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This Quora answer thread could use some non-radical-feminist replies... complete mess right now.

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October 23, 2018

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https://www.quora.com/What-microaggressions-do-women-deal-with-on-a-daily-basis/

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Title	This Quora answer thread could use some non-radical-feminist replies... complete mess right now.
Author	fac1
Upvotes	21
Comments	16
Date	October 23, 2018 11:10 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/9qu6wa/this_quora_answer_thread_could_use_some/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/this-quora-answer-thread-could-use-some-non.891326 https://theredarchive.com/post/891326

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[–]kaffirdog 6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]fengpi 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]nisutapasion 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]fac1[S] 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]genkernels 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

But the question is about "microaggressions" and worded in such a way as to assume the radical-feminist position. There really isn't anything substantial to refute. What are you going to say? "Responding to microaggressions isn't really a way to address any problem, much less gender equality"? Point out more important issues without dealing with the bullshit nature of the complaint? Even if one did manage to find a good response, due to the nature of the question, this isn't something that the non-hardcore feminist people are likely going to read.

Quora is not a forum that encourages replies-to-replies like reddit does, so addressing the individual bullshit of each answer isn't supported much by the platform.

One feminist already did respond with:

I find the whole concept of "microaggression" rather passive-aggressive. I think some men do treat some women in ways which are annoying, irritating or demeaning, but I wouldn't determine those as "aggressive" in a micro sense or other.

To be honest, I think that's already the best an MRA could answer given the nature of the platform and the question, and since it is from a feminist it is less likely to be ridiculed.

[–]fac1[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]genkernels 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]CircleToShoot -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]fac1[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

They're mostly not though. Most of them are negative misinterpretations and/or things that happen equally to both sexes. Most of it is "man said X, therefore man believes Y, even though man never said anything about believing Y and other men are saying that's not something men would think".

Insecurities, yes, are apparently something stronger in more women than men, as evidenced by this kind of thing. The right solution is not to reinforce these insecurities - especially since believing them causes social disharmony.

Reinforcing them just infantilizes women, rather than empowering them to be resilient and functional in society.

Children have similar kinds of insecurities. A big part of growing up into a functioning adult is getting over insecurities like this and developing a realistic perspective and mindset for understanding other people and getting along.

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