Why do some men choose to chase women and get pissed when they do not get said woman?

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Ok guys I am 16 year old male and currently in high school I tend to linger around this subreddit and I have found some posts that complain about women having high standards or are hard to get in general. My question is why chase them?

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I mean I'm not saying start hating on women I am more so saying that instead of chasing them why not work on yourselves. Get a job try to secure food water and a place to sleep and maybe get some WIFI as well and once that foundation is built try to branch out and reach greater feats of glory. Basically start working on yourself so that even if you cant get a woman you still have a good foundation you will still be secure and to some extent in the process of being set up for life.

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Besides what can a woman provide that a friend cant provide. I mean if social interaction is what you are looking for then I'm sure that your friends can satisfy that need. Besides if sex is the reason then why? is sex really that important? I mean the moment you die regardless of how many people you did in it wont matter besides the local brothel can easily provide that. Moreover, if you are looking for a woman because you believe they will make you less stressed or more fulfilled then what the heck are you even thinking? if you cant fix your issues there is a low chance you will be capable of fixing the issues of your partner not to mention the relationship you are looking for will quickly become toxic if all you do is claim and claim without giving back because you do not know how to properly give back besides the cliché methods shown on romance anime's, novels ,etc's that will most likely make you look cringe instead.

Think about life this way you and everyone in this world are people with their own needs and aspirations. When engaging in any relationship you to some extent sign a contract in which you promise to consider the thoughts of the other person as they do for yours. If you cant fix yourself you definitely are not in a shape to fix or help someone else which is something that rings true for BOTH sides of the relationship (If the girl is toxic and displays the issues above be careful).

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Lastly does tradition even matter? So what if the boomers had trad wives or they were generally considered as strong and hardworking. You are your own person unshackled by tradition besides yourself. stop putting traditional expectations of wives and children on your backs besides who the hell are the old generations to demand those things from you live your best lives and focus on building yourselves always remember that everyone gets garbage just because you were in a bad situation does not mean that you are free from the consequences of your actions or that your actions are justified it is your choice and only your choice to change and if you are unwilling or complacent to change for the better then don't be surprised if life does not go the way you expect because time waits for no one and noting good comes from listless idleness.