The Go Bag

aetheralloy · 2011-01-01T18:53:31+00:00

Nice. I think this one is worthy of linking to in the DV resources.

MeanMotherHubbard · 2011-01-01T19:22:28+00:00

While we are at it, it's good to xerox DL, passport, etc in advance.

I just recently heard someone on the radio saying she has a whole apartment full of furniture in storage in case her current relationship doesn't work. She can make a clean break much quicker if it's only her clothes and personal affects, and not couches she is tryingto move.

jackfreeman · 2011-01-01T22:18:57+00:00

Don't forget to include documentation of the abuse(legal letters of testimony from witnesses, any social worker's letters or previous shelter stays, etc), and medical records that were specifically related to the abuse whether or not is was stated as such.

Quarters for laundromats

Keep in mind that there are shelters for families as well as gender-specific abusive, so look around.

This is smart, but keep in mind that an abusive partner might look for your shit-hits-the-fan bag, so maybe store it at the house where you intend to stay if possible.

I would say take pictures and items that remind you of happier times, but I would suggest that you refrain from taking pictures or items that remind you of the abuser because it might be too tough when you are feeling vulnerable.

I was a male victim of spousal abuse, and my girlfriend is a social worker. AMAA.

2011-01-01T23:18:46+00:00

I think this list is sensible, although I'd also recommend setting up a cellphone. Something cheap, pay-as-you-go, disposable, the kind of thing you can pick up for $20 just to make calls and texts. This way you can communicate with those you wish to no matter what. Secondly, a second e-mail address and similar, somewhere that you can use privately (left your saved password on a computer back in the house?).

I think both these are invaluable for contacting those people who can help you, with a guarantee of privacy.

pcarvious · 2011-01-01T23:57:01+00:00

If you have a vehicle I suggest storing the to go bag in with the spare tire if there's space. Either that or in a bag with car repair tools. Call it an emergency survival kit if you are asked.

DougDante · 2011-01-02T05:11:54+00:00

I have on more than one occasion heard of the police department forcibly removing the children from the care of an allegedly abused father to deliver them into the arms of an allegedly abusive and neglectful mother, without court order, on the grounds that "children belong with their mother" In another case, a father called legal aid and they refused to help him, because he explained that he was a victim of domestic violence, and they apparently refused to help male victims of domestic violence.

If you are an abused father, if at all possible, you need a lawyer before you leave, because if you don't have one, the legal system may trample your rights.

ZzardozZ · 2011-01-02T09:36:38+00:00

Has anyone ever considered buying a tranquilizer gun, just in case?

Il128 · 2011-01-02T13:08:26+00:00

or a shelter

Not if yorue a man. If you re a man, you will be turned away from almost all DV shelters b/c your presence as a man may upset one woman so men arent allowed any public resources, i think the typical feminist response to this is to: "Man up!"

Il128 · 2011-01-02T13:48:07+00:00

This is foolish. You make a go bag for emergencies. If you need a plan for being abused, just leave already.

Il128 · 2011-01-01T21:56:24+00:00

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2011-01-02T02:55:11+00:00

For those who are concerned about the potential for a zombie outbreak.

Il128 · 2011-01-01T23:41:48+00:00

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Title	The Go Bag
Author	Il128
Upvotes	86
Comments	30
Date	January 1, 2011 6:17 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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