportive counterparts to "tom-boy" (maybe "princessboy?") there is a lot we can do to support trans and gender non-conforming kids. These tips, from TransActive, are a good place to start:

Top Eleven Tips For Caregivers of Trans & Gender Non-Conforming Children & Youth

The child may not experience their gender as others see them.
This is significant and the child takes it very seriously.
Continue providing unconditional love.
If you feel overwhelmed or under-informed, get support and accurate information. You are not alone!
This isn't about something anyone has done or is doing wrong.
This isn’t about the child’s current or future sexual orientation. Sexual Orientation is unrelated to Gender Identity.
Substantial research indicates that gender identity is hard-wired. It is not a mental or physical illness.
Support the child for who they are today rather than trying to change who they might someday become.
The child, if supported in their gender expression, has every good chance of growing up to be an exceptional and successful person.
1. Above all, respect the child's feelings about their gender identity.
2. While this may be confusing for you at first, do not assume the child or youth is confused about their gender identity. They most likely are not.

2011-01-08T10:33:32+00:00

I also don't think it's such a bad thing that men, and boys, can dress however they like.

There's the usual double standard going on here, where females can dress however they like, but males, oh no, males must dress according to the straight jacket of disposability that all cultures around the world expect of them.

FUCK THAT

One's attire is an efficient means of communicating one's beliefs about oneself and where one belongs. Controlling attire is therefore, also, an important means of enforcing beliefs and enforcing where people belong.

SO WHO GIVES A FUCK IF IT LOOKS LIKE BOYS/MEN WILL BE FEMINISED BY WEARING CLOTHING USUALLY RESERVED FOR FEMALES!

It simply means they are not upholding the male disposability ideal, by choosing to wear less durable clothing.

All power to them!

Perhaps clothing will become one of the pillars of the men's rights movement, in fact, it must.

Thank you for making me realise this.

I have written a couple of little articles about this already:

http://www.tsigolohcysp.com/inflammatory-textual-numero-un0.html

http://www.tsigolohcysp.com/inflammatory-textual-numero-duo.html

bassguy13 · 2011-01-07T21:01:02+00:00

I think life is just tough with all these things; people feel obligated to gender-fy their kids immediately, I mean right from birth! It's a tough battle for any and all involved, but especially for boys who are forced to be a "man".

thetrollking · 2011-01-07T18:32:29+00:00

I don't believe this. She says she accepts him but if anyting she is passively aggressively giving permisison and coercing him into these activities.

If he really is like then then fine. But I find it hard to believe that a boy who hasn't even gone through the changes to become a man can actually think of himself as something else than a boy without parental involvement(or teachers or social bullying). I find the same idea about kids knowing they are gay at five ridiculous. Most science does say this is a inborn trait, especially conditions where there is a defect or non normal constuction on one or more genes or chromosomes or in cases of xxy or xyy or xxx or simply x configurations.

My problem is that everytime I see something like this it's always the mom proposing and selling the idea and I haven't seen one example where the father was in the picture. Kids want acceptance and if you only except the girl traits then the boy will start mimicking them. I know there are people born with these conditions but I fail to see how it manifests itself in childhood, especially when the conditions are based so heavily on androgens that don't really get started in the body until puberty.

2011-01-08T00:15:12+00:00

"Trap" works well enough for me.

Title	princessboy: supporting crossdressing behaviour in preschoolers. Side conversation: Girls can be 'tomboys.' what's a supportive descriptor for boys who want to cross dress?
Author	kloo2yoo
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	January 7, 2011 7:42 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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