Struggling with anger about my childhood circumcision

2018-04-08T20:59:25+00:00

I understand needing to vent.

But how about using this anger as motivation to make yourself feel better about the subject.

How do you see the following options:

1) restoration (/r/foreskin_restoration)

2) helping intactivists. Either by spreading awareness in a neutral way (simply saying "these are the arguments anti cutting people have" in relevant discussions so to make more people aware just of what it's about)... or by giving them money, or just showing them support.

3) Doing intactivism, from trying to convince people online that MGM is a bad thing to going in the streets protesting or publicly debating in favor of bans if they're being proposed where you live. (ofc this 3rd option should really be taken only if you're feeling already much better about the subject, otherwise you might just feel worse and worse about it and maybe even turn people off from what they might have accepted because of your anger)

The big difference between 2 and 3 being you don't actively try to argue against MGM, you just lay the factual information as to why people oppose the practice. Which should not only avoid you a lot of angry arguments, but most importantly avoid you being shit on for your thoughts on MGM, because my god that shit happens a lot if you're not careful enough.

2018-04-08T20:13:24+00:00

If you were a girl your parents would have been in prison as well as the "person" who performed the circumcision. Child molesters belong behind bars, same goes for circumcision performers, how is mutliation not molestation? Its a very severe form of molestation, worse than most types that are already illegal and should be treated as such.

swejap · 2018-04-08T22:56:21+00:00

Here's a mental trick I learned a few years ago. It's about pretending to being your own parent. Maybe it can help?

Anyway, imagine you have a son who is furious about having been circumcised (not by you) and he comes to you, venting his anger. What would you say to your own son or tell him to do to help him feel better about it? Then try to apply that to yourself.

Hope it helps. I know how much anger can suck

HeForeverBleeds · 2018-04-08T22:07:50+00:00

The sad thing is that a lot of parents do it to their children without even thinking, or with ignorant ideas that it's "better". Nowadays, though, there's really no excuse for this ignorance

I agree with IDeliverToPMME_Users: I believe the most helpful thing would be to try restoration. And whether or not that works, to continue to learn about and spread awareness about the truth of this horrible practice

I believe already the practice has decreased lately, so people just need to keep working towards this

codaclouds · 2018-04-09T03:15:55+00:00

the medical industrial complex is to blame here, as they are the criminals who scammed your parents and many others into the "procedure." yes, it was stupid on your parent's part, but they are also trapped in a system designed to make people stupid, so in a way they are just as much victims as you.

as others have said you can try activism because criminals belong in prison and that won't happen unless awareness is raised and others can follow your example and be open about how they feel. it takes a lot of courage to even openly express your feelings about what was done to you.

you could also look into restoration.

LoganBlade13 · 2018-04-09T13:43:09+00:00

Hey mate we all want our foreskins back

-manatease · 2018-04-08T22:28:00+00:00

Don't blame your parents, they were on the receiving end of cultural pressure combined with doctors being poorly educated on the subject. I almost literally shat my pants when I heard that doctors in the USA forcibly retract foreskins in intact young boys. That seems like such an primitive, quasi-religious practice from this side of the pond.

You have doctors practising voodoo over there, but your parents weren't to know this.

JohnKimble111 · 2018-04-09T02:40:47+00:00

Get involved in intactivism, either online or IRL. A lot of subreddits are becoming increasingly anti MGM and people are starting to become increasingly informed on the topic.

2018-04-09T11:36:19+00:00

Honestly, if I was circumcised as a child, I would have killed whichever parent decided and fled my country.

Beard_Of_Ginger · 2018-04-10T02:03:52+00:00

I’m sorry that you have this pent up anger and frustration with your folks. It sounds like they are great parents otherwise. As a father myself, I’m sure they made the best decision based on the facts they had. There are medical decisions that alter the body or remove tissue that can be done (such as tongue tie removal or vestigial tail removal)

Can you explain your anger/frustration? I have never felt any anger or resentment toward either of my parents. I see that a lot of guys are upset but haven’t felt that myself.

Jeyban · 2018-04-08T20:11:06+00:00

A true shame that you'll never be able to see how many quarters you can keep in ya foreskin compared to ya homies

WolvesThrone · 2018-04-08T22:53:00+00:00

Your mad over consequences your parents had no knowledge about. To be upset or "angry" is not only Petty but a poor sign of maturity. You or your parents did not understand through the science we have now. So you can relax tuck it back in, and fall asleep being thankful you still have one.

WolvesThrone · 2018-04-08T20:57:52+00:00

Iunno I like my dick, and I don't have to wash it out thoroughly, the skin doesn't get caught on zippers. And the overall appearance is sharp. Just all in all, it's like a beard vs no beard. I'm not upset, just clean shaven. That's all.

WolvesThrone · 2018-04-08T22:37:24+00:00

See your dick is still sensitive so stop bitching.

WolvesThrone · 2018-04-08T23:21:05+00:00

Why don't you ask your parents and conversate with them about instead of bitching about them. There you can have a truthful conversation about it. And to be honest I'm happy my mom did. I don't have any issues. Not saying you do but I'm saying before getting mad about something you can not change. Try getting the most knowledge before you go flopping your bullshit rants.

Title	Struggling with anger about my childhood circumcision
Author	iworshipwabbits
Upvotes	59
Comments	53
Date	April 8, 2018 8:01 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/8askis/struggling_with_anger_about_my_childhood/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/struggling-with-anger-about-my-childhood.903122 https://theredarchive.com/post/903122

Comments